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07 POWERFUL SIGNS THAT SHOWS THAT YOU'RE IN RIGHT RELATIONSHIP ✍️

❤️Have you met the love of your life already?If yes,how can you better know he or she is the right person

01 ✍️ YOU CAN SPEND INFINITE HOURS WITH EACH OTHER

❤️A relationship where the partners don't creat time for each other is a relationship that will fail sooner or later

❤️When you meet someone who is ready to spend hours either chatting with you on phone or physically irrespective of their busy schedules,it is a good and promising sign✍️

02 ✍️ YOUR LIFE GOALS MATCHES EACH OTHER

❤️ Any relationship that's not future promising is the one aimed at crashing sooner or later

❤️When you meet someone with an amazing VISION AND PURPOSE that suits with your longing desire,it is also a good sign✍️

03 ✍️ YOU LAUGH AT THESAME THINGS

❤️Any relationship that will last must have a sense of HUMOUR

❤️If your partner is fun of saying things that makes you laugh and happy, then it's a good sign✍️

04 ✍️ THEY LIKE YOUR CIRCLE OF FREINDS

❤️ Everybody has a freind or freinds and everyone does so for a reason

❤️As a Christian with a circle of christain Freinds,when your partner likes them,then its a good sign ✍️

05 ✍️ YOU TALK ABOUT EACH OTHER FREEQUENTLY

❤️When you're in a relationship that's promising,you will realize that your partner as well as you doesn't feel shy talking about you

❤️Talking about you could be with trusted Freinds,relatives,to God in prayer etc✍️

06 ✍️ YOU DON'T FEEL SCARED SHARING YOUR PAST

❤️ Everyone has a DIRTY past either from personal life or family line and these pasts can be descouraging as well

❤️When you meet someone who doesn't makes you scared of telling your past freely and who sympathises with your past and encourage you of your future,it's a good sign✍️

07 ✍️ YOU'RE INVOLVED IN EACH OTHER WORK LIFE

❤️This is also an important sign that's often neglected

❤️When you meet someone who is interested in your daily works and schedule,it's another sign✍️

❤️Such a person who check on your going out and coming in,they encourages you and support you in their own way

❤️My dear,if you're in a relationship now and you don't see these signs,then you don't need any VISION from heaven to tell you to quit

❤️A broken courtship and date is better than a broken MARRIAGE

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STAY AWAKE!

I want you to stop what you're doing right now and read this with all your heart and soul, your marriage needs it desperately:

In Matthew twenty five verse number one;
Why did the wise virgins not lend some oil to the foolish ones since the bridegroom was already around? Why didn't they share? Because by human calculation they might not even be needing the extra oil anymore since the person they've been waiting for have come?

Hmmm, it is because the wise virgins didn't know how long the marriage with the bridegroom will last, they too needed their lamps to burn for as long as it can.

Please catch this anyone;

"The oil was not only necessary for the waiting period, they didn't think they wouldn't be needing the oil anymore because the bridegroom has come, the oil was also needed for the thereafter."

Many relationships and marriages have failed because either or both partners thought they wouldn't be needing their oil anymore after they've found each other.

Our marriages fail because we forget to consistently apply the wisdom that helped us win our partner's heart in the first place.

Our relationships become dry and boring because we become too familiar with each other that we think we don't need to learn new things about our partner, or new ways to make our love better.

We Forget to woo each other after our hearts have been won.

Why?

Because we don't need the oil anymore, we empty our vessels, throw away the kegs, and slowly the oil in our lighted lamps begins to dry up and burn out. And before we realize it, the room becomes so dark that we cannot see where our partner is standing anymore..
NEVER LET YOUR OIL DRY UP!
NEVER LET YOUR LAMPS BURN OUT.
You cannot know too much to stop learning new things everyday. You cannot depend on old tricks in this ever changing world, learn new things, refuel, refill, if possible replace your lamp with a solar system, install an inverter, let it keep burning. Read that book, attend that seminar, stay AWAKE.

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RULES FOR COUPLES FOR BEING MAD

1. Be mad at me, but don't insult me. Anger is not a ticket to speak carelessly

2. Be mad at me, but tell me why you are mad. Don't assume I know

3. Be mad at me, but don't broadcast it to others. Cover me

4. Be mad at me, but don't forget the many good things about me. Be objective and fair

5. Be mad at me, but also remember the many other times I have forgiven you

6. Be mad at me, but don't give me silent treatment. Keep the communication lines open

7. Be mad at me, but don't use it as an excuse to cheat on me

8. Be mad at me, but don't hurt me to even the score. Love doesn't revenge

9. Be mad at me, but don't stay mad for long. Let's sort this out quickly

10. Be mad at me, but don't stop praying for me. I still need your prayers

11. Be mad at me, but don't threaten to quit what we have. Ending it is not the solution

12. Be mad at me, but don't punish me using s*x. Let's keep intimacy special, don't weaponize it

13. Be mad at me, but don't keep reminding me of things you said you forgave me for

14. Be mad at me, but don't develop a bad attitude or view of yourself. I take responsibility for offending you, let's make us work

SIXTEEN BIGGEST FEARS OF WOMEN ABOUT MEN
1. Is he only after me for s*x and once he gets it will he use me and leave?
2. Does he mean the sweet and special things he tells me?
3. Does he tell other women the sweet and special things he tells me?
4. What if I marry him and then he changes?
5. What if I can't have children, will he leave me?
6. What if he gets to find out my darkest secrets, will he judge me and reject me?
7. He is struggling financially now and I am helping him. What if I help him to grow and he becomes wealthy, will he abandon me? Is he only with me when it is financially convenient?
8. Does he really enjoy having s*x with me? Why doesn't he make s*xual moves on me as much these days, is he cheating? Is he bored? Am I too fat? Do I smell down there?
9. What if I give him kids, will he bail on me and the children and I parent them alone?
10. Will he believe me if I tell him his mother is doing wrong to me?
11. Can I trust him when he goes to work with other women? Can I trust him when he is alone in the house with the house help? Can I trust him with my and his female friends?
12. Is he making a fool out of me with his smart phone?
13. As I grow older, will he chase after younger ladies who I can't physically keep up with and become a sponsor to opportunistic women?
14. Will he lie to me that I am the only woman in his world then in marriage he changes and insists and justifies polygamy saying he wants a second and third wife?
15. Will the warnings my family and friends gave me about him turn out to be true?
16. Is this real love or just another heart break waiting to happen? I am tired of having connections that don't last and investing in false love that leads to pain
Gentlemen, assure the woman you claim to love. Don't let her biggest fear come to reality. Sheild her from the pain other men have caused her, the pain she hears other men have caused other women and the pain her dad caused her mother.

AVOID THESE TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP
1. You should avoid a relationship that is based on s*x alone. It has no future. If all you do is to sleep with each other instead of discussing things that will benefit your life then that relationship is a waste of time and destiny.
2. Avoid any relationship that has no direction, purpose or aim.
3. Avoid any relationship that doesn't add any positive impact on your life.
4. Run away from any relationship that gives you more sorrows than joy.
5. Run away from any relationship that makes you cry or gives you more tears and cry than laughter.
6. Do not stay in a relationship where you love someone but the person makes you unhappy many times.
7. When you see signs that a relationship can't work, don't try to make it work. IT JUST CAN'T WORK. There is no need remaining in such r/shp. Flee from it.
8. Avoid any relationship where you find yourself struggling to love your partner.
9. Avoid any relationship where you are caged or restricted from enjoying your basic fundamental human rights. No relationship should restrict you from your rights, not even marriage.
10. Stay away from a relationship where your values are trampled upon, so ensure your spiritual and religious values are in tact in your relationship.

ALL THE SINGLE LADIES
I don't know the lady that needs to hear this
Marriage is NOT A VISION.
Marriage was invented to HELP A VISION
Marriage was invented by God for A REASON
Marriage isn't THE REASON
Many single ladies sit in pews in churches, not a bit concerned about the reason God created them,
not bothered about God and why they are here, not bothered about how they can use their gifts and abilities to bless humanity
Only bothered about getting married and having children..
Few ladies actually have dreams of their own apart from getting a Man, becoming a full time house wife and having children.
Getting Married? that wouldn't make the world a better place
Getting Married? that wouldn't win souls to God's kingdom,
Marriage isn't anointing
Marriage isn't impact,
Dear Single Lady,
While you wait for Marriage
Draw close to God,
Draw close to your books
Draw close to your Job
Draw close to your career
Draw close to your passions, gifts and talents
DEVELOP yourself to your maximum capacity
GROW.
EXPLOIT the opportunities around you to be great and successful, spiritually, financially, and otherwise.
Find a Man that will understand and honor your dreams and calling, encourage and grow you as an asset to the kingdom and humanity, and not one Who will kill them with "submit to your husband" line.
Don't make the fact that you are a SINGLE WOMAN and you look forward to becoming a MARRIED WOMAN become such a priority that you become blinded to the greatness that is in you as a HUMAN.

8 LEVELS OF INTIMACY
1. SOCIAL INTIMACY
This is when you enjoy someone's company in public, when you single that person out in public, when you would rather go to places with that one person because you two have a good connection
2. FRIENDSHIP INTIMACY
This is when it grows beyond just spending time to really get to know each other. When you get to know each other's mannerisms, likes, dislikes and invest in more one on one interactions
3. EMOTIONAL INTIMACY
This is when you become bare and unashamed. You two get to share your fears and desires, you two get to talk about things no one else knows, you two don't have rushed conversations but you go deep in unraveling and unveiling each other and loving each other for who you truly are. This intimacy requires no walls, no pretence, you two get to a place where you can say "I feel understood"
4. PHYSICAL INTIMACY
This is when the connection goes to touch. When you two are safe and free with each other and confident in claiming each other that you effortlessly hold hands, locks arms, hold waists, s***k each other, hug a little longer and cuddle
6. SENSUAL INTIMACY
This is when you two tease and arouse each other. You flirt as a couple, you turn each other on, you excite each other's senses, you dress up to give each other visual stimulation, you stroke your fingers on each other's skin, you kiss passionately, you make out
7. SEXUAL INTIMACY
This is beyond having s*x. This is you two learning each other s*xually and giving each other utmost s*xual pleasure. This is when you two discover secrets of each other's body and drive each other crazy
8. SPIRITUAL INTIMACY
This is the highest form of intimacy, where you two join God's spirit and God's spirit downloads truths to you. You know things in the spirit about each other, you pray for each other, you see each other not as s*xy bodies but human spirits
May your marriage have this 8 levels of intimacy.

PRECAUTIONS BEFORE MARRIAGE
It is becoming obvious that what many of us practice in our relationships is a best-case relationship. Our love blooms as long as everything is fine. But when the storms come, love wanes.
How do you explain a man abandoning his wife at the hospital because she gave birth to their third child and it was a girl? True life story.
How do you explain a wife abandoning her husband because he got involved in an accident that put him in a wheelchair? Again, true-life story.
That means the love that was professed during the relationship was only for best-case scenarios.
I even hear that some churches now do "for better or best" instead of "for better or worse" when taking wedding vows. Hmm! Story for another day.
The bottom line is that the way many singles prepare for marriage now is faulty. It seems challenges are not part of the equation at all. Any slight challenge and the marriage crumbles.
We (singles) must begin to ask ourselves these difficult questions before we get married.
What if my father's name opens doors for me and I want to keep it after marriage more like a compound name?
What if seven years into the marriage there are no kids or what if we have kids but they are all girls?
Will any of your relatives be coming to live with us after we get married?
Are you going to ask me to become a housewife when we start having children?
Singles hardly discuss these kinds of questions during the relationship. Yet these are just a few of the issues that lead to a breaking up of many marriages.

RELATIONSHIP ETHIQUETTE FOR LADIES
Sweet sisters.
There are some relationship etiquette I want you to learn.
I am not against having a man who practically cares for you. But there are some habits that turns most guys off and makes them loose interest as soon as you exhibit them.
The first three months of a prospect committed/ serious relationship is usually the best moment for getting familiar with each other, building friendship, trust, and mutual understanding. Anything aside this, is out of context.
This is not the best time to start demanding for this, and that. Learn to adopt self control. Your cream should not finish as soon as you met him, your data should not be exhausted as soon as you met him, your house rent should not expire as soon as you met him. Wouldn't you have taken care of these if he didn't come into to the picture?
Is not a time to conclude if he's stingy or not, or to taste his generosity. A serious minded and committed guy no matter how resourceful he is, will automatically loose interest if you begin to bill him at the early stage of a relationship.
He knows what to do to make you happy and comfortable. But he wants to build that friendship first, he wants to be certain that you truly love him for whom he is and not what he provides.
He wants to be certain that you are dating him with the right intent and not ulterior motive.
He wants to see that level of commitment in you. And of course, if you are patient enough, you may not need to ask in the future, before he does something for you.
Learn to calm down first, let love lead.

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Marriage is not by feelings

The most dangerous person to marry is the person without the fear of God not belief hear me bt fear almost everyone believes in God.