The Inner Yats

Only you can decide if this resonates with you and it's true.

But the nervous system can't lie. What it's used to, it will continuously repeat.

And if it's used to chasing or proving for love, it will always abandon receiving love. Thereby abandoning your hope at a beautiful relationship or love too.

But you deserve to have those beautiful relationships. HOW can you have them? By healing the nervous system, the old wounded beliefs , the painful stories and behavioural mechanisms ingrained in your subconscious mind.

If you're ready to stop this pattern once and for all.. then I invite you to one of the most powerful healing programs that exists- The Gauntlet innerwork program. An 8 week healing and self love journey that isn't for just anyone, but it is for those willing to absolutely change their lives and patterns.. and learn to love themselves.

And to create a life they love.

Right now we only have 9spots available on the next Gauntlet batch. To watch life changing testimonials yourself and to book a call to see if this is for you, click The Gauntlet link in bio

Or send me a DM with the word 'Gauntlet' and ill get back to you.

With love

❤️Yats

I know that feeling of someone you love slowly pulling away..

It really really hurts. And more than anything, it can push you to try and love them harder.. thinking that that will bring them back..

But instead it just pushes them further away.

So after this happened ENOUGH, I sat with myself in the pain and tried to figure out why this was continuously happening to me.

1)The important thing was to recognise it wasn't ALL about me. I was constantly in relationships with people who were hurt and wounded by love (even in their childhood), so they truly DIDN'T THINK THEY WERE LOVEABLE.. so they coped with that by running away from emotions, connection, discussion, conflict..

2)I was attracting these relationships continuously. Yes it wasn't all about me, but why was this a pattern?? And I realised it's because deep deep down I DIDN'T THINK I WAS LOVEABLE EITHER. So when I had people who might pull away, I tried to love them harder. Because I was so afraid of what would happen if they left. I would be abandoned again. Alone again. Be reminded I wasn't loveable.. again.

Either way If you want to break this from happening, you have to learn to the deep healing of your old wounds so that you can learn to remove all those blocks in your heart, your nervous system, your subconscious mind.. that preventing you from loving yourself.

And when you do, you will understand your true value.. and will only attract relationships ready to reflect that back to you.

If you're ready to do the healing work to have that, I lovingly invite you to join my 8week healing program, THE GAUNTLET.

But this isn't an ordinary online program. No. This is a powerful rehabilitation journey for your mind, heart and inner child which is proven to have helped hundreds around the world fall back in love with themselves.

If you want that too, don't waste time apply asap with The Gauntlet link
www.thegauntletexperience.com

We only have 10 spots remaining now in our next batch.

Oh. And if you want to see for yourself how powerful it is, watch the real tears & testimonials and book a 'breakthrough session' to talk to us,Gauntlet link in bio

www.thegauntletexperience.com

See you in there,

❤️Yats and team

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For me sometimes it's pausing and breathing in high stress moments.

You??

While we MUST heal the past wounds that created the anxious attachment style, we can also help to heal it through our daily habits and supportive strategies.

We must also first understand the beliefs and resulting tendencies of the anxious attacher.

The anxious attacher is dependent on a relationship for their sense of self worth. This also expands into being dependent on a partner for their own sense of safety and security and nervous system regulation.

When an anxious attacher only feels safe in the presence of their partner, they are not actually creating true safety for themselves. They are using the other person to assuage a deeper sense of insecurity.

The healing journey of the anxious attacher is to go within to define their sense of worth. To create their own feeling of value, internal security, and safety.. so that they can fully receive it with others and they are not fully dependent on others for it 💪

Here are 5 ways to heal your anxious attachment style in the PRESENT.

‼️ this list is NOT exhaustive ‼️

1️⃣ Regulate your nervous system

2️⃣ Go inward to manage your triggers before you react to them. Remember: we react from a place of wounding. We respond from a place of authentic truth and empowempowerment.

3️⃣ Expand your support system. Here's some tough love: you can't depend on your romantic partner to meet ALL of your needs

4️⃣ Commit to your personal interests and hobbies. This us for the people who lose themselves in relationships and self-abandon. It is so healthy *and attractive* to have interests and hobbies of your own

5️⃣ Learn to feel safe when there is space in the relationship. Trust your partner's love and loyalty isn't going anywhere. Space allows you to appreciate your relationship more 🙏

As I mentioned, this list is NOT exhaustive and the most lasting, powerful healing happens when we HEAL the wound that caused the wounded attachment style.

For more in depth healing, join my 8 week innerwork healing program THE GAUNTLET.

DM me the word GAUNTLET for more information on how to heal your attachment style so you can have REAL love in your life

❤️Yats + Team

Majority of my clients are women and in working with them this is what I've observed 👇🏽

•all of them are absolutely beautiful (inside, outside)
•99.99% of them don't even know it.
•they have had tough times and relationships (which is why they come to me) but which also makes them super protective and OVER independent.
•most are still living in survival mode
•they sell themselves short in their relationships.
•they settle for less.

But here's also what I've observed:

•they are all such loving beings (even if they hide it)
•they have such an amazing spectrum of emotions
•they have the CAPACITY for beautiful relationships
•they need the commitment and love that they give others and rarely themselves
•that they want to RECEIVE love for a change
•that they want to be nurtured,cared for and protected (even if they don't admit it).

But I have ALSO seen over my years of work that there are many many women who actually get ALL THAT THEY WANT.. but it takes them doing WHAT THEY'VE NEVER DONE BEFORE...

doing the deep deep healing work, and learning to TRULY love themselves.

So if you want to do that level of deep healing, to learn to let love return to YOU, I invite you to join my GAUNTLET healing program. You can see real life stories for yourself and book a 'Breakthrough' call to talk to us,Gauntlet link in bio

For years of my life I had unfulfilling relationships.

I wanted so many things in love, but I settled for morsels. My needs weren't met. It was heartbreak, pattern repeat over and over.

And at one point the pain and self abandonment were so heavy that I decided to just really hunker down, and do the work. To focus on my own wounds. On where my patterns were coming from. To do the Re-Parenting. The healing. Committing to myself.. letting go of old stories, old wounds, and old expectations.

And when I learnt to truly love myself, my energy and my life.. that's when I met my Queen on an airplane.

And last month we got married❤️

The reason I'm writing this all is to tell you that the healing, the therapy, the self recognition, awareness, letting go.. it all works.

And I'm here, standing by your side.. to offer you always what I've practiced myself. To show you that beautiful love is indeed yours.

To not give up on your dreams, your love and the desire for a beautiful life.

I know.. that if I can have it with what I've been through, then you can too.

To my Queen Ayesha, thank you for always teaching me with the wisdom of your spirit. For adding to the love I've learnt to find in myself and the world around me. And for your devoted, pure heart❤️

Love you all always,
Mr & Mrs Palat❤️

You cannot heal the anxious or avoidant attachment style with the conscious mind.

What most people don't understand about the attachment styles are that...

THEY ARE A COPING MECHANISM

They are the survival mechanisms we employ to cope with the pain and stress of the core wound(s).

The core wounds are categorized as abandonment, rejection, and invalidation. As sensitive children we are completely dependent on our parents for survival.

We experience THE SLIGHTEST hint of abandonment, rejection, and invalidation as a huge threat to our survival because we equate connection with our parents to survival. Therefore, any threat to connection with our parents will be experienced as potentially catastrophic.

I say this to emphasize the depth of these wounds. Because we experience them so viscerally, we will do anything to avoid them. The #1 way we cope with the core wounds is through developing an insecure way to attach to others.

The anxious attacher clings to relationships to prevent people from leaving.

The avoidant experienced connection as dangerous and will thusly keep it at arm's length as a protective mechanism to not get hurt again.

The attachment styles are present day manifestations of a child wound. They live deep in our subconscious mind.

Therefore, it is not enough to work with healing attachment wounds at the surface and in present day relationships. We must go into the subconscious mind and revisit the inner child who experienced the pain of abandonment, rejection, or invalidation.

We must go back to the inner child and HEAL them at the origin of the core wound.

In healing the cause of the attachment style, we eliminate the need for it. When we heal the core wound, we do not fear connection any more. We find that the old "need" to cope using an avoidant or anxious attachment is gone.

When the wound is healed, there is no need for the coping mechanism.

If you're READY to heal that debilitating insecure attachment style, join me on the journey of a lifetime

We go DEEP into healing core wounds and the attachment wounds in my 8 week healing program THE GAUNTLET

DM me the word GAUNTLET for more information 🙏

❤️Yats + Team

How do we HEAL resentment??

Here's a 5 step process...but keep reading for the WHOLE PROCESS

1. Awareness: understanding WHO you resent and WHY. How did this person make you feel?

2. Capability: recognize this person was not capable of showing up for you the way you wanted (and deserved!)

This is the hardest step. We must get beyond the Ego that says “of course they are capable!” and realistically see this other person as being a flawed, limited human who was acting from a place of their own wounding.

3. Understand: this person acted in alignment with their own innerworld, wounds and pain.

Do not confuse this step with forgiveness! When we understand that a person is acting from their own wounds,
we stop internalising their treatment to mean something bad about ourselves. We are able to to release our attachment to this person, the resentment, and the wound.

4. Repetition: You decide if you are going to continue to be hurt by this person or not.

Resentment is our attachment to unmet expectations. Since this person wasn’t ever capable of meeting our expectations, you decide, do you:
•continue to have those expectations for that person and continue to get hurt?
•adjust your expectations for this person?
•cut this person out of your life because you deserve peace and respect?

5. Reparenting: Based on your expectations for this other person,
•what did you want from this person?
•how can you give that to yourself?

The process of reparenting and the healing of resentment are 2 main topics we guide people through in my transformative innerwork program The Gauntlet. But these are things that need GUIDANCE in real-time.

Truth be told, our process for releasing resentment goes FAR beyond these steps. We also guide Gauntlet participants through a deep, theta level meditation to release resentment FOREVER.

Now, do you really want to hold onto that resentment?

You're ready to let go. This is your sign. When the student is ready, the teacher arrives 🙏

Allow me to guide you to emotional freedom and to HEAL those deep, painful wounds of resentment

DM me the word GAUNTLET for more information 🙏

❤️Yats + Team

Many people do not know they need to heal.

But it is when we look at the quality of our relationships and, most importantly, how we FEEL in our relationships that we are able to see the areas in which we need healing.

If you have money and financial security but feel scarce, this is a sign of a wound.

If you have a romantic partner but feel unloved, this is a sign of a wound.

If you are in a toxic relationship and feel less-than, this is a sign of a wound.

If you have a job that continuously crosses your boundaries, this is a sign of a wound.

Someone who really loved themselves would not feel disempowered to make a change. They wouldn't feel like "this is all I deserve" and thus stay in the unfulfilling relationship.

Someone who really loves themselves would feel empowered to leave people and situations that do not align with them or fully support them.

The comparison is for awareness, not for shaming purposes. When we look at our relationships and see where we are not fully respected or loved, we see what needs to be healed.

If we have unfulfilling, toxic, or even abusive relationships, we can see where we have subconscious beliefs of being unworthy. Why else would we stay in relationships that are not good for us?

It is through healing our subconscious mind that we can heal what we know we deserve and create loving, fulfilling relationships for ourselves.

To heal the subconscious mind, we must access it through deep theta level meditations to change those beliefs. We also change the subconscious mind through daily commitment to ourselves of healthy, supportive habits.

If you're truly ready for healthy relationships, this is your sign. This is your call to join the healing movement and join my transformational 8 week healing and innerwork program THE GAUNTLET.

DM me the word GAUNTLET for more information 🙏

❤️Yats +Team

Yes, I know you may feel called out. BUT it's for your own good!

You are not alone. If you've fallen victim to falling for someone who isn't good for you, please know:

It's not your fault.

Being attracted to, feeling addicted to a person who is not good for you and who may even be abusive is the result of having a dysregulated nervous system and an insecure attachment style.

You see, the intoxicating feeling of attraction is often the result of our addiction to stress hormones.

In our childhood, if our connection to our parents / caregivers was jeopardized, we likely experienced that situation as a threat to our very survival.

What happens when our survival is threatened? Our stress hormones get turned on. Flight or fight is activated. Our body is flooded with cortisol and adrenaline.

If there is no resolve (i.e., a supportive loving parent who can love us and provide us the support and coregulation we need) and if this happens often, our bodies will become habituated to and even addicted to stress hormones.

The stress puts our nervous system in a state of dysregulation and the repeated experience results in the development of an insecure attachment style.

Not only does survival mode become our baseline, but from an evolutionary perspective, it serves us to stay in such a state for our survival. It is in such a state that we can be prepared for attack and can successfully survive it
(No matter how outdated that may be).

If we feel "safe" in survival mode, then we will constantly chase situations that induce enough stress to put us in such a state. This is especially true for relationships.

We will be attracted to and even addicted to relationships that trigger our attachment wound and put our nervous system in a state of dysregulation.

The next time you feel like THEY'RE THE ONE and you're mind can't shut off, your body can't calm down just thinking about them, ask yourself:

Am I addicted to them? Or, am I addicted to the stress?

Your next action is to come to me for guidance on HOW to heal 🙏 may THIS YEAR be the year you realllllly love yourself. May this year be the year you say YES to healthy love.

DM the word GAUNTLET for more 🙏

❤️Yats

Are you aware that you have an abandonment wound?

For some people, it's easy to see. A deceased parent...a divorce that leads a parent to move out of the house..a family separated geographically...

But that's not the only way an abandonment wound is caused.

An abandonment wound goes beyond the physical absence of a parent. The abandonment wound includes the emotional and mental absence of a parent.

Did you have a parent to teach you about life? When school got challenging or bullies came knocking you down, did you have a parent to pick you up? To give you kind, loving, and encouraging support?

Mental and emotional support and guidance are just as needed (if not more) than physical things. It is from the absence of mental and emotional support that a child is not able to fully develop their sense of self.

They will feel abandoned by their parents in their moments of needs. From that feeling of abandonment comes the creation of subconscious beliefs that tell the child they are not good enough or lovable. If a parent, the person who is supposed to love me most in the world, can't show up for me, then who will?

This wounded belief runs deep and is so unbearable that we will go to great lengths to NOT feel the pain of abandonment. This is why we start to employ strategies of self abandonment as a means to prove ourselves and to keep people from leaving.

But, it doesn't work. Now WE are the ones abandoning ourselves, proving to ourselves that we are not good enough as we are.

It's a vicious cycle, but it doesn't have to continue 🙏 healing the abandonment is possible and accessible to you. The healing involves reprogramming the subconscious mind that contains such beliefs. It means that we heal the inner child that experienced those tender, excruciating moments of pain.

This is precisely what we do in my innerwork and healing program THE GAUNTLET.

HURRY to join the very first cohort of the year so you don't have to go another year in the painful cycle of feeling unloved and not good enough.

My team and I are here to support you 🙏

DM me GAUNTLET for your chance of a lifetime to heal

❤️Yats and team

You don't need to change yourself

You need to change how you feel about yourself

While you may have bought into the "new year, new you" trend, it's not too late to recognize the greatest thing you cam be is YOU.

Authentically

Unapologetically

You

You are inherently valuable and lovable. Love is your birthright. You are worthy of connection.

We receive these things, the things realllllly worthwhile in life, when we reclaim and embody the authentic self.

Join the movement of true self love and acceptance. Don't waste another year. Don't delay it. The time is now 🙏

Hurry! To join my transformational GAUNTLET innerwork healing program starting THIS WEEKEND.

DM me the word GAUNTLET for more information 🙏

❤️Yats + Team

Build the relationship with yourself and then ALL your other relationships will grow and improve. This is a promise I give you.

But the problem is that most of us have poor relationships with ourselves.. and we don't realise it or we don't accept it.

We don't see ourselves with love. We don't prioritise ourselves, our goals, our needs, our emotions..

And so our lives suffer. We run after relationships or run away from them. Either way love doesn't flow to us.

But we deserve better. We deserve love. Connection. Confidence. Self respect. Inner peace. Strength. Freedom. Beautiful relationships.

And it is OUR responsibility to do the work to have them.

This was one of my biggest learnings in my life.

And if you're willing to do the work, to find yourself again. To love yourself and your life and have that inner peace again, then I lovingly invite you to join my 8week healing and inner work program The Gauntlet.

Click the 'Gauntlet' link

www.thegauntletexperience.com

In bio to see how so many people's lives have changed by doing the work through this program.

And then apply for a chance to qualify for this journey.

With love always

-Yats and team ❤️

I discovered for myself that the 'beautiful relationship ' comes to you only when you make yourself ready for it.

If we're not willing to do the work to be ready to invite, accept, respect and enjoy a beautiful relationship.. then the kinds of relationships we'll invite will be the old, wounded patterns that were too used to in our lives.

The ones that leave us feeling rejected. Abandoned. Unworthy. Isolated. Lonely.

Because the old stories that we have locked in our subconscious minds.. they make us believe that because we've experienced those, we will continue to have those.. EVEN IF the 'conscious mind' says we want different.

This is why it's so important to do the healing work.

So that what you want.. and what you attract, become the same thing.

If you're ready to make this what happens to you in 2024, where YOU consciously attract and enjoy the beautiful supporting relationships in your life.. that leave you feeling loved, respected, confident, wanted, and valued..

Then I lovingly invite you to do the work with me. The same things that I did for myself, in my
Gauntlet healing and innerwork program.

Over 8 weeks you will learn to heal your old wounds, break old wounded beliefs and truly love yourself.. to the point that beautiful and healthy love will not be able to run away from you anymore.. and you won't be able to push it away either.

To find out more about this exclusive program that has helped hundreds around the world already,
send me a DM with the word 'Gauntlet',
and I will take you on a magical journey that will change your life forever.

With love always,

❤️Yats and team

If we don't create enough of our value within.. we will seek people outside to define our value for us.

This sounds really beautiful and easy when you get someone to say "i love you" a lot. But what happens when that love becomes strained?

What happens when relationships are filled with conflict, with criticism, judgement? Then our worth goes with it. Because our relationships were where we got most of our worth.

This typically happens when we carry old wounds that we haven't managed to heal and let go of. Here, the weight of these old experiences is shrinking the way we feel of ourselves so much that we NEED the relationship or the person externally, to feel better about ourselves.

This dependency is dangerous because we forget our own value. And so bit by bit the elements of our lives suffer, including our future relationships.

So if you're ready to take back control of your life. To build your own self worth, self confidence and VALUE. To learn how loveable YOU are and to let your life show that back to you.. then I invite you to join my Gauntlet healing program which has helped hundreds around the world, discover their love and value too.

To learn more about the program and how it could give you a life you truly love, DM me with the word 'Gauntlet', and I'll show you what you really want to see.

With love

❤️Yats and team

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What's your resolution for 2024??

Merry Christmas and happy holidays from my loved ones and from everyone at TheInnerYats to you ❤️ whether you celebrate or not is not important, you are in my intentions and my heart and I hope you find love and warmth during this festive season even if within your own heart ❤️❤️

Love you all, and Feliz Navidad ❤️🎄

Be honest, have you ever found yourself repeating the same types of relationship dynamics and headaches?

Whether it's power-tripping bosses, friends who take advantage of your generosity, or emotionally unavailable partners, the harsh truth is:

We repeat what we don't heal.

While, it's important to create distance from and block situations and toxic people from our lives, it's important for us to go deeper than setting those external boundaries.

We feel the need to set external boundaries when a sensitivity, insecurity, or pain has been triggered. Triggers are showing us what we still need to heal within ourselves. Therefore, if we only focus on the external boundary, we deny ourselves the opportunity to heal and no longer become sensitive to those types of triggers in the future.

Real lasting boundaries are created internally, through healing the parts of us that attracted the situation and allowed it to stay. Through healing the parts of us that are sensitive to those people and situations.

When we commit to loving ourselves and creating internal security, we raise our vibration. This, in turn, changes the people and situations we attract, further contributing to us not needing to set boundaries in the first place!

We attract from the level at which we ourselves are energetically vibrating. The higher our vibration, the higher quality, more aligned situations we attract and say YES to in our lives.

If you're frustrated with the same situations and experiences repeating in your life, then you're invited to be guided to internal security and true self-love in my intensive innerwork course

THE GAUNTLET

Join this life-changing transformational journey to give yourself the gift of a lifetime. DM me the word GAUNTLET for more information 🙏

❤️Yats + Team

Doing the work on your own? I commend you 👏

And I'm also here to tell you that

You don't have to do it alone 🙏

In fact, self-healing will only take you so far. We need to find, create, and sustain safe relationships in order to realllly heal.

It's a tall order, but not impossible. Unfortunately, we've experienced a lot of pain and trauma in our past and if that weren't enough, we didn't have the support we needed to navigate the painful experience.

Even more unfortunately is that that lack of support often comes from those who are "supposed" to love us the most...yet they tend to cause us the most damage.

The results are incredibly damaging. Pain and trauma leave us in a vulnerable state. When we are in such a vulnerable state and are met with others around us who judge us, gaslight us, blame us or look the other way we are devastated. We learn to associate being vulnerable with others with threat. In turn, we feel a lack of safety in connection with others.

But it's not irreversible. We are able to heal when we are able to create internal safety through self-regulation and go even further into healing when we find and create safety in connection with other people.

Safe connection allows the nervous system to heal. It teaches the nervous system to find safety, not threat, in connection and allow it to regulate in the presence of safe people.

Where are these safe people? If the people closes to me are those who have hurt me the most then...how can I find safety with them??

You may not be able to with them...yet.

That's why I make co-regulation in a safe space with safe people a foundational piece in my healing program.

DM me the word GAUNTLET to give yourself the gift that KEEPS ON GIVING: safety.

Before you do so, I'll ask you to do this: close your eyes and imagine a reality in which you feel at complete ease with others. Where you can smile..and laugh..and...be YOURSELF. Fear of being judged or rejected does not live in this space..can you imagine what that would feel like?

It's not only possible for you, but it's waiting for you 🙏

❤️Yats + Team

Have you ever jumped into connection with another person and things are hot, heavy, and exciting and then WHAM

Just when you think everything is too good to be true and you've met "the one" that other person just ghosts you??

You're not alone. In fact, It's quite common.

It's confusing, but it also makes sense. The avoidant attacher wants romantic connection, but they also fear it.

This is why they go full speed into new connection. They text or call often. They make immediate plans. They jump straight into sexual intimacy.

And once intimacy and connection go too far for their comfort, they run.

They run because an unconscious fear of theirs has been triggered. In their childhood, they wanted connection with their loved ones but were ultimately met with devastating rejection, invalidation, and abandonment.

In turn, they learned to associate love, intimacy, and connection with inevitable pain. As a means to avoid pain, they avoid that which causes the pain: connection. Particularly, deep, meaningful, intimate connection.

Are you starting to see how their ghosting, or avoiding of connection, has little to do with you and everything to do with their own pain and wounding?

This understanding allows us to DETACH from internalising other's treatment toward us to mean that we ourselves are not good enough or lovable. It is in understanding the plight of the avoidant attacher that we can perhaps even consider them with compassion as opposed to hate and contempt.

This is not to excuse anyone's hurtful and damaging behavior, but not help us to NOT take it personally. This understanding is for us. We can also take this experience and look inward to see where we ourselves need to heal our own wounds and sensitivities.

When we have awareness, we have an understanding of what we need to heal. Whether you are an anxious or avoidant attacher (or a mix of both!) healing is available to you.

Relationships are among the things that make life MOST enjoyable and you deserve to have loving, supportive, and mutually reciprocal relationships a plenty.

If you're ready to heal, join the movement by DMing me the word GAUNTLET to hear more

❤️Yats + Team