Anna Stubbs, LMFT

Real Questions Answered ✔️

Join us Tuesday, July 9th CST for another conversation where we’ll be answering questions about all things s3x and s3xuality!

What questions you want answered? Add them in the comments below or send us a DM. We’ll also share to stories and you can submit your questions there.

We will be meeting monthly to chat, discuss, and answer questions that often go unanswered! Will we see you there!?

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I had the opportunity to sit down with .co to talk about marriage and premarital, s*x and theology and what it means to be “whole.” Podcast is up! Let me know what you think!

Theology of S*x | Premarital | Wholeness | Anna Stubbs | Episode 49 Licensed Marriage & Family and Certified S*x Therapist, Anna Stubbs gave us rich s*x education, all while provoking our thoughts about our beliefs about s*x....

Hello and welcome! My name is Anna and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), Certified S*x Therapist (CST) and relationship expert. I serve residents in the state of Texas offering in person and virtual services.

I created this page to share mental health related content for those interested in learning and growing as individuals within their relationships, whether they be friendships, family, intimate partner or professional/work relationships. I love helping people learn to help themselves 🥰

Personally: I love people. I call myself an extrovert, but love time to myself (just not too much time 😏). For you Myers-Briggs people -> ENFJ all the way. Enneagram 2, strong wing 3.
I married a red head 💁🏻‍♀️ We met in high school, but I’m not sure if we’d be considered high school sweethearts 🤔 We have a 2-year-old little girl who (I think) is the cutest thing I’ve ever seen.
Favorite color: 🎀💕🌸

Professionally: I primarily work with individuals and couples struggling to stay connected to themselves while staying connecting to others. I use a trauma-informed, systems approach with trauma-informed interventions. I am EMDR trained, pursuing certification, and a Certified S*x Therapist through the American Board for Christian S*x Therapists (ABCST). I primarily see couples in this area for a variety of reasons, including differences in s*xual desire, s*xual pain and s*xual dysfunctions.

I’m glad you found my page! I’ve tagged some others I’d highly recommend as well 🤘🏻💪🏻

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Please know that this page is for educational purposes only. I will not provide counseling/therapeutic services via social media or this page. To schedule an appointment please visit the link in bio. If you are a current client of mine and follow this page or my page, please know that I will not follow you back or respond to any of your comments/likes/messages. This is to ensure confidentiality. If you need to get in contact with me you may do so through email or by phone.

Consent is something that gets overlooked in a lot of marriages. Unfortunately, a lot of people are taught and adopt the belief that if they save themselves for marriage they can have all the married s3x they want with no consequence. It’s not until they get married and find themselves disappointed and confused when their partner doesn’t want s3x in the same way or the same amount that they realize “something isn’t right.” Most of the time it’s the lower desire partner that will then become “the problem.”

I’m coming to belief that most desire discrepancy issues stem from this problem. Having a difference in s3xual desire is not wrong or problematic. In fact, having a difference in desire is probably the most sanctifying gift that marriage may offer.

Giving and receiving consent requires healthy, clear, boundaried and respectful communication between both partners. If you’re coming into the marriage with the expectation that your s3x life will accommodate your s3xual desire, then you might be a big part of the problem here.

Deconstructing your s3xual beliefs and theology is a good place to start. Safe and loving relationships do not require or demand consent. That happens in abusive and oppressive relationships.

Calling ALL healthcare professionals! We are hosting our ethics CEU event this Friday. We have online and in person options! Sign up here https://aspen-haus-associates.mykajabi.com/02-24-23-registration-page

It’s official! Certified S*x Therapist🥂

Come sit with me!

We typically feel most confident in areas of our lives where we have support and guidance. Research shows only 31% of couples take a premarital relationship education program, but those who do experience higher relationship satisfaction.

So if you've just said "I do," "let's move in together!" or even "let's take this to the next level" (whatever that means for you and yours), doing preventative work can set you up for success.

Dr. Dana McNeil, PsyD, LMFT unpacks the couples therapy process on our blog: https://bit.ly/3HSiwXj

Day 1 of the Leadership Coaching Program in the books. It was exactly what I expected - so hard and laying the foundation for great things to come. I am barely getting to know the people in my cohort and I’m already so grateful for each of them and their unique hearts. 365 days of growth! Here 👏🏻 we 👏🏻 goooooo 😅♥️

Our ethics CEU event is coming up next week! Come join me and knock ✊🏻 those ethics CEUs out!

Aspen Haus Ethics CEU Workshop 2022 An ethics presentation regarding practice compliance issues for mental health professionals related to professional licensing Board complaints and litigation, as well as the use of technology and electronic communications. Leave with CEUs including Texas ethics, confidence, and peace of mind! Amanda...

Your ability or willingness to self disclose could be the key to relational fulfillment and longevity. Feeling stuck in your relationship? Your lack of self disclosure could be why. Working with a counselor can help you identify where and why you’re getting stuck. Try it 👍
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No one wins on the drama triangle. Do yourself and others a favor - stay off the triangle!

I wanted to start a series of posts with some of the content from my presentation this last week regarding family systems and boundaries.

My hope is that this information will give words to some of your experiences, validate and empower you to continue moving toward relational health.

How have you seen homeostasis (the “status quo”) disrupted in your family?

What family “rules” have you broken and been “in trouble” for?
- Everyone follows the rules, but not everyone knows what the rules are.

Does your family struggle with too much togetherness or too much separateness?

Drop your questions/comments below 👇

Aspen Haus Ethics CEU Workshop 2022 An ethics presentation regarding practice compliance issues for mental health professionals related to professional licensing Board complaints and litigation, as well as the use of technology and electronic communications. Leave with CEUs including Texas ethics, confidence, and peace of mind! Amanda...

Had an amazing experience speaking to the woman of at their today! We discussed Family Systems and Boundaries and were able to talk about how God invites us as co-creators with him to redeem what sin has distorted; our own families. By creating order out of chaos, we walked through how to identify unhealthy family system dynamics and how to set loving boundaries in response to their chaos. It👏🏻was👏🏻powerful!

What an honor and a privilege today was for me. Thank you for being such a wonderful hostess♥️

Please consider participating in this research study. The purpose of this research is to explore the relationship between issues of the pelvic floor musculature, s*xual dysfunction, and a history of childhood s*xual abuse.

We are looking for adult females that identify with a history of childhood s*xual abuse to take part in the study to help us learn more in order to further help women in their healing process.

The study involves completing 1 form, 2 surveys, and a physical examination of the pelvic floor. Our research team are professionals in mental health specializing in trauma and physical therapy specializing in women’s health and pelvic floor health.

It will take you about 15-25 minutes to complete the pelvic floor examination and 15-20 minutes to complete the surveys for a total of approximately 45 minutes to be in this study. When a participant complete the full study we are offering a $20 gift card as a small thank you for participating.

If you are interested, please contact our team today!

Dallas-Fort Worth Area
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We are excited about this upcoming coaching support group.

This unique space offers support and community in an experience that is often isolating and lonely. This is specifically for women experiencing s*xual pain.

This group is available online and can serve people nationwide!

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LPCs/LMFTs: Looking for an enjoyable ethics event that will meet the Texas board requirements? Check out the one we will be hosting!

There will be half-day and full-day options + virtual and in-person options. Let me know if you have any questions!

Aspen Haus Associates, LLC

Aspen Haus Ethics CEU Workshop 2022 An ethics presentation regarding practice compliance issues for mental health professionals related to professional licensing Board complaints and litigation, as well as the use of technology and electronic communications. Leave with CEUs including Texas ethics, confidence, and peace of mind! Amanda...

We all have our blind spots. This is why the Bible often teaches about our responsibility to speak truth to each other. We need the feedback of others to bring light to a situation — not so we can put others in their place, but so we can all perceive ourselves in the most accurate way possible.

Ali is 24. Her father was a violent man who kept to him self most of the time. You didn’t want to anger him— there would be a physical price to pay. Her mom coaches her daughters on not upsetting dad. She spends the majority of the time calming him down from his constant cycles of angers. Ali has never had a relationship with a safe man.

One night out with friends she meets Rory. He’s mid rant about how heartless women are. How they use men + get away with it. There’s an intense anger in his words. Ali immediately notices him. When they lock eyes a surge of excitement goes through her whole body. She doesn’t see his anger or beliefs about women as a red flag, instead she sees him as an innocent victim. “He’s really been hurt.” She has to help him. Immediately + unconsciously she must prove that she’s not like ‘those women.’ She’ll win his love + prove to him that she’s a special, different type of woman. They talk + flirt all night— the chemistry is palpable. She’s fit for this role.

6 months later they’re living together. While he’s not violent with her, his anger erupts almost daily. Through road rage— where Ali will beg him to stop or slow down. Through turf wars with the neighbors. Through watching the news + calling people ‘idiots’ + morons.’ When he gets fired for an explosive issue at work, he comes home enraged blaming his managers. Ali always has dinner ready for him + talks him down from his eruptions. She’s been coached on how to do this since she was little.

One day a friend comes over + tells her she saw Rory out with another woman. Ali confronts him. Rory is emotionally immature + immediately goes into a rage. “what other stories are your friends going to come up with? “You seriously believe your friend over me? You’re crazier than I thought.” He slams his fist on the dinner table. Ali’s body goes into freeze. She’s right back in childhood + she’s terrified, shaking. That will be the last time she asks Rory about other woman.

She believes he will change, eventually. And keeps trying harder + harder to show him she’s the woman he’s always been looking for. Then, she will finally be loved

Happy back to school season! Can you find which pictures is mine? 😉😄

Happy Spring. On this Easter Sunday I am reminded of the freedom there is in letting go of the things that don’t truly matter. What does Easter bring up for you?

If you want quality interactions you need quality listening.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Did you know this holiday was named after Saint Valentine, a Christian martyr who used his ministry to love on other persecuted Christians? It has turned into a cultural and commercial holiday to celebrate all aspects of “love,” including friendships and romantic partnerships.

A lot of people have a wide variety of feelings about this holiday. Do yourself a favor and make this day a day that works best for you. If you need to grief and hate this holiday, do that. If you need to lean away from romantic love and pour into the other loves in your life (friendships, hobbies, pets, etc), do that. If you need to spend the day loving on yourself, do that. Romantic love is a beautiful love and worth being celebrated, but it does not need to be idolized.

…and it’s okay for you to do celebrate it differently next year 😉

I’ll be spending the day loving on my clients and celebrating the love I have for my family. Let me know in the comments how you plan to spend your Valentine’s Day!

“Your time, energy, and focus are limited. don’t settle for making mostly good investments.”
- Gary Thomas

Are you aware of your own biases?

How does your lens impact your ability to connect with others?

Expectations: “It’ll just work out! Give it time!” Or “When things fall into place it’ll be great!”

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Reality: Time, energy, and atmosphere are given attention…practice relational attunement and learn about your partner.

You get what you give. If you’re unhappy with the way things are going, but are unwilling to make changes, you have yourself a dilemma.