Loving Dr. Jekyll Leaving Mr. Hyde - A tale of a Narcissist

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I had my ah-ha moment and I did, I saw and understood things I wish I never had to understand.

Thank God, I had it.

Facts!

The goal post is constantly moving and it will never be enough for the narcissist in your life.

This is true for a male or female narc. They will never truly be happy. They can’t be. But what they can do is, take everything from you with no regard for you.

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And boy will they ever shift blame. And, the people you thought had your back, wont. Its a hard painful lesson to learn. However, you do not want to have people like that in your life.

I learned it the hard way.

I’m so glad people are no longer being silent about this form of abuse.

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Truth!

We are DEFINITELY not the same!

Tremendous damage

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They certainly are immature. They behave like children with their tantrums.

There is nothing but truth to this!!!!

This…. All of this! And they do it because they can. Because it makes them feel powerful!

This is so undeniably accurate.

I couldn't have said this any better. This is absolutely what I experienced. Then, I experienced the backlash, the disbelief from others, and it was an isolating and heartbreaking experience.

I was told to worry about his reputation. I was told that's not the "him" they knew. I was told he deserved happiness. I was told to heal in silence from those that know him.

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This is a helpful explanation of what it is like to be conditioned by a narcissistic abuser.

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They absolutely will…. Like vacations, events etc.

There is nothing but 10000% truth to this

That is exactly right!

EXACTLY how it works

Never again! My self-respect and self worth went right out the window. While I was begging him to love him, he was living his life, happy. Content to see me cry and beg for a mere morsel of what I actually deserved.

Repeat after me….NEVER FU***NG AGAIN!!!!

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The absolute hardest part…

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There are few things more painful than the discard phase. However, knowing there is a new supply in town will have your heart hurting. But, don't let it. The new supply has no idea what fresh hell awaits her. She'll find out. We all did.

Remember the love-bombing that you went through? Oh, I remember mine well. I thought I was the cat's meow. I had caught the uncatchable. The joke was on me! I wound up catching a wicked case of C-PTSD and an honorary Ph.D. in narcissistic abuse.

Yes, I was married for almost 7 years. Yes, I was crazy in love with him. No, he wasn't crazy in love with me. None of it was real for him. That is the most challenging part I think many of us face; it was real for us. But, not for them. We were a means to an end for their egos. I fulfilled the need for his supply. A narc's ego is the only thing that matters. It needs to be constantly fed, and it's exhausting. Many don't see that part because of the mask, and the new supply won't see it either.

There is no need to try and contact the new supply. The narc has already tarnished your name. - You ruined his life and broke his heart. You are the one who couldn't change. You were the one who was always wrong. You were selfish. Blah blah blah. And, his flying monkeys will collaborate his story. Let them.

He will use the new supply and discard them just as he has done in the past with the trail of damaged, broken women behind him. She will be no different. I wasn't.

What I would tell a new supply: NO, you are NOT going to love him better. NO, you are not better than the ex. NO, he isn't going to change for you. NO, you aren't going to be the love of his life. You are the new supply. And, just like the rest of us, you will be discarded when he is done with you.

Good luck, sweetheart. It would be best if you buckled up. This emotional roller coaster ride is bumpy.

Absolutely! You must be willing to self reflect on the whys. You will keep attracting the same toxicity.

Take your time to heal yourself.

For men and women alike. How many of you have changed from being a rock star to being completely unsure of yourself and your capabilities?

They have robbed you of your self-confidence. They claim to love you yet are the first to put you down.

Your awesomeness is still there sweet soul! It may be buried but it’s there and you can come out stronger and smarter!!!

They will yell, belittle, cuss, name call, demean and instigate an argument. THEN, get mad at you when you actually respond and have feelings.

They will never be the problem. They will never have the issue. It will always be you with the issue, with the problem.

Do not ever expect a toxic/narcissist to apologize. That would mean admitting fault. You have to learn to stop apologizing for something YOU didn’t do.

Why do we love someone that hurts us? Why do we defend their actions? Why do we talk on blame when it isn’t ours to take on??

Trauma bonding.