Bree Amber

People pleasing

From a recovering people pleaser, who still slips up at times, I notice so many of us doing it without even realising.

We think we are being kind, nice or thoughtful and we don’t want to upset people but it can be detrimental.
I know this first hand. 🤚

I often find myself delving into this with the Mums that I work with.

Ask yourself who are you people pleasing to?

Your Parents
Your In-laws
Your kids
Your boss
Your emails
Your text messages
Your siblings
Your friends
Your partner

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Nothing changes if nothing changes.

First we need to acknowledge what needs to change.

Then we need to take the actions to make the changes.

Step 1. Identify your biggest issue right now. Step 2. Take simple actions to change the situation Eg, I hate my job. I have been here for 5 years and its soul destroying.

👉🏻Work out what job you would like to do instead?
👉🏻Start looking at jobs in that industry to work out what you need to apply.
👉🏻Do you need to get your resume updated? 👉🏻Do you need to take a course in order to qualify for the position?

Take small steps to change big things.

You can do it.

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What does freedom mean to you?

For me, its not being in my head 24/7 and constantly feeling overwhelmed with life.

It's being able to have "me time" without the guilt.

It’s knowing what my purpose and passions are and following them.

It’s choosing to have a positive mindset.

It's choosing to do what works for me and my family.

Its loving my life because I had the choice to change it and I did.

Come join me and other Mummas choosing to change their lives.

Reclaim your life!

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"My biggest hope is that one day my kids look back on their childhood and know that their mum didn’t just love them she truly enjoyed them.

To my 3 daughters

I love being your mummy

My life wasn’t always like this.

You can change your life.

Reclaim Your life

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Hey Mumma's,

I am Sooo excited to launch my new course!

Imagine if you;

💥Knew your purpose!
💥Felt excited and full of energy about your life!
💥Felt confident!
💥Stood up for yourself!
💥Inspiring role model for your children!
💥Practiced self care!
💥Felt fulfilment, happiness and joy!

All this and more is available to you.

Are you ready to reclaim your life?

DM me "Ready"

And I'll get you the details

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"Being a mother while trying to repair yourself emotionally and physically is the hardest thing to ever take on"

It's hard, it's tough, but you can do it!

I believe in you!

You can do it!

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"To the parents with stubborn little girls with fierce attitudes , don't put out the fire, she is going to need it"

My middle child has always been the clown of the family, she is so quick-witted and also stubborn with the fierce attitude 🤪

That I have no doubt, one day will take her places.

We love you.

Do you have one in your family?

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Bree Amber -Women’s Life Coach on Instagram: ""To the parents with stubborn little girls with fierce attitudes , don't put out the fire, she is going to need it" My middle child has always been the clown of the family, she is so quick-witted and... Bree Amber -Women’s Life Coach shared a post on Instagram: ""To the parents with stubborn little girls with fierce attitudes , don't put out the fire, she is going to need it" My middle child has always been the clown of the family, she is so quick-witted and also stubborn with the fierce attitude...

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What I have done to create and change my life?

I seeked professional help when I needed to eg psychologists, psychiatrists etc

I joined online groups with likeminded women who’ve helped build me up and support my visions.

I created healthy boundaries.

I worked with 1:1 mentors as I worked through limiting beliefs, fears and traumas.

I started saying no to the things i didn't want to do.

I started saying yes to the things that I was a little bit scared of. Things that pushed me out of my comfort zone.

I worked and continue to work on my mindset every single day.

You can do it too.

Start with one thing.

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Bree Amber -Women’s Life Coach on Instagram: "What I have done to create and change my life? I seeked professional help when I needed to eg psychologists, psychiatrists etc I joined online groups with likeminded women who’ve helped build me up... Bree Amber -Women’s Life Coach shared a post on Instagram: "What I have done to create and change my life? I seeked professional help when I needed to eg psychologists, psychiatrists etc I joined online groups with likeminded women who’ve helped build me up and support my visions. I created heal...

Our girls are watching us.

They watch how we parent them,
How we communicate with our partners,
How we speak to the people we love,
How we judge others,
How we speak to ourselves.

I am now constantly aware of this and do everything I can to resist saying negative things about myself in front of my 3 girls.

"I am fat!"
"I look horrible in this…"
"I need to lose weight!"

Our girls are watching us.
Learning from us.
Mimicking us.

Let’s be careful what we teach them.

I was in my head too much.
I was always thinking of what I had to do next.

The washing, the food shopping, the cleaning, the present for that birthday party, that bill that needs to be paid, the message that needs responding to…

Ahh the never ending to do lists.
They keep us so locked in our heads that we never actually truely enjoy the present moment.

This was me all the time!

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Bree Amber -Women’s Life Coach on Instagram: "I am sorry I was not in the moment more. I am sorry I wasn't enjoying the small things, and soaking things in at the time. I was in my head too much. I was always thinking of what I had to do next.... Bree Amber -Women’s Life Coach shared a post on Instagram: "I am sorry I was not in the moment more. I am sorry I wasn't enjoying the small things, and soaking things in at the time. I was in my head too much. I was always thinking of what I had to do next. The washing, the food shopping, the clea...

Self Care

Self care doesn't have to mean expensive girls trips away, massages and facials.

Although I love all of those things;

It can simply be;
A nap
A good cry
Journaling
Walking
A bath
Spending time with friends

What's your go to self care practice?

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7 years married today

Today is our 7 year wedding anniversary.

It was my favourite day.

There has been highs and lows in that 7 years, but now mostly highs! 🙌🏻❤️

I love raising our 3 daughters together and feel blessed they have such a loving doting daddy.

I love doing life with you.

Happy Anniversary my love 😍

How many years have you been married?

Did you love your wedding day?

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Bree Amber -Women’s Life Coach on Instagram: "7 years married today Today is our 7 year wedding anniversary. It was my favourite day. There has been highs and lows in that 7 years, but now mostly highs! 🙌🏻❤️ I love raising our 3 daughters

𝗠𝘂𝗺 𝗴𝘂𝗶𝗹𝘁 ⁣
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𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗺𝘂𝗺𝘀 ⁣
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“I feel guilty that I am not home enough with my kids”🤦🏻‍♀️⁣
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𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗺𝘂𝗺𝘀 ⁣
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“I feel guilty for not contributing financially to the family”⁣
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Its time for a reframe.
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👉🏻 “I am a stay at home mum. We compromise on things because this is where I want to be right now. ⁣”
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👉🏻 “I am a working mum because we need the income.”
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👉🏻 “I need to work for my mental health and I love what I do. ⁣Me being happy makes me a better mum!”
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Each option is perfectly ok. ⁣

Ditch the guilt.⁣
Do what feels right for you and your family.

Agree?!

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Accountability

There is something to be said about accountability!

Do you love to have an accountability partner?!

I do 🙋🏻‍♀️ It really helps me stay on track.

We could choose friends/family or we can invest in support.

For example:
👉🏻 personal trainer
👉🏻 nutritionist
👉🏻 relationship expert
👉🏻 life coach

We invest in these people because they get us the results we desire.

They see our goals and cheer us on to make them happen.

They keep tabs on us and check in.

Without a doubt, I wouldn't have pushed myself on my own, in numerous areas of my life and business without out someone pushing me from the sidelines.

This type of support is everything.

Thanks to my beautiful friend for trialling every diet and fitness regime with me 🤪

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Truth bomb 💣

Nobody is coming to rescue you!
It’s up to you to stand up and use your voice!

🗣 You need to use your voice:

❤️In your relationship.
"We need to work on us!”
"I have had enough, I can't do this anymore."

👫With your partner, family and friends.
"I need help with the kids."
“Can you please cook tonight?”

🤵‍♀️With your employer.
"I want more money because...”
“I’m struggling with this because…”

We may never hear…

"You are so good at your job, you deserve a pay rise.”
"You look exhausted, I will have the kids for you."
“Hey, let me cook for you this week.”

We can live our lives being upset, angry and resentful or we can use our voice to make the changes!

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Stop putting things off.

Those moles that look suspicious,

That lump in your breast,

That pap-smear you are due to get but never make the appointment for.

I had a scare last week at my gynaecologist appointment.
I’d had an ultrasound and she was looking at the image.
"Well if its cancer, we will have it early enough to treat it!”

WHAT!!?!

Thank goodness, I was able to get in straight away, to have a biopsy and find out it was clear from cancer.

But It had me thinking how many of us leave things untreated and leave it too late.

This is your reminder.

Go get those things checked out.

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Letting go!

Pick your battles!

This was THE best advice I was given from my maternal health nurse.

I now use it all the time. Is this worth the battle?

Me being a control freak with:🙋🏻‍♀️

👉🏻 what my girls wear
👉🏻 what their bedrooms looked liked
👉🏻 what my kids would say and do around others

These were all causing me more harm than good.

I slowly had to learn more to let the control go.

I would never have let my older 2 daughters go out dressed like my third daughter did!🙄

But as they say, happy kids, happy Mummy!

Free yourself from small stuff that does not matter.

You will be so might lighter when you do.

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𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙣‘𝙩 𝙥𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙢𝙥𝙩𝙮 𝙘𝙪𝙥

This has to be one of my favourite analogies.

When we are completely depleted and have nothing left, how are we meant to look after our family?

I left it too late. I don’t want you to do the same.

I am so passionate about helping other mums to fill their own cups because I know it works.

Too many times, I remember feeling upset, agitated, angry, frustrated, desperately wanting ”me time.” Desperately needing quiet.

We need to make the time for ourselves, because your family will receive:

✨The flow-on effect

✨The butterfly effect

✨ The ripple effect

Whatever you want to call it, it works.

It's not selfish
In fact, it’s selfless.

Your family benefits from a happy Mummy.

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Life's Simple Pleasures

I LOVE my morning coffee ☕️

And Sunsets or sunrises

My girls know I love them, and yell out to me
"mum a sunset" 🌅

Tell me do you love a coffee ☕️
Sunsets 🌅
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Social anxiety,
Melbourne Mummas, I hear you!

After the last 2 years we have had where we have been pretty much been confined to our homes, there are so many mums still struggling to get back to socialising.

Going back into the office for work, going back to school pickups and extra mural activities, going back to full on weekends and back to back social events…

Its been tough, so many of us would rather just stay home.

But what are we missing out on?

Seeing our friends?

Seeing work colleagues that we love to be around?

Connecting with other Mums?

Going to events?

It’s so similar to suffering from anxiety or depression.

During my recovery, my psychiatrist would challenge me to make small steps. Baby steps. Go out with friends for a coffee, go out for dinners or to a movie, plan a day out etc

I had to get back to living my life.

I used to love socialising, but yet I found myself full of anxiety trying to avoid ever leaving the house.

But I slowly got better, some days better than others.

Push yourself a little to overcome social anxiety.

It’s so worth it.

Some days I feel like I am killing it at life.
Other days I suck.

That is life!

Stop beating yourself up for having bad days!

Woke up late, had a fight with your kids, traffic was crazy, work was tough.

Yep you had a bad day!

It’s just a day.
Don’t make it mean anything.

Take the lessons and start again tomorrow!

We get to choose if we continue to sit in that negative space or move on.

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2 years ago I made a promise to myself that I would stop sitting on the sidelines.

Sitting by as my husband and kids have all the fun while I watched on from the sidelines.

Only a few years ago, I was in such a deep dark place, not wanting to be here anymore.

Things needed to change.
Drastically.

It was time to start living my best life.

I mean, we only get one chance, right?

We see it all the time.

People we know passing away suddenly

Or lives changing with devastating diagnoses…

Life is too short and we know it

Yet we still don't live our best lives?

❓Why?

❓What are we waiting for?

My life has COMPLETELY changed

And honestly, it was really 2 things that transformed it.

2 specific things I did that changed everything.

These 2 things took me 40 years to uncover.

And now that I have been able to,

💥I NOW live a happier more joyful life.
💥I NOW live a spontaneous and adventurous life.
💥I NOW have more time and energy for the things that I love.

👉🏻Type "Yes" in the comments below

And I will send you my 2 steps to start living a happier life NOW

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Anger and resentment

The more I think about my life, the more I can see just how much time I wasted sitting in anger and resentment.

‘I am so tired. I need a break, but I can’t ask anyone.’ (I thought I just had to keep going)

‘I just want time to do something for myself.’
(But my husband works such long hours, he is tired and deserves to have time out more than I do)

‘I don’t even know what I want to do, or where I would go if I got time out.’
(I had no interests or hobbies)

‘When will I ever feel like me again?’
(I am not the person I used to be)

‘I just want to be happy.’
(I used to be happy)

I now know that this all comes down to communication.

I should have spoken up.
I should have used my voice.
I should NOT have felt guilty for wanting time out.

This is normal. Being a mummy 24/7 is exhausting.
But it CAN be different.

Let’s normalise asking for help and getting respite.

It’s the best thing you can do for your mental health.

I want women to say YES to the things that are a little scary.

I want them to say NO to the things that don't actually light them up.

* Yes to going for the job interview
* Yes to that promotion at work
* Yes to starting that new business
* Yes to that date that you were asked on
* Yes to that girls weekend away
* Yes to starting a new course

Even if it’s a little scary, say YES

Working with women lights me up!

💖 I want you to love your life.

💖 I want you to be the happiest version of yourself.

💖 I want you to have everything that you deserve.

💖 I want you to start saying yes to yourself.

💖 I want you to have joy, fun in your life.

Are you ready?

Lets do this..

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Stay in your lane.

So many times I have felt defeated, useless, dumb or stupid simply because I haven't been able to do certain things or figure them out.

The more I understand my strengths and weaknesses the better I have become at knowing what I should throw my attention to and what I should just let go of.

I don't like to cook.
I am not a good cook, but my husband is an amazing cook and he enjoys it! Yay!

I am not tech savvy.
I stress and can be easily overwhelmed.
When I need to setup zoom, linktree, website cameras, cords etc the stress just hits me 😰
Now that I know this about myself, I can outsource tasks out! Thanks Kristin Wishart 🙏💖

What are you stressing about that you could outsource?
And when you do outsource, don't make it mean anything!

You're smart!

Stay in your lane, focus your time and pour your energy into the things that you're good at and that light you up.

Friends

You don't need a big circle of friends but you do need a few good ones!

💖 Ones that listen
💖 Ones that cheer you on
💖 Ones that inspire you to be more
💖 Ones that you can cry to and vent to
💖 Ones that you can always rely on
💖 Ones that make you feel good
💖 Ones that you can laugh with.
💖 Ones with which you can be completely yourself

These are your people.

If you have so called "friends" the leave you feeling:

🙅🏻‍♀️ Worse off. Questioning yourself and questioning them
🙅🏻‍♀️ Like you somehow need to impress them
🙅🏻‍♀️ Drained by their negativity
🙅🏻‍♀️ Used. They only see you on their terms
🙅🏻‍♀️ Undervalued. They never listen to you. It’s all about them.

These are not your people.
💁🏻‍♀️Say goodbye and get new people.

Doing hard things..

I was engaged at the age of 18 to my highschool sweetheart.

We actually got together in primary school and were on and off for years. We spent more years together than apart.

We were going to get married, buy a house, have babies and live happily ever after.

We got engaged at 18 and 20, we were inseparable.

We didn’t wait long before we set a date. We booked the beautiful reception centre, the horse and cart that I so desperately wanted. My dress had been ordered and my bridesmaid dresses were being made. The photographer was set to go.

My fairytale wedding.

Everything was working out perfectly but, I started to have doubts.

I was only 18... was this the right thing to do?

My friend was about to travel the world and I was about to get married.

I started loosing a lot of weight, the stress and anxiety of not knowing what to do and the fear of letting everyone down.

I remember the day I told my mum in tears, then my fiancé. We went through boxes of tissues as the tears flowed.

I loved him so much, he was my best friend, but I knew in my heart that I couldn't go through with the wedding.

I am glad I listened to myself. I was too young. I was still a baby and had so much to learn and do.

So sometimes, the most difficult things you have to do, turn out to be the best decisions for you.

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Sundays are for Pancakes 🥞 best hubby 🥰

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Pizza night 🍕

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