Villvindel Hypnotherapy

Vibrate higher, and none of the BS can touch you.

Help others to vibrate higher, and the BS can't touch them either. We all help each other vibrate higher, and the BS just stops existing.

Vibration is about emotion. But it must be genuine and authentic. You can't pretend you are happy and loving if you aren't. So we help each other deal with the dark. We sit with each other through anger and despair. We sit through grief. We sit with each other through tears and screaming and agony. We have 10 000 years of agony stored in our DNA. There is so much screaming and wailing to be done. So much trauma to be released through dance, tears and desperation.

We help each other wade through the bogs of inherited pain and f*ckery. We help each other through the dark nights of the souls, individually and collectively. And then we link arms as we enter the dawn. As we wipe our tears. As we draw deep breaths of relief. We hold each other close as we walk into a new era.

We are all walking each other home.

When you are capable of providing proper and authentic boundaries for yourself, you will create a better balance for your energy levels in your life.
Being able to properly express your heartfelt No! or an excited Yes! is how you make room for your own needs balanced with the needs of others. You can't pour from an empty cup. And also - you can only give what you have.
Healthy boundaries ensure that there is a balance in energy in and energy out.

Empathize with humanity, but shield yourself from harm... (-from my book, ‘Grounded Spirituality’)

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https://www.madinnorway.org/2023/05/psykisk-sykdom-var-tids-storste-misforstaelse/

Psykisk sykdom - vår tids største misforståelse? - Mad in Norway - Jeg har lyttet til hundrevis av historier, og da finner vi alltid en årsak til de psykiske plagene. Psykologspesialist Birgit Valla mener psykiatrien ikke er i stand til å ta inn over seg at vitenskapen bak de psykiatriske diagnosene praktisk talt er tom.

This is extremely difficult to do in the present moment, but especially if we do not name this manipulation for what is.

So, first step:

1). I will pay attention when my body heats up or I feel like I have to speak faster or say more to be heard. Again, the likelihood of understanding this is happening in real time is hard, but putting words around this will begin to help you recognize when this is happening and help you find relief.

Next:

2). I will pause often. I will observe and let my heart race and be met with my pause and my breath. I will not escape the heartbeat, but I will trust it deserves my attention. Pause again. Notice what it feels like to be in the presence of someone on no longer need to be understood.

I swear this happens:

3). The person you have worked hard to defend yourself against, and the person who continually traps you in non-stop arguments will either:
-Walk away because they have lost that power.
-Pick up where you left off and fill the gaps with their own words.

There are many variables here. There are stories that can’t be met by these steps because of the volatility. But, if you consider how many grow up in homes where they had to beg to be seen/heard, we can start with the pause and at a minimum, stop new layers of exhaustion because you recognize they have no intention of hearing or understanding you.

It is a sad place to be when you can only get people to play by your rules by controlling them. If you have been on the receiving end of this, you know how hard it is navigate. But, let this be their sad.

Closeness will come easy for those with eyes to see.

I have two free guides around this work @ the link in my bio:
-Inner child work
-Survivors guide to trauma recovery

Please anyone share other tips that have helped them in this area.

I am so glad you are here! 💞✨✨

In dysfunctional families, honesty and transparency are not valued.

What’s valued is:
-maintaining public image
-not upsetting highly reactive family members
-being loyal

Loyalty will mean anything from speaking only positively, denying certain issues, and going along with an approved narrative.

Telling the truth or refusing to take part in lies is seen as betrayal.

One core unspoken rule in dysfunctional families is the don’t speak rule.

The don’t speak rule says: do not talk about any issues with each other or anyone outside the home. Pretend that everything is fine at all times. Uphold the idea that we are a “normal” family. A core example of this is in my home we never spoke about my moms chronic illness. No one ever talked about why my mom was always in bed. That subject was off limits. This is confusing for children who know/sense something is wrong. It’s the beginning of shame and maladaptive coping mechanisms. “I have to keep this secret because no one talks about it and I feel like it’s my fault because of it.”

In healthy families, transparency is encouraged and valued. Each member can feel and speak freely without shame or judgment because image is not the sole focus. The focus is giving support, belonging, and respect to each other.

Children in healthy homes witness their parents speak the truth even when it’s uncomfortable. They see adults respect each other when there’s disagreement. They see conflict dealt with directly, not swept under the rug. There’s no shame around reality and therefore reality is kind. The world is trustworthy. And they can depend on the people around them.

The Holistic Psychologist

Much of our wounding occurs prior to the acquisition of language and is not able to be healed through the questioning and reorganization of patterns of thinking. In other words, we can’t think our way out of trauma, attachment, and narcissistic injury.

When our capacity to process unbearable terror, panic, and shame is overwhelmed, unmetabolized pieces of soul are held subcortically and in our cellular circuitry, unreachable by thinking which is a layer removed from the fires of the alchemical body.

Encouragement to “just get over it, it’s just your ego, just let it be, it isn’t who you really are” is experienced by an inflamed nervous system as the activity of empathic failure, aggression, and psychic violence.

It’s like a neural form of gaslighting and reflects a deep misunderstanding of relational wounding and implicit memory, and only contributes to the intergenerational transmission of trauma.

In addition to shattering and unendurable experience – which is painful and terrifying enough – there is a profound sense of aloneness that goes with this, the disorganizing reality of the missing Friend, and no accompaniment into the dark night. “I am alone in this.”

This is devastating to the soul.

When the lost orphans of psyche and soma come surging to be held, they’re not all that interested in our crystal-clear analysis, detached witnessing and fantasies of “mastery,” or powerful spiritual insights.

They’re longing for something else… for you, for your heart, for your holding. To know that you will stay near, that you will not abandon or shame them, that you will do your best to provide sanctuary and safe passage for them to come Home, to be helped out of that frozen, crystallized state and to live once again.

Matt Licata
Artist: Unknown

So what to do when the world seems to hit you with an emotional rollercoaster?
Such times can be very challenging, but can also be the time of breakthroughs on your inner journey. If you are so lucky that you can find time in your day to be with yourself, then grasp that chance and find quiet time to be alone, if possible, in nature.

Then sit down, take a deep breath and allow your focus to turn inward. This is a moment to be curious about yourself and the feelings you are going through. Allow yourself to have an adult, almost clinical inner voice, that can ask yourself questions. Then relax deeply, breathe, and allow your body to respond. Feel into your biology. Maybe it is triggered in some way? Angry? Sad? Other feelings? If those feelings had a physical residence in your body - could you point to where? Pretend those feelings had a colour - what colour would that be? If those feelings contain a memory - what would that be?

If the body starts reacting with restlessness, sadness, or loss of focus or other distraction - bring yourself back and ask the questions again. Like a journalist or a detective - dig deeper. Allow a flow of consciousness - even if you think you are making it up. Even if you at the moment don't understand the imagery. Make a note of what comes up - even if it seems meaningless in the moment. The subconscious works in mysterious ways when trying to communicate with the conscious.

What comes up might be painful. If so, again remember to find that adult voice inside you, and allow those feelings to be comforted by that inner adult. Ask the nerves, the inner organs, the brain - whatever that is doing the feeling - ask what is needed. The answers may range from "hold me and love me" to "vitamin C" or "Dance". When you have practiced the skill of understanding your body, it will tell you quite clearly what it needs. The tricks include patience, self love and curiosity.

It can be very hard to understand yourself some times. DM me for a session.