I Am Rising Up

As the year draws to a close, I want to acknowledge the weight many of us carry as we reflect on the chapters that didn't unfold quite as we had hoped.

Life has its way of surprising us, and the emotions tied to unmet goals or unrealized growth can be profound, impacting both our conscious and subconscious selves.

In this moment of reflection, let's approach ourselves with compassion, recognizing that the journey of a year is filled with peaks and valleys, successes and setbacks.

It's okay if the path didn't lead exactly where you intended.

Growth often happens in unexpected ways, and the mere act of navigating through challenges is a testament to your resilience.

As we stand on the brink of a new year, I extend an invitation to join a free New Moon gathering today—an opportunity to embrace the energy of renewal and fresh beginnings. In darkness of the new moon, we can collectively release the weight of unmet expectations and set intentions for the coming months.

We've carefully cultivated a space for reflection, shared wisdom, and the support of community so that together, we can acknowledge the beauty in our "imperfections" and find strength in vulnerability.

May the new moon illuminate the path ahead, guiding us towards a future filled with growth, understanding, and self-love.

Come join us as we quiet our minds so that we can hear the quiet whispers of your heart and honor the emotions that are present during the ending of this chapter.

Feel free to share your reflections, aspirations, or simply join in quiet contemplation. Your journey is uniquely yours, and in this gathering, we'll be navigating our inner terrain through movement, song, and a somatic practice to tap into our body's wisdom and celebrate the beauty of both the light and the shadows.

Wishing you peace, growth, and a sense of renewal as we step into the promise of a new chapter.

A link to join this free gathering is in the comments.

I Am Rising Up updated their business hours.

I’ve been feeling into the best way for me to share the wisdom that I’ve gleaned throughout my journey of rising up the highest version of myself and how that looks in real time. Creating a space where I can speak on all the things that rising up entails is more aligned then trying to hone in on a specific niche. I’ve tried, but niching down is tricky when the topics included in living a more intentional life are so vast...to compartmentalize it is impossible because it is so intertwined and connected. One can’t talk about intentional or conscious living without looking at topics on parenting, education, birthing, nutrition, health, abundance, following dreams, healing trauma and so many other issues.
It’s not perfect, but I’m more focused on sharing my message and creating conversations that will help heal and spark transformations. I’m keeping these short and sweet for easy consumption and I’d love for you to come along for the ride if it resonates. You can find me on Spotify and anchor for now.

https://anchor.fm/iamrisingup

When was the last time you took time to draw, sing, and dance? If you are struggling with everything that is going on in the world, I encourage you to make time to create and express. It is truly fundamental to our existence and will help you process all the big feelings that are coming up as we navigate through this unique time together on this planet.

❤️ Phylicia Ayers-Allen Rashad

Compliant and obedient children seem great in childhood, but all of those years of obeying, not being allowed to ‘answer back’ to get their point across and eventually being too scared to confide in you, for fear of reprimand, does not make for an emotionally healthy adult 😪

Disagreements, debates, and healthy conflict may be harder on us as parents - but it makes for a much more positive future for our children.

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Rising as we raise our children isn't about working on them, rather it is about working in ourselves and our relationship with them.
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Those who say peaceful parenting is not possible are yet to understand it.
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Many of us grew up believing it was the adult’s jobs to work on the kids. We were told to do what the adults said and not what they did. We were scared into obedience not cared into understanding.
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At home, at school and all-around, so-called role models tell children to do what they themselves are not prepared to do and forbid them from doing what they repeatedly do. Failure to lead by example is unsuccessful leadership.
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Punitive parenting ignores the fact that children learn through imitation and repetition.
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To protect self-hood, children seldom willingly follow adults they do not trust or like. This has been proven in practice and through developmental and relational science.
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When we do the work of healing and learning how to FEEL safe and BE safe, through connecting, protecting and respecting children, we INSPIRE!
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Children's hearts are won through relationship, not with rules. Inspire children as you lead and you won't have to force them to follow.
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The most influential work we do is in our own hearts and homes.
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Raising children peacefully is more of a lifestyle than a parenting style.
♥️Lelia xx

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Holding that mirror to myself and examining my life was the catalyst to be the change I wanted to model for children.

❤️ James Baldwin. Thanks to Black Parent Magazine

We are their first loves, their first touches and everything we do shapes in their head what a relationship based on love should look like. If you struggled yesterday, start over today. If you struggled a couple minutes ago, start over now. It's never too late to say you could have done better and begin that journey over again. It's not about failing, it's about awareness, forgiveness, and trying again. Let's teach these babies what a healthy relationship feels and looks like by modeling it day in and day out.

There is a correlation between the relationship we have with our parents and the relationships we attract and seek out. There is a correlation between the relationship we have with our children and the relationships they will attract and seek out.

Does this make you feel anxious or does it bring you comfort?
If it makes you feel fearful look at how to bring love to heal and strengthen yourself and your relationships.

What kind of relationships do you want for yourself?
What kind of relationship do you want with your child?
What kind of relationships do you want your child to have with others?

1)Make a list of the values, virtues and strengths you'd like to build in your intentional blueprint. ...etc etc.
2)Learn how you're going to model and foster these in your relationships moving forward.

Gentle conscious parenting is a strengthening connecting practice and the place I began designing my new blueprint.
It's a daily practice towards growth and healing. I welcome all the Kindred hearts on their own journeys.

💚 Lelia.

When children are treated with disregard and disrespect because they are smaller, they learn what it feels to treated as less than human, and they learn the less powerful are meant to be treated this way.

When we’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and running on empty it’s easy to bark commands, become rigid with expectations, and default to “no”.

There’s nothing wrong with being exhausted or overwhelmed. It’s life and we’ve got to ride the waves. Instead of getting pulled into the turbulence, pause and give yourself grace. ✨💖

Look inward and set reasonable expectations for yourself so that you can set forth reasonable expectations for your children.

Sometimes I have the energy to hold boundaries with my kids, other times I intentionally loosen-up because I don’t have the energy or emotional bandwidth to hold certain expectations. Let’s face it y’all, this pandemic has had quite a few days when survival was the name of the game.

If I’m not willing to take action to back-up my words, then the boundary isn’t a priority. My children will sense my half-hearted commitment and explore the limit; the beginning of a power struggle.

An example from yesterday:
I was on an important phone call during nap time. My two year-old woke-up from nap halfway through our conversation. He immediately asked for gummies. I handed him his unfinished bag, hoping I could wrap-up the conversation before he finished. Of course, he demolished the 5 leftovers gummies in 30 seconds, so he started following me around whining for more.

My knee jerk response was “no”. However, I paused for a moment, and thought “I just need a few more minutes. One bag of gummies will buy me the time I need to finish this phone conversation. So I nodded and handed him a bag.

Am I suggesting always “giving your kids what they want to keep them happy?” NO!!

I’m suggesting that you intentionally set boundaries that are reasonable for you to hold in the present moment. Intentionality adds value to your language because you are confident in the limit and are willing to take action instead of repeating empty words and threats.

Does this shift the way you think about setting limits?

I love this message (and everything else) from Elisabeth Corey of Beating Trauma with Elisabeth Corey ❤️

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You can hear more from Kristen Coggins (Krissy's Couch) in this recent episode of Unruffled, one of the most popular ever:

"Raising Anti-Racist Children - A Holistic Approach." https://www.janetlansbury.com/2020/06/raising-anti-racist-children-a-holistic-approach-with-kristen-coggins/

I was honored to have Krissy as my guest ❤️

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Yes, you did so much caring today. Caring for children, caring for our partners, caring for our wider family and friends and caring is tiring. Rest now.

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