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Beginning in March, I’m excited to launch a monthly feature for my new ‘Survivor Spotlight’ series. Each month, I’ll select one follower and share their story in a dedicated post. Loss has touched far too many of us.

Please read on if you’re interested, and DM me ‘INTERESTED’ if you’d like to be considered for one of my ‘Survivor Spotlight’ posts.

I aim to use this series to raise awareness about different types of loss and their impact. It’s important to acknowledge the resilience and strength of survivors, inspiring others who may be going through similar experiences.

My hope is to share stories of how individuals have found healing and purpose after loss.I believe that by focusing on empathy, community, education, inspiration, and continued engagement, my ‘Survivor Spotlight’ series can become a powerful project that helps others feel seen, supported, and empowered in their journey of healing and resilience.

In the face of loss, it’s not about the pain, but about the strength within us to endure. Remember, the depth of your grief reflects the depth of your love. Each day, you show how badly you want to survive this loss, and that determination is a testament to your inner strength. May you find peace in your journey and strength in your heart as you navigate through this difficult time. Love and strength to you all. Always 🫶🏻

On January 26th, 4 years since my son passed, I sat in silence for a long time searching for the right words to post that day. Tears filled my eyes and as those tears rolled down my face, I whispered to myself…It’s been too long. It’s been way too long. I could not let go of the idea that I hadn’t heard his voice or that infectious laugh, or that I hadn’t felt his embrace in years. I was truly at loss of words. There were no words of encouragement for myself and my thoughts didn’t feel bright. I simply sat in a haze, and welcomed empty. Sometimes, we just need to welcome empty. I spoke to Mike on that day with these very words….”You are missed. You are loved.” These were the words that I felt/feel so deep. And in the midst of feeling so lost, I new my truth…..i spoke with him some more and said…”if I could have you back ,even for a moment, If I could look you in the eye one more time, I’d say….I would do it all over again” 💙

My darkest days remind me that I was truly blessed. I am truly blessed 😇 the gift of a soul I knew and a spirit who will be with me always. The doors opened and the community in which I was led to. Thank you to all the wonderful people in my world that TRULY lift me up always…..My family, friends, and of course, my insta family ❤️

Missing you like crazy because 4 years too many. Hoodie wearing my blue for you Mike #21💙blueformike

I cannot believe tomorrow is 4 years since we lost you….💔

Intuition: A quiet guide that speaks volumes throughout your grief journey. Guide yourself by building your own intuition and tap into your heart. Listen you your inner self. You are more powerful than you think ❤️

Thinking about you a little extra this holiday season ❤️

Today I smiled

“Someone mentioned your name today and I smiled. Instantly, your name reminded me of you and all the beauty that you were. When I heard your name, a flash of your existence was seen in my mind and felt in my heart.

But beyond these things, I smiled because I was filled with gratitude. I felt grateful that someone refused to stand behind the fear of saying your name. I was overjoyed that someone was brave enough to share a piece of your existence with me. Today I smile, because someone took the time, despite their awkwardness, to mention you.”
~Brenda Terra 🫶🏻

Twinning with my girl! Happy Halloween everyone 🎃🧡

🖤 To all my amazing followers who are grieving this Halloween, I want you to know that it's okay to feel the weight of your loss during this season. We are always here for you, and you're never alone. 🎃🕯️

Grateful beyond words for the stunning photo edit by . In this image, she brings to life the idea of me finding comfort as I gaze into the sunset, feeling my son's presence in the sky. Thank you for capturing this beautiful connection.

My trip to Mexico carries a mix of emotions. My heart will forever hurt with the thought that my son no longer gets to experience life's beauty. Yet, as the sun sets, I can't help but hope that he's there, painting the sky with his own colors… in his own special way ❤️

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As I sat upon the costal rocks yesterday, I realized how much our inner struggles can be reflected in nature. Sometimes it is so easy to get lost in the idea that life’s turmoils feel never ending…like relentless waves upon the rocks. As I sat there, I wanted so much to just feel my son, I wanted to know he was with me. Yet, the only thing I could feel in that moment was sadness. I got so lost in sadness… missing him.

Sometimes it is those moments in which all things should feel beautiful and wonderful yet sadness overtakes us ❤️

On this journey of grief, we learn that bravery isn't always about forging ahead; it's also about finding the courage to honor our own pace, acknowledging when we're not ready, and having the strength to walk away with our dignity intact. In every step, we discover new perspectives and insights that lead us towards healing and hope.

The other day I had an experience and I am looking forward to sharing it with you in my next reel. This experience gave me some new perspectives on courage and some things I realized about myself. Stay tuned 💗

Lost in time among the Mayan marvels at Chichen Itza… truly an awe-inspiring place. I was able to immerse myself in the past of those who came before me.

Standing in a place once faced with challenges and hardships, yet witnessing a legacy etched in stone… was an eye-opening experience. I am wowed not just with its architectural marvels, but with a profound lesson in the resilience of the human spirit. We can never forget how our personal story’s can leave imprints on our character and identity. BELIEVE IN YOUR STRENGTH 💕

I've been on a journey of self-discovery, a reminder that life is made up of small moments. In my short time here, I have experienced things that have helped me find new strength In weak moments. (I look forward sharing with you soon) love and strength to all of you❤️

Join hands with us in this journey. Your presence, your story, and your compassion are the threads that weave our tapestry of unity. You're never alone; we walk this path together. 🌈💪

Join me in honoring my beloved son's memory on his upcoming birthday. On Monday Oct 2, we come together in a beautiful gesture of remembrance.

For those that live close please come out and light a floating candle on the water between 6:30-9:30 pm. For those that cannot make it, I invite you to light a candle in his memory, take a photo, and share it with me. Let the light of these candles symbolize the love and inspiration his memory brings into our lives. Together, we can keep his memory alive. Thank you for being a part of this special tribute. 💙

If you are attending please let me know via DM so we have enough candles 🙏🏻

"Navigating the complexities of a grieving soul reveals the beauty within. Let's embrace understanding and compassion together. 💙 "

Working on a new piece and I want your feedback to help me out…. Drop a comment below letting me know the one thing you wish others could understand about grief. ❤️

Thank you and much love to all of you!

Drop a name of someone that you lost, yet always love and remember ❤️

Positivity is a choice, not a gift. Those that inspire and choose to lift others up, have had to rise above the sad stories and the dark places. It takes work to have a mind set that feels right. It doesn’t come easy. Don’t feel like your mindset isn’t where it needs to be, just because you see a final product of positivity, doesn’t mean the struggle isn’t there. Your feelings are normal. Your thoughts are ok. Speak positive and change the mindset BEFORE you believe it. All good things follow ❤️

check out my newest reel, “embrace the inner fire” (previous post)

"To all those battling anxiety: You are not alone. Remember, courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. Keep going, keep breathing, and know that brighter days are ahead. 💛 "

“Anxiety hits. It wraps a tight grip around my heart and mind that feels dangerously suffocating . I am left trapped in a whirlwind of relentless worry and an uneasy feeling radiates through me. It doesn’t take long for my thoughts to spiral out of control, amplifying my fears and insecurities. The weight of my anxiety sits on my chest, and at times…. It becomes difficult to breathe.

In the midst of my own personal turmoil, I remember to trust. I am stronger than my anxiety and I know healing is possible. I feel my inner strength surface and I become determined to rewrite my story. I am creating inner peace and learning to live a life that isn’t defined by fear. instead, i am fueled by courage and resilience”

Time goes by. It changes our perspectives and it changes our goals. Time finds a way to change us. It can become our best friend or our worst enemy. It can be our teacher. It is one of those things that we race against, yet at others times try and eliminate.

Through time we learn that love for those now gone, is timeless. Our love for them yesterday, today, and tomorrow… is forever unchanged. There is no beginning to that love, there is no end. Time tries to take them away from us, but never wins. Time passes by, but it never changes the love in our hearts and the depth to how much we miss them. ❤️

Have A Day

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For those of you that have been following my account…you already know my son Michael is the inspiration behind all the writing/audio reels that I create and share. Later today, I will be sharing a piece of Michael, in a different way. His voice❤️. Stay tuned for a short audio clip that is beyond special to me… these words hit home because the reality and truth behind these words are everything. For those of you that have lost someone, you know how true this is…today is about honoring those who have left their mark and truly made a difference. I look forward to introducing and sharing, a small glimpse of the beautiful soul that inspires me everyday. As his 3.5 year anniversary draws near, I wanted to share and be a little more personal with you.

Believe ❤️🤍

“This quote really resonates with me. It's such a powerful reminder that healing is not about forgetting our past, but rather about embracing the growth and transformation we've experienced.

How have you found strength in healing and embracing your own growth?"

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With each new grief milestone I hit, I can’t help but reflect on the milestones and accomplishments my son is not reaching.

It truly believe it is not unusual to feel the ache of missing out on the milestones of someone who has passed. Your mind can easily get caught up on the should have been, could have been, and the would have been. It can weigh heavily on your heart thinking about the moments we have missed out on while they were gone ❤️.

Grief can feel overwhelming, tearing at our hearts and leaving us to feel shattered. But within this storm, there's a raw beauty that emerges from the depths of our pain. It's in these moments of vulnerability that we learn to grow, to evolve, and to find strength we never knew existed.

I have opened up to give us a place to navigate grief, while we support one another through the darkest of times. Together, we WILL weather the storm, finding solace and resilience in the healing power of shared compassion and understanding. 💔🌪️✨

“Embrace the Storm” new audio coming tomorrow- stay tuned.

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Quote from my reel “ I met someone like you” ❤️
Sometimes, we cross paths with people that trigger a special familiarity, a beautiful reminder, of that special someone we are missing …

I often need to remind myself that my emotions, both positive and negative, are a part of my human experience. The more I recognize and accept this, the healthier my relationship with my emotions are. I have learned to embrace them as valuable source of information and growth. By allowing myself to feel and acknowledge these emotions , it had helped me develop resilience, self-awareness, and a greater understanding of myself. ❤️

Disclaimer: My advice comes from my own experience, forged through personal triumphs and challenges. Every piece of advice I offer comes from my own journey, shared in my perspective. I share my experiences not to impose my beliefs, but to offer a guiding light, a source of inspiration, and a sense of solidarity.