Mother Daughter Journey

Yes, it’s easier said than done, but you know from recalling your own adolescent experience that you can do hard things ❤️

If you find a good visualization for that untangling process, I would love to hear about it and to share it with others. After all, we’re all in this together and there’s nothing more productive than collective wisdom!

Fall Workshops are LIVE 🍂❤️ https://motherdaughterjourney.co/classes-and-workshops

I have created lots of choices, so hopefully you’ll find something that works for you. Whether you’re looking for a Moms Only, a Dads only or a Mother Daughter Workshop, early bird pricing is now available! Visit the link in my bio.

DM me with any questions!

Fights happen.

They can feel extremely painful, deregulating, and even scary. But the thing is, fights should happen. We connect, we disconnect, and we reconnect. That is the heart of any relationship.

While I may know the “right” thing to do when my kids are pushing back, it doesn’t always mean that I’m going to do the right thing, or do it well.

Knowing how to react, and actually reacting can sometimes feel islands apart 😳

The repair after the rupture is what matters most!

Every rupture presents us with the opportunity to become more aware. To be intentional in our repairs. To ask ourselves what we can do to grow closer to each other. To remember and realize that we can do hard things over and over again. That’s where we strengthen the bond with our kiddos – in the repair. ❤️

We’re transitioning into our summer schedule. And let’s face it, transitions can feel clunky 🫠

I want you to really see and sense that you’re not alone in feeling that way.

Sending you well wishes as we dive headfirst into this clunky transition with expansive summer vibes! Let me know how you’re holding up 🤞🏽

What a difference it makes in our parenting when we can summon that trust.

I know this is so much easier said than done, but at the end of the day it’s a practice. An ebb and flow. A contraction and an expansion. An in-breath and an out-breath ❤️

If this topic overwhelms you, join my Moms Only Sexuality Deep Dive on May 16th 🙌🏽

This is for you If you want to…
✔️ Learn how to deepen your relationship with s*xuality and how talk to your adolescent a in a non-cringe way. 
✔️ Expand your knowledge around s*xual health to better understand the unhealthy messaging that your kids are seeing everyday.
✔️ Gain tools and confidence as you start healing your own traumas and negative stories around s*x in order to help educate and empower your kids.

Visit the link in my bio to register ❤️ DM with your questions! I am here for you.

This gentle self-reminder always helps me let go of my own agenda and allow my girls to feel seen and honored ❤️ what do you think?

I love you. HBD!

Parents, know that I see you today and everyday! You’ve got this 🤞🏽

I want to hear from you! What kind of workshop you want to see next?

Do you like 2 week series, 4 week series or one day workshops?

Day time or evenings?

Looking for something “moms only” or tailored for you and your daughter together?

I’m cooking up some new offers for 2024 and I want to make sure they’re exactly what you need ❤️

I have a huge passion for self-discovery and growth, and love nothing more than helping others evolve in their own unique ways! I am so thankful for the work I get to do with you.

I had the awesome opportunity to have coffee with my dad the other day. As we were chatting, I asked him how he survived those crazy years when my sister and I were tweens and teens. This is what he told me.

I feel so passionately about supporting the fathers in our community as much as we support the moms.

There are so many “mom groups” out there full of women craving and building communities around all sorts of cool things. It’s awesome!

For a lot of different reasons, that doesn’t typically exist in the same way for men. And yet, here are these incredible dads trying to navigate this confusing and turbulent time in fatherhood while feeling isolated and alone.

To all you dads and those who identify as dads out there - I urge you to join my March 14 workshop where we’ll explore “all things dad” in a safe, educational, and playful space.

As my wise father said, your kids do need you - whether or not they realize it right now. So take care of you, in order to better show up for them.

Comment DAD and I’ll send you the registration link 🙌🏽

So often, fathers can feel lost in the shuffle during this period in life. Maybe you’re feeling powerless, purposeless, or just plain clueless as your daughter distances herself from you with age.

What happened to your little girl and that unique connection? How can you still tap into her world and be the person she knows she can come to for the little things as well as the hard stuff?

Pre-teen and teenage daughters can often feel like foreign beings to their dads.

And no father should have to tackle that confusion alone!

Come join me on March 14th where we talk all things DAD! Comment ‘Dad’ for more information 🙌🏽 it’s going to be incredible!

I cannot emphasize how important this is!

While I focus a lot on the mamas, I definitely want to recognize how hugely impactful and important you father-figures are for adolescent daughters, too.

And so, I once again remind you that you don’t have to do it alone. Come join me on March 14th where we talk all things DAD. I’m hosting my 3rd Dads Only Workshop! Comment ‘WORKSHOP’ below and I’ll send you the registration link 🙌🏽

As always, reach out with any questions, and cheers to being an awesome parent!

Should you still talk about the importance of family values (or s*xual health, navigating technology or anything else that you deem important)? Definitely.

Is it still our job to give them gentle reminders? Absolutely.

But, when you find yourself repeating something over and over again (or your kids are telling you that you are!, do a little self check-in. Remind yourself to talk less, listen more.

Quite the dance, huh? 😉

GREAT NEWS!

I still have a couple more spots in my upcoming workshop for moms of 9-11 year old daughters (and those who identify as daughter). These workshops help you identify your fears and blind spots in order to show up with more ease, curiosity and trust.

Comment workshop and I’ll send you the registration link 🙌🏽

Imagine how comforting it would feel to better understand the ins and outs of what your daughter is going through.

How calming it would be to discover an elevated sense of compassion, trust and confidence for both yourself as a mother as well as for your daughter.

Join me in a safe, loving and non-judgmental space where we will explore the many ups and downs of parenting 9-11 year old daughters (and those who identify as daughter).

We will explore how to navigate relationships, s*xuality, understand the nervous system, and interact with technology.

If you are willing to change your stance, even a little, and stretch yourself to invite more connection, my workshops can get you there.

When we start intentionally showing up with open minds and open hearts, the magic of parenting begins

I can’t wait to work with you! Comment on DM the word WORKSHOP below and I’ll send you the registration link.

When you’re grounded, your kids will feel that and lean into it, creating a beautiful domino-effect of calmness. And at the end of the day, staying grounded is all about intentionality.

If you’re looking for an opportunity to become more intentional in your relationship to your daughter as we head into 2024, be sure to check out all of my upcoming workshops!

My Mom + Daughter workshop begins on January 28th!! Imagine an opportunity where you and your middle school daughter get to spend a cozy, connecting day together.

Sounds pretty dreamy about now, right?

We’re getting started very soon and I would love to have you join me ❤️

1.18.2024 💫 registration is now open!

(For Dads of Adolescent Daughters 11 to 16 years old)

Join me for an educational session to gain insight as to what’s happening with your daughter and how to move through this transition with more confidence, patience and strategies to not take their behavior personally...and hopefully find a little humor along the way. It's time to thrive rather than survive though this phase of parenting

You can do this! Don't hesitate to contact me with any questions 🙌🏽

When we pause - whether as adults or kids, we have the awesome opportunity to tap into our powerful intuition.

And in that, we gain a little bit more control in how we want to show up in our worlds.

In doing so, I hope you'll consider giving yourself a gift this year. You certainly deserve it, and an MDJ Workshop is a great place to start!

I’m excited to announce that I’ve just released my offerings for early 2024. As always, my workshops speak to all stages of this wild parenting ride!

Check them out on my website, and comment below or DM me with any questions you have ❤️

Maybe we compare ourselves to that perfect image on social media of a family holding hands and frolicking through sunflowers wearing matching clothes. They must be more connected than us.

This can feel ESPECIALLY strong during the holiday season.

Or maybe we compare ourselves to our friend whose kids tell them everything while ours can’t even squeak out a “hello” after school. They must be more connected than us.

It’s time to bust those myths.

The truth is, connection can show up in a million and one different ways and is most certainly not a one-size fits all type of thing.

And here’s the biggest assurance: oftentimes, it comes without any flashiness or showiness at all.

If you’re looking for more guidance on connecting with your teen, stay tuned! All 2024 offerings will be posted soon.

My counter will workshop just ended and was SO beautiful. It’s such a tricky part of adolescence and it becomes so much easier when we come together in community.

If you’re interested in joining a 2 hour deep dive workshop on counter will in the future, comment DEEP DIVE below and I’ll reach out to you the next time the opportunity comes to register 🙌🏽

As someone who has dedicated my life to helping other people build and strengthen connections, Howie Rubin you are my greatest teacher. Thank you for your profound courage to be intimate, curious and vulnerable.

You have helped me learn how to connect with myself in order to connect with you. You have helped me make our marriage the priority over and over again. You have helped me see clearly, held my hand when I can’t, and consistently make yourself a safe place for me to land.

Thank you for being as deeply committed to our connection as I am.

I love doing life with you. Happy anniversary. Cheers to 17 years, my love.

This simple practice of sitting with our fears will give us stronger clarity and self-confidence in our parenting, even through all those uncertain times - which are many. And because of that, we’ll be better able to hold our children in their own strengths - which are also many.

Breathe. You’ve got this. We’ve got this.

Counterwill is a CRUCIAL part of their developmental maturation.

They’re separating! It’s instinctual and healthy! They’re not just a “rebellious teen” 💡

By learning to use their own voice and express their own opinions and feelings, our kids are exploring who they truly are and who they will become when they leave home.

We want to encourage that. We want them to learn more about themselves. What do they value? What do they like and dislike? What are their goals and inner thoughts?

In order to discover these things, it’s necessary for them to tune out other people's thoughts, values, and perspectives.

That’s why, when we as parents impose our own wills onto them - whether consciously or unconsciously, it can lead to pushback.

Counterwill is a BIG topic to delve into. I’m excited to offer a virtual workshop specifically about it THIS THURSDAY ! In the session, we’ll explore ways to identify and separate healthy counter will from problematic resistance. We’ll look at how we can still be impactful in their lives in an influential, gentle way. We’ll learn how to connect and earn their trust so they don’t have to fight so hard to be heard.

Doesn’t that sound dreamy? Link is in my bio to register 💭

2 hour Deep Dives are coming up quick! Join me virtually from anywhere 🌎❤️

There are just a couple of spots let in these groups so snag your seat or reach out to me today!

comment DEEP DIVE below

They don’t need a mom who tries to act like them, knows all the latest gossip, or has a fridge full of booze (although a fridge full of food is a great way to get them to hang out at your house!)

What they do need is a parent who:
❤️looks them in the eyes and communicates in a thoughtful and authentic way.
❤️ owns her mistakes and holds true to her words.
❤️ holds boundaries and trusts them enough to respect those boundaries.

When you act like the adult that you are, you’re showing your kids what it means to be comfortable in their own skin, instead of trying to be something they’re not. You’re teaching them what it feels like to be a grounded, brave, curious human who’s learning every day how to be truly “themselves.”

And in doing that, you’re giving them a safe place to land and to practice doing the same!

Which, in my personal opinion, is the coolest thing a parent can offer their kids.

I know, it’s not always easy. Not by a long shot. But, if you can continue to be open-minded and intentional in your own learning, you become the place where they learn how to stay connected to themselves. And in these powerful and crucial moments, I promise you amazing things will happen in your relationship with your child!

We explore all of this and so much more in my upcoming workshops.

DM me to schedule a free info call and learn more ❤️

We all want to stay relevant and “cool” in our children’s eyes. Of course we do.

When are kids are little, we’re the coolest person in the world to them. They want us to hug them in public, and to hang out with them all the time. Some of us might still feel like our kiddo is a shadow. It’s quite a shock when that starts shifting as they get older, isn’t it?

I can clearly remember the “cool mom” in my teenage friend group growing up. The one who let us drink at her house. The one with great style, who was always right there to spill all her latest gossip.

I won’t lie -   we definitely all thought she was pretty cool.

But, when her daughter had problems and needed a soft place to land, guess what? She didn’t go to her own mom for comfort.

Instead, she found a different mom in our friend group to confide in. A woman who wasn’t as “cool” by teenage standards, but was still extremely open-minded and kind. A mom who held clear boundaries with all of us. Who wasn't afraid to put us in our place if needed, but then quickly followed up with a hug. She didn’t try to be a teen like one of us, but instead stood firmly with open-arms as a supportive adult.
 
There are plenty of moments when we’re each tempted to try on the “cool” parent hat, myself included. When those times come, remember this mantra:
 
Be the adult. Be the place where they can land.

Even though they don’t outright say it, our tweens and teens are craving steady, loving, confident adults in their lives.

Let me know your thoughts ❤️

Savoring the moments with little distractions…