Puffy sleet

The worst thing about breaking up is not that you lost love, but that you gave away a part of yourself and it disappeared along with the other.

A good decision made too late is a mistake. - Lee Iacocca.

Some look brave because they're afraid to run

If you want to know what the Lord God thinks about money, then look to whom he gives it.
M. Zhvanetsky

Being good is so wearing out a person!

Four types of negation.

Denial is a mechanism of unconscious refusal to recognize some painful aspects of external reality or subjective experiences that are obvious to other people.

Our psyche is so arranged that if we are in an uncomfortable situation for too long, or the suffering from some situation exceeds the limit that we cannot bear, then it includes psychological protection in the form of denial. It manifests itself in the form of a refusal to admit to oneself the existence of something undesirable. Denial protects us from unpleasant emotions and feelings, but has a serious drawback - it does not lead to a solution to the problem, or worse, it distorts our thinking and behavior. For example, you can deny important physical needs (food, sleep, s*x), emotional needs (love, acceptance, support), financial problems, and even your own mortality.

So, there are 4 types of denial:

1️⃣ Priority (rational) denial.

A person inspires himself, and at the same time his partner (or a person who is somehow dependent) with the idea that I (or we) now have “wrong” circumstances, or “wrong” time: it’s difficult with money, children study, no a separate apartment, you need to make a career, the global financial crisis, etc.

2️⃣ Idealistic (infantile) denial.

A person thinks that somehow (in some magical way), or over time, everything will be settled, the problem will "dissolve". For example, a woman who is not respected, beaten or cheated by her husband may think: "If I behave like a Vedic woman, then the man will appreciate it, he will understand everything, he will change."

Or the words of a drug addict: "I'm not sick, it's just that now is too difficult a period in my life, so I use drugs. Soon everything will work out, and I'll quit."

Or a religiously humble variant: "everything is for the best," "I deserve it," or "for all the will of God," which forms the position of the victim. This kind of denial allows you to completely remove responsibility for the situation.

3️⃣ Aggressive (emotional) denial.

A person with a sense of righteous anger defends his erroneous position in front of other people who tell him there is a problem, despite the fact that he knows about it and feels unhappy in these circumstances.

Self-conceit (false pride), morbid pride, expressed in such a person in the setting "I'm right, and you're wrong" does not allow him to admit that he has a problem or that he, in principle, may have them.

4️⃣ Unconditional (dissociative) denial.

It may look like manipulation ("who's here?"). The person "pretends" that he has not heard or understood the information about his problem that he has just been told. Sometimes he doesn’t even “pretend”, but actually doesn’t hear, doesn’t understand, or doesn’t remember (they say about such people that they are like “in a tank”, or “hello again”), since hearing, thinking or memory blocked by affective feelings. Therefore, a person may again ask the same question (or in a different wording), or talk about a problem in the hope of hearing the answer that suits him.