The Conscious Village

Have you ever given this much thought? If you were absolute perfect, what would your child looks back on and say they were taught?

If we embrace our human-ness and imperfection ..we model how to bounce back. Think of the valuable lessons your kids will learn by watching you use that amazing, resourceful brain of yours!

So, lean into those "mistakes" ..those "oopsie doodle" moments. Talk it out loud to your kids and express how you're going to remedy that situation. Throw in some compassion to yourself too!

Our self talk becomes our kids self talk!

I will say this again: Because little "t" trauma isn't always a single event you can point to, it can go unnoticed or ignored.

Many of my clients come in to discuss their healing needs and will express they had a great childhood. Nothing big happened, they weren't abused or physically neglected ..this is amazing! I love to hear this.

However ...When working the ThetaHealing process, whatever concern is coming up to be healed, it IS LINKED to small "t" trauma. An overarching theme of, "well that's just the way it was". Ok, buuuut that energy is what taught you to shove aside your emotions and not express what you think or feel and now you're living a life you're completely miserable in, feeling like a slave to everyone and no one cares about you ...do you see the cycle here?!

We are cyclical beings and if we don't call attention to and disrupt the cycle, it will keep going! So ..if there is something that is causing you misery, if there is a reason you go to bed at night shoving down your tears of hopelessness ..that's where you gotta start!

You don't have to go it alone. I would be so honoured to guide you through this process. It is gentle, loving, supportive and non-judgmental! If any of this resonates ..even if you don't know where to start, that's ok. I have clients come in all the time, "I don't know what I need" ..perfect! You are in the right place. They walk out having more awareness, feeling lighter and having their top issues resolved.

DM me to discuss best options, or dive in and book a session!

Because little "t" trauma isn't always a single event you can point to, it can go unnoticed or ignored. Due to it's sneakiness, it should be taken as seriously as big "T" Trauma! It grabs and holds on to us so easily.

The biggest, most prevalent form of small "t" trauma is emotional neglect. And most often it's not intentional. Our parent's modeled after their parents, who modeled after theirs and so on.

When we heal, it isn't about placing blame. It's about recognizing what your experience was, validating it and shifting to a new way of being.

I am calling on everyone to take notice of where they feel icky, triggered, hopeless, sad, angry, bitter ..and see where it stems from. I am here to help you on that journey because it can be scary to do it on your own!

Stay tuned ..tomorrow I will be posting the implications of little "t" trauma.

It took me a long time to learn that perfection is not a thing. Even if it were, it doesn't set out kids up for success. They need to see imperfection and mistakes so they can see how to bounce back in these situations.

Modeling is the best teacher and our kids need to see us stumble! So breathe and let yourself be human ..

I needed to know this information! Emotions are a tough one, and one that has so much conditioning attached to it!

Both my children are so different in this aspect and I know how to guide them through their big feelings on an individual level.

My son, needs labels for his emotions. He needs me to see and validate them. My daughter, she doesn't need the label, she needs the physical connection to guide her through the big emotion.

All of this can be explained in your child's Human Design chart. I have a workshop, Understanding Your Child Through Human Design, which will walk you through their chart. It explains what you're looking at and how to implement important information such as this!

The link is in my bio, check it out today!

We all have challenges. You can use your child's Human Design chart to see where those challenges may be and guide them through. This will create a resilient, resourceful child, teen and adult!

It's also an amazing tool to have as a parent. You can see where they may face difficulty and you can prepare yourself for how to guide in certain situations.

Whenever I see this one aspect in a child's chart, where I can see how their sense of identity can be easily influenced by others; I advise the parent to help their child build a sense of individuality. Prompt the child to check in with themselves when you see them ask for external validation. This will instill in the child a habit of asking themselves what is true for them, rather than going along with a group.

Check out my workshop, Understanding Your Child Through Human Design! I walk you through your child's chart and how to use this information to raise a good, confident human! The link is in my bio!

Imagine how different your life would be if your natural gifts and talents were realized, encouraged and honoured as a young kid. What a beautiful gift that would be!

In my workshop, Understanding Your Child Through Human Design, I help you to read your child's chart and recognize these gifts. There's so many options out there for extra-curriculars and you can narrow this down by knowing where to lean in based on your childs chart.

Get this workshop today! The link is in my bio!

Fun fact!! I used my son's preferred environment to potty train!

My son was a camel ..during training he wouldn't have accidents, he would hold ALL DAY LONG! Doesn't matter how much fluid I would give to him. This was actually my first experiment with Human Design.

According to my son's cart, his preferred environment is a cave. This environment style is self-explanatory. So, in my head I figure, he needs to feel safe to release on the potty. So I made him a little tent in his closet and put his potty in there with some books. IT WORKED! HE LOVED IT! He did it a few times, realized he wasn't gonna die from peeing on the potty and didn't need the tent anymore. It was a success!

A child's environment can be used in many ways and becomes increasingly important as they get older. Teach them young, so that when they are older, they will remember and use this tool to help regulate their nervous systems.

Have you heard of generational trauma?! It's a scientific fact that what you're ancestors endured, changes your genes and can effect your behaviours and mindset.

This is where healing is amazing! If you decide that whatever your lineage has in store for you doesn't serve you, YOU CAN SHIFT THE WHOLE DAMN THING! And, this is what I did.

Join me Cycle Breakers ..let's shift into alignment and teach our children the true power we have as humans!

Does this happen to you? You get to an event and your kid is clinging to you for dear life? How do you handle this situation?

If you don't know what to do or just don't understand it AT ALL! I can help! There are aspects of your child's Human Design Chart that will help you understand what is happening for your child. Therefore, it will help you in these situations to either give grace or know how to guide them.

My daughter, almost 3 years old is so up and down with her excitement or hesitation to socialize ..and I know why. I know that with her, I just gotta meet here where she is at in any given moment. I am her safe place, her plug and I know that when she is ready, she will jump in. If she isn't, I listen to her cues to leave. I am teaching her, from a young age, to trust her instincts and herself.

I love being a part of a family's transformation! It really reminds me of why I am here, doing this work!

Think back to your own childhood. Do you remember who you authentically were? Can you take a moment to step back in? When was it that your felt like you had to shift and alter your being in order to be accepted?

We can't let our kids feel this way! I spent the majority of my adulthood shifting through the conditioning to find who Megan really is! What could I have done with that time if I wasn't wading through all this sh**?!

I am determined not to let my kids waste their time. I want them to be who they are and find their people!

This can be a difficult concept, especially if you're struggling with this yourself. In the second slide are ways you can work with me. I would love to help you through this, I'm just a couple steps ahead and I am eager to help you along ✨💛

Has this happened to you? Child is completely inconsolable ..and you don't know WTH is wrong because you can't understand through the tears!!!!

Sigh ...Just thinking about it gets my body worked up but I have a solution for you. Your child's Human Design chart will tell you how your child best regulates their emotions.

Just a month or so ago, my daughter was in the back seat of the car, losing her mind. She wanted something she couldn't have in that moment and she was purple in the face! Knowing her chart, there are 2 aspects that tell me that TOUCH is very meaningful to her and helps to regulate emotions.

As soon as it was safe, I pulled over! I went to the back and I hugged her. She calmed down immediately, I help her a moment longer. She took a deep breath and said, "Thank you mama". It brought tears to my eyes. Who cares if we are "late", what matters is my child feels seen and loved through those big emotions!

Knowing how my children regulate has been a game changer for our connection and how I teach them about calming their emotions. This is why I created Understanding Your Child Through Human Design! It's a self-paced workshop, watch and follow along on your own time ..designed for those brand new or well-versed in HD. It's seriously a cheat sheet for parenting!

This offer was inspired by true events. I created this Cord Cutting Meditation for Parents after I channeled one for my son and I.

My son was born via c-section. My experience was traumatic, it was my worst case scenario and I wanted none of it! I was desperate and pleading with the doctors for more time. I wasn't ready to be done being pregnant and I felt my son wasn't ready to come out. It was a mess of emotion.

Cord Cutting is used to release and shift energy between 2 people that isn't working anymore. In my case, fear, desperation, holding on for dear life ..all of this caused my son's separation anxiety and illness when he started preschool. When I released these cords and replaced it with new emotions (all which you're guided through in this meditation) ..the next day he did not cry at drop off and he hardly got sick! I was astounded, so I recorded this meditation that save mine and my son's relationship to share with you.

In the first part of this recording, I explain the uses and benefits ..if something resonates with you, continue on to complete to Cord Cutting. If something isn't sitting right ..you can turn it off!

Now, go claim this gift ...even if your children are all grown up! Go to the link in my bio, click Freebies and get "Cord Cutting Meditation for Parents"!

When I realized what was happening, it was a true SMH (smack my head) moment!

It's happened on multiple occasions but I will tell you of the first time it happened. I had really dove deep into Human Design and learning my children's chart ..my son especially.

It was a Saturday morning, we were excited for our first family mini trip ..my daughter's first night away from home. We were going to a hotel for the night!!! WITH A POOL! How exciting ..my son, 4 at the time had never been to a hotel. Well aside from a Cuban resort but we won't go there LOL.

That morning, my son was acting absolutely ridiculous. Grunting, rolling around, not listening at all. This kid was completely off his rocker! After hours of this behviour, it FINALLY hit me ..I ran and grabbed my book! This is how his type expresses stress and a child with his profile type, Profile 4 gets VERY stressed when they don't know what to expect.

I yelled, HE'S NEVER BEEN TO A HOTEL BEFORE!!!! So I got Google images and Youtube and the hotel's website and I showed him what we were gonna do! Completely curbed his behaviour. He was calm, politely and appropriately excited. His nervous system calmed.
.took a while for the Hubby and I to calm down from the sh** show but man, I was so happy to have this knowledge in my back pocket.

Knowing my child's design has saved my butt so many times, that's why I created my Understanding Your Child through Human Design workshop. Designed for those brand new or well-versed in HD. You can follow along at your pace and learn key information to support your kids ...and yourself!!

Learn from my mistakes; I was so used to putting everyone else in front of me that it took me suffering from horrific migraines and being diagnosed with a BRAIN ANEURYSM to get it through my head that I needed to put myself on the list of priorities.

When we don't take rest, our body will force us to rest. So don't be a Megan! Take rest before a scary diagnosis!

Rest can look like; a hobby you enjoy (baking, reading, painting), delegating or hiring out a task you don't like (hiring a cleaner or lawn service), look for a babysitter you trust & USE them, go to bed early, grounding on the earth and taking in some sun ...

If you are currently in a state similar to the one I found myself in, we can find healing in it. Please DM me and we can discuss how I can support you to find rest and finally take care of you!

Did you know that there are 5 energy types in Human Design, and that each type has a preferred communication style? If we don't honour that communication style, you can see behvaiour issues or attention seeking behaviours?!

Knowing your child's type is crucial to adjusting communication styles ...if you want open communication and connection. Good thing I created a workshop that will help you learn about your child's type and how to communicate with that type. This is all in my Understanding Your Child Through HD - Level 1.

Save yourself a whole lot of trouble and power struggles!

This wasn't always easy for me. I felt my duty was to keep my kids happy ..anything other than meant I was a complete failure. I intended to placate and bribe away the tantrums.

Thank God for my son, who just had the most epic meltdowns. He was NOT a happy camper ..so I set out to learn about tantrums and how to help him through. I realized, first I needed the healing.

I needed to heal my triggers around big feelings. I prided myself on not feeling ..hello disassociation and avoidance!!! I re-learned what emotions actually are. They are messengers. They alert us, they guard and protect us.

I remembered the child development courses I took and dove deeper into that learning. I needed to have appropriate expectations of my child. Kid's can't regulate their emotions ..but I could! I learned how to regulate my big emotions and I frequently model them in front of my kids. They are watching and I am imprinting this important information now while they are young.

It's never too late to heal. I am here for it ..and for you!

How often does this happen to you? Your child's teacher pulls you aside and expresses concerns ...or you notice concerns regarding your child learning.

Our schools are built in a "one-size fits all" manner, for the most part. Instead of allowing the school to problem solve for your child, or bringing in experts to help you decide the fate of your child ..when YOU ARE THE TRUE EXPERT ON YOUR CHILD!

Learning your child's Human Design will help you understand how your child learns, what specific needs they have to learn and retain information and how to nurture their gifts. It will validate, what you ALREADY KNOW to be true and give you the language to advocate for your child in the case your child is struggling in school.

You can also use what you learn in this workshop to teach your child more about themselves. It gives you both space to recognize and honour your child's natural inclinations.

What an amazing gift to give your budding human! Check out my workshop today, the link is in my bio ✨💛

Come on parents ..YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT! lol! I really hope this lil' checklist here can give you some grace in these moments of complete chaos. If you need, remove yourself from the room and go through this list!

If one of these hits as a potential issue, what is in your power to mitigate the situation?! "oh boy, I forgot we stayed up late at the movies last night. You must be pretty tired. Should we reschedule your playdate so we can stay in and snuggle?"

"You came back from gramma's and she sure loves to give you treats! We should probably drink extra water and have a banana to bring your body back to balance".

Let your child know you see them and that you feel their distress. It makes a big difference!

Understanding how your child makes decisions through human design is essential for effective parenting. It allows you to tailor your guidance, communicate effectively, identify potential challenges, and empower your child to embrace their uniqueness and make choices aligned with their authentic selves.

This knowledge fosters their development, strengthens the parent-child bond, and empowers them to lead fulfilling lives based on their true nature.

Want to know more? Check out my free webinar! The link is in my bio under "Freebies"!
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ALL your feelings are valid! Your emotions are showing you what you need and as parents we tend to stuff down our needs because there are much louder beings calling for our attention.

If you don't have family to help, consider a friend you trust ..maybe you trade off taking each other's kids so you each get a break. Get creative! We need community ✨
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Knowing your child's energetic needs through Human Design is important because it provides valuable insights into their unique strengths, learning style, emotional tendencies, and overall well-being. This knowledge allows you to tailor your parenting approach, create an optimal learning environment, nurture their emotional health, foster harmonious relationships, and empower their self-discovery. Understanding their energetic blueprint unlocks their potential and helps them thrive in all aspects of life.

Book your individual or family HD reading, or, snag my self-study workshop; created to teach you how to read and interpret your child's chart!