Healing with Kalee

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5 whole days of loving you 💙🩵

Taking today to honor those who served before me and are currently serving 🇺🇸

In our life, we go through seasons.

Seasons of love, career, fitness, mindset. You name it.

It’s taken me a long time to accept some seasons are slower than others.

As much as I still want to compete in a bodybuilding competition, the gym just seems like a hassle right now. I just do not want to go.

Instead I’ve found myself taking the dogs for walks, going to yoga classes, and even indoor rock climbing.

Instead of tracking my macros I’ve found myself eating intuitively. Ensuring I have protein with every meal and eat my fruits and veggies. Drinking 100oz of water every day.

And guess what? That’s okay! I’m in a season of transition.

Its okay to slow down sometimes, the most important thing is YOU DONT STOP. You don’t stop moving forward. No matter how slow.

Are you hustling right now or relaxing?

Five years. 1,851 days.

Five years of wearing this uniform.

Five years of selfless service.

Five years of blood, sweat and tears.

Five years.

What’s felt like a lifetime has also went by in the blink of an eye.

I don’t even know how to put into words all the emotions I’m feeling as I have 2 full work weeks left.

I promise you it doesn’t feel real.

So here’s your reminder to cherish the time you have.

Feel gratitude.

Have compassion.

Love others.

Most importantly, love yourself.

Let’s make a pact. The words “I can’t” won’t come out of your mouth again. Instead replace them with “I’m not willing to” or “I won’t allow myself”, etc.

There are two types of people in this world. The doers and the donters. The doers rule the world. The donters help the doers run it.

Do you really want to allow society to make you live in mediocrity? Or are you ready to step up and give yourself permission to live up to your potential?

As adults, we often find ourselves saying “when I make X amount of money I’ll be happier” or “when I buy a bigger house/car I’ll be happier”. But those things won’t actually make you happier.

Here are some simple tips to creating your own happiness:

🎶 go for a drive with your best friend, music up, windows down

🎶 dance it out

🎶 spend a night at an Airbnb somewhere in nature (or camp!)

🎶 go somewhere you can see the stars, and just lay there

🎶 spend money on an experience for you and a loved one, something you’ve been wanting to do

🎶 go on nature walks

Working yourself to death for that promotion isn’t going to make you happier. Neither will that raise. Or that nice car, big house. Finding yourself though, finding yourself will make you happier than you’ve felt since you were a child ✨

Hump day reminder 💕 life is short, don’t forget to stop and look around once in a while 💫

Happy Sunday peeps 🧡

Little hump day reminder 💕

Happy Monday babes 😘

Your Friday afternoon reminder 💕

Are you going to let the fear consume you?

Same picture, new rank 😎 I said it all last month, but I am truly grateful to have been mentored by these two gentlemen. SGT Lancaster 🫡🪖🔒

I was barely passing tape, I was barely fitting into my uniform pants, and I was so unhappy with myself. I thought I was doing everything right though. I was going to the gym every day. My diet consisted of lean cuisines (and ONLY lean cuisines). I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t losing weight.

Does that sound like you?

There’s a saying you can’t put exercise a bad diet. There’s another saying in the army in response to that… which is “hold my beer, watch this”. I swear the army is full of some of the fittest fat people I know.

I’ve spent the last 3 years trying different supplements and yo-yo diets to no avail. Until I found macros.

🥨 no more starving myself

🥯 no more depriving myself of the things I LOVE (I’m a pizza kinda gal)

🍔 breaking out of the mindset of eating 1200 calories or less a day

🍕gaining my energy back

🍟 being able to intentionally gain weight without gaining much fat

🌮 being able to intentionally lose weight without losing much muscle

The list can go on.

If this sounds too good to be true, shoot me a DM and we can chat all about how macros aren’t another fad diet 🥰

Glow-Getter (noun)

A driven busy girl who strives to achieve her goals in life while attaining a beautiful glow both inside and out.

You better watch out for women like her, they’ll jump right back from anything that tries to destroy them, these are the women who’s watched over by ghosts of all the women in history, who weren’t allowed to tell their stories. Not only will they rise, they’ll break the circle, they’ll break the silence, they’ll grow a new tongue and they will roar, they’ve got their back covered and they’re not afraid of their power. You don’t mess with that.

I have been in survive mode for too long, now it’s time for me to live 💫💞

She was on a journey.

It didn’t look like the journey
she had planned.
In fact, sometimes she felt lost.
That part was hard.

And yet she kept trying.

She kept putting one foot
in front of the other.
She kept moving.
She kept having faith in the future.
She didn’t stop.

She kept going.

- Rachel Marie Martin

If you want opportunity to knock, it’s time to build a door 💞💫🌸

Ladies! Let me ask you a question, and I want you to think about it before giving your answer.

Who decided the ideal weight for a woman was 125lbs?

Recently I joined a new Facebook ground and every woman I see posting, despite their age, height, activity level, pregnancies, etc. says their goal weight is 125lbs or less.

WHY IS THAT THE MAGIC NUMBER?!

What if instead of determining your worth and level of attractiveness on the scale, you determined it on how good you feel in your own skin?

Did you know your ideal body (you know, the one you picture yourself looking like one day) is most likely 10-15lbs heavier than you think it’s going to be?

Just for this week, I challenge you to focus on how you feel rather than what the scale says.

I’m fact, if you’re so attached to that number, put the scale away. Far away. Until you realize it is just a number, it is just another unit of measurement to determine your progress. It is not the only unit of measurement to determine your progress

With love,

Kalee

I’m going to tell you guys a little secret…

Are you ready?

I love the Army and deciding to move on at the end of my contract has been the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make.

Here’s why:

🍕 The Army has made me grow has a person more than I ever expected. I have so many thanks to give to this profession. It truly saved my life.

🍟 I am the leader I needed as a young private. To know I won’t be that leader for another Soldier is heart breaking.

🌮 Did anyone else forget I moved to Japan for THREE YEARS and it never cost me a dime?

🍔 I have had some of the best… and the worst times of my life. And while the Army didn’t help during my lows (maybe even made them lower) I have come to realize and accept they would have happened regardless of what career path I was leading. They were experiences I needed to have to continue on my soul’s journey. As for the best times, once again I spent three years of my 20’s on a tropical island?? I partied, I explored, I healed, I broke, I lost myself, I found my home… and I couldn’t have done it without this job.

Honestly I can go on and on about how life changing the last 5 years have been since I put these boots on. So why am I leaving?

🌭 I have dreams bigger than this life. Never knowing when I’ll move next, friends being taken away as quickly as they came, and the toxic leaders outweigh the wonderful ones.

🥞 I feel it in my soul that my lessons I needed to learn from this chapter have been learned, staying here will make me stagnant.

🥓 Starting over AGAIN feels scary, which is EXACTLY why I need to do it.

If you’ve read this far, thank you. Your support means the world to me and I have so much gratitude for each and every one of you. The next few months (honestly the rest of this year) will be crazy as I make the transition from Soldier to civilian. Understand I have not made this decision lightly, and it pains me to move on from such an influential time in my life, but it is time and I feel as ready as I’ll ever be.

Unstoppable they called her, but I saw her stop, I saw her stop many times. Sometimes I thought she had stopped for good, but no, she always found a way to resurrect. Rise again. Not the same, never the same. Each time a little more determined and a little less vulnerable. Unstoppable they said, but I think, it was in the stopping, that she found her power.

Donna Ashworth

Day 121/365

Celebrate yourself today. Celebrate your victories. Celebrate your losses. And celebrate every little thing you have done so far this year.

Take time to set goals for the month of May. Maybe it’s a budget. Maybe it’s to meditate. Maybe it’s to drink more water. Maybe it’s to leave that job you hate. Finish a degree or a certificate maybe? Or maybe your goal for this month is to simply enjoy life.

Whatever your goals are for May, share them in the comments! Speak them (or type them in this case) into existence!

With love and light so mote it be 🤍🖤

Today, I would like to take a pause and thank these two brilliant leaders for their guidance, mentorship, and belief in me.

When I arrived to this unit I was broken, hesitant, and quite frankly skiddish. My last unit absolutely broke me. I told 1SG and CDR all about it, and rather than judge me for my actions, they provided me with guidance on how to get back up on my own two feet again.

Over the last seven months they have supported me in all my endeavors. They ensured I was challenged in my work, placed me in a position 3 ranks higher than I am, pushed me to continue my degree, and recognized the leader I have within me.

I’m very sad to be parting ways with both of these pivotal leaders shortly, but I will always be grateful for the time I spent under their wing.

CPL Lancaster 🪖

The first coach I ever hired sent me spiraling.

And I don’t mean that in a bad way!

Sometimes we think we’re heading in one direction and life takes you and throws you like a football in the complete opposite direction!

She showed me to the rabbit hole, and I gobbled that red pill down.

Without that first coach I hired, I wouldn’t be who I am today.

Sometimes you can’t just lead a horse to the water, sometimes you have to teach it how to drink it as well.

If you’re ready for a 180 life change, my 1:1 coaching might be for you!

Swipe ⬅️ to see a scroll down memory lane!

I spent my late teens and early 20’s acting like I was grown up.

I haven’t lived with my parents in 9 years.

When I was 20 I bought a car I couldn’t afford and moved into a house my boyfriend who was 10 years older than me had just bought.

When I was 21 I let my army recruiter convince me to marry my -new- boyfriend. But I thought it was okay because I always wanted to marry young and start a family.

When I was 22 we got divorced after he spent all my money on alcohol and v**e juice, being evicted from our apartment, and not paying any of my other bills in the 10 short weeks I was in basic training.

At 22 again I fell into an abusive relationship. When I got to Okinawa it took my roommate (now one of my best friends), her (now) husband, and one of our other friends taking away my phone, turning it off, hiding it, and calling our NCO’s to get me out of it. I’m so thankful for them.

Yet once again, I thought it was okay because I wanted to be finished having a family by 27…

24 is when my world completely crumbled. Every wrong decision I had ever made came crashing down on me. My mother compared me to my narcissistic father…

It was bad.

25 I had to pay the consequences for my actions over the last 5/6 years. Yet, I finally stopped blaming everyone around me. I learned to take responsibility for my life and for my actions. I realized it was no one’s fault but my own for how my life was going.

I realized I tried to grow up too fast.

At 26 I finally feel like I’m starting to figure things out. I’ll be 27 in a couple of months and I laugh at the fact 20 year old me thought I’d be DONE having kids by now.

At nearly 27 I am healing my trauma, accepting myself as I am, I’m the best shape of my life, and most importantly 𝘏𝘈𝘗𝘗𝘠!

Navigating your early adult life is hard, you don’t have to do it alone. DM me “grown up” if you want support 💞

Collective energy reading for the month of April! Once again take what feels good and leave what doesn’t ☺️

How hard are you willing to work for what you want? This card is remind you that effort is required. Work issues may be about to come a head when this card comes up. If you are wondering if you should stay in your job or leave, this card can be a strong sign to make an exit. The end of a rough time to forecast. This card also asks you to consider how ambitious you are and whether you’re prepared to pull out all the stops to make your professional dreams come true, without being ruthless. With a love question, this card can be a call to face reality. Whatever situation you’re asking about, making a plan will help. If your personal life is troubled, prioritize it more.

Admit if you have been overly head-headed or hard-nosed.

Find a balance between your personal and private lives.

It’s time to stop fearing the worse.

Collective energy reading for the week ahead! Take what feels good, leave what doesn’t 😌

There is a “yes!” coming your way. This is one of the most auspicious cards in the deck; it’s totally positive and suggests something new and exciting is developing. The situation you’re asking about is blessed, and you are on target to achieve your goals. The message from the Universe is that you’re starting all over again in some way, be thay on a new or better course or just feeling more positive about achieving your desired outcome. If you’ve been feeling stagnant, this card reminds you that life goes in cycles and you’re moving into a new cycle now. This is the time to wipe the slate clean. If the situation you asked about had become toxic, either that will clear up now or something totally new and fresh is on its way.

You will soon start to feel more hopeful about getting what you want.

Your belief that your dreams can manifest is working well.

Forget about the past.

Dear April, please don’t fool me 🖤🤍

We are on day 91 of 2022. You’ve probably fallen off from your goals for the year a while ago and honestly haven’t given them a second thought. That’s okay, you’re only human!

What if you could hit reset this month? But this time with an accountability partner.

Need a look into what the next couple of months is going to bring you?

Feeling like you energy is out of alignment?

Girl, I got you.

There’s 3 spots open for my 1:1 coaching program, this will be entirely customized to YOU! We’ll dive head first into whatever you feel the need for, fitness, nutrition, energetic health, or a combination of the three!

Free tarot and oracle 3 card readings all month! This can help give you insight into what changes you can make over the next month to hit your goals or get back on track.

Or you can book a distance reiki healing session to feel refreshed and ready to get back at it!

April is the month we get back on track and back in alignment with our best selves 🥰

Head over to the link in my bio to secure your spot, they won’t last long!

Successful people have unwavering morning and night time routines.

How many of you have heard that before?

For years that limiting belief has made me feel like a failure, like I would never be successful, just because I HATE routines.

Yeah you heard me. I hate them.

Let’s break it down:

Routines are great for building habits! But they can be mundane and boring. Especially once the habit becomes second nature.

Instead, use routines as tools. We are creatures of habit, so when trying to build a new one or break an old one, routines are useful. To quote the book Atomic Habits, “make it easy” is the third law of building a habit. Routines are easy.

But they aren’t the end all be all.

I’ll be going live tomorrow night at 5pm CST to to into detail over routines and habits! Drop your favorite emoji if I’ll see you there 🥰

Big announcements coming for the month of April! New ways to work with me 💕

“Progress over perfection” a concept we subconsciously reject.

Let me tell y’all a story that I’ve kept a secret until now.

June makes 5 years in the Army for me 😱 let me tell y’all, they have not been pretty. But that’s not totally the point here. The point is I was fast tracked to my first NCO rank. I wore Corporal stripes just 3.5 years into my career, while some of my peers had been waiting 6/7/8 years to wear them.

I went to the first NCO school the Army makes us take at the same time as all of them who had been in 4+ years longer than me. I was an overachiever, per usual. I always have been 🤓

I was humbled though.

In May of last year I was found guilty after a 5 month long investigation. The guilty matter is remaining undisclosed at this time, I’ll get there… eventually. They took my rank and reduced me back down to a private (PFC to be exact), they took my pay, and they took my time. I served 45 days of extra duty as my last hoorah on the island of Okinawa.

I should have made the list for promotion to Sergeant last April. Almost a year ago. Instead I’ve come to my next duty station as a PFC, earned my Specialist rank back, and am now going 𝘣𝘢𝘤𝘬 to the promotion board next week to 𝘩𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘺 make the list for Sergeant in May.

What does this have to do with progress over perfection?

I didn’t let any of this stop me. I didn’t let my past actions prevent me from achieving the goal I had set out for when I re-enlisted. I knew I was leaving the Army as a Sergeant. No matter what.

Life knocks you back sometimes. Maybe I wasn’t ready to wear those Sergeant stripes this time last year. Maybe I needed more growth. Maybe I needed to feel worthy of them. To know I truly deserved them. Who actually knows, the Universe has a funny way of acting.

So next time you feel like you’re going backwards, or you feel like you can’t do anything right. Remember this one thing: it’s better to fail a thousand times and succeed once than to never have tried anything at all. Progress is the key to success.

Three things I wish I had known before starting my self development journey:

1️⃣ Start small, build little habits. Habit stacking and the compound effect are legit.

2️⃣ You’re never going to feel “ready” and you’re sure as hell not going to be motivated every day. Do it anyway.

3️⃣ Some days/weeks/months it may feel like you’ve taken a giant step back, that’s okay. The Universe (or your preferred higher power) has a plan. You might end up discovering something better.