Alexis O’Brien

Happy National Coming Out Day to ALL MY LGBTQ+ 🏳️‍🌈 friends who are out and those who are not yet out!
Coming out was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done in my life! I was outed at a young age and struggled with finding a way to accept myself due to being told my whole life that if I was gay, Jesus didn’t love me, there was something wrong with me and feeling I was unworthy of love. I battled with myself, went through countless hours of counseling during which I was told I needed to “turn away from my sin”! I lost many relationships some of which have been repaired and some of which have not! All I can say is, the only greater love than the one I have with .m_s is the love Jesus has for both of us! I am so grateful that I was brave enough to love fearlessly (ps I got that phrase tattooed on my foot for my 21st birthday)! I am so glad I got the chance to love Sydney and that I get to spend the rest of my life with her! I hope as we continue to grow older that our world becomes more loving, more accepting, more open to this beautiful love! I am gay, I am OUT and I am PROUD! Happy National Coming Out Day! 🌈 ***an

So much fun surprising my mommy today! She’s my favorite person and I’m so happy we got to shower her with love and celebration ❤️

What a year 26 has been. WOW! All I can really say is I’m grateful! This year has stretched me and I know it is continuing to stretch us all, but being uncomfortable creates growth. The growth I have seen in myself this year is like nothing before. I feel I have truly been able to BLOOM 🌸 like never before.
26 has given me the gift of myself, learning about myself, healing from my past trauma, taking care of myself and having the opportunity to truly think about who I am and who I want to be, as well as the gift of marrying the love of my life .am_syd and being able to be my full and present self with HER! I feel so strong, so sure, and so at peace and for that I am so grateful and blessed! Here’s to another year around the sun! 🌞 Thank you to everyone who posted, texted, called and hung out with me today! I wouldn’t be me without you and you have all given me the strength to push myself to heal!💕
I also want to say if you’ve been waiting to take care of that health issue, see that doctor, apply for that job, go see that therapist, THIS IS YOUR SIGN NOW JUST DO IT! Thank me later ❤️ @ Pacific Beach- Ocean Front

The Joshua Tree symbolizes the strength and beauty that can arise from dysfunction. The Joshua Tree which grows in adverse conditions, is known as a symbol of faith and hope in the midst of aridity. The tree’s unique shape reminded Morman settlers crossing the Mojave Desert of the biblical story when Joshua reached his hands up to the sky in prayer.
I don’t know how else to communicate this other than to say that our elopement day was magical. It was out of this world and it was our redemption from all the challenging times we have had throughout our relationship. I feel healed! This is my reminder of the magic 💫 of that day and that Sydney and I have together!

GUYS.......I’m so proud!!!! 💕

She’s my bestie, she was the first person to join me on this journey and she is almost finished a 💯 DAY WORKOUT PROGRAM! And she did FOUR 1 LEGGED BURPEES TODAY! So proud of her and happy to have her as my best friend and on my team ❤️🙌🏽

The next 30 days, 50 days, 80 days or 💯 days are going to pass you by, whether you are in quarantine or not, you can be working on YOU! Why not start today? Message me or complete the application in the comments if you are ready to get started! 💕💕

I can’t go to sleep without posting this! I had the best weekend! My best friend was the most beautiful bride at her quarantine/social distanced elopement wedding! I love her, I love her husband, I love my Godbabies and I loved everything about their day! Love is all around! 💕Find friends that become family! The End and Goodnight 💤😘😴

Today I feel accomplished!
I feel like I am finally starting to get a grip on my morning routine and stick to the plan I put in place! For a few weeks, I was struggling. 😭 This pandemic hasn’t made it easy for me to be disciplined to get up in the morning and I was rolling out of bed and sitting in front of the computer for another day of WFH 🙋🏽‍♀️ Basically I was miserable. I wasn’t working out I didn’t eat all day then binged food while binge watching tv every night, but this all changed 2 weeks ago because I went back to basics.
My 🔑To A Good Morning
1. Accountability
2. Routine
3. Consistency
I went back to what I know works every time. I created a plan with my coach for accountability (she texts me every morning to get up and workout, then we do it together on Zoom) WHO DOESN’T NEED THAT? I know I do! 💕 I started focusing on gratitude each morning and fueling my body and now I am slowly but surely beginning to feel like me again!
What has been your biggest struggle throughout this pandemic and how have you worked to overcome it? Drop a 🙋🏽‍♀️in the comments if you need help answering this question and getting back to you! 💕

For My Best Friend On Her Wedding Day💕

I don’t think I know where to begin. First, let me say I love you. You are resilient, strong willed, patient and so very giving. You know what hard looks like and you have stuck through the hard in so many areas of your life and each time you come out better and stronger. This relationship with Lavar, your almost husband, has been such a journey and it is a journey I am so privileged to have been a part of. Please continue to forgive quickly and to love with all you have. The two of you are an amazing couple and even better parents. I am in awe of both of you and your relationship with one another! I am so blessed by your friendship and your ability to support me in my relationship even when I felt no one else did. You are forever our OG Bestie and our ride or die! I promise that I will continue to be a support to you and Var throughout your journey of marriage and parenthood and to stand by you as you have for Sydney and I! I love you with all my heart ❤️ Happy Wedding Day!

Tomorrow is 𝕄𝕒𝕪 1st and I want to talk about my goals, but I have this issue that when I don’t meet them in the timeframe I have set for myself, I feel like I’m a 𝔽𝔸𝕀𝕃𝕌ℝ𝔼.
𝔽𝔸𝕀𝕃𝕌ℝ𝔼 does not mean you failed it means you are 𝕋ℝ𝕐𝕀ℕ𝔾. 𝕋ℝ𝕐𝕀ℕ𝔾 means you are 𝕃𝔼𝔸ℝℕ𝕀ℕ𝔾. 𝕃𝔼𝔸ℝℕ𝕀ℕ𝔾 means you are 𝕊𝕌ℂℂ𝔼𝔼𝔻𝕀ℕ𝔾 and 𝔾ℝ𝕆𝕎𝕀ℕ𝔾.
I am going to continue to look at this year as my year of 𝔾ℝ𝕆𝕎𝕋ℍ and fail forward learning to trust myself as I work towards my 𝔻ℝ𝔼𝔸𝕄𝕊 and 𝔾𝕆𝔸𝕃𝕊 💕
📸 .marie.collectives

Today I feel proud.

I finished week 1 of my 10 week fitness program and stuck to my nutrition plan this week including a Friday treat of pizza 🍕 I feel like I needed this more than ever RIGHT NOW in this moment.
Everything is so uncertain and unknown and in order to find some peace I have taken control of what I am able to control. My mood is better, my outlook is different, and the bad days are a little more bearable. I hope you are finding some peace in this challenging time and if you need some support please feel free to reach out to me! 💕

Let me your feed with footage from my trip that I took to AZ 1 week before quarantine! I’m telling you that filling your cup with people who make you better is soooo beyond important and I am so glad we made it on this trip before all of this. 💕

Quarantine is making me miss traveling (and my bestie who is all the way in Cali) 😭😭

Where is the first place you want to visit when COVID-19 ends?? ✈️

Today has been a bit of a struggle. I feel like the first day of getting back on track is good and then day 2 always seems to be the hardest for me. I’m excited for my wins from the previous day but always start overthinking and obsessing about reaching outrageous goals. I am currently trying to take things one meal and one moment at a time and to FOCUS ON MY WINS. Here are my wins from today and I hope you can share some or yours in the comments! 💕💕

-Hit my water 💦 goal by 4pm 🙌🏽
- Cooked dinner instead of ordering and eating an entire pizza 🍕
-Got my workout done bright and early for the ✌🏽 day in a row
-Weight loss day 🌈

What was your win for today? The little things matter and they add up! 💕

Hey guys 👋🏽

It’s me again....you know the one who likes to self-sabotage and disappear for months at a time when I give up on believing in myself. Oops did I actually just type that! 🙊

I talked to my coach today. I was avoiding her again for weeks because well, sometimes when I get in a hole I don’t believe I deserve to get out. But here I am reaching out my hand 🤚🏽 so she my coach can help me pull myself up again.

I’m worth it. I’m going to give it my best shot. I’m ready. See you all tomorrow morning! 💕

GUYS!

My forever work bestie is getting married! I love you so much Dana and I am beyond happy for you and all that is to come for you and Paul ❤️❤️❤️ such a fun Galentine’s Bridal Shower today with all the love! 🥰😍

L 🌸 V E WHO YOU ARE

Why is it so challenging to work on yourself while loving who you are in the moment?

This has been a struggle for me my WHOLE LIFE. Maybe it is the media’s standard of beauty or my doctor telling me I need to lose weight to be “healthy” but I have always struggled to be striving for progress while continuing to love myself and treat myself with dignity and grace when I have not yet reached my ultimate goals.

Listen, you have to love yourself where you are at or you are never going to make progress. I am not saying you will feel this everyday but I am saying that the more you practice loving yourself i.e. not treating your body like crap, moving your body, stretching, doing personal development, practicing gratitude, the more you are going to start to love yourself a little more everyday.

I am most definitely a work in progress, but I am trying EVERYDAY to love myself a little better than the day before because I deserve it and so do you. What are you waiting for? Let’s do this together! 💕💖

Sometimes life is hard. This past week was so challenging for me mentally, physically and emotionally. Usually when things get hard I quit.

I quit pretty much everything I felt like I was failing in for my entire life, until I found coaching and my team. My coach has taught me that “failing” or not reaching my goal in the timeframe I set does not mean I should quit the progress comes when you push through and lean in during those times. I am still a recovering perfectionist and people pleaser trying to find my way.

So here I am pushing past everything inside me that is telling me to quit by writing this post.

I took this weekend to take care of me. I filled my own cup with puppy cuddles, cozy socks 🧦 from my fiancé, getting my hair done, time with my best friend and fiancé and treating myself to some new workout clothes. I will get through this and I will push forward. You can do this too! There is room for you here and I would love to support you along the way 💕💕

📸 .marie.collectives

You are worth it.

You are brave.

You’ve got this.

You already have everything you need to reach your goals.

You will not treat you body like crap today.

You can do it.
What’s your affirmation for today? Share it in the comments 💖
📸 .marie.collectives

If I could go back, I would choose you everytime 💖 I always knew we’d end up here, even with so many odds stacked against us. Sydney, I know that choosing you was the best decision and greatest honor of my life and I am so thankful to have you as my partner in life. I love you forever! Happy 10 Year Anniversary 🥰🥰 @ Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

Today I Am Grateful! ❤️

Grateful for my puppy. 🐶
Grateful for my body and all it does for me. 💪🏽
Grateful for my family.
Grateful for healing so I can work out again.
I am also grateful for all thing 🐆 print 🖤

Post one thing you are grateful for on this Monday morning in the comments! 💖

Do you struggle with the Sunday blues? 😔 Wish their was an extra day to the weekend 🙌🏽 or often wish that you had a job with more purpose?

This is what coaching has done for me. I love my job and love helping people all day as a social worker, but I also love that coaching gives me the opportunity to help others on my time, in my way and plan to eventually make this my full time income in order to be able to sustain my mental sanity while helping others and continuing to pursue my social work career part time. Life is draining and hard why not take care of yourself, help others, and bring in some extra cash along the way!

If you are ready for more or would love some extra cash to buy what you want when you want drop a 🙌🏽 below or message me! You will only regret not staring sooner! ❤️

I feel like I keep talking about this, BUT when something changes your life and who you are for the better you just can’t help but shout it for everyone to here.

Coaching gave me this! A tribe, a group to workout in where I feel encouraged and not judged, the most fit I have ever been, a coach who supports me endlessly, a team of women who hold one another accountable and me accountable on my hard days. Coaching gives me freedom, it has given me the training and confidence I need to set puke 🤮 worthy goals and push towards them.

Coaching will give me time freedom, it will pay off my wedding, it will give me financial freedom, it will give me more time with my fiancé, it will give me the ability to have more puppies and a baby one day, it will give me the ability to work part time at my job as a social worker so I don’t get burnt out and it will give me fully paid vacations all for doing something I love and helping women find the precious gift of self love ❤️

I almost just threw up writing those last few sentences 😂 but everyday I write down these goals along with my daily affirmations and I truly believe they will come true! If you want to come on this ride with me and push one another to make the impossible come true drop a 🤮 below!

PS- going to go vomit now since I just posted all this on social media!

What will it take for you to take time for yourself?

What has to go wrong in order for you to make the decision to change your life for the better?

Why are you waiting? Using your family, your job, your lack of motivation or money as an excuse.

The choice is to be proactive now and take care of you NOW or pay later for not doing just that. Don’t you want to feel better? Combat your depression, your anxiety, that voice in your head that says you can’t. ❤️

YOU CAN. YOU ARE WORTH IT. STOP WAITING. I’m ready to walk beside you on this journey. If this sounds like you and you are ready to stop making excuses drop a ✅ in the comments! Let’s do this!

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What are you doing for you this weekend? I plan to spend time relaxing cleaning up to make my space and mind less cluttered and to have fun with friends and family!!!

As well as staying consistent with my workouts and healthy eating habits to take care of me from the inside out ❤️ if you are struggling with this, reach out, ask for help, I’m here! Comment with a ❤️ below if you need support in finding things to care for YOU!