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Dear beloved woman , We owe it to ourselves to respect ourselves and mostly respect our bodies. We should clearly understand that there are other things that will take away dignity from us and make men see us as nothing but their appetizers. How we wear, how we dance and how we behave ourselves says a lot to the next person of how to treat us. We can not continue exposing ourselves to certain things that makes us look cheap and attract perverts into approaching us trying their luck. Do everything with self respect and thinking of protecting your dignity. Yes, there are men who are just perverts that they just see s*x when they look at any women, but let us not give them any more reasons to disrespect us. Refuse to let s*x driven boys call you names that water down your value as a woman, we should not let anyone treat us like trash. Let us bring back the dignity of being a woman back, we need to be seen as diamonds and queens again.

Yes. Relationships take work. We have to work hard to not behave like a child when we're triggered. We have to work hard to heal our pasts. We have to work hard to be accountable when we want to blame. This is why if you want a relationship, you better be ready to open up, be brave, and break your patterns. Because even with the right person you'll have to face yourself.

Privacy in relationships, at its very core, is a fundamental right. You and your partner have the right to keep certain aspects of yourself and your relationships private. Keeping certain things private shows respect for your partner and helps the two of you to develop trust. Keep in mind that when you share details of your relationship online, your ex can keep tabs on you. If you’re sharing details like relationship conflict, they may use this as an opportunity to try to get under your skin or sabotage your relationship.
Please don’t allow them to do this; keep your relationship private.

I'm guilty of this too, by the way.
Point is, we're all capable of being rejecting when someone is trying to connect with us, and it's these little micro rejections stacked over time that create a disconnection.
Truth is, relationships of various kinds rarely end because of a lack of love. They more often end because of a lack of connection. And if we're all here trying to be more aware, conscious people and partners, (myself included) then it's the little things that we need to pay attention to.
The ways in which we are rejecting, unconsciously.
It takes a lot of discipline (especially with our phones) but it makes a huge difference in a relationship.
If looking at your phone is a way to find emotional balance and regulation, one thing that many have found useful is to remind their loved one that looking away or down helps you to regulate and listen.

Don't marry someone that you like their strengths only. Marry someone that you can tolerate their weaknesses and flaws.

Those flaws you see her or him exhibit in dating, just incase it doesn't change - can you live with it everyday.
We all have flaws but marry the one that the flaws does not drive you crazy and make you feel like running away.

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Over the past years, God has been teaching me how to be a virtuous woman. I learned that feminity is a strength, not a weakness, and submitting to the right man is a blessing.

I also learned that there are many men out there who are demanding submission but are not in a position to be submitted to.

Below, you will find a list of men not ready for submission.

1. A man who is not submitted to Jesus. If a man is not getting his direction from God, then he is leading from his perspective and not God's perspective.

2. A man demanding submission but not prepared to marry you. A spiritually mature man will not date until he is ready for marriage.

3. A man who can't control his lust. A man devoted to Jesus will understand that finding the right woman is a blessing, and he will do everything to not mess it up.

4. A man who is not disciplined. A good leader must have discipline.

5. A man who has no vision or ambition. How can a man lead you without knowing where he is going?

6. A man who continues to lead you to the bedroom but is not ready for a covenant. A spiritually mature man will not want to defile his good thing. He understands he must be a spiritual leader and protector, but it starts with him.

7. A man who does not want to be a provider, leader, or protector.

8. A man who treats you like an object. The right man will understand your value and want your input.

A man does not have to be perfect, but his actions must show that he is growing under God and striving to be like Jesus daily.

Please do not marry a man you cannot see yourself submitting to. Be a good steward of your single season by developing a close relationship with God and understanding how valuable you are.

It’s not that God isn’t able to provide a spouse, but sometimes our expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy to our future. We rule out what God can do when we place our Hollywood/Disney fairytale delusions above His plans for our lives.

If you were ever closely connected to someone who did not have a good relationship with anger and conflict, you learn that conflict is a source of disconnection.
It becomes terrifying to have someone angry, hurt, or upset with you because it feels like rejection and feels like you're losing them.

The idea that you can have love and conflict at the same time may seem foreign, and yet, it's such an important key to a beautiful relationship.
When approached in a healthy way, conflict, anger, hurt, and space become tools for a better relationship.

A conflict happens when one or both people are feeling understood.
If you can approach it from a standpoint of respect and understanding, what started as anger can leave you with closeness and a better understanding of one another. This feels terrifying if you haven't experienced it, I've been there, and here are some words that I've used to lean into the conflict:
"I care about you a lot, and that you're feeling very angry and hurt.
Can you help me understand you better?"

I hope you all experience the wonderful healing that can occur when you have a conflict that finally ends in understanding.

This Month the Almighty God shall visit the foundation of your life and effects needed correction for successful accomplishments of all your heart desires.

As the sun rises and shines brighter today, you shall rise taller than your present challenges. Any yoke of delay and stagnation in your life is broken, God of second chance shall redeem those years you have lost and restore to you those things the enemies have stolen in your life.

You shall have results to show that Almighty God has answered your prayers.

Sexual purity isn’t an old time religion!
It’s marriage before s*x!
Don’t engage in s*xual activities and celebrate “engagement” afterward.
Wait for engagement (marriage) before ‘engaging’ (s*x)

The Marriage Proposal

When proposing to a lady avoid saying “thus says the Lord” it only amounts to intimidation, let your approach be natural, you can simply say sister I love you, I want to marry you, or can we build a home together?
Do not hurry the sister to decide fast, give her enough time to confirm and get convinced.
Sisters should not delay their reply unnecessarily, don’t play the “I’m still praying” game to keep a brother in suspense.
Sisters should treat every brother that comes to propose to them with respect.
As a brother, leave room for refusal, but don’t give up easily if you are fully persuaded.
Pray and act accordingly.

Whatever you do, whoever you fall in love with, open your eyes and keep your ears open. Pay attention to the signs.

It is an act of wisdom to overlook an error from your spouse. Sometimes, tell yourself, "I will not mind him/her, I will leave him/her to God." If you choose to make every minor error of your spouse a big deal, peace will never reign in your home. Overlook minor errors, especially unintentional ones

Maintaining Trust in Communication as a Couple
Here are a few tips:

1. Be honest: Always be truthful in your communication with your partner. Avoid hiding or manipulating information that could affect your relationship.

2. Keep promises: If you make commitments or promises to your partner, follow through on them. This helps build trust and shows that you can be relied upon.

3. Listen actively: Pay attention to what your partner is saying without interrupting or making assumptions. Show genuine interest and ask questions for clarification.

4. Validate feelings: Acknowledge and validate your partner's emotions, even if you don't necessarily agree with them. This shows empathy and helps create a safe space for open communication.

5. Apologize and forgive: When mistakes happen or conflicts arise, be willing to apologize when necessary and forgive your partner. This demonstrates a willingness to move forward and rebuild trust.

6. Maintain confidentiality: Respect your partner's privacy by keeping their confidences and not sharing sensitive information without their consent.

7. Be respectful: Treat each other with respect at all times. Avoid insults, belittling, or demeaning language, as these can erode trust.

Remember, building trust takes time and effort from both partners. Consistently practicing these tips will help create a foundation of trust in your communication.

Eat well and don’t starve your spirit.
It’s another month of ‘balance’
Nothing must suffer, nothing dies in our hands, our relationship/marriage is excelling. We see Jesus on every side.
Happy new month my precious people 💜

Hello Husband Material,

God wants you to chase God in your marriage too. Do not leave the spiritual growth of your marriage to your wife alone, it is very overwhelming to carry herself and carry you at the same time.

For a praying woman's lamp to stay burning, her husband must keep pouring in the oil.

Sir, be the one who will rise up with her at the midnight hour.

The one who will always make sure you go early to join the workers meeting before service starts.

The one who will make sure you never miss the midweek services.

The one who will take the first day of the month fasting seriously.

The one who will always lead the last friday of the month vigils at home.

Dear godly Sirs, this is your covenant assignment to your wife...

If you want your wife to keep burning you have to keep blowing her fire.

Plea from godly marriage materials 🤝😎

“Don’t just marry because you love someone. Marry because you have met someone you can fulfill destiny with”

Pay close attention to gut feelings that ask you to analyze your partner’s intentions, words, and actions more closely. Refrain from making excuses for this person just because you have strong feelings. Be honest with yourself and acknowledge when your partner isn’t acting in good faith or isn’t making you happy. Take divine signs seriously: it’s not an accident if you come across something that proves this person lied or isn’t who he/she says he is.

*Offense is really the bait for Satan*

What I want to say is be careful about offense, because it can trick you into thinking you are right and your offence is justified.

Now, being offended does not make you right.
It is almost like as long as I’m offended, I got to be right.
No, you would be wrong, you can be hurt and your hurt is legit. And your hurt is real and is eating you up. That doesn't make you right anyway.

Learn to live peacefully with all people and consider others' feelings before giving an ungodly attitude.

“Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.”
‭‭2 Thessalonians‬ ‭3‬:‭16‬ ‭NIV‬‬

2 Thessalonians 3:16 Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you. | New International Version (NIV) | Download The Bible App Now Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.

Don’t be moved by your circumstances. That
takes the power away from the enemy. If you
don’t have to have your way, he can’t control
you. You’re saying, “God, my life is in Your
hands. You know what’s best for me.”

Being loved by a man who loves God is TOP TIER 🙌🏾 A man who’s afraid of disappointing GOD won’t purposely disappoint YOU ♥️ A man/husband who understands ORDER won’t put his friends or family before you 💯 A man who respects your BODY, won’t have s*x with other women or you before marriage. 🚫 A man who craved/craves being a husband will be in constant communication with GOD. Learning how to love you BETTER 🙏🏾 You don’t have to deal with cheating, side babies, heartache, abuse, disrespect etc before you’re WORTHY of your happily ever after 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 You don’t have to suffer on your way up the ladder into BLISS. That’s NOT what GOD desired or intended for US. If you’re reading this, don’t you EVER settle for anything LESS than the BEST. I don’t care if you have start over 100 times. It’s better than spending 15 years with a man you had to forgive, 100 TIMES ‼️ Dust settles, you are NOT dust sis 🙅🏽‍♀️

10 WAYS TO IMPROVE LOVE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

1. Make time for each other: Set aside regular "date nights" to spend quality time together, without distractions. Don't allow minor events cancel your plans.

2. Communicate openly and honestly: Talk to each other about your feelings, thoughts, and needs, and listen actively to your partner.

3. Show appreciation: Let your partner know that you appreciate them and the things they do for you. People love appreciation. Your partner needs it.

4. Be affectionate: Physical touch, such as holding hands, hugging, and kissing, can help to strengthen emotional bonds.

5. Be supportive: Offer support and encouragement to your partner, and be there for them during difficult times. Being supportive is better than convincing your partner how you love him or her with words.

6. Be flexible: Be willing to compromise and make adjustments to accommodate each other's needs and preferences.

7. Take care of yourself: Make sure to take care of your own physical and emotional well-being, so that you can be the best partner you can be. Value self-care for each other.

8. Keep the romance alive: Make intentional efforts to rekindle romance in your relationship, through gestures like giving each other compliments and surprises.

9. Solve problems together: If conflicts or challenges arise in your marriage, work together to find solutions, rather than trying to fix things on your own. If it is beyond your control, seek a professional counselor or a trusted person to come in.

10. Make your relationship a priority: Set aside time and energy to focus on your relationship, and make it a priority in your life.

I wish you all the best in your love life.

Being loved by a man who loves God is TOP TIER 🙌🏾 A man who’s afraid of disappointing GOD won’t purposely disappoint YOU ♥️ A man/husband who understands ORDER won’t put his friends or family before you 💯 A man who respects your BODY, won’t have s*x with other women or you before marriage. 🚫 A man who craved/craves being a husband will be in constant communication with GOD. Learning how to love you BETTER 🙏🏾 You don’t have to deal with cheating, side babies, heartache, abuse, disrespect etc before you’re WORTHY of your happily ever after 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 You don’t have to suffer on your way up the ladder into BLISS. That’s NOT what GOD desired or intended for US. If you’re reading this, don’t you EVER settle for anything LESS than the BEST. I don’t care if you have start over 100 times. It’s better than spending 15 years with a man you had to forgive, 100 TIMES ‼️ Dust settles, you are NOT dust sis 🙅🏽‍♀️

Quit waiting or searching for an "already-made" man or woman; you just might never find one.

A lot of people are still single because they are waiting for the finished product whereas all they see around them are raw materials.

Your ideal partner will most likely come in potential form and it will be up to you to help him or her realize and maximize their potentials.