Power in your pocket

Have you found that when you are not comfortable with yourself, you are more likely to give up being who you are?

We're never ever going to be perfect, and nor should we try. If we feel as though that's the expectation then we should really look more deeply into that expectation...

– Who's is it?
– Why are we trying so hard to live up to it?
– What makes us think we should live that way?

Never change who you are just because someone has told you you're not enough AS you are! It's rubbish.

Inner trust really comes about by being okay to embrace vulnerability in the sense that you are being all you are without apologising or trying to change yourself.

Our book 𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑷𝒐𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒕: 𝑫𝒆𝒕𝒐𝒙 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝑮𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝑮𝒊𝒓𝒍 𝑺𝒚𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒐𝒎𝒆 gives women tools ⚒️ to be that unique, strong, confident person you were born to be. 💪🏽♥️

👉🏼 Click link in bio to get your copy today! PS e-book is sold in all major bookshops online.

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Healing happens. It is not fast, or linear, or predictable, but I promise you it happens🤍
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Pierre Janet in the 1800s, fine-tuned in 1993 by Judith Herman, set up three stages of trauma recovery: ⠀
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1. Safety & Stabilization. Survivor does not feel safe in their bodies or relationships. This stage may take months or years to overcome.⠀
2. Remembrance & Mourning. Assigning words and emotions to the events, memories, and the meaning of it all. This stage is best navigated with professional guidance.⠀
3. Reconnection & integration: When you finally see that trauma is no longer the definition of who you are or the life you live.⠀
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No matter where you are today, lift your chin. You will get to the point where words about abuse will be a space you hold in victory. You may even find it an empathetic space where you lift others and remind them abuse always comes from the outside.🖤
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You do not invite abuse by what you say, wear or even think. It comes from inside someone else, and there its history rests.⠀
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It’s Time to Stop Treating Parenting as a Mom’s Burden and a Dad’s Adorable Hobby First partner of California Jennifer Siebel Newsom is married to a proud feminist. But even she struggles to split the responsibilities of parenthood 50-50.

You know what it feels like when your stomach is queasy... and you feel completely off kilter? Instead of being hard in yourself and squashing it down, ask yourself what your body is trying to tell you.

Being true to you means taking time to listen to that. And it means seeing that you do have choices... and backing yourself, giving yourself permission to make your choices without looking for permission everywhere else.

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So, Simone Biles won the olympics this week.

She put her mental health first when the weight of the (literal) world was on her shoulders.

She has survived and accomplished so much at just 24, but prioritizing her mental health while the world was watching made her even more of an outstanding role model for girls and young women.

Be like Simone Biles. Put your physical and mental health first. 🤸🏾‍♀️🤸🏽‍♀️🤸🏼‍♀️





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Walking away, self-care... it takes courage. Good on you Simone!

When my three daughters were younger, I was all about highlighting role models who were beasts in their respective fields. I was all about shattering glass ceilings and pushing limits and breaking barriers.

Don't let anything stop you, hear me roar and all that stuff.

Now that I'm a little older and wiser, I am so grateful for role models that show my three teen daughters how to be successful, but also how to take care of themselves, to follow their hearts and gut instincts, to speak out, and who are brave enough to know that nothing--not a tennis grand slam or movie role or Instagram following or even a gold medal--is worth destroying your mental health.

Thank you Simone Biles. Thank you Naomi Osaka. Thank you Michael Phelps. Thank you to the athletes fighting for changes in antiquated dress codes or for pay equality or for improved safety standards or for protection from sexual predators.

Thank you for showing us common mortals that sometimes being the GOAT means stepping back. Thank you for showing kids that achieving greatness often comes with a cost. Thank you for being brave enough to share your stories so the next generation can talk about mental health and other issues more openly.

But most of all, thank you for demonstrating that putting yourself first isn't weak, isn't selfish, isn't wrong--even if it disappoints others.

Thanks for changing the game in the best way possible.

You know what it's like when you stare at yourself in the mirror and wonder who it is you are looking at? Because you are not the same woman you were years ago... or even weeks ago. Something has shifted. And it's got nothing to do with your appearance.

You're tired of putting everyone else first (and seeing them take that for granted). And you're weary from trying to do it all. Why should you, anyway?

"Should." That very word irritates you. You've had years of doing what you thought you "should" do. And hearing friends question their roles has had you questioning yours.

This book will help you get to your core... to see how we follow the habits and roles we believe are "normal", like generations before us.

Get your copy of 𝙋𝙊𝙒𝙀𝙍 𝙄𝙉 𝙔𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝙋𝙊𝘾𝙆𝙀𝙏: 𝘿𝙚𝙩𝙤𝙭 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙂𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙂𝙞𝙧𝙡 𝙎𝙮𝙣𝙙𝙧𝙤𝙢𝙚 now and see yourself as the strong woman you were born to be. Break free from obligations and limitations so you can bounce into every day with purpose, confidence and joy! Link in bio.

Made choices you regret? 🤦‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️It's never too late to change course. 🪧

Many of us have felt deep disappointment... and even shame... because of where our choices have taken us. And we have felt 𝙨𝙩𝙪𝙘𝙠, mega 𝙎𝙏𝙐𝘾𝙆.

🪧 But "Stuck" is 𝙣𝙤𝙩 your destination. And you are living 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 life, no one else's. Want to be surrounded by good things money can't buy? It truly is never too late to change course!
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Our book 𝙋𝙊𝙒𝙀𝙍 𝙄𝙉 𝙔𝙊𝙐𝙍 𝙋𝙊𝘾𝙆𝙀𝙏:𝘿𝙚𝙩𝙤𝙭 𝙛𝙧𝙤𝙢 𝙂𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙂𝙞𝙧𝙡 𝙎𝙮𝙣𝙙𝙧𝙤𝙢𝙚 will help you smash the limitations that are making you feel stuck... so you can step into the life you want. Click link in bio to get your copy.

PS The E-book will also be available from everywhere the softcover is sold, in the next few days!


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About time.

As quoted in ABC News, posted last year on 9 Sep...
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Four in five victims of workplace sexual harassment are women.

James Fazzino, chairman of Manufacturing Australia and lead member on the report, said boards and executives needed to start treating sexual harassment complaints with the same level of urgency and transparency as they did with occupational health and safety.

"Why should women have to put up with this rubbish?" Mr Fazzino said.

"I think it's outrageous that women go to work and get harassed.

"It's illegal, it goes against the values and code of conduct in organisations, and it's for boards and senior leadership to say, 'No, it's not acceptable.'"

James Fazzino, chairman of Manufacturing Australia, wants companies to change attitudes so sexual harassment can be stamped out from workplaces.

Male Champions of Change founder Liz Broderick said women should not be prevented from telling their stories.

We stand with Julia Szlakowski who spoke up and shared her story about her experience at AMP... and what happened afterwards. Her strength continues to inspire others to do the same.
𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙚𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙠 𝙞𝙣 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙫𝙞𝙧𝙤𝙣𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙨𝙖𝙛𝙚𝙩𝙮 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙩.

🤦🏻‍♀️ Find yourself saying "I SHOULD do this or that."? Isn't it about time you ? ♥️

I used to say this a LOT... before I decided to get rid of treating myself this way.

😣 "Shoulds" can indicate that we are not doing 𝒆𝒏𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉, that we are not doing things 𝒘𝒆𝒍𝒍 𝒆𝒏𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉. It's the language of 𝑶𝑩𝑳𝑰𝑮𝑨𝑻𝑰𝑶𝑵.

And it's sneaky. It can even feed the belief that WE ourselves are not enough. It can send us into a spiral of 'not enough' if we entertain it.

Instead, using the word "could" gives us the truth - that we absolutely DO have choices (and yes, hard ones at times) . Set yourself free from "shoulds" today!

Because getting rid of obligations is the ultimate self-care. It will give you freedom in your life and in your business.

♥️Save for later as a reminder.

♥️ Want to know the research behind 𝑾𝑯𝒀 you as a woman go to the 'should' thinking - and easy steps to deactivate it so you can have more 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒊𝒅𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆? Get your copy of my co-authored book 📖 Power in Your Pocket: Detox from Good Girl Syndrome today! Link in bio.

📚 PS book available at all main bookstores like

Have you been in a relationship where, bit by bit, you found yourself things you never 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 thought you would?

It happens slowly, like ground being taken over one blade of grass at a time... until we no longer recognise ourselves.

Real love respects us. It does not pressure us to put aside our values for its own gain. It encourages us follow our ambitions and dreams. It feels dependable, kind, safe and predictable. Because it is.

I thought I knew enough about family violence. But watching the documentary called See What You Made Me Do on SBS On Demand was still eye-opening and riveting.

And I wish more people who haven't experienced DV would sit with the uncomfortable subject and watch it. (Trigger warning ⚠️ that some parts may be distressing)

In her book by the same name, and on the show, "investigative journalist Jess Hill puts perpetrators – and the systems that enable them – in the spotlight. See What You Made Me Do is a deep dive into the abuse so many women and children experience – abuse that is often reinforced by the justice system they trust to protect them. Critically, it shows that we can drastically reduce domestic violence – not in generations to come, but today."

Think it could never happen to you? I get you. Truly. Every single one of us thinks that way until it does.

💡 Thanks to Jess Hill for shining a light on the not-good-enough shadow of abuse - and for calling out the 'justice' system and also old-fashioned disrespect, degradation and sexism from the 1950s... and showing a better way.

♥️I hope you never (again) sacrifice your values. Or your ambitions and dreams. You deserve those things. And respect ✊.♥️

Want to build yourself up as the confident, strong woman you were born to be? Get your copy of our book 💪🏽 𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑷𝒐𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒕! Click link in bio


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Finding these at the front door was a surprise yesterday!! Every single carnation was lined up in a perfect pattern... sooo sweet!

When I opened the note inside, I smiled. Because flowers are not just flowers. They always mean something!

These beautiful flowers stood for heaps for me... appreciation, thank you and 'thinking of you'.

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🌸 ✍️ When you realise that 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒓 you offer to the world is 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒎𝒖𝒄𝒉 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 than what people see on the surface, you truly see its worth - and your worth too.

Just like these gorgeous flowers... they mean so much more!
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PS To the person who left these flowers: ☺️ 𝑻𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝒚𝒐𝒖... you know who you are! And thank you for the big difference you've made in my life.
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Power in Your Pocket: Detox from Good Girl Syndrome
by Jeanette Mundy and Laura LeLievre
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•Starting from the cover of the book and the title of the book is very appealing and intriguing as it goes with the plot of the book and I must say it's a best-suited title..

•For thousands of years, women have been taught to be “good” instead of powerful. But when we embody the good girl, we hold back their voices and gifts in a world that desperately needs female perspectives. it’s time to break the good girl myths that are holding you back and share your true gifts.
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•A must-have book for ALL women who have difficulty saying 'NO'! Power in Your Pocket: Detox from Good Girl Syndrome is a powerful book about setting boundaries, personal empowerment, self-esteem, overcoming perfectionism, handling the bully, avoiding toxic relationships, and more!

•If you’re a woman who can’t seem to get your voice or ideas out into the world, This book will help you understand why and light the way out so you can become the woman you’re meant to be.

•Girls.. It's a good, easy to read book might make you emotional if you are able to connect through a memory of yours..

•This is not one of those book that you pick up and finish in one go. You'll be carried along. I could read this book over and over again simply due to how amazing the chapters are..

•The authors have used easy language throughout the book, which makes it a quick read. Beautiful narration makes it even more engaging..

A must-read for any woman who is ready to design a life on her own terms. !!
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Feeling emotional at the in Sydney.

Large respectful crowd. Love that there are a lot of men here too.

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Snippet from Power in Your Pocket...
This is what has been going on across the country today. Thank you to all the women and men standing up and saying

Every person - every woman - has the right to be safe and to feel safe.

And it's the responsibility of government, police, and courts to hold perpetrators accountable.

Change the toxic culture. No more minimising and enabling. No protecting your buddies. No lip service. No more flowery words. We need ACTION 💥 .

Through the generations there have been rules for women. Those rules may be invisible, but they're still here packing a 🤜🏽 punch...

❗️Not just in homes across the country... But also in the media. In many a court room. And yes, in Parliament.
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* be accommodating and tolerant (that's what nice girls and women do - and you can't expect him to change)

* put others and their needs, careers and wants first (that's what good mums and wives do)

* be modest about your intelligence (sounding too confident could be interpreted that you're full of yourself... and that's not nice)

* be careful what you wear (otherwise it's your fault)

* looking pretty is number one (your thoughts and intelligence won't be remarked on nearly as much as your appearance)

* don't be a bitch (translation: don't speak up about abusive behaviour)

𝑾𝒉𝒐 𝒆𝒍𝒔𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒅 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒆 '𝒓𝒖𝒍𝒆𝒔' 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕𝒔 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒘𝒂𝒚 𝒘𝒐𝒎𝒆𝒏 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒅?



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𝑷𝑺 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝒚𝒐𝒖 to the many inspiring people standing for CHANGE like





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Here's a happy reader Renae* eating up our book 𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑷𝒐𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒕: 𝑫𝒆𝒕𝒐𝒙 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝑮𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝑮𝒊𝒓𝒍 𝑺𝒚𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒐𝒎𝒆.

With highlighter in hand, she's snatching moments at her work!

Thank you dear reader for letting us share this. ❤️

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How often do you immediately respond to someone – without stopping to think about it?

Only to kick yourself later?

We have the right to pause. It gives us space to decide what we want to do.

Then it may help to ask yourself this:

1. Is they person making a REQUEST or a DEMAND?

2. Am I feeling a sense of urgency? If so, is the situation truly urgent? (As my Mum used to say to me as I banged on the bathroom door to tell her my sibling was doing the wrong thing: "𝑰𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒂 𝒇𝒊𝒓𝒆?"

3. Why do I feel compelled to say yes? Is it to simply 'be nice'? (Validation, etc.)

4. How would I LIKE to respond?

Your time is precious. So give yourself the gift of time with those five words... "𝑰'𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝒊𝒕."

And expect them to respect that. After all, you'd do the same with others, wouldn't you?

𝑨 𝒃𝒊𝒈 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒌 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒐 .timms for his photograph in our book.

Love it! It fit so well. While we don't know their story, we'd like to think that these two ladies didn't care about the expectations of others.

Excerpt from the page...
"We invite you to always remember: the only expectations you have to live up to are yours.

Failure is a story. You are not a failure and you never will be. You are a learner. Be a rebel – set yourself free from dumb rules and expectations..."

Want to ditch self-judgement? We wrote this book for you. You deserve to set yourself free from "shoulds".

To get more power in your pocket, click link in bio to get 𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑷𝒐𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒕: 𝑫𝒆𝒕𝒐𝒙 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝑮𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝑮𝒊𝒓𝒍 𝑺𝒚𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒐𝒎𝒆!

Check out .timms on Instagram - he has a Nikon camera and beaut photos plus a design agency.

Thanks again Jez!

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You know what it's like when you've worked so sooo hard at things... but it feels like you're not seeing the fruit 🍎? (Sigh)

I get you.

It's like you're on a bike. Sweating so much you need another shower. Time passes and you're still going - with gritted teeth, determination and more sweat. But then you realise you're actually on a stationary exercise bike... you're going nowhere.

I've felt like that at times. The day when I took this pic was one of those times.

What lifts me out of that sinking sand of discouragement is two simple words. "Not Yet". It's a favourite phase Jeanette and I share in our book 𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒀𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝑷𝒐𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒕: 𝑫𝒆𝒕𝒐𝒙 𝒇𝒐𝒎 𝑮𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝑮𝒊𝒓𝒍 𝑺𝒚𝒏𝒅𝒓𝒐𝒎𝒆.

If you have a loved one who won't speak to you, your heart may feel broken. But remind yourself that it doesn't mean it's forever. It just means Not YET.

If you don't know how to fix a mower, or build that website you want to, it just means Not YET.

And if you can't find a house to rent, despite having excellent references, it just means Not YET.

Sometimes, looking at what you CAN change is enough to jolt you out of feeling overwhelmed with disappointment. Is there a skill you can go and learn? It can be powerful to have a plan.

And when you actually can't change things no matter how hard you try, letting go of attachment to any particular outcome gives you the gift of freedom. Because... you guessed it. It just means...

Not YET!

💭 If you are a fan of "Not YET", let us know in the comments!

Strength to you, 💪🏽♥️
Laura and Jeanette

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YOU are here for a reason.

YOU have something special to offer the world.

YOU can be....do....and have anything your heart desires.

YOU ARE INFINITELY POWERFUL BEYOND YOUR WILDEST IMAGINATION!!!!!

🥰 It's time that YOU believe you're amazing....and that you are here to do great things!!

It's time to start living your life with passion....purpose....and power!!

But it's up to YOU to change your path and step into your POWER.

👑 If you're ready to step into your power....I invite you to join our QUEENDOM where we'll teach you to embrace that mindset until you believe it wholeheartedly and it resonates with your soul.

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