Honey Rose Haven

I'm thrilled to announce that I'm now certified by the American Association of S*xuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists! This prestigious certification involved a 218-page application showcasing 160 continuing education credits, 5 certificates/certifications, letters of recommendation, 5 years of supervision, 80 speaking engagements/events and 1:1 consultations where I've educated thousands of people around the world.

My goal is to help individuals have healthier relationships with their bodies and partners, especially those who grew up in cultures that stigmatize s*xuality. Through my expertise in s*x, relationships, as well as mindfulness exercises, I educate clients on how to overcome s*xual shame and cultivate passionate, fulfilling relationships. To celebrate this wonderful accomplishment, my online workshops are on sale. Visit calendly.com/honeyrosehaven to purchase a class. Thank you for celebrating with me!

Harvard University recently published a long-term study on happiness, which concluded that the biggest contributor is having close relationships. Research suggest that creating healthy relationships and learning emotional intimacy can improve your well-being more than anything else. And among the things that can help couples strengthen their connection is developing a healthy and mutually-satisfying s*x life. Which is why the work I do promoting relationship health and s*xual wellness is so important. Learn more at Honeyrosehaven.org

Desire isn’t something that happens without any effort. Passion and desire are skills that need to be cultivated and created. If you don’t make them a priority, they won’t happen in long term relationships. And learning how to create a passionate relationship can add to your overall happiness and the health of your relationship.

I'm Em Thev, CSE and the founder of Honey Rose Haven, an organization dedicated to helping people have healthy, passionate relationships. I’ve worked with thousands of people from around the world in 1:1 sessions and workshops to help them create fulfilling relationships. My approach is rooted in evidence-informed, compassionate, and intuitive methods. I specialize in educating clients on a range of issues, including emotional intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, dating skills, stress reduction, chronic illness/IC and s*x, pain-free in*******se, purity culture, and passion in long-term relationships. Through my expertise in s*x, relationships as well as mindfulness exercises, I help clients overcome s*xual shame, develop desire, rewrite harmful cultural scripts and experience more pleasure. Research suggests that using mindfulness tools can help you quickly make positive changes that can lead to more fulfilling relationships.

I'm certified by The American Association of S*xuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists, which is the gold standard for s*xuality professionals. Additionally I have training in Advanced S*x Theory & Clinical S*xology from NWIOI, Interpersonal Biology from Dr. David Schnarch, and the 4D Wheel from Dr. Gina Ogden. I'm Certified in Mindfulness, EFT, I'm a Gottman Leader, with a degree in Psychology and a Clinical Education in S*xuality Certificate. I'm a s*xual assault survivor and advocate for survivors. In addition, I have experience as an early childhood educator, and I help parents teach their children about relationships and s*x in healthy, age-appropriate ways.

I've also created a worldwide network of clinicians that can help you get the best care possible. Honey Rose Haven also respects your beliefs and values and welcomes people of all races, religions, sizes, s*xual orientations, genders, ability levels and as well as economic and relationship status.

To cultivate a peaceful relationship with your body.
Ask these questions:
•How did I show my body compassion today?
•What parts of my body feel healthy and cared for?
•What are ways that I could better care for my body?
•Is there anything my body is trying to tell me?

If negative thoughts come up about your body, bring awareness to where these thoughts may be coming from. Say the negative thoughts out loud to someone you trust. Shame lives in silence. Acknowledging this struggle can help you start to let go of unhelpful stories about what weight you should be or what you should look like. Remember that your appearance or weight is the least interesting thing about you.

My kids love hearing these stories.

20 years ago, while finishing my degree in Psychology, I was a research assistant for a professor writing a book on healthy intimacy in relationships. I studied the honeymoon experience of over 100 couples. As I read each interview, I was heartbroken at the lack of education and communication, as well as the coercive behaviors displayed by some men. I was also heartbroken at the lack of preparation and information women were given around their s*xuality or around what a healthy relationship looks like. The majority of experiences were heart-wrenching, some of them traumatic. Because of that experience, I started this organization to help individuals in our culture be more informed and have healthy, passionate relationships through all the stages of their lives.
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This workshop will support you in working through shame with accurate information and mindful exercises. During the workshop you'll learn how to:

1. Practice exercises that will help you release shame and connect to your body.
2. Give and receive intentional touch.
3. Expand your definition of s ex.

And a bit about me. My name is Em and I'm the founder of Honey Rose Haven. I've led numerous workshops on relationships, body acceptance & mindful s*xuality and I've also worked with over 1,000 clients worldwide in 1:1 sessions. My approach is evidence-informed and compassionate. I’m neurodivergent and I’ve lived with invisible disabilities for almost 20 years. I bring that wisdom to my work when it comes to connecting to your body and overcoming shame.

Schedule here: calendly.com/honeyrosehaven
Only 10 spots available.

If you haven't attended a Honey Rose Haven event you're missing out. The community, content and food are always beyond par. Em's couples workshop was a wonderful experience for my husband and me. She has a way of making what would normally feel like a "sensitive topic" feel approachable, light, and fun. We loved the simple exercises she had us practice, the thought provoking questions, and the resources she explored. We left with so many great things to discuss and try and we went home filled with optimism and newfound enthusiasm for improving our intimacy and s*xual expression. Thank you, Em, for caring enough about your clients and guests to make your events shame-free zones and havens for honest inquiry and healing. I would recommend this experience to everyone! - Stephanie Sorensen

Relationship myths that are harmful
from Holisticallygrace

Important conversations can be difficult, especially with everything going on in the world. This is a great article on how to have hard conversations. As a Certified Mindfulness Practitioner and Gottman Leader, I help couples have mindful conversations, based on decades of research from the Gottman Institute. https://www.gottman.com/blog/mindfulness-tips-for-hard-conversations/

Mindfulness Tips for Hard Conversations Mindful listening and seeing our shared humanity are just a few ways to ease the tension when you come from polar opposite perspectives.

Happy World S*xual Health Day!

Many of us have experienced some sort of loss over the past year, and we'll likely continue to experience loss as we move forward. Feeling grief is part of the human experience. But unfortunately, our culture hasn't provided us with many ways (besides talking) to help us release our grief, so many of us carry it with us, causing harm to ourselves and others.

I have a simple exercise that can help us WALK through our grief rather than just TALK through it.

1. Gather your loved ones together for a grieving exercise.
2. Have everyone write the thing that they're grieving on a piece of paper or rock. OR everyone can just share with the group what they're grieving.
3. Throw the rocks into a creek/ditch/ocean, the papers into the fire. OR create a small work of art expressing your grief.
4. Then, reflect on the experience and share with the group the emotions that you felt as you released your grief.

Every few months over the last year, I did a grieving ritual with my family. It helped us honor our pain, so we could be in a place to support others and change the horrific things that are happening. I hope this exercise helps you and your community do the same.

Handle yourself and others, especially marginalized communities, with compassion as we collectively grieve, find joy again and continue to fight for change.
❤️ Em

And 5 things NOT to do when talking to your kids about s*x and media:

1. Focus only on shielding your kids from danger, instead of empowering them to make wise decisions.

2. Shame them for engaging with media that you find inappropriate or problematic.

3. Assume that they understand depictions of s*x in media the same way you do.

4. Share your own perspectives without listening to theirs.

5. Create rules around media without their input.

Here's the link to purchase my online course on how to talk to your kids about s*x and media: Calendly.com/honeyrosehaven

Wow, people have opinions about J-Lo & Shakira’s half-time show. On one hand, I’m pleased that people are having conversations about representations of s*xuality in media. Too often, we avoid the conversation, choosing to simply change the channel and not engage in a conversation. The first step in teaching our kids how to successfully navigate s*x & media is to have conversations. On the other hand, too many of the opinions I’ve been seeing online are uninformed & lack nuance. In order for these conversations to go well, we need to understand the difference between terms like ‘s*xualization’ & ‘objectification,’ & we need to use this vocabulary to go beyond simply celebrating or condemning media content. Lastly, it’s too bad that these conversations go viral typically when they’re focused on representations of women’s bodies & s*xuality. Our conversations with our kids should certainly include these subjects, but we might ask ourselves why we’re not also talking about the diversity reflected in the show OR the techniques used by the ads to get our attention OR the political commentary in their performance OR the representations of men & masculinity in football. When we focus on our conversations on s*x—& on women’s bodies & s*xuality in particular—we teach our kids that these subjects are areas of concern, when others aren’t. And when our conversations are reactionary instead of informed & nuanced, we teach our kids to respond emotionally instead of thoughtfully & deliberately.

I love the opportunity this recent show gave me to have balanced conversations with my kiddos about how all of these things are represented in media. It also gave me an opportunity to not shame or dehumanize anyone involved. Shaming around these issues is what creates damage, not the media itself. Honey Rose Haven created a comprehensive online course to help you navigate these difficult conversations. It involves several videos, worksheets and incredible information on these topics. Click the link to register. Let Honey Rose Haven help you navigate these important topics. Calendly.com/honeyrosehaven

"The Archaeology of Desire: The psychology of our desire often lies buried in the details of our childhood, and digging through the early history of our lives uncovers its archaeology. We can trace back to where we learned to love and how. Did we learn to experience pleasure or not, to trust others or not, to receive or be denied? Were our parents monitoring our needs or were we expected to monitor theirs? Did we turn to them for protection, or did we flee them to protect ourselves? Were we rejected? Humiliated? Abandoned? Were we held? Rocked? Soothed? Did we learn not to expect too much, to hide when we are upset, to make eye contact? In our family, we sense when it’s OK to thrive and when others might be hurt by our zest. We learn how to feel about our body, our gender, and our s*xuality. And we learn a multitude of other lessons about who and how to be: to open up or to shut down, to sing or to whisper, to cry or to hide our tears, to dare or to be afraid.”― Esther Perel

As children we form stories based on how we're cared for, how our needs are met, and how our parents relate to each other. We also relate to s*x based on how our culture and community relates to s*x. We create meaning around those experiences. We carry those stories into our adulthood. They effect our libidos and how we relate to our partners.

Honey Rose Haven helps people around the world discover their desires and embrace their capacity for pleasure. Go to calendly.com/honeyrosehaven to schedule an appointment.

Hi! I'm Em and the creator of Honey Rose Haven. I'm a Relationship and S*x Educator, Certified Mindfulness and EFT Practitioner, and a Gottman Leader with a Clinical Education in S*xuality Certificate

I have training in Advanced S*x Theory/Clinical S*xology from NWIOI and The Isis Wheel from Dr. Gina Ogden. I have a degree in psychology, I’ve led numerous workshops on relationships, body acceptance and mindfulness, and I’ve worked with over 1000 clients worldwide.

My approach is evidence-informed, nonjudgmental, and intuitive. I have experience educating clients and couples on issues including communication, dating, relationship conflict, stress reduction techniques, passion, mindfulness for better intimacy, painful in*******se and anorgasmia. I teach about overcoming s*xual shame, developing desire and rewriting harmful cultural scripts.

I’m neurodivergent and I’ve lived with invisible physical disabilities for 20 years. I bring that wisdom to my work when it comes to connecting to your body and overcoming shame. I also have experience as an early childhood educator and I teach parents how to talk to their kids about s*x and relationships in healthy, age-appropriate ways.

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It is important to release shame around s*xuality and have access to correct information to improve this vital part of your well-being. Honey Rose Haven offers services that help people to love themselves, have passionate relationships, be present in their bodies and embrace their desires. Honey Rose Haven uses a multidisciplinary approach that includes private educational sessions, informed professionals, workshops and online courses, where you can connect, create, release s*xual shame and cultivate desire. Through connection we unwind old patterns; through mindfulness we listen to our intuition; and through education we are empowered. Our clients report that they quickly see changes in the way they experience pleasure and how they relate to their bodies and their desires.

A lot of what is taught about intimacy and s*xuality is misinformed. Em, the founder of Honey Rose Haven, created the organization to support s*xual wellbeing. Her goal is to help clients be informed with accurate information on pleasure, s*x, and relationships. You will love the safe, authentic way she helps you embrace your body and your s*xuality.

“I have been working with Em for about a year now. I have had private sessions with her, and have attended multiple workshops in that time. I had always viewed my s*xuality as something I would focus on in the future, in a different season of life. Her workshops have really opened my eyes as to what my s*xuality really is to me, and how I can embrace and love it in the stage of life I am in now. She has a way of teaching that helps you feel safe and comfortable for a subject that can bring up insecurities, be triggering, or is just difficult to talk about.

I recently had a session with Em that truly changed everything for me. I was going through something I thought might take so much time to accept and get over. In one hour I had results I didn't know I would ever have. I felt light, happy, and hopeful. As we talked, she helped me see things I normally would not have seen. She helped me accept, appreciate, and learn from heartache. She helped me understand how to grow from something that I thought would leave me worse off. It is evident how much she loves, cares for, and wants to help her clients." - Jill Poulson

Go to calendly.com/honeyrosehaven to schedule a session or to HoneyRoseHaven.org for more information.

“About a year and a half ago I was in a place of self-loathing. There were things in my life that I was in agony everyday over, one of them being my s*xuality. I was freaked out. Uneducated. Unsure of anything to do with a healthy relationship to it. I knew I had to look at this part of my life, because I knew so much pain was hidden there. I got introduced to Em and Honey Rose Haven through a good friend. I talked with her briefly over the phone before a session, and was like, well, here goes nothing.

It was a life-changing decision. Em was able to be so mindful of me, my pain, my story, and also my gifts and light and abilities. She helped shine a light on things I was terrified to look at, with so much grace and love. I didn’t have to be afraid. I didn’t have to hate myself. I could be loving and kind and mindful. She gave me insightful and beautiful education. She’s a marvel. She’s a powerhouse. She knows pains and trauma, and she knows love and light. She is SMART. (She also has no idea I’m writing this.) Thank you for helping me come out, and be more ok with who I am.” - Amy Heimbigner

Schedule a session in person or via telephone here: calendly.com/honeyrosehaven or go to
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