Adams Emotional Agility Coaching

The path of love is not always clear, but taking the leap is what truly matters. Keep working on yourself, keep showing up, and keep choosing love. Cherish love, it’s truly worth it. ❤️

Today, I challenge you to take a leap of faith in love. Write in your journal about a time when you had to surrender to the uncertainties of love. How did it make you feel? What did you learn about yourself in the process?

What do YOU want? What is getting in your way?
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We all experience fear, whether it's fear of failure, fear of rejection or fear of the unknown. But when we let fear dictate our decision making, we miss out on so many opportunities.

As humans, we seek comfort and avoid feeling discomfort. Getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable can actually lead to growth. Start embracing new experiences and challenges, even if they make you uncomfortable.

What level of listener are you? What level of listening shows up in your conversations?

The story of “It must mean…” is a powerful one. The biggest myth around relationships is that it’s someone else’s fault you are feeling the way you feel. No one can make you feel a certain way. What are you making this mean about you?

Focus the lens you see out of. Any hard moment can be an opportunity to grow.

Ever find yourself getting so attached to your thoughts that it starts to drive your behavior? The next time you find yourself getting attached to your thoughts, get curious. Are your thoughts really serving you? Sometimes, all it takes is a shift in perspective to change the way you feel and act.

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Becoming emotionally intelligent creates a more compassionate and understanding world. 🌍

Emotional intelligence is key to understanding ourselves and others. It helps us build better relationships and brings us closer to achieving our goals. From self-awareness to empathy, emotional intelligence is a powerful tool that can transform our lives for the better. 💡💪

Change can be challenging and it can be an opportunity. The choice is yours.

Practice the skill of stepping into the space between stimulus and response. Get curious about your relationship with self-regulation.

Initiate action or spend all your time reacting. Use whatever tools work for you to find the space so that you can respond instead of react. Practice regulating your emotions and ask for what you need without blame.

Our thoughts create feelings and those feelings lead to behaviors. If you want to up level your life then you have to get curious about the thoughts you believe are true and rules you are living by. Rules are the way you show up and who you think you should be. Examine the thoughts and rules that you are living by that no longer serve you.

Old rule: I should be able to get more done in the day.
Feeling: Frustrated, guilty and unsuccessful
Behavior: Frustrated with my team. Short fused and not accomplishing anything

New rule: I am getting enough done. I am showing up everyday and doing the best I can.
Feeling: Encouraged, supportive, positive
Behavior: Solution focused, active listening, part of a team

What thoughts and rules are coming up for you today? How does it impact your feelings and behavior?

Do you feel stuck in the same pattern? Don’t wait for others to show up for you. Show up for yourself. What can you do to up for yourself in this situation?

Coaching is the language of transformation. You are your greatest asset. Invest in yourself and discover the possibilities.

Coaching is the language of transformation. You are your greatest asset. Invest in yourself and discover the possibilities.

Vulnerability is key for taking a risk, showing up, allowing yourself to be seen and for connection. So how do we build a safe container where vulnerability can show up?

Vulnerability is the key to deepening your relationships. It’s taking a risk, showing up and sharing regardless of the outcome. Vulnerability is an opportunity for connection and growth. Get curious. How are you being vulnerable at work, with friends and family, and with your partner? Vulnerability is constant work because our first instinct is self-protection. How would your relationships change if you let yourself be seen?

Unspoken expectations will show up in our relationships with others. Unspoken expectations or rules are sometimes beliefs we accept as truth. It can be thoughts we have about how others should behave. When someone we are in a relationship with challenges our unspoken expectations it can cause resentment and suffering. Think of a time when someone didn’t behave the way you thought they should? What conditions do you have around their behavior? Instead of focusing on their behavior, take a moment to investigate why this behavior is triggering you. What rules are around that? What would change in your relationship if you didn’t have these rules anymore?

This week moved at a fast pace yet the days were long. My to do list kept getting longer and I was diligently working through it but found myself agitated. My responses started to become quick and sparky. Sparky is the feeling that I have come to know and love. It is the spark that happens when I have taken something personal or made it mean something about me. The spark indicates that I had two choices moving forward. The first choice is to let that spark ignite into an uncontrolled flame that damages myself and the other person or I can take a moment to get curious about the spark.

Getting curious looks like writing down my thoughts or speaking them aloud on my notes app. Just putting them in another place helps me look at them from a different perspective. It turns the spark down. Then I list the things I can control.

It always comes back to me and what I can control. Myself. That’s the dance I do with my spark. I don’t always choose curiosity but the times I don’t are getting fewer.

Emotions can be there and we can choose to take action. What if your emotion was not a problem? What would it look like to take action even when you are feeling emotional?

Get curious about what you do by default when you are feeling emotional. It might look like…

Shutting down
Procrastinating
Being small
Negative self-talk
Transmitting your negative energy on others

What is the need behind the emotion?
When was a time in the past that you took action even when you didn’t feel like it? What can you choose to do in this moment even when you feel emotional?

Allowing an emotion and taking action builds resilience.

Boundaries support what you are comfortable with and how you would like to be treated by others. Brene Brown describes boundaries as “what’s okay and what’s not okay. Boundaries must be clear and communicated. When boundaries aren’t share they become unspoken expectations. What are you allowing? What are you tolerating? What role are you playing? What boundary can be set?