Self Love 101

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Always be unapologetically and unadulteratedly you. Then find your tribe. 🙏♥️💪

A ritual. A habit. On purpose. Every day... 💪❤️🙏🏾

I don't know who needs to hear this but you need to listen. You were a child when it happened. You were a child when you were making those mistakes. You were a child and your judgment wasn't fully developed. You were a child and you should have been protected. You were a child and you were still learning right from wrong. And because you were a child, you cannot be held responsible for those mistakes and for those traumas that you experienced. So please, forgive yourself and allow yourself to heal. Those experiences were a part of the learning process and you should no longer allow yourself to be trapped in that pain and in that trauma. You are guilty of nothing because you were a child... ❤️🙏

Listen. People have been indoctrinated to be obsessed with the idea of this everlasting, eternal, infinite love and being married until the day that you die. I don't know who created these ideas and values but if we're going to use critical thinking and objectivity and logic, then we really have to look at nature for what it is. In nature, especially human nature, there are so many behaviors, circumstances, and conditions that can cause people become combative, unattractive, repulsive, and to fall out of love. And even if they don't fall out of love, and even if there is still a physical attraction and sexual desire, there are behaviors and attitudes that people can develop that makes those relationships painful, toxic, and undesirable. And instead of pressuring and shaming people to think that they have to always be with this one individual for the rest of their lives or that they are obligated to fix the things that are making their relationships toxic and painful, perhaps we should start advising people that marriage doesn't have to be a permanent contract for the rest of your life. Your relationship with a person doesn't always have to be unconditional, absolute, and unadjustable. Perhaps we should tell people it's okay to end a relationship or get divorced if that relationship is not making you happy and if it's not healthy and if you've tried to resolve your problems and it just doesn't work, then it's okay to move on. We should teach people that the love that they have for themselves is more important than the love you have for someone else or the love that someone else has for you. Perhaps we should be teaching people not to sacrifice their dignity, self-respect, peace, happiness and the quality of their mental health for a title, a label, social, status or societal approval.

Human beings are the type of creatures that feel, observe, learn, adapt grow, process, change, and evolve. We shouldn't be telling people that adaptation and growth and change is bad. We shouldn't be telling people that they should prioritize a status or title over their health and happiness. We shouldn't be telling people to remain in situations that don't benefit them any longer. We should be telling people and teaching people that it's okay to be fluid and free and that it's okay to outgrow people and situations and that it's okay to move on if that's the best thing for everyone involved or even if it's just the best thing for you. We have to realize and understand that emotional attachment can sometimes be unhealthy, toxic, and and lead to trauma.

Our priorities are screwed up. Society has caused us to be so obsessed and dependent with these labels and these titles and these images and approval from society. Priorities should be mental health and harmony and peace of mind. And if that means divorce, then we shouldn't turn it into such a sad, shameful, depressing, and painful thing. Divorce can be beneficial and happy and healthy but y'all not ready for that conversation. Y'all still wrapped up in the fantasy...

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There is something that I am inspired to share with everyone from my personal diary. This is today's entry and I hope that this revelation is as beneficial and helpful to you as it is for me.

Wednesday, May 26th, 2021
8:35 pm - Today is the day did I make the conscious, sound, and wise decision to no longer allow any negative, adversarial, disagreeable, antagonizing, hateful, evil, jealous, coveting, or otherwise enemy spirit, person, or energy to ever again demean, debase, deceive, bully, antagonize, discourage, pressure, shame, guilt trip, or otherwise try to convince me that I am not capable enough, that I am not worthy enough, that I am not intelligent enough, that I am not informed enough, that I am not strong enough, that I am not wise enough, that I am not brave enough, or that I am not powerful enough to achieve anything that I desire and strive to achieve or to become anything that I so choose to become. I acknowledge, accept, understand, comprehend, overstand, speak into existence, and affirm that I am no longer a slave or a prisoner to anyone's lies, fear, doubt, misery, shame, standards, criticisms, or expectations. I am no longer a victim of my circumstances. I am no longer a victim to someone else's imagination.

I acknowledge, accept, understand, and affirm that I I'm responsible for my own happiness, sanity, and energy. I acknowledge, accept, understand, and affirm that I hold the power to my destiny and fate. I am the master of my own path. God does not only exist within me. I am not only a child of God. I am not only an extension and a subdivision of God. But in fact I am God. I am conscious infinite eternal spirit energy, ever-changing, ever transforming, ever-evolving, and ever ascending. I do not fear, I do not doubt, and no longer shall deny or run away from who I truly am. I embrace and accept the truth. I embrace and accept my eternal divinity. No weapon, no tool, no word, no action, no person, and no spirit formed against me shall profit or succeed. I returned all evil, negative, confrontational, deceptive, wicked, and adversarial attacks and energy to its source. I give you Karma and I grant myself Justice, peace, Love, healing, and forgiveness. I called back the return of all of my strength and power. I recognize, acknowledge, understand, and affirm that I am whole. So mote it be. So shall it me. Avra Kadavra. Asé. Amen.

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We are still in RESET MODE folks. The shift and alignment is still taking place. It's not too late to tap into this grand returning of these divine power heading our way.

The cosmic and spiritual energies dont just operate on our time as we are conditioned to understand and experience time. Everything isn't always going to be automatic and instantaneous like we wish it were. Things move and reach us and effect us all at different rates and times. So please keep meditating, making your affirmations, praying, and manifesting. Be patient and faithful. Your passion, discipline, and dedication will reward you in the proper time. 💖🌟🙏👑

I know that for many of us being single and being alone can be very frustrating, painful, and depressing. But it can also be the perfect time for you to focus on Learning How To Love Yourself unconditionally.

Many of us have been miseducated about how to achieve happiness in life. Many of us have been taught and indoctrinated to believe that another person completes you and the actions of others will make you happy. And then we subconsciously start putting out negative and unattractive energy by telling people how lonely and miserable we are and how much we need someone in our lives to fulfill us. The reality is that your happiness and your joy are in your own control and to feel complete and whole as a person depends entirely on your own thoughts and attitudes and beliefs, not on the behavior and contributions of others. Yes, other people can do things that contribute to your happiness and that can bring you Joy but you should never be entirely dependent on another person to obtain happiness and joy and peace within your life.

It becomes very unhealthy when you only spend your time looking outward and looking for others to complete you and to bring you happiness. It becomes a trap and the more you look and the less you find, the deeper you get stuck into that trap. It might benefit you to consider that the universe is trying to show you something and trying to teach you something by keeping you single and alone. Perhaps it is time for you to start focusing on yourself. Finding activities and places that bring you Joy and comfort without The presence of anyone else. Acknowledging your own worth and value and learning how to praise and compliment yourself. Recognizing the areas in your life that need healing and learning how to obtain that healing through your own attention and Shadow work.

And once you have learned how to love yourself unconditionally without the help or assistance from anyone else, then you will begin to attract those healthy individuals who love themselves and recognize your true value and worth. Those people will resonate and be attracted to your energy.

Learn and know the difference between people who are trying to judge you and scold you and demean you verses people who are trying to show you love, educate you, and help you to grow. There is a difference.

If you only process information with your emotions and you neglect using objectivity, critical thinking, logic, intuition, and the lessons of your past, then you are doing yourself a grave disservice.

True Shadow Work requires bravery, honesty, and maturity. You must be willing to look at yourself without discrimination and without avoiding all of the areas that make you uncomfortable and that cause you to feel guilt and shame. You have to be able to see, acknowledge, accept, and admit where you have made bad choices and mistakes, where you have been wrong, and where you need improvement and your life. You must be willing to learn and willing to accept the lessons needed in order to change unhealthy and toxic thinking, attitudes, and behaviors. You must be willing to acknowledge when you are engaged in destructive behaviorsand when you are in an unhealthy environment. You must be able to identify negative and toxic people in your life. You must be willing to address those traumas and abuses that you have experienced from loved ones even if they are embarrassing and painful to think about. And you must be willing to remove yourself from all of that negativity and toxicity and to create boundaries that prevent negative and toxic people from entering and remaining in your life. You have to be willing and ready to cut people off, to cut activities off, and to stay away from places that are unhealthy and toxic for you no matter how much you love those people, activities, and places. You must be willing to change. It is a very difficult, challenging, painful, and frustrating process. But it is absolutely necessary for you to heal and to grow.

Even though many of us no longer celebrate these corporate, pagan, and deceitful holidays that were created and forced upon us by terrorists and slave owners, this time of year can be very overwhelming, emotional, and depression for many of us because of the traditions that we have been indoctrinated with. Traditions that include us visiting and fellowshipping with their family and close friends. The traditions of eating together, sharing memories, and create a new one. The traditions of expressing your love and appreciation for the most important people in your lives. But for many of us, we are unable to participate in those traditions anymore.

For some of us, those loved ones have died, like are grandparents and parents, and those traditions have died right along with them. For some of us, I personalize maybe in a very bad way and we may be ashamed or embarrassed to go around judgemental, critical, abusive, and toxic family members who are more concerned with being entertained by your condition then sympathetic and compassionate to it. Some of us to live too far away to see our relatives. Some of us can't afford the food and the transportation. Some of us are homeless. Some of us are sick. and some of and some of us choose to no longer celebrate this holiday because of our own Consciousness and sense of morality.

But regardless of whatever reason we are unable to spend this time with the people that we love and engage in those traditions of fellowshipping, memory-making, love, feasting, and giving thanks and showing appreciation, it still hurts and can be very overwhelming and painful for many. So if you are one of those individuals who may be alone and depressed this year, I just want you to know that you are love. Your Existence and your pain and your life is acknowledged by me. I am thinking of you at this time. And I am hoping and praying and wishing or you to have strength and healing. I hope and pray and wish that you will be able to overcome any and all obstacles and challenges and traumas in your life. I hope that the love that you have for yourself and the love that I have for you is enough to help you hold on and push through these difficult times. And if you ever need companionship, friendship, shoulder lean on, or a friendly voice to chat with, feel free to inbox me or call me anytime of the day or night. God bless you all and peace be with you.

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Be mindful of your triggers. Stop letting people draw you into conflict because their lives are marriageable and they know you're an easy target to react without thinking. Work on your discipline. Work on your self-love. Work on yourself respect. Block those people out of your life. Don't invite them in. Take control oh how you spend your energy and what you give attention to.

As adults, especially adults who have gone through a lot of drama, hardships, pain,loss, stress, and trauma in life, we should be learning from those lessons. There is no reason that an adult should continuously be engaging in the same behavior and making the same mistakes over and over again that has put you in those negative and undesirable places so many times. At some point, regardless of what the universe is putting you through, regardless of what your enemies are trying to do to you, you have to take responsibility for your own actions and your own reactions. Because the only thing that is going to change your circumstances and your situations is if you change. You can expect other people to save you and to fix your problems. So if you find yourself going through the same s**t and over again, then maybe you should start looking Inward and trying to figure out what you can do differently.

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Stop being comfortable with being toxic and mediocre. Stop selling yourself short.

If your partner doesn't allow you to talk about your past relationships, then that is a big red flag of insecurity, low self-esteem, and potential toxicity. A lot of people are indoctrinated and brainwashed into believing that when you are in a relationship with someone, the way that you are interact and what you communicate should only be based on just the experiences that you have had with them. But the reality is, the way that I treat you may have a lot to do with my past experiences. What I learned from other relationships. What other lovers taught me. The pain that they put me through.

People should understand that there are other people that have influenced their thoughts and attitudes and beliefs and behaviors as they have gone through life. And if I've been in a relationship before I met you, then those people and those experiences are a part of who I am. So there shouldn't be any shame or anxiety or hatred if I want to talk about past relationships or past lovers. If you are able to open up and allow me to express my feelings and thoughts about past relationships and past lovers, that just means you are that much more of a better person for me. If you feel like an act like I have to restrict and suppress and oppress certain feelings and ideas and that we can't talk about certain things, that seems toxic and unhealthy to me. It seems selfish.

You deserve love that speaks clearly to your soul.

There are a lot of people who judge black women for wearing wigs. A lot of them say that they are ashamed of themselves, that they have no self respect yourself love. They say that they're trying to emulate white women and create an image for themselves that is based on white standards of beauty.

There are a lot of excuses and reasons that women we're Whigs. Wigs serve mini purses for women. Sometimes it's emotional and psychological. Sometimes it's for more practical reasons such as many suggest, that they are doing protect their. But at the end of the day, regardless of what personal reason a woman has for wearing a wig, there is a common denominator amongst all the reasons. Basically it's to enhance their sense of what they consider their personal Beauty.

The funny thing about it is, when you look at a number of ancient black call truce from Africa to the Americas, there are clear and abundant archaeological records showing that black women have been wearing wigs and extensions for thousands of years and it has absolutely nothing to do with them trying to mimic or live by white European standards of beauty.

Every woman has a right to feel beautiful, to look beautiful, whether it's for themselves or whether it's to attract others to them. Being beautiful and feeling beautiful makes you happy. It increases your self-esteem, it increases your confidence, it helps to make it easier to love yourself, and it makes you feel comfortable and a very judgemental and toxic world. So every woman has the right to do whatever they must do to make themselves feel beautiful and to look beautiful and attractive. This is why men and especially other women should not we judgemental and critical and hurtful and spiteful towards women who wear makeup and wigs. When someone is trying to make themselves look better and feel better, you shouldn't be out there trying to make them feel worse. That's inhumane. It's Thoughtless and cruel. If you have a problem was someone wearing a wig or wearing makeup and altering their image for whatever reason, then leave those people alone. Stay away from them. Mind your own business. But don't make it your business to try to degrade and vilify women who do wear makeup and wigs and alter their image. It serves neither of you any purpose or benefit. Let people be happy.

With that being said, the same thing applies to men. If a man chooses to dye his hair, put on a toupee or fake hair, wear elevated shoes, or alter or enhance their image in any way that makes them feel more beautiful and attractive and confident, then let them do that without you feeling it necessary to criticize and judge and clown them for doing it. Let them create their own image without you trying to tell them that they are feminine or gay or week because they choose to. There shouldn't be a double standard. Human is human. The same respect that women desire to be treated with is the same respect that women and other men should be treating men with. Respect is respect.

So at the end of the day, people need to understand that everyone has what some will consider flaws or shortcomings or things about them that they wish they could improve. At the end of the day there are things about our DNA, our genetics, our makeup that we have no control over. But we live in a very judgemental and toxic Society which vilifies in demonizes and humiliates people if they don't fit the standard of social norms and the standards of beauty that you have been indoctrinated to believe. People need to be worried about their own lives and improving themselves. And doing so does it mean and doesn't require you judging and clowning and humiliating other people because they don't live like you live and because they don't behave like you behave. So let's stop judging people for wearing wigs or wearing makeup or altering their image to make themselves look more beautiful and attractive. Let's focus on our own selves. Let's focus on what we can improve about ourselves. Let's focus on trying to be more compassionate and understanding and tolerant of each other. Let's focus on uplifting each other and loving each other.

It's okay to be nice and caring and generous and friendly and all of those wonderful things, but you still have to create and enforce your boundaries. Being nice and caring and loving doesn't mean that you allow people to abuse and exploit and manipulate and use you. Be nice and caring and loving to yourself and set boundaries where you keep abusive and toxic and manipulative people away from you so that's your gifts will only be reserved for those who deserve it. Are you paying attention?

Quick question... Did you remind yourself today of how awesome and talented and beautiful and brave and smart and strong you are? If you haven't, then what are you waiting for?

❤ I Love You! ❤ Yes, You! ❤

I know you're probably thinking, how can someone love a perfect stranger, someone they've never met. Well, if people can hate strangers that they've never met for no good reason at all, then I can love you just because. Imagine how powerful and effective that love could be if more people thought like this.

You Are OK If You Choose To Be...
Regardless of your past, mistakes, flaws, challenges, and/or sins, you're still here and you can still be OK if you choose to be. Much of your condition, circumstances, and happiness is a choice. So choose to be OK. Choose to be better. Choose to do better...

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You're OK If You Choose To Be Regardless of your past, mistakes, flaws, challenges, and/or sins, you're still here and you can still be OK if you choose to be. Much of your condition, cir...

If you missed the live, here is the link. Great message of self love and being OK with life, with yourself.
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You're OK If You Choose To Be Regardless of your past, mistakes, flaws, challenges, and/or sins, you're still here and you can still be OK if you choose to be. Much of your condition, cir...

I know many of you need to hear this...

If you find yourself having difficulty achieving your goals, take a break, slow down, take a breath, and regroup your thoughts. Ask yourself exactly what are the things that you need to achieve your goals. Write them down in a list or an outline. Focus on acquiring one thing at a time. Create small meaningful tasks that you can complete that will get you closer to your goal. Baby steps. One little thing at a time will get you closer to the bigger picture. Don't rush yourself. Don't overwhelm yourself. Don't beat yourself up. ❤💪👑

I AM a work in progress but at least I AM still making progress...
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Everyone have a beautiful night and magical dreams. May your morning be filled with fresh energy, motivation, and clarity. Peace, love, and blessings...

As an independent adult, at some point, you HAVE to take full responsibility for your own happiness and mental health. After a certain age and after not being under your parents control and rule for so long, you must find a way to sever any emotional ties to them and to your past that prevents you from being happy, finding peace of mind, and achieving you your life goals.

Many of us in our 20s, 30s, and even our 40s are still so emotionally attached to certain family members and certain traumatic events in our past that that we can't seem to grow in certain areas of our adult life. Finding independence, moving out, starting a career that you love, having success in relationships, and always seeking the approval of others are some of the issues that come from that emotional attachment. But when you decide that you have had enough of being oppressed, disappointed, underappreciated, abused, and neglected, and when you decide that it's time to cut those ties, time to love yourself, and time to be your own person who only needs approval from yourself, then and only then will you finally begin to find and discover that happiness, achievement, pride, and satisfaction you've always been looking for.