The UNpronounced Podcast

Our children are always watching and learning. Married, divorced, or somewhere in between, at the example in your relationships.

Coparenting will not always be 50/50. At times, each parent needs to carry more of the load simply because it's better for the children.

Divorce doesn't have to be such a scary word or idea. If you think you can make your marriage work, then work your ass off for it. But if you're only staying married just so you don't have to say you're 'divorced,' then you're only hurting your own happiness.

Episode Quote: "When dating again, take the time to find your deal breakers up front. Knowing what you don't want is just as important as knowing what you do."

In our episode, "The Dating Game," we discuss getting back out there after divorce. Dating again can be both scary and exciting. Most of all, it's a great opportunity for self reflection. Find what you really want this time around, and then ask for it. You got this!

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At times, your role as a step parent will be to step back. As much as you may want to insert yourself, truth is that it isn't always your place.

Bringing you music every Monday dedicated to moving through, and move on.

"Let it Go" - James Bay

Bringing you music every Monday dedicated to moving through, and move on.

"Naked" -Ella Mai

Doing the right thing doesn't always mean you're going to feel your best. Sometimes the right decisions for ourselves, our kids, our marriage, etc can be the hardest ones to deal with. This is very true of divorce; it may be the best thing for everyone and it's OK if that completely sucks at first.

Like most things, repair and growth just take time.

If you're a step-parent, there are plenty of unpopular thoughts you're going to have. We totally understand! Feel free to share them with us.

Most things in life simply boil down to, "Be kind. Do your best."

When you continue to put effort into something, and all you get in return is heartache, it's OK to let go and move on. Change starts with a single step.

Your ex is not your children's ex.

Kids are more aware than we give them credit for. If their step parent looks at them as a requirement to be with their mom/dad, they will always feel like they're on the outside. Move on and let that family find someone who WANTS the package deal they are.

Episode Quote: "S*x after divorce can be very different from love after divorce. When we're emotionally hurting, sometimes the easiest way for us to start again is through our physical self. It's OK to explore your sexuality. Be safe, but go for it. "

In our episode, "The Dating Game" we discuss a number of different issues around getting back to dating after divorce. S*x can be a scary or comforting part of that. It all depends on what works for you. Just be safe out there.

Keeping rules consistent across step siblings can be challenging, but it's incredibly important to do. In divorce, children lose what their structure, or 'constant', was. Creating a new base line of consistency is more important than ever.

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Anyone else getting a Rocky vibe with this quote? We do! So much of parenting is loving past the struggles. Trust us, there will be struggles. Whether you're co parenting, single parenting, parenting with a spouse, or something else, it will have it's challenges. As Dory would say, "just keep swimming."

I certainly owe you all something wonderful to think about this mother's day.. but as I thought of what to write, my mind just filled with love. That's the core of parenthood. Today I was super spoiled and I'm at Disneyland having an amazing mother's day. More pictures to come with my family, but I wanted to start with the little man who started it all. The little one who made Cleve and me parents, and reminded us of all we had to lose if we didn't respect each other during our divorce.

One of the most amazing quotes I've heard from a mother was "When you learn, teach others." I hope as we continue our journey to constantly blend, grow, and love, that there is something useful for our followers to take from us.

Happy Mother's Day to every mom ( regardless of "title") stepping up to the plate. You're all amazing. Cheers!

**please ignore my awful makeup...this is what a mask does to you all day in the heat!**

No caption needed. ❤💜💙

Your personal growth cannot exclude your past, it has to build upon it. This is true in all of life, but especially in divorce. The marriage you're leaving behind cannot be removed from your past, but it can be used as a guide to things you do and do not want in your future.

Kids are fiercely loyal. Showing them how to share love and extend a family is a must for a healthy family dynamic. Tell them it's OK to like or even love their step parent. It won't take any of their love away from you.

Being an effective step parent means knowing when to step back and when to be center stage.

The role of a step-parent is unique. It's a relationship full of complex feelings, layers of challenges, but still lots of love. The dynamic you establish in these situations will take time, but the effort is worth it in the end.

What can you do today, to put yourself in a better place tomorrow? Baby steps each day can turn into major progress in 6 months. You can do this.

Only you can establish what you're worth. You'll run across people in your life that don't want you to realize that, because it benefits them. Be aware, know your worth, set those boundaries.