Many Hats: Personal development

3 words that can change your life: I DESERVE BETTER.

Let go of the illusion that once you get what you desire you will be content & live happily ever after. That's a lie. Its in our nature as humans to always want more. There's always going to be something else; you're always going to desire more than what you have. Once you get the million, you're gonna want two million, then three ,then a billion and that's okay. Wanting more is okay. What's not okay is you not being happy where you currently are and thinking that your happiness is sitting next to your end goal in some island far far away. Your happiness is right here, next to you, you just need to acknowledge & embrace it.
Instead of waiting to be happy when you get the million, be happy with what you currently have. Be happy with the fact that you have that desire and you're making your way towards it. Be happy that you're learning and growing as you go, be happy that you take a step closer to your goal each & every day. Celebrate the milestones, no matter how small you think they are. Celebrate NOW. Be happy NOW, otherwise you'll never be happy coz you'll constantly be reaching for the next big thing.

I've learned that there's no need to chase after things that were meant for you. There's a saying that goes "what's meant for you will not pass you by". Have you ever wondered why it says "IT won't pass you by" instead of "you won't pass it by"? It's because you don't need to chase after it. It comes looking for you. It finds you.
Contrary to popular belief; opportunities FIND YOU, not the other way around. Have you noticed how in most cases, the job you get is not the one you put a lot of effort into finding? Or the lover you end up with is not the one you had to jump through a million hoops for? That's because those things were meant for you.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should just sit on your beautiful butt & not take any action and hope for things to happen, nope. You obviously have to position yourself so that the opportunity can find you when it's time for it to find you. Send the CV or the business plan. Get out of bed & go to that networking event. Dress up & go out so that potential lovers can see you (or dress up & take photos & post them on social media; Whatever works for you). POSITION YOURSELF that's all you need to do.
If you're in the right position & IT(whatever it is) has your name on it,it will come to you. Trust that.

An excerpt from a book called 'The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom'
by Don Miguel Ruiz

When it comes to pursuing your goals, you need to stand firm & be persistent. You may find yourself in the desert for a while; destitute, thirsty & losing strength. But if you stay committed to the process & you persevere, someday , when you least expect it, you'll find a pool of water, which will lead you to a stream, then a river, then an ocean. You'll notice the abundance coming from every direction & you'll just sit there in awe ,wondering where it was all along.

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Too many of us were programmed to believe that children suffer when they're not raised in a 2-parent home (a.k.a A STABLE environment) and that has put so much pressure on women. Some stay in unhappy, unfulfilling and/or unhealthy relationships for the sake of their kids, while some jump from relationship to relationship trying to find a man to play daddy to their kids and exhausting themselves in the process. The most common result in these types of scenarios is mom is left depleted, unhappy & subconsciously detesting her kids because she feels like she sacrificed her joy for them; Mom suffers and so do the kids.

Listen, you don't owe your kids a father, you owe them a healthy, happy & loving version of yourself. Let your main focus be to provide a happy environment rather than a "stable" one. If you focus on "finding daddy" you're probably gonna
1.neglect your child and/or
2. attract someone who senses your desperation and uses it against you.
But if you focus on creating & maintaining happiness within the current situation, you'll probably end up attracting a man that's going to come into your lives & add on to the happiness that already exists or you'll realize that you're doing well without a man & decide to stay single, but either way, you'll be happy & so will your kids.

Whether you're a mom, a wife, a business owner or any other role that requires you to lead or take care of others, you always have to put yourself first. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others. You have to make sure that your cup is full before you start sharing what is in your cup with other people or else you're gona find yourself with an empty cup, having nothing else to give & when you have nothing to give, the people around you suffer, the home suffers,the business suffers.

Loving yourself first is not selfishness,its self preservation. It's you filling your cup so that others can benefit from it.
Even the Bible says "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself". If you read that statement carefully, you'll realize that the prerequisite to loving your neighbor (everyone around you) is loving yourself. You have to love the people around you as much as YOU LOVE YOURSELF.
So do that my lady. Love yourself, take care of yourself, fill your cup.

At one point,I wasn't doing well in my professional life. I had left my job to start my own business & it wasn't really doing well. It was frustrating, I was getting impatient & I thought of giving up on it a couple of times.
I was however succeeding as a mom. I was (& still am) a great mom. I love my son to bits, I'm patient with him,I encourage him & I speak positively to him and about him & that has boosted his confidence and his development as a whole. I decided to take that same spirit into my business & I started treating it like it was one of my babies (because it is). I became more understanding of the fact that it was still in it's infancy stages & I started exercising patience as far it was concerned. Instead of shaming it when it wasn't performing at its best, I started speaking positively about it. I started setting reasonable & realistic goals. I also started focusing on the small milestones that it achieved & celebrated them. I also learned to accept & make peace with the rate at which it was growing & guess what? That accelerated it's growth massively. Within a couple of months of doing that, I got my first big gig & it's been uphill since then.

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