Self Sabotage Info

Memories are never accurate. Memory is a neurobiological mechanism which imprints on an individual person's brain their unique experience, not what actually happened.

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Inaccurate recording of memories and then inaccurate interpretation of the remnants of those memories create some of the biggest problems in the present moment.

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And often that "self absorption" is a protective mechanism of the brain and not consciously executed.

Letting go is something that we naturally and intuitively know how to do when we don't get in our own way.

How often do you hold back from authentic communication because you think you know how the other person will react?

You have to teach your subconscious what you want and make sure it understands what it feels like.

If you are struggling with any of these:

Willpower, motivation, procrastination
Confidence, self-esteem, feeling of well-being
Lack of direction, purpose in life
Relationships
Health, diet, exercise
Career or financial success

Then there's a good chance you need to work on your vision and your values.

We all want more joy, peace, money and better relationships, freedom and abundance - but are you wired for it?

When you aren't you will blame external circumstances for your results and finger pointing is a favorite pastime of a self sabotager.

Do your best to communicate before you make up stories about events between you and someone else.

This is a really important question if you want to take stock of how authentic you show up in the world.

Often when people are sabotaging relationships, marriages, financial situations or cannot see the good in their lives - this program is running - If I am happy something bad will happen. People don't just learn this in childhood, they often fail at cultivating happiness, what they thought was a good attempt at creating joy and it backfires. So they unconsciously create misfortune every time things go well. This program could be running in other circumstances as well.

Nothing matters more than how authentically you are able to connect with someone, despite your perceived differences.

A negative subconscious program is informing the world at any given moment how we want to be treated. When we really are secure within ourselves we know all of our habitual patterns and can spot programming coming up. That gives us the opportunity to choose grace, peace and non-reactivity.

This is what I see in every single session, bar none. A person who does not know how to come in to alignment with their idea of some 'ideal' state.

It's either a manifestation of stuck emotions or a fear of the future.

And yes, there are other anxiety and depression triggers, but those are usually related to something in a person's diet or an unresolved past hurt - but right now we are talking about what's happening within the context of Self Sabotage.

Imagine being boxed in by society by a label that caused you to both see yourself and be seen by others as broken and unfixable. How is that compassion? How does that truly help anyone heal? It doesn't. Emotions are not illnesses and people are not fixer upper projects. They don't need labels - those belong on cereal boxes. People need love, affection, kindness, listening and unconditional positive regard to heal.

Looking at phones and TV screens deactivates and dysregulates the prefrontal cortex. The Prefrontal Cortex is responsible for things like:

Compassion
Empathy
Confidence
Motivation
Willpower
Creativity
Patience
Focus
Spiritual Connection

Exposure to screens and TV have also been found to degrade your limbic system and be the cause of:

Negative thoughts
Depression
Overwhelm
Brain Fog
Lethargy
Triggerless Anxiety
Irrational Fears
Anger

Doing a technology detox will gradually restore these parts of you to optimum performance and replacing these with meditation or mindful breathing have been proven to reset the nervous system, the limbic system and return the prefrontal cortex to normal function within just 8 weeks. Give it a try.