Couples Counseling Corner

It take intentional effort.

A therapist can help you and your partner decide what you want moving forward, and then give you strategic ways to reach those relationship goals. Whether this means parting ways or figuring out what it'll take to make the relationship work. Benefits of couples counseling can be clarifying your feelings and learning how to improve communication.

Hugging your partner for as little as 30 seconds when you reconnect at the end of the day is beneficial. Try it tonight!

Read and learn this.

It goes without saying that Love is Love❤️

We spent the day doing projects at home and it was so good for us to share this time. This is important in your relationship.

Date night is here and nothing is more romantic than a scary funny movie to get you to bond on your relationship ❤️

A love that completes you is a life goal❤️

This is relationship goals❤️

It’s important to get to know all of the facets of your partner which include all of the seasons to truly know them.

Thank you to my Patrick Harris. I love you ❤️

All day for me.

Want to feel like a teen again? Grab a few quarters and head to your nearest arcade. See who can score the most points on Pac-Man, shoot some hoops on the basketball machine, and try to win as many tickets to buy your partner a teddy bear or test your luck at the claw machine. Once you’re done enjoying the retro fun, treat yourselves to a slushy.

Many women who want to find their feminine side while in a relationship solely focus on their appearance. But it’s not about that.

Yes, okay, one little aspect of it is connected to your body, but it’s mostly about the way you perceive yourself and how you take care of yourself.

NURTURE YOURSELF FIRST.
When you take care of yourself and fill up your own cup, you have more to give others.
Give yourself what you need.
Receive care, ideas, thoughts, support. Ask yourself: what do I need right now?

Relationship tip of the day❤️

Back to work is difficult after vacay!

This is to the women:
Have you recently had a wonderful evening, trip, date night, lo******ng session; then find yourself feeling suspicious, insecure, and angry at your partner for no reason?
That is an example of trauma reaction. The closer you feel and the deeper your connection becomes with your partner, the crazier you behave. What is that!!! Unchecked Trauma!!! Get help for it NOW!

Covid, quarantine, social distancing, civil unrest, and all the current stressors of the world can wear on the relationship. Check in with each other frequently.

There’s denial, which we say a lot of early on: This virus won’t affect us. There’s anger: You’re making me stay home and taking away my activities. There’s bargaining: Okay, if I social distance for two weeks everything will be better, right? There’s sadness: I don’t know when this will end. And finally there’s acceptance. This is happening; I have to figure out how to proceed.
Acceptance, as you might imagine, is where the power lies. We find control in acceptance. I can wash my hands. I can keep a safe distance. I can learn how to work virtually.

Relationship skills can be learned.

The holiday season is a great time for couples to share your family, make memories, and start traditions. At family gatherings, you can see your partner interact with family and learn to see them in whole new way.

Trust
Trust is absolutely the most important and essential part of a healthy and happy relationship, but it doesn't happen quickly. Once trust is broken, it is nearly impossible to rebuild because trust injury is so painful.

Although this is commonly the case, infidelity is not always the reason for loss of trust. In other words, cheating is not the only way to break trust in a relationship.

Refusal to be openly expressive, being dishonest, guarded, emotional unavailability, and pattern of breaking promises can also cause a loss of trust in your relationship.

Whatever the reason, if your trust has been broken, you may wonder what you can do to rebuild the trust.

Firstly, calm and clear verbal communication.

As difficult and awkward as it will undoubtedly be, talking is the most important step in rebuilding trust after betrayal.

Set a specific time to calmly and specifically tell them.

Describe what you feel as a result of this betrayal.
Tell them why the betrayal of trust hurt you. Ask for what you need from them to start rebuilding trust.

Give them a chance to talk, but pay attention to their sincerity. Do they apologize and seem truly regretful? Or are they defensive and unwilling to own up to their betrayal?

You may feel emotional or upset during this conversation. These feelings are completely valid. If you feel yourself getting too upset to continue communicating in a productive way, take a break and come back to the topic later.