Iris Chen, Author

My first ever community event! 🥰

Thank you for the warm welcome, Partnership for Awareness and San Marino!

If you’re in the Los Angeles area, join me at this in-person event hosted by Partnership for Awareness! In San Marino on September 19th.

Hope to see you there!

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Iris

Our first program of the 2023-24 school year! UNTIGERING: Peaceful Parenting with Iris Chen on Tuesday, September 19th at 6 pm, Barth Community Room - Crowell Public Library. Hope to see you there! Untigering

I recently got certified by Jai Institute as a parent coach!!

Back in 2017, I started a blog as a way to document my own shift away from power-over tiger parenting to power-with parenting.

I even wrote a book about my Untigering adventures.

But despite being a bestselling author and so-called “parenting expert,” I had never formally studied child development, psychology, or neurobiology. I wasn’t confident in my ability to personally walk with parents through their own Untigering journey.

That’s why I’m so grateful that I took the step to get this parent coaching certification!

Through this program, I feel more equipped than ever to support other parents in their healing and shift to peaceful parenting.

My role is no longer to simply tell my story but to empower and inspire you to shift the narrative for your own family.

And one of the most transformational ways I can do so is as a parent coach. 💗

I love the heart connection, empathic listening, and personalized support I can offer in this unique 1:1 context.

If that sounds like something you are interested in, I invite you to sit with this post and see how your body feels.

Breathe.

Listen to your intuition.

If you find that this offer is something that brings you resonance and hope, please DM me and we can chat more about working together.

I’m excited about the possibility of connecting with you more deeply.

💗
Iris

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You can find more details about my services on my NEW website.

https://untigering.com

(Feel free to DM me if you’re interested in learning more about the Jai parent coaching certification as well!)

Is it AAPI Heritage Month? Or AANHPI? Or APIDA?

Whatever you call it, let’s celebrate and take up space!

Get your free copy of my ebook, Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, TODAY!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B08QG3C9F3/

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It’s also the final day to sign up for BECOMING ANCESTORS: a 6-week series designed for Asian parents.

There aren’t many culturally-relevant parenting resources out there for us Asian untigering folks. That’s why I’m so excited to offer this co-learning community for us to explore our heritages and histories as we raise future generations. Let’s heal and learn to become ancestors together!

https://untigering.com/becoming-ancestors/

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Somewhere along the way this past week, Untigering hit 100,000 followers! 🎉🥳

I hesitate to place too much meaning on these numbers and metrics, but hitting this milestone has given me cause and pause to reflect on this work and movement.

The overwhelming feeling that rises up is GRATITUDE... for YOU.

THANK YOU for joining me in this Untigering movement as we personally and collectively heal and break cycles.

THANK YOU for leaning into radical self-love and compassion for yourself and your children-- the foundation of all meaningful growth and transformation.

THANK YOU for being willing to grieve the ways you were wounded as a child and the ways you re-enacted that pain on your own children. You are loved and safe as walk in accountability.

THANK YOU for laying aside tools of dehumanization and oppression and learning how to honor children as whole human beings.

THANK YOU for not giving up, despite the pervasive adultist pressure to make your children behave, obey, and perform.

I am grateful for each of you. We are doing it -- slowly, gently, imperfectly -- together. We are not alone. There are thousands of us on the same journey.

❤Iris

It's finally here!

Nearly 2 years after publishing Untigering, today I'm proud to announce the launch of my new e-book, a traditional Chinese translation of Redefining Success 重新定義成功!!!

This was a challenging project to complete because I had to find people who really understood both American and Chinese culture and language well. Even just translating "untigering" took a few tries before we landed on a translation that I love: 虎妈脱虎 (which evokes the image of a tiger mother shedding her tigerness).

This short 20 page e-book is already gaining traction on the bestseller lists! Please download, review, and share with your Chinese-speaking friends and family so that this untigering message can reach more Chinese families.

Thank you to everyone who helped out with this project! This translation could not have happened without a team of translators, editors, and GoFundMe donors.

And not to worry if reading traditional Chinese characters is too difficult; I hope to get the simplified Chinese version out soon as well.

If you live in the U.S., here is the link to download: https://www.amazon.com/Redefining-Success-Untigering-Parents-Traditional-ebook/dp/B0BPYQ7NSV

For anyone outside the U.S., please go to your respective Amazon marketplace to check for availability by searching for "Redefining success Iris Chen"

谢谢！

With deep gratitude,
Iris

#虎妈脱虎

Update on Chinese translation project!

Help Get "Untigering" Published in Chinese!, organized by Iris Chen Help me get the message of peaceful parenting translated into Chinese! I wrot… Iris Chen needs your support for Help Get "Untigering" Published in Chinese!

Iris Chen, Author updated their business hours.

It’s been one year since my book was published!

To celebrate, I’m offering my ebook for free… today only!

Share the news and download now ➡️ https://www.amazon.com/Untigering-Peaceful-Parenting-Deconstructing-Parent-ebook/dp/B08QG3C9F3

And if you read and loved the book, please leave me a review. Thanks for being a part of this Untigering movement!

💗
Iris

Some of you may not know that I actually wrote a book. 😊

If you’d like to read more about the lessons I’ve learned as a deconstructing tiger parent and start untigering yourself, get a signed copy directly from me!

https://untigering.com/holiday-sale/

Join me this Saturday for this live workshop about Redefining Success!

I'm excited to announce my upcoming LIVE Redefining Success Workshop for Untigering Parents!

In this workshop, we will discuss how to shift away from a tiger parenting mindset that defines success by high achievement, academic rigor, and “excellence” towards an untigering mindset that values connection, competence, choice, and consent. You will be guided through unpacking your beliefs about success, how you came to them, and how you can change them for yourself and for the next generation!

Sign up here: https://untigering.com/upcoming-events/

I'm so honored to be a VELA Meet the Moment grantee! Here is a bit of my story on their website.

Untigering as a Journey to Peaceful Parenting - VELA Education Fund Untigering is a parenting style that allows each member of the family to have their own freedom and agency over their learning and lives.

Support my work by joining a membership on Ko-fi!

https://ko-fi.com/untigering/tiers

ANNOUNCEMENT 🎉

Today I’m officially launching my UNTIGERING CIRCLE membership on Ko-fi!

If you're looking for a regular, ongoing, intentional community to support you in your practice of peaceful parenting, unschooling, and decolonization, consider joining the Untigering Circle.

Circle members will receive access to:
• online group meetings twice a month
• breakout small groups with other untigering folks
• breathwork practices
• a private Discord server for community building
• patron-only videos
• recordings of past workshops/events…and much more.

This will be a group that centers the perspectives of Asians and other PGM (People of the Global Majority).

If you would like to co-create this Circle community with me, sign up to be a member! Other membership levels are also available.

https://ko-fi.com/untigering/tiers

Thank you so much for your belief in this message and your desire to do the work with me.

Let me know if you have any questions!

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Iris

I received a grant from VELA Education Fund! Woohoo!

So excited to let you all know that this grant will go towards funding my next project…another book!

The book will be about unschooling/self-directed learning from my perspective as an Asian American deconstructing tiger parent. Not for a niche audience at all. 😅

Thank you so much to VELA and this community for your support and belief in the message of Untigering.

Stay tuned for more updates!

Want to explore what unschooling could look like for your family? Shift your mindset about education and learning? Talk about the doubts and anxieties you have before taking the leap?

Come join Domari Dickinson and I for this 1.5 hour "Exploring Unschooling Virtual Learning Lab!"

In this interactive event, we'll be working through common unschooling questions and challenges through breathwork, games, Q&A, breakout discussions, reflection questions, and more!

Spots are limited so sign up now! ➡️bit.ly/exploring-unschooling

Last call to sign up for the Untigering Book Club!

Starting this Saturday, I’ll be hosting a 4-week discussion of my book, “Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent.” It will be an online gathering that centers Asian/BIPOC perspectives and offers:

• a safe space to process
• Q&A sessions
• breakout groups
• reflection questions
• recordings of each session

If you’d like more personalized support and community for your Untigering journey, come join me!

Link to register: https://untigering.com/upcoming-events/

UNTIGERING is free today! Download your copy on Amazon.

Today is the beginning of AAPI Heritage Month. To be honest, it’s hard to want to celebrate when we as a community are going through so much collective grief and trauma.

But now more than ever, we need to raise our kids with non-violence and resistance against oppression. We need to teach them to know their worth and belonging and equip them to speak truth to power.

To that end, I’m happy to offer my ebook “Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent” for free on Amazon ALL DAY TODAY, May 1 PST. Download now and share the news!

Then, consider joining me for a 4-week Untigering Book Club where you’ll find:

• a safe space to discuss untigering
• live Q&A sessions with the author (me! 😊)
• breakout small groups
• reflection questions to help you process
• the centering of BIPOC perspectives

Starts Saturday, May 8th. Registration ends Thursday. Click here to sign up! ➡️ https://untigering.com/upcoming-events/

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I’m hosting another Untigering Book Club starting Saturday, May 8th!

Here’s what one person said about their experience:

“Untigering has been so therapeutic. On my journey to find resources on how to parent during Covid, I was so happy to find Asian representation through this book. This book was not just for my child, or my family, it was also for my inner child who still is seeking answers and comfort. Through the book club, I found individuals who were on similar journeys and we were able to unpack our learnings together even if we came from different backgrounds and experiences. The commonality that bonded us was that we all wanted to do better. And it was awesome to be a part of it. It gave me a lot of hope and encouragement!“

If you’ve read “Untigering” and want to process it with others, come join me for this 4-week book discussion.

You’ll find:

• a safe space to talk about untigering
• live Q&A sessions with me, the author 😊
• breakout small groups
• reflection questions to help you dig deeper

Register now at https://untigering.com/upcoming-events/ or find link in bio.

Please consider giving to this GoFundMe so Untigering can be available in Chinese! 💗

Help Get "Untigering" Published in Chinese!, organized by Iris Chen Help me get the message of peaceful parenting translated into Chinese! I wrot… Iris Chen needs your support for Help Get "Untigering" Published in Chinese!

Looking to shift from tiger parenting to peaceful parenting? Wanting to deepen your practice of partnership and respect with your child?

Join me for my Untigering 6-Week Intensive, where I will center the experiences of Asians+BIPOC parents. Using my book, Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, as a framework, we will discuss and do the decolonizing work of healing ourselves, our relationship with children, our communities, and our cultures.

Starts March 13.

Link below for more details!

https://untigering.com/upcoming-events/

Join me for this Untigering 6-week intensive to help you decolonize your parenting and shift from power to partnership! Link in bio.

Happy 牛Year! 🧨🐮🧧

Happy Lunar New Year!!

DOWNLOAD THE UNTIGERING EBOOK FOR FREE TODAY! Sale ends at midnight PST.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B08QG3C9F3
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Untigering Book Course open for enrollment now!

Untigering is an ongoing practice, not a one-time product. It is a communal effort, not a private endeavor. We all need help to walk through it, space to talk through it, and scaffolding to build on it.

That’s why I’m so happy to be able to offer this 6-week online intensive where we will use the Untigering book as a framework to discuss and do the work of healing ourselves, our relationship with children, our communities, and our cultures.

If you’re ready to:
• learn to radically love yourself and your child
• change your beliefs about children and parenting that are rooted in oppression
• challenge and resist cultural and social norms that threaten our collective healing
• gain better tools to develop connection and collaboration in your family
• build community to support you in this work...

then, join me for this pilot 6-week course!

We will be centering the perspectives and experiences of Asians and other BIPOC folks but anyone who is willing to do the work of untigering is welcome.

Click on the link below to learn more and enroll (link also in bio):
https://untigering.com/upcoming-events/

Questions can be sent to me at [email protected].

Listen to my latest interview on The Color of Success podcast with Dr. Stephanie J. Wong where we discuss the cultural pressures around success, parenting, and education!



HT Color of Success Podcast

Audio/ @youtube Links in bio or @colorofsuccesspodcast.com Iris Chen @untigering addresses the differences between Tiger parenting vs. Untigering parenting, and discusses her new book, "Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent." What is your parenting style? Produced by @rpalarca @umkay316 Marketing: @songielunchie #untigering #parenting #parent #parenthood #parents #asian #asianmentalhealth #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #momlife #mommy #podcast #homeschool #homeschoollife #virtuallearning #podcastersofinstagram #podcastlife

Desperate to find an alternative to pandemic schooling?

Wondering how to support your kids in achieving success in a way that’s healthy and wholehearted?

Join me for the Redefining Success Workshop where we will discuss how to shift away from a tiger parenting mindset that defines success by high achievement, academic rigor, and "excellence" towards an untigering mindset that values connection, competence, choice, and consent.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/redefining-success-workshop-for-untigering-parents-tickets-136885258493?aff=ebdssbeac

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Thank you for making Untigering a #1 New Release last week!

Please continue to share this book with your family, friends, and networks so that the more of us will be inspired to practice peaceful parenting, shift the cultural tides, and seek social justice.

💗 Iris

Check out my interview with Jenny Wang of !

Jenny chats with author, Iris Chen, about her new book Untigering and what she has learned in her journey to more peaceful and compassionate parenting.

Author copies arrived today!

To get your signed copy, order directly from me on my Untigering site: https://untigering.com/untigering-peaceful-parenting-for-the-deconstructing-tiger-parent/

[Winner is Robyn Alonzo!!! Thank you all for participating!]

✨ UNTIGERING GIVEAWAY!!! ✨

In honor of the launch of my book, “Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent” I wanted to host a giveaway for a SIGNED COPY of the book + KINTSUGI REPAIR KIT from KonMari.com (succulent not included 😁).

Giveaway Rules:
NO PURCHASE NECESSARY. Must be 18 years or older to enter. U.S. residents only. Giveaway not affiliated with Facebook or Instagram. One winner will be randomly chosen to receive the prize package through Rafflecopter. The giveaway ends Jan. 20, 2021, at 12 am PST and the winner will be contacted by email and announced on social media by Jan. 21. The prize will be shipped within 2 days of receiving the winner’s address. Not held liable for prizes that are damaged or lost in transit. All prizes will be mailed in excellent condition.

To enter, you can:
✋️ Subscribe to my mailing list.
🤝 Join the Untigering Parents FB group.
👏 Follow Untigering on IG.
👍 Like my FB Author Page.
🙌 Like my FB Untigering Page.

Each task is optional, so please only participate if you are authentically interested in the Untigering movement! I’m running this giveaway by the honor system, so I will not be verifying your entry but trust that you will follow through.

To register to enter, go to http://gvwy.io/5n109a11 or find link in bio!

If you have any additional questions - feel free to send me a DM.

Thank you for participating, and good luck! 🎉