Brave Awakenings Wellness

You are enough. Everything that is meant for you will come ❤️

Healing is not linear nor does the pain ever go away, but if you allow it to take up the space within you, eventually you will grow. As you grow, the grief stays, but creates more room for joy to fill 💕 Love and peace to everyone feeing pain today 💕 May it stretch you to places you never thought you could go

Creator of this work and concept is Lois Tonkin fromNew Zealand. you can learn more about this image here...
❤ https://whatsyourgrief.com/growing-around-grief/

The hardest part of healing is admitting you are ready to and only you know when it is time.

Our culture wants us to rush through the uncomfortable parts of grief to get to the healing part. WE want to rush through the hard parts so we can just feel better.

Unfortunately, healing takes time. You have to spend time sitting with it and feeling it.

I spent so much time avoiding healing and holding onto pain because it was the only connection I had left to the one that I loved. If I let go of the pain that meant I was finally letting go of all of the hopes I had for what we could be. Finally letting go of him. One can only do that when they are fully ready to accept the truth. They aren’t coming back for you. It takes time to get yourself to a place where you are ready to face that and that is ok.

You have permission to sit in your heartbreak and your pain for as long as you need to. But when the day comes when you are finally ready to heal, know that you are going to be ok and greater love is waiting for you on the other side ❤️

There came a moment where I had to make a choice. I could continue lying to myself and grasping for a one sided relationship or I could face the truth, he didn't love me back.

Holding on would mean that I had to sacrifice my own heart for someone who was not making the choice to love me the way I deserved. Letting go would mean I had to face the pain of the truth.

I held on for a long time, terrified of what was on the other side of letting go. I imagined terrible pain of loss and rejection, days filled with tears and loneliness. Then I realized that holding on was not protecting me from any of those things. I was already feeling all fo that! I was keeping myself locked in a prison of misery day in and day out waiting for him to finally choose me.

When I was ready, made the conscious choice to let go and that did come with a lot of pain, but it also came with freedom. I got myself to a place where I could breathe again, where I could enjoy life again. I stopped feeling like I wasn’t enough and was able to take back my power.

You deserve someone who will love you as deep and passionately as you love them. And you deserve to love someone as deeply as they love you.

You not wanting me was the beginning of me choosing myself.

I spent years looking for someone or something to prove to me that I was worth living. When door after door slammed in my face, I realized no one was coming for me. I had to be the one to save myself.

I am worth fighting for.

I stopped trying to force love from people who didn’t want to or weren’t able to offer it. If it wasn’t right for them, it wasn’t right for me either.

I allowed the doors that wanted to close to close and the right doors then opened for me to walk through.

Choose yourself. Everyday.
Your heart is worth fighting for.

When we heal ourselves, we heal all who came before and all who will come after.

It is difficult to heal from our traumas. Many of them can trace back generations, but it is worth the pain to walk through them in order to free ourselves, our ancestors, and our future generations.

Find a safe place, find a rhythm in your breath, feel your heart beating, begin to gently dive into the pain of your traumas and allow space for healing.

Have grace with yourself, loves. Healing is a life-long journey.

Our culture often rushes us to heal and cover up all of the uncomfortable feelings like pain and anger with safer and more pleasing feelings like positivity and hope. Comments like, “it will all be ok” or “there is a reason for everything” say to a person, your feelings make me uncomfortable. When we skip over the hard feelings, we miss out on the healing.

Just because it doesn’t feel good, doesn’t mean it is bad. Your feelings have a purpose, allow them to be what they are.

If you are in the midst of suffering, I see you. You are allowed to feel what you are feeling without apologizing . Do not skip over the hard stuff to keep yourself or other people comfortable.

Sometimes we just need to start our day with a little movement. Emotions can get stuck in our physical bodies when we choose to avoid them rather than feel them. Moving helps the emotions to flow through us instead. Emotions don’t always feel good, but that doesn’t mean they are bad.

To the one who fears to smile, afraid that it will be wiped away
To the one who fears to laugh, afraid that it will be replaced with tears
To the one who fears change, afraid that you will fail
To the one who fears love, afraid that it will be replaced with pain
To the one who fears their heart, afraid that it is full of darkness

When you armor yourself with your pain, you block out all of life’s beauty while holding onto what is not meant to be held

You cannot choose what comes to you, but you can allow it to pass through you

May you be brave
May you begin to feel your heart
May you learn to open
May you be alive
May you be free
May the peace of life flow through you

Love over fear

You are enough
You are not alone

Peace and love my dear friends ❤️

How do you heal from heartbreak?

You don’t. Not fully anyway.

New heartbreak is like a fresh wound. You can’t handle all of the pain at once so you have to numb it for a little while to get through the worst of it. You feel the pain little bits at a time while you clean out the wound, but then cover it right back up. Eventually it starts to scab over and harden. That is ok. It is good to brood in the pain for a little while. Feel the anger. Become friends with it all. In time, the wound will turn to scar tissue. Still visible, but softened. It is a part of you now.

You can’t go back to the person you were before. You can only stay where you are or move forward. You may choose to stay for a bit, to become friends with it. But eventually, the day will come when you will be ready to drop the armor of the pain and anger and risk coming back to the land of the living.

There is beauty in the scars. They are a map of where we have been and how far we have come.

When the pain comes, allow it to come. Believe that there is something happening in that painful space.

Allow the pain to carve deep into your soul and hold onto hope for dear life that by moving through it, you are creating space for greater joy, deeper love, and unending peace. I promise you, the universe is pointing you to yourself and pulling you towards good things that are meant for you. Hold on for the ride. You might have a limp at the end of it all, but you will come out the other side whole and alive.

Did you know that when you breathe, you are not physically sucking air into your lungs?

When inhaling, you are moving your diaphragm down to create space and then the difference in pressure between the space in the lungs and the atmosphere does the rest of the work.

This news was groundbreaking to me 6 years ago when I learned it.

I have a type A personality. I do nothing without a predictable plan all laid out. After stumbling over my life plan time and time again and grinding day after day, I was tired.

When I learned about the breathing process I realized that all I have to do with make the space. Now, I do 10% of the work and let life do the rest. I create the space by:

1. Connecting to my higher self
2. Allowing whatever feelings arise to come
3. Being willing to take the next right step

That next right step is not necessarily the least painful or easiest step, but it is the one that feels right. It is in alignment with my truth.

It still bugs me from time to time not always being able to see the big picture, but when the anxiety rises, I pull myself back and remind myself that all I have to do is create the space.

So do yourself a favor. Drop your shoulders down away from your ears and relax your forehead and your jaw. Take a deep breath into your belly and fill your lungs with space.

Just breathe.

I am your typical middle child. Starved for attention, I talk back, and have a never satisfied need to always understand why. I am also a highly sensitive person (HSP). I love fast, feel pain deep, and have a hard time letting go, of anything...

I learned at a young age that I was too much. I was the difficult child out of my sisters. So I tried to make myself smaller in order to make everyone more comfortable and myself more lovable. By the time I graduated high school, Anger was the only emotion I had left.

I worked my way through that in my early twenties and began to feel again, but was stifled in my relationships. My love seemed to be too much for people so I would hold it in. That created anxiety. I felt like I was crawling out of my skin trying to be a smaller version of myself so the people that I loved wouldn’t be scared away.

I eventually couldn’t hold myself in anymore. When I stopped trying to, a love came to me that actually creates a safe space for me to EXPAND!

If you need someone to give you permission, here it is:

TAKE UP SPACE!

You are NEVER too much.

If people don’t like it, they aren’t your people. Period.

Growing up in the church, I was trained that my desires were bad. I was taught to fear myself. I was taught to fear everything. As a young child I remember fearing that I was a terrible person and that I was going to hell.

I battled myself for years. Afraid of who I was. I hated myself and battled clinical depression which eventually lead to suicidal ideations. The doctors gave me drugs and that just drove me deeper into my misery.

I reached a turning point in my life where I decided to leave the church to find God. I found myself instead. When I stopped hating myself and believing that I was born bad, I was able to discover my own heart.

I spent years evaluating what my fears were and what my desires were. Once I could tell them apart, I vowed to always follow my desires over my fears. I found that my desires were pure love. The Divine gave me those desires for a reason and over and over again, when I was brave enough to chase after them rather than cower in fear, I found love.

A deeper love for myself. A deeper understanding of the Divine. A clearer vision of my truth.

If you are faced with a fork in the road and have to chose between something that will bring you life and something that is comfortable, choose life. Everytime.

Love over fear, always

Have you ever felt a calling so deep in your bones that if you didn’t follow it a part of you would die?

We all have a story and I am being called to share mine.

This is where I will share it along with the nuggets of knowledge I have gained and the things that have brought me joy or comfort along the way.

May my story offer you some sort of peace, comfort or fire.

Love over fear, always.