Precious McKoy, Author & Motivational Speaker

It’s important for us, as parents, to help our children navigate a world bigger than themselves.

Validation - How to Bring Calm, Connection, and Influence to Big Feelings - Hey Sigmund When our kids or teens mess up – which they will, because they’re humans, not robots – the way we respond can open them up to our influence or shut them down to it. It can expand the fight and the disconnection, or it can shrink it. In time they will learn to be more... Read more »

Stop calling children resilient when they should never need to overcome trauma in the first place.

🫶🏽

How to prevent ? We got you covered! ⬇️

✅ Educate yourself & raise awareness
✅ Implement online safety measures
✅ Enable privacy settings & parental controls
✅ Teach children safe online behavior
✅ Report CSAM to National Center for Missing & Exploited Children CyberTipline

Learn more here 👉 https://bit.ly/3E7xdCY

Love this 🥰

Victoria Scott-Miller and her incredible family are rewriting the narrative, one book at a time! 📚🌟 Liberation Station Bookstore is breaking barriers by offering diverse stories that empower young minds. Let's celebrate their dedication to representation and the joy of reading. 📖🙌

Becky Kennedy: The single most important parenting strategy Everyone loses their temper from time to time — but the stakes are dizzyingly high when the focus of your fury is your own child. Clinical psychologist and renowned parenting whisperer Becky Kennedy is here to help. Not only does she have practical advice to help parents manage the guilt and shame...

I can hardly believe it! I've poured my heart into writing "Precious Rising: Embracing All That I Am," and something incredible has happened.

I've taken several steps to become comfortable with sharing my bold move of publishing my story. When I set out to write this book, I knew that sharing it with the world was essential to doing my heart's work.

Passions are meant to be shared in meaningful ways to uplift and support others along their journeys.

Recently, while sitting next to a complete stranger, the typical "what do you do" conversation arose. Instead of diving into my usual professional discourse, I happily exclaimed, "Oh, and there's something else—I'm an author."

In that moment, something remarkable occurred. The woman, Sarah, asked me to tell her about my book and if I had any copies. I proudly confirmed that I did in my car. We walked together to retrieve a copy, and I signed it for her. Sarah turned the book over, read the back, and smiled at me, saying, "We have more in common than you think."

It was then that I realized the importance of remembering my "why" and continuing to share the message that we are greater than our circumstances. What happened to us doesn't define us; it's what we choose to do about it that truly matters.

I'm incredibly grateful to find inspiration in my own story and to connect with kindred spirits like Sarah along the way. 📖💫

Available now from Bookshop, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Google, Apple, or wherever you buy your books. 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽

https://www.preciousmckoy.com/order-now

‘That’s triggering!’ Is therapy-speak changing the way we talk about ourselves? Terms like ‘triggered’, ‘toxic’ and ‘narcissist’ are now bandied about in daily conversations. Is this mere psychobabble or are they useful tools in a complicated world?

"When I decided to speak, I had a lot to say." Be encouraged to never give up on yourself. Watch and learn more about Dr. Angelou's life and impact from the Maya Angelou Film. -The estate of Dr. Maya Angelou https://loom.ly/px37sjg

The joy of the Lord is my strength.

🎉🎉🎉 Exciting news! I'm thrilled to announce the release of my very first audiobook, and guess what? I had the incredible opportunity to be the narrator too! Now, you can dive into the world of intentional parenting whenever and wherever you please.

If you're a multitasker who loves listening to books while driving, working out, cooking, or simply relaxing, this audiobook is tailor-made for you. It's all about convenience and making your parenting journey even more enjoyable.

Click the link below to access the complete guide to intentional parenting in audiobook format:

🔗 https://www.preciousmckoy.com/order-now

Get ready to:

💡 Grow: Let's dive deep into the art of acknowledging and processing painful childhood experiences. As you grow alongside your children, you'll discover the power of personal growth and emerge as a stronger individual.

⭐ Rise: It's time to break free from the limitations that hold you back and create an environment where your children can truly thrive. With each turn of the page, you'll learn the importance of rising above circumstances and inspiring your children to do the same.

🔊 Amplify: You have an incredible superpower as a parent – the ability to amplify your children's voices and strengths. As we explore "Precious Rising" together, you'll tap into your own inner strength and model resilience for your children.

Are you excited? I know I am! It's time to take action and embark on this incredible journey of growth, rising above limitations, and amplifying your family's potential. We're in this together, and I can't wait to share intentional parenting tips that will help you activate what you learn and create lasting positive change in your family. Get ready to discover intentional parenting practices that will help you bring out the best in your kids and create a nurturing, empowering environment.

Access the audiobook here: https://www.preciousmckoy.com/order-now

The book is also available in paperback, hardcover, and eBook format. You can get all versions here: https://www.preciousmckoy.com/order-now

Get ready to be inspired, informed, and equipped with the complete guide to intentional parenting.

Happy listening!

Sunday morning reflections: I am happy. Yesterday had to be the most full circle day I have experienced in life yet. First, I spoke with someone from my childhood that I reached out to while writing my book to help me think of ways to assist families who were dealing with traumatic events happening — she’s a licensed therapist — only for her to tell me, “Precious, you helped me.” We talked for hours about what writing my book would do for so many others. Then, I delivered 10 signed copies of my book to someone I have been working with for many years in the nonprofit sector. She has supported me throughout my journey beyond what she probably even knows. As we embraced before leaving she said, “I am so proud of you.” This act of supporting me will multiply in so many ways. Then, a friend reached out just for us to talk a little bit about how he is preparing to read my book. And to solidify it all God had me surrounded by my family as my aunt reached out to me with the biggest smile to ask, “How are your book sells going?” I smiled back and whispered to her that it was going great. I hardly ever want to cause a scene. I oftentimes quietly move in intentionality, but when God surrounds my obedience with His power that’s when I know that He is ALWAYS there with me even in the extremely difficult things. Today, I will begin to work on another project with my book. I could not go into this work without those moments. I am beyond grateful in this season. I am also prayerful that God will help us do important work to protect children from how hard life can be at times.

Feel free to grab your very own copy at https://www.amazon.com/Precious-Rising-Embracing-All-That-ebook/dp/B0B126DF3H

Together, let’s heal and begin the work to break generational cycles of trauma.

Precious Rising: Embracing All That I Am Precious Rising: Embracing All That I Am

✨✨✨ She believes ✨✨✨
✨✨✨ it in her heart ✨✨✨
✨✨✨ so she says it ✨✨✨
✨✨✨ with her chest ✨✨✨
✨✨✨ I AM HEALING✨✨✨

Living powerfully// God knows what you need whenever you need it. I stumbled across The Sonrise Project on YouTube today.
I’ve often empathized with parents that struggle with unimaginable things that happen in their families.
Sylvia High shares the concept of authoring our lives in a way that allows us to maintain our mental health and wellness in ways that will help us even when others might judge us (our families).
We have to learn to live an empowered life despite whatever is going on. I encourage you to take the time to tune in.

Letting Go of Expectations for Your Child | The SonRise Project | OWN The SonRise Project creator, Kelli Richardson Lawson introduces master coach, author and founder of Aiming High Inc., Sylvia High. Sylvia says we all have a ...

About boundaries 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽

Healthy boundaries are about are you, not other people. You can choose how you want to show up, but you cannot make (force or demand) that others be anything other than who they want to be. Essentially with boundaries, you are making requests of others that they have the choice to honor or not. On the bright side, healthy people tend to honor reasonable requests.

Controlling others, particularly when their behaviors have nothing to do with you, is not healthy. Just as you have expectations, other people can have expectations for themselves. Just as you are entitled to live your life, other people are entitled to live theirs.

Sometimes, what you want collides with what the other person wants. In these cases, you have choices: which need is healthy, can you compromise and if you can't resolve it on your own, see a therapist.

A healthy boundary sounds like:
I'm not drinking because I'm not feeling well.

Control sounds like this:
"Since I can't drink, you shouldn't drink either."

Boundaries are not ways to control other people.

I’ve been moderately quiet since my book launch and here’s why. I happened to already know that my work was not complete. So, I took the time to enjoy those around me.

While waiting for the next steps, I climbed Hanging Rock mountain with my cousins, took a family vacation to Charleston, SC while enjoying Holly beach, celebrated my friend’s housewarming and another friend’s 40th birthday, went to our family reunion and reunited with my youth group at a baseball game through my nonprofit efforts. I’d say that time was well spent.

Now, it’s time for me to get back in action on my writing journey. An author’s work is never truly finished. I would even summise that publishing a book is only the beginning to an even larger effort.

I want Precious Rising ( ) to help raise awareness about childhood sexual abuse prevention. Many times families become victim to being silenced, which is even more debilitating than the fact that a child’s body has been violated. Young people simply do not have the maturity or words to describe how trapped inside they might feel when unimaginable things happen to them. I am here to be a voice for the voiceless. I am honoring my nine year old self every time that I speak on this topic.

In the next six weeks, I’ll be working to release the hard cover version of my book. So, if you haven’t already purchased your copy or you happen to prefer it, you are in luck.

To be the first to know when hard covers are available, join my e-mail list through my website at www.preciousmckoy.com.

In the meantime, !

Truly yours,
Precious

7 Ways to Deal With High-Conflict People 6. Distance and doses.

Ready to make your book writing dream come true? Join the Book Creators program!

These authors did and published their book in just a few short months ✨

Our community powered program ensures that authors do not feel alone on their book writing journey and are supported throughout.

Next Cohort begins October 2022! Apply Now! ✨📚

What if the only thing holding you back from where you want to be in life is refusing to go through trauma recovery?
Before writing my book, Precious Rising, I spoke to my mentor about what I wanted more than anything.
My very words were, “This time I am going to go all the way through it.”
At the time, those words may have seemed almost like I wanted to relive the very things I wished to have never experienced all over again.
Something was different about me.
We talked about perhaps needing to seek counseling and therapy and I said, “No, that’s not it.” I had already learned the tools that I needed by taking that route once before. Truthfully speaking, I did not exercise the things that I already knew.
Doing the work IS DIFFICULT. I kept reminding myself around the house that I CAN DO HARD THINGS. I even posted those words as a reminder around the house. I had to believe it.
I am still recovering, but I will tell you this. I am not afraid.


Grab a signed copy of my book here 👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽www.preciousmckoy.com

Hello, everyone! I'm so excited about my friend, Dr. Tommy Watson, and the release of his new podcast, Resilient Stories! Please do me a favor and "subscribe, download, and rate" his new podcast featuring individuals with stories that will truly inspire and motivate you. For every 5 star rating, he will be giving to 2 nonprofits that provide meals and mentoring to our youth. Thanks in advance for your support! Here's the link to listen and subscribe to the podcast https://tawatson.com/podcast/resilient-stories-with-precious-mckoy/

✨✨✨You're Invited! ✨✨✨Join me to celebrate the launch of my book, Precious Rising: Embracing All That I Am. It will be amazing joining those who are inspired, motivated and uplifted by sharing my story. In honesty, we all need to be surrounded by love and support. What I hope more than anything is that we are able to take the time to come together as the imperfectly perfect people that we are while raising our glasses to how we break barriers and overcome obstacles daily. Life is always worth celebrating. 🎉🥳🥂

For more details and to RSVP, visit my website at www.preciousmckoy.com/events. It's going to be an incredible night! You don't want to miss it.

Precious Rising explores intentional parenting in the midst of healing from childhood trauma. One of the most difficult practices I’ve had to learn was how to leave behind those things that I wished not to repeat in my family instead of carrying the burden of fear of generational cycles.

Grab your copy for $0.99 during the first 30 days of my book release. This will be your only chance to read my book at this rate. After June 10, 2022, my book will be available at regular price. 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽

Link in bio: https://www.amazon.com/Precious-Rising-Embracing-All-That-ebook/dp/B0B126DF3H

***BOOK REVIEW*** Author Christie M Person has me feeling accomplished. Her book, Stronger Than You Know, is a powerful story of strength and courage and I am moved by such kind words she shared about my book! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Writing a memoir can be such a terrifying thing. I sat with myself long enough to understand some of the most difficult aspects of my own life. It was liberating to let what resonated with me live inside a book. I could not feel more honored to join published authors like her during my writing journey.

Grab your copy of my for $0.99 on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Precious-Rising.../dp/B0B126DF3H

The level of support I am receiving right now is phenomenal. It’s unbelievable that Precious Rising is now a #1 Best Sellers in the Teen & Young Adult Body, Mind & Spirit ebooks.

It’s truly an honor to see that within a week of sharing my story, we 🌅. Thank you so much! Please don’t stop sharing.

Grab your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Precious-Rising-Embracing-All-That-ebook/dp/B0B126DF3H

Let’s see how long we can stay on top of the charts. Please leave a review on Amazon to help me reach my goal of 50 reviews in the first 30 days.

📣📣Precious Rising is ranked #2 for new releases right now under the Teen & Young Adult Biography category.

Grab your copy for $0.99 here: https://www.amazon.com/Precious-Rising-Embracing-All-That-ebook/dp/B0B126DF3H

Let’s !

***BOOK REVIEW***When I wrote Precious Rising, I anticipated that I would have the chance to share more about the person behind the work that I do for young people and families on a daily basis. I figured that many people had not had the opportunity to know enough about my lived experiences and it became time to release more of myself. Somehow I had put those things that don't define me so far away from my memory bank that I actually lost touch with this nine-year-old girl who found the strength to persevere. I knew I had to share her with the world when I faced an opportunity to embrace everything about what has created the strong, ambitious woman that I am today. This book review from author Samuel Bellamy, Jr. gets at the heart of what reading this book is all about.

Grab your copy of my for $0.99 on Amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/Precious-Rising-Embracing-All-That-ebook/dp/B0B126DF3H

Precious Rising is and available! Here’s the rundown for those wondering when you can get a signed copy.

If you pre-ordered, your paperback book IS at the printer now and I should have them personally signed and sent out to you by the first week in June!

Ebooks are available right now! While you are waiting for the book to release in print, I could really use a lot of help to RISE TO THE TOP of the charts. To do that, I will need to get 50 reviews during the first 30 days of publishing. I think it’s achievable with so many people who have already supported me during the presale campaign. I’m already within the top 100 rankings and that’s a good sign that we can do it together.

Are you in? If so, I’m going to enter you into a drawing where I’ll be giving away a $150 worth Precious Rising swag bag when you do ALL THREE of the following:

1) Buy your copy of my for $0.99 on Amazon here: https://lnkd.in/ga5K2X7c

2) Once you have read the book, please leave a review. I would enjoy learning about what you loved about the book. I’d like to know what you would say if you recommended it to a friend?

3) Now, what good would it be for you to keep all the goodness for yourself? Go ahead and hit the button if you’re ALL IN. Let’s keep the support chain going and .

Writing this book is more about building than anything and we are well on our way to building the kind of system that so many need.

***BOOK REVIEW*** I'm incredibly moved by the book review Dr. Tommy Watson, Author of awarding-winning book A Face of Courage, provided after reading my book.

Precious Rising will inspire others to reverse generational cycles of trauma and abuse while preventing lifelong challenges that can break healthy bonds in their lives. I wrote it because despite the many hardships that I faced in my life, I was able to rise above my circumstances.

I'd love for you to buy a copy or share the good news with others. My publisher has allowed me to offer the ebook version of the book for just $0.99 to my friends and family for the first 30 days of the launch.

📚 Get your copy: www.amazon.com/dp/B0B126DF3H/

Ebook coming soon…

Be the first to know by signing up for updates at www.preciousmckoy.com.

__________________________________

Commentary: The pandemic is threatening our children’s ability to cope Leaders must mobilize to address the pandemic-induced youth mental health crisis as a new generation heads to college, and eventually, the workplace.

The National Institute of Mental Health (USA) defines childhood trauma as:

“The experience of an event by a child that is emotionally painful or distressful, which often results in lasting mental and physical effects.”

Childhood trauma can occur when a child witnesses or experiences overwhelming negative events in childhood. Many childhood experiences can overwhelm a child. These can occur in relationships such as with abuse, assault, neglect, violence, exploitation or bullying. This is known as interpersonal trauma – trauma that happens between people.

However, it doesn’t necessarily have to be an extreme situation like mentioned above to cause overwhelming experience for a child. When a parent/caregiver cannot meet the child’s emotional or physical needs it has the same adverse impact on child’s developing brain.

Childhood trauma can also be:

Having an Angry parent.

Having a parent who doesn’t validate your emotions.

Having to pretend to be something you aren’t in order to please others.

Taking care of a parent.

Not properly cared by a parent/caregiver.

Having to parent/raise your sibling(s).

Only received love when you performed well.

Not feeling safe or comfortable at home.

Having a parent who can’t emotionally regulate themselves.

Take care of yourself, because you Matter 🤍

Love,

Urfa