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We all get surprised.

We let our insecurity take over if we treat people differently in different circumstances.

Be bigger than your fears.

Treat people with kindness always.

Our past failures do not hinder our ability to serve others. Instead, our past failures can propel us to make an impact when we use the voice of resilience to drive us rather than the voice of lies defining us.

We all are the narrators of our story, and we have the opportunity to encourage others to write their own stories.

Listen in to the latest podcast with as he shares how he is writing a new narrative! (Link in bio)

Your true value, when found, is worth more than anyone could ever pay you.

I saw something here in the last couple of days, and I've seen it from a couple of different individuals; they’re all about chasing money. Just chase money.

There is a part of me saying, I understand. I have been there. Then I assert, "now that I understand my true worth and value, if I choose to chase that, wow, that's way more valuable than anyone can pay me."

I have the opinion; I have zero problems making a fool of myself in the service of others.

To make a fool of myself just to get people to pay me, to think that's how to internally find value, I don't get that.

It does not work that way.

Because again, your true value, what you’re worth, is worth so much more than money.

It's worth tenfold--- a hundredfold even —- because what you can accomplish when you understand your value and the lives it can impact positively to serve and change lives, that's worth more than money.

3 Keys to Transformation

🔑 Positive Changes
🔑 Accountability
🔑 Community

Transformation occurs and endures when all 3 are present.

Mindset is community-based.

"Convincing someone to change their mind is the process of convincing someone to change their tribe or their group or their community or their inner circle. If they abandoned their beliefs, they'd run the risk of losing social ties, being left all alone."

That is the single, single most significant factor for people who want to seek communities, not be left alone.

"You can't expect someone to change their mind if you take away their community, too. You have to give them somewhere to go. Nobody wants their worldview torn apart if loneliness is the outcome."

This quote is from James Clear, the author of "Atomic Habits."

"Mindset is community-based."

If you want to alter, if you want to change something in your life, very rarely do people do so without any basis and understanding where it’s going to take them.

Think spiritual beliefs, or even financial beliefs, if you think about education or professional beliefs, ideas, and mindset, they are community-based.

If I want to become a doctor, I see not only the purpose and the benefit of being a doctor, but also a community of other doctors.

If it's a spiritual belief, it's what people think and believe based upon the community.

What do they do? How do they serve? What do they ask of people? How do they treat people?

If we want to alter someone's mindset, we have to find a community where the mindset fits.

If we want to change our mindset, it's easier once we find that community to say, "They believe the same I do." Or maybe, "I enjoy that their beliefs are different.”

Mindset is based upon a community. Want a different mindset, find a different community!

Do we know WHY we are afraid of trying?

I’ll share a story today because it came to me again in recent days.

John Maxwell tells this story and I'm going to make this as quick as I can.

Researchers put four monkeys in a room. In the middle of the room there is a pole with bananas at the top.

When one of the monkeys decides to climb up the pole to get a banana he gets shot with water. The next monkey goes up there, gets shot with water. The third monkey goes up there, gets shot with water. The fourth monkey goes up there, gets shot with water.

Eventually, the monkeys stopped climbing the pole.

The researchers then take one of the monkeys out, replace it with a monkey who has never been up the pole. When the new monkey climbs up the pole the other monkeys pull him down.
Eventually, all the monkeys in the room have never been shot with water, yet none of them climb the pole.

To me it’s a classic example in our world where we're afraid to try, and we don't even know why we're afraid!.

We're afraid to try because we heard from someone, who heard from somebody, that they had a bad experience.

But have we ever had a bad experience?

In business, if we're afraid to share and embrace products that we love because of what ‘might happen’. Or we are afraid because a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend had some angry person lash out at them. But yet, we've never had that?! We've never had anyone talk bad to us, but yet we're afraid.

Let me ask you that, "Do we know why we are afraid to try?"

Stop. Think about it, think about the things you're afraid to try, and wonder, did you ever get shot with water?

If not, climb that pole.

Grab the banana.

Let's go.

Be a person so big that you invite people with different views and opinions to your table.

We all have people we interact with, and at times, we can find ourselves sitting around and talking to the same people with the same ideas, the same thoughts, the same political leanings, and the same educational background. These are our conversation tables.

My challenge, be such a ‘big’ person that you sit down at a table, and you're curious, and you're empathetic.

Have the desire to learn more about others to understand why they see the world.

There are over seven and a half billion people on this earth, and they have a different view than you.

If we can open our world to engage with others who are different, we find that our world gets so much smaller.

Distrust compromises creativity.

Whether you're in an organization or maybe your family, or possibly anywhere people interact, you will not think of creative ways to solve a problem if you don’t trust someone.

Instead, the thought will be, "How can I get through this problem without causing issues?"

Distrust compromises creativity.

To maximize creativity, to maximize problem-solving, to bring in every possible solution, trust has to be affirmed and undergirded in every single relationship.

Do yourself a favor, maximize creativity by maximizing trust.

I’ll recount the last 10 years. I know this; I wouldn’t have gotten close to the place I am today in my wildest dreams.

If I had to write a 10-year plan in 2011 and even somewhat followed it. I would not be the person I am today.

One big reason. In 2011 my daily mission was nowhere close to what it is today. It was simply to get up, go to work, try to make money, provide for my family.

10 years ago, my wife said Yes. Great things happen when ‘SHE’ says yes!

She said yes to an opportunity that changed the lives of myself, my 3 kids, countless others.

In 2011 I was stuck on the hamster wheel of life and likely would have stayed there for a while. I didn’t have an exit plan.

Ten years to the day. I have been part of a team that has impacted 100s of thousands throughout the world. I have been in relationships that have opened the door to grow into a person my old self likely wouldn’t even recognize.

I have seen parts of the world I didn’t know I would ever see. I have taken part in projects which have and will continue to impact generations.

I have found and worked with mentors who have shaped my life to fulfill a purpose I would not have known.

I have grown to appreciate with gratitude the traumatic events of my teenage years. I have found a purpose; to help other leaders get healthy too.

I have walked a path to become a healthier person.

Yesterday I spent the day working with my brother installing basketball hoops on a sports court at our home. 10 years ago, I would have never imagined. I was on a clock only I controlled. A clock allowed by choices made and maximized over the last 10 years.

I have heard and seen many people chastise, and in some cases rightly so, network marketing. I can genuinely say that I would not be the person I am today had it not been for network marketing.

I would not have learned the lessons I have learned the last 10 years. I would not have the desire to impact like the one which rests on my shoulders each day.

I am thankful, and I am excited.

I know if I am willing to say yes to crazy ideas with a desire to serve people, in ten years, I’ll look back and say, WOW, how did I end up here

Being strong is knowing what can hurt you and what can't.

As we grow through life, as we learn about life, sometimes we can get confused.

Words hurt. They do hurt, but yet can they really hurt you?

As we go through life and navigate relationships, we must learn how we can hurt others. But also, there's this understanding of what can hurt you.

Maybe you've been told, "Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me."

Words can hurt, but we have to be confident in ourselves to say, What matters? When do I just need to say, 'No, it's not a big deal.”

Being strong is knowing what can and can't hurt you. Being vulnerable is never going to hurt you. It just isn't.

If you allow it to hurt you, it will, but being vulnerable is only going to give you more strength.

Vulnerability is the only way to truly get stronger.

Talent shared with others adds value to them.

To share a talent, one must come to grips with their talent as a value to bestow upon others.

I hope you can reflect on the idea and think about the talents you have. I know we all have them.

Everyone of us has the opportunity today to share our gifts/talents with someone else, to bestow that upon them, not in a forceful way but, "How can I use my talents to help you accomplish more and achieve more?"

"Know when to hold them. Know when to fold them. Know when to walk away."

There are things in your life that you need to stop doing. There are things that you need to do and delegate. There are things that you need to do that you just need to dig deep and continue to hold on.

Like Kenny Rogers said in his song, "The Gambler," "Know when to hold them. Know when to fold them. Know when to walk away."

Here’s the only way to know, you got to be in the game.

The only way to know about those things in poker is by playing poker. You can read, you can study, but it doesn't work until you play it. Life is about going through trying situations, and just trying it, and seeing what happens.

Happy Mother’s Day Beautiful!

You always strive to make the best memories ❤️❤️

Episode 17:

Maybe it is just me. I never thought about finding myself.


I was who I was.


It was the person I was made to be. I never really sought to ‘change me or discover me.


Along the way, I had had enough.


I had gone through enough pain and angst from relationships that just didn’t jive. My relationships with some people were like peanut butter and chocolate. Others it was like oil and water.


In the fall of 2017, that all changed. I took my first 360 assessment, and here was the glowing result.


IT IS ABOUT YOU!


The hard part; I had no idea why it seemed to be that way.


When I first took the Enneagram assessment, I discovered my number, 8.


The much-maligned and distinctive 8, described as the Challenger or Protector.


The Enneagram result coincided with several other impactful assessments. All yielded the same type of person.


A person who is strong, like a lion. A person who challenges and defends. Self-Confident, resourceful, assertive, passionate, determined, and energetic.


Those to me sound all great and positive. When those attributes are expressed in a healthy, supportive and encouraging manner, they are treasured.

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Character is concrete.

Emotions are fluid.

Character yields strength.

Emotions are volatile.

When I fear enduring pain or hurt, I look to protect.

The only way to mitigate is to proceed forward, accepting the consequences.

The pain or hurt to the extent we believe is rarely realized.

This morning when I had a conversation with a few friends, we were talking about humility.

Part of humility is not only accepting fault, but it's saying, "Hey, you know what, I'm sorry," and leaving it there.

I'm not so good at it.

As Kelley could attest, I wasn't good at it last night.

A concern and what holds me back is I'm afraid that it's going to continue.

I'm afraid the pain, the frustration, is not going to resolve.

I need to get over that.

That's a ME problem.

If I think that, then I'm going to self-prophecy it to occur.

I need to proceed forward and say,

"You know what? I can accept the pain because I'm willing to accept it’s on me. I just need to let it go."

Sometimes that means simply apologizing.

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Distance is no longer a barrier for connection.

I was reading something this morning and it brought up the idea of long-distance calling.

I don't know if you guys remember back in the day that you could make long-distance phone calls.

It used to be as like, "Oh, can I make that phone call to my friend? Is that long-distance or is that local?"

Where I lived and grew up, we were right on the line between two different area codes.

If I wanted to call some of my friends, they were in a different area code, and so it was technically long-distance. I wasn't able to call them because it costs money.

It didn't cost money to call local.

I found out when Alexander Graham Bell and Thomas A. Watson completed the first long-distance phone call, it was from the US to Europe, it took them 23 minutes just to connect that call because of all the operate controlled connections..

If you remember those old movies where they're like, "One second," and they plug the cable in the switchboard.

23 minutes.

It used to cost an exorbitant amount of money to make long-distance phone calls.

Now, you can FaceTime with anyone around the world that doesn't cost you a thing other than your data, other than whatever it'd be.

And usually that is, that's built-in cost.

There's no incremental cost for long-distance.

Distance is no longer a barrier for connection.

I talked to a friend earlier this morning, we caught up, and he lives 2,000 miles away.

Phone call.

I was in Clubhouse and I was interacting with friends all over the globe.

A friend in Bali, in West Africa, in South Africa, all over the world.

Distance is no longer a barrier for connection. Because at one time it surely was.

The only way to accomplish anything is being willing to fail.

We all have barriers that keep us from being willing to try.

Everything great has been accomplished by someone willing to fail. Likely fail thousands of times.

They failed consistently in order to make an impact.

It's Time to Think Again.

When we are curious enough to seek new answers, we solve problems that have never been solved.

- https://mailchi.mp/theimpactdrivenleader/together-is-better-6507460

and identified, in a podcast I recently listened to, there are people who identify a problem.

Those aren't necessarily always the people that are well-suited to fix it.

They described that person as a canary.

When I heard it I thought, "A canary?"

Canaries sat in cages in mines. If the canary died, then there was toxic gas in the mine.

This would alert the miners to get out of the mine.

But no one looked at the canary and said, "You died, why didn't you fix it?"

Because that isn't their job, that isn't their purpose, that isn't their responsibility.

When we get upset with a canary for the problem, we have to stop and realize, "Oh, it's not their problem to fix."

Maybe that's just their gifting and ability to point it out and appreciate that.

and identified, in a podcast I recently listened to, there are people who identify a problem.

Those aren't necessarily always the people that are well-suited to fix it.

They described that person as a canary.

When I heard it I thought, "A canary?"

Canaries sat in cages in mines. If the canary died, then there was toxic gas in the mine.

This would alert the miners to get out of the mine.

But no one looked at the canary and said, "You died, why didn't you fix it?"

Because that isn't their job, that isn't their purpose, that isn't their responsibility.

When we get upset with a canary for the problem, we have to stop and realize, "Oh, it's not their problem to fix."

Maybe that's just their gifting and ability to point it out and appreciate that.

Thankful for a minute to chat it up with such a example of leadership in my life!

Check out Tyler’s Book Be More Like You as well!

I saw share the value of caring for animals for 🧠 health.

I instantly threw a hand up 🙋🏽‍♂️ and said I’m down with that!

I personally prefer cows 🐮

How has caring for animals impacted your life?



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Not every tree is the same.

Not all fruit gets ripe at the same time.

Pick your own fruit.

My sons soccer coach sent me this message out of the blue this morning:

“You have to be willing to fail constantly, to succeed consistently!”

When we are surrounded by people who value failure we not only get better but so do others.

We struggle with failure because it puts a spotlight on our insecurities.

Admit your insecurities, so when you fail it is evidence you’re just working to get better!

Happy birthday to my beautiful wife!!

Men often say tongue-in-cheek their wives are their better half!

I earnestly say I am grateful for her and the place she has in my life.

She is an amazing friend.

A wonderful mother.

A special light in this world.

Happy birthday lova lova 😘 @ Spokane, Washington

Life happens.

💩 happens.

What happens when 💩 happens in your life or business?

At times in the past I have crumbled. I either end up 😡🤬 or 🤯.

I had to learn to be better.

I had to grow as a person so I could be better for those I love and value most; my family and those I serve.

I haven’t done it alone. I have had people walk with me and help me grow. Friends and mentors who believed in me so even when I screwed up they put their arm(s) around me and helped me walk the walk.

I was once alone on an island.

Maybe you feel that way too. If you do shoot me a DM. I’m inviting you to walk with my crew.

Commitment works as long as you're committed.

Let’s stop and think about that. If I'm truly committed to something that means I show commitment. It is an action of being involved and committed.

If you want something to happen and you're not committed, it's just whimsical. It's here one day, gone the next.

My daughter last night at dinner said, "Dreams work as long as you do the work’!

In other words, make your dreams come true. Do the work.

Stay committed to it. It's not going to happen overnight. There are things in my life right now that I wish had different results, but I know if I stay committed to the process, if I trust in the process, if I've done my diligence to understand what the process is, it will come.

"Commitment works as long as you stay committed."




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I’m thinking about Perspectives today.

In the last week I have listened to ✌🏾 new books. Think Again by and Winning the War in Your Mind by

A thought generated by those: If we think Our world is representative of The World, we then assume the world is flat.

Our minds and what we think are flawed. If we accept this then we must constantly yearn to see outside our world for greater context. By this we start to see how dynamic the 🌎 truly is!



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Life is an adventure with you!

My all-time Valentine 😘

“Every business rises and falls on relationships.”

Leaders value relationships and are generous!

Today the latest episode of the Impact Driven Leader Podcast released!

I’d love for you to listen.

More importantly get yourself by

I am thankful for our friendship and John’s suggestion and guidance to help me create the greatest gift has ever received.

Want to know what that was?

Go listen wherever you listen to podcasts!

If we jump in and do and don't think, we will get results we don't want to get.

Do you have time in your day to stop? To take five minutes, shut out all the noise, to sit and think. To collect your thoughts.

How can I accomplish that?
What can I do?
How can I be most effective and efficient?

But yet, are we allowing and encouraging people to stop and think? Or do we want them just to be told what to do? When we're telling people what to do, we're not encouraging them to think.

When we don't think we end up in places we don't want to end up.

Determine your legacy with intention.

If you let it to chance, you will be disappointed.

I'm reading a book right now that a friend, a new friend, introduced to me. It's called, The Purpose Factor by and

The friend that shared it with me; e bought it for his entire real estate company. I think he bought some stupid ungodly amount, like 700 copies. He really thought it was a great book!

It's a great book that I've really enjoyed. I'm listening to it with my son, actually.

The authors talk about purpose and allowing your purpose to determine your legacy and not just going through life and allowing it to end up wherever you end up.

I think that's so important. You have to go in with intention.

What do I want to be known for?
What do I want to make count?
What do I want my family to look back and think of me as?

Because if you just allow it to chance, it probably won't end up where you want to end up.

It's like putting your car in drive and starting to drive without having a destination.

Now remember, how you get there can vary greatly; that’s why you have a GPS that can take you through road closures and roadblocks and diversions.

Maybe you have to do some U-turns along the way.

That's all good. That is life.

But yet, if you don't have an idea of where you want to end up, then you're not going to be happy wherever you find yourself at the end of your life!

Can you punch me in the face?

Mike Tyson’s now-infamous adage... "Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the mouth."

Over the weekend, my youngest son played in a basketball tournament. While leaving the gym, he said, “Dad, did you see when I got hit in the face?”

No, no, I didn’t.

The reality is I would have been excited if he got hit in the face!

Wait, did you just say that?! How rude!

Yeah, I said it. He, kinda like, his dad needs a good punch in the face to light a fire in his soul. Getting just the right punch in the face is the best thing that can happen to me.

Mike Tyson explained the aforementioned quote as a “reality check” to one’s plan. If you are in a scheduled fight of any kind, you have a plan. When that plan hits a snag or the impact of a Mike Tyson punch, all bets are off, as they say.

Boxers, fathers, leaders, football players, or even 11-yr old AAU basketball players are all defined when they react to that punch.

I haven’t always handled getting punched in the face well. I can’t say I wouldn’t shatter like Mr. Glass of the Unbreakable movies triumvirate to a Mike Tyson-sized wallop. Yet, I know the only way to not end up as a supervillain is to understand how to respond positively.

How to take the punch and react to benefit me and others.

I invite you to hop into the ring with a few friends and me this month as we read the book Change Your World by John Maxwell and Rob Hoskins. Each day in February, we are challenging each other, in this context taking punches, to Change our Worlds.

Don’t worry; we’re just getting started and would love to have you join.

By the way, if you missed my interview with John last week, check it out on my podcast!

Do memories come over you like waves?

27 yrs ago a scene like played out for my family.

Nearly 6 months to the day after my brother's death, my family would sell our business.

Selling our business looked like this; loading up our entire herd of cows in the trailers to be sent six hours away into Canada.

it was a cold snowy day much like today.

For 6 months the comfort of routine has been a safe haven of sorts to deal with all there was to deal with.

Today is not like that day, today is a day happiness, as this girl is due to have a baby.

A friend shared this lesson with me yesterday. Gratitude can be used as a weapon. He too suffered a pain and came to understand with gratitude his ability to impact others through that pain.

I am grateful for my childhood experiences .

I hope you too can be grateful and use gratitude as a weapon!