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30/06/2024
In my athletic career through high school and college, I experienced several kinds of coaches, and as you might expect, I performed with differing success depending on their approach.
The first coach was relaxed and non-directive. During high school track, I never learned proper training methods, hindering my performance in the 200-meter sprint. I even taught myself discus and shotput throws! While I did okay, with better guidance, I could have achieved so much more.
My experience with an angry basketball coach was equally frustrating. While I received some shooting instruction, practice time was limited to after-school sessions. My terrible shooting and constant fouls during my senior year were never addressed. The yelling and lack of clear guidance led to one of my most disappointing experiences.
Thankfully, my college experience offered a stark contrast. At West Virginia University, freshmen weren't eligible to play with upperclassmen. We received position-specific coaching, and my linebacker coach, Donnie Young, was a game-changer. He was my biggest cheerleader, providing step-by-step instructions on everything from tackling to pass defense. He celebrated my successes and offered clear direction for improvement.
Spring training under a dedicated coaching staff further exemplified the power of good coaching. At 19, I was in the best shape of my life, able to run a full 400-meter sprint. This level of fitness would have been a huge advantage in my high school track days.
These experiences highlight the profound impact coaching can have. It's not just about sports – good coaching matters in every aspect of life. Whether it's guiding our children's behavior, strengthening relationships, or achieving personal goals, the right coach can unlock our potential and propel us forward.
Do you feel like you could benefit from a supportive and experienced coach?
I'm a professional coach passionate about helping others achieve their goals. Let's talk about how I can help you develop a winning strategy and unlock your full potential. Contact me today for a free consultation!
28/05/2024
https://wibnewton.wordpress.com/2024/05/28/stepping-out-of-the-bucket/
Stepping Out of the Bucket A Lesson in Facing Fear Little League dreams can get sidelined by fastballs. At least, that’s what happened to me. I had the fielding skills, but the batter’s box was my personal House …
21/02/2024
New group for men developing right now. Starts on April 13!
Essential Leadership Skills for Strong Marriages – New Hope Resources I have interviewed hundreds of men over the course of my 35 years as a counselor. Most have said they want to be the best husband, boyfriend, and father they can be… but are struggling with feeling inadequate and often feel they are failing.
25/01/2024
https://wibnewton.wordpress.com/2024/01/25/ditching-the-bubble-wrap-and-embracing-the-grit/
31/12/2023
www.newhoperesources.com/essential-leadership-skills/
Essential Leadership Skills for Strong Marriages - New Hope Resources REVOLUTIONIZE YOUR MARRIAGE Unleash Vital Leadership Skills for Men Designed to help men gain confidence in relating and understanding their wives ENROLL NOW BOOK A FREE 30-MINUTE STRATEGY CALL I have interviewed hundreds of men over the course of my 35 years as a counselor. Most have said they want...
12/05/2022
07/02/2022
Trust Part II: How to Build or Destroy Trust is something you earn. This second submission on the topic of "Trust" reveals what one must do inorder to gain trust or to loose it.
29/01/2022
January 29, 2022 Trust determines whether a relationship is close or held at arms length. Wib addresses the view of trust being an On/Off switch. This “all or nothing” view...
17/01/2022
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B1Y3faVDmw4&t=27s
Abusing The 5 Love Languages Gary Chapman's popular book, "The Five Love Languages" has been read by thousands of people looking for relational help. Wib Newton suggests that many misin...
Sneak Preview of my latest YouTube Video https://youtu.be/B1Y3faVDmw4
18/11/2021
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q Great video on affairs and recovery
29/09/2021
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m9Pg4K1ZKws
The effect of trauma on the brain and how it affects behaviors | John Rigg | TEDxAugusta In his work with trauma patients, Dr. Rigg has observed how the brain is constantly reacting to sensory information, generating non-thinking reactions before...
All things are possible. The impossible just takes longer.
https://boonecenter.pepperdine.edu/relatestrong/group-resources/
Group Resources | RelateStrong | Boone Center for the Family | Pepperdine University Description
13/09/2021
NIMH » 5 Action Steps for Helping Someone in Emotional Pain Infographic presents five steps for helping someone in emotional pain in order to prevent su***de. Steps include: Ask, Keep Them Safe, Be There, Help Them Connect, and Stay Connected.
12/09/2021
Life Management #1 Principle: When you say "yes" to something, you are saying "no" to something else. Be careful of loading up your schedule to a point where you have no margin. You may be unintentionally eliminating important activities such as quiet time, connecting over a relaxed dinner, or playing with your loved ones.
05/09/2021
Self-care sometimes means knowing when to seek outside help. Watch this humorous TED talk which addresses this and other issues of self-care for more on this important topic: “How to practice emotional first aid | Guy Winch”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2hc2FLOdhI
How to practice emotional first aid | Guy Winch We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness...
5 Ways to Address Inner Conflict, Conclusion
Practice meditation
Finally, meditation is a great way to address inner conflict. It gives you the peace and mental clarity to reflect on your life and the things you need to change. It may take a while to get used to it, but you’ll find great beginner videos online to help.
During your meditation, consider using the 4 Steps found on the SelfTeck Mind App. I will soon be making available some meditations guiding you through these steps. This will help you mind in accepting the truths more easily and thus, assist in emotional self-regulation.
These are some of the best ways to address inner conflict. If you want to live a happy and fulfilled life, dealing with your inner critic is essential.
5 Ways to Address Inner Conflict, Part IV
Think about what you really want
What is it you really want? Often our inner conflict comes from not doing the things we desire. If you are trying to please everyone else, you are only going to end up feeling miserable. So, if you feel like you aren’t being true to yourself, take a step back. Think about what you truly want and then focus your energy on that.
5 Ways to Address Inner Conflict, Part III
Avoid making rash decisions
When you are going through an emotional time, be sure not to make any rash decisions. Think about what is best for you, without forgetting about the impact your decision will have on others.
It’s easy to make rash decisions when you are dealing with inner conflict. However, staying calm and really thinking things through your conflict is going to lead to the best decisions.
5 Ways to Address Inner Conflict, Part II
Balance your rationale and emotions.
To address inner conflict, you need to be able to balance rationale and emotion. If you tend to focus more on your emotional needs and desires, your rational thinking will be compromised. Similarly, if you were to focus only on being rational, your emotional needs would suffer. To make the best choices, learn how to balance reasons and emotions.
5 Ways to Address Inner Conflict (Part I)
Is inner conflict holding you back? When we struggle with inner conflict, it is basically a battle between our emotions and thoughts. If a situation doesn’t turn out how we expected, it can release feelings of anger, stress, fear, and frustration.
There are many different types of inner conflict. You may know you need to end a relationship, but you keep talking yourself out of it. You may know you need to adopt a healthier diet but eating the foods you love is the only thing that gives you pleasure right now. Whatever the inner conflict is, it could be holding you back from a happy, healthy life. Discover 5 ways to address inner conflicts to be happier and more fulfilled.
1. Identify and confront inner conflicts.
You’re going to find it hard to address your inner conflict if you aren’t fully aware of it. However, identifying and being aware of inner conflict isn’t always easy. After all, it is much easier to ignore confrontation and the things that make us uncomfortable.
The trouble is, when you ignore your inner conflicts, they simply get worse over time. So, start by writing down what you want and the things that are holding you back. Then, delve into your inner conflict and try and understand where it comes from. For example, is it coming from a place of fear or comfort? Often, we stay stuck in routines because it is our mind’s way of protecting us.
Watch for Part II
I heard Miss Alice play the piano this morning at church. She is 80+ and plays the keys as though it is her first language. It's beautiful to listen to as it seems so "second nature" to her. I remember quitting my piano lessons when I was in the 5th grade after only two years of playing. I also remember having 4 semesters of Greek and Spanish. I am not fluent in piano, Greek, or Spanish because I did not put the work into practicing. Without practice, it never had the chance of becoming “second nature”.
Those of you who are practicing “The 4 Steps” take this to heart. Practice, practice, practice
If you had a job you knew you could never get fired from, you probably wouldn't be a very good employee. In the same way, if you get married thinking you could never get fired from that relationship, what kind of a spouse would you be?