Kristen Durham

Who we choose to spend our time with matters! Look for the best of the best, when you find them. Keep them close and lift them up as well. That's how we create solid relationships that last and help each of us grow 💞

Yes! Energy does not lie 👏 Finding people that light up your soul is so important.

Thinking of you and sending warm hugs ♡

Change starts with movement. Not a feeling, not a hope or a wish. We have the great opportunity to shift ourselves in order to take control of our lives. It doesn't have to be a huge monumental shift. I could be setting a timer for 10 minutes to start a task you've been avoiding or taking a walk for yourself. Just to clear your mind and get fresh air for your well-being without thinking of anyone else's needs for that 10 minutes.

As a recovering people pleaser myself, I find that taking time for myself and my needs is very challenging. I've done a lot of self work and growing over the years to realize how damaging not prioritizing my needs has been to my health.

I'm over here collecting my spoons 🥄 and filling my cup 🍵 for me this time, I encourage you to do the same if you're feeling drained or warn out.

Sending love ❤️

Curiosity is so enlightening. Rather than telling ourselves how we've failed or should have done things differently, it allows us to hold space for our well-being, to learn and grow without feeling crippling self-criticism. Be kind to yourself. You really need this space to work on the relationship you hold with you. It's the single most important relationship you'll ever have.

Keep in mind you will spend every second of every day with you. Be sure to give yourself permission to love and care about yourself. You matter, your life matters.

My new neighbor 😍 OMG!! Anyone else just love animals so much it lights up your soul?? Dogs are of course my all time favorite pets but I wouldn't mind hanging out with this fella all summer.

We don't have to be perfect in order to be loved and valued 🥰

Without a doubt. There is literally no time like the present. I've been practicing this a lot recently and it's been very rewarding.

Do you struggle to be present?!

I'm cheering for you!!

Exactly 💗

Simple doesn't mean easy. We do deserve to be happy 😊🥰

If you or anyone you know is in crisis, please text or call 988. Check on your sad friends, check on your happy friends. Let people know when you're struggling. Suffering in silence is incredibly difficult. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here 🙂

If you or anyone you know is in crisis please text or call 988. Check on your sad friends, check on your happy friends. Let people know when you're struggling. Suffering in silence is incredibly difficult. If you need someone to talk to I'm here 🙂

When I go out I always make it a point to recognize what I find beautiful in others. Even something as simple as just listening to their stories and to converse with them as if they are the only one in the room. Connections matter. People matter. Things are really hard right now and we can absolutely make a difference. We never know what battles others are facing. One interaction absolutely can and does make all the difference.

Sending love ❤️

Absolutely a fact! No one is coming to save you or to heal the trauma for you. It's your responsibility to do the work for yourself. There is no "easy" button or some life "hack". It comes down to consciously making the decision to choose yourself over your pain.

It's not easy and we are in this together. Sending you big hugs ❤️

Check in time....How we doing today?

I took some time to write out my goals and to make time for myself and my mental health. Kids are in bed (thank goodness) and it's finally quiet for a bit. Reflecting on what went well today. Feeling a bit over stimulated from the bed time kid routine so being sure to get my energy in check before sleepy sleep 😴

This. Refusing to hold onto anger and regret can be incredibly difficult. It can be done. Forgiving and letting go is a part of the healing process. I wish them well and remove myself from their lives to protect my energy.

Do you struggle to let go?

Look at this beautiful smile 😍 We don't deserve dogs, they are just so pure!

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There were many times in my life when I felt like I had little or no control over situations that came up in life. It's very defeating and painful. I'm here to remind you of your power, and the first thing to focus on is what you can control. Even if it's small. Could be a 5 minute walk. Taking a shower. Doing the dishes or making your bed. Making an intentional decision is how it starts. I'm proud of you for fighting through all the days you didn't feel like you could make it.

Thinking of you,

Kristen Durham

The healing journey is no joke! Some days, you feel amazing and can take the world on, and the next, you feel depleted and small. The truth is that it is completely normal. It does not mean you're broken or unworthy of continuing on. When we heal, we are not only healing ourselves, but we create a space for others to feel safe to heal as well. The truth is, it's worth it. You're worth it! We are healing together. You are not alone in this ♡

You're not meant to be understood by others. The goal is to understand yourself. You are the only person who will live with you every day from start to finish. There will be days when others don't understand your choices and may completely disagree with them, but it's not their life. It's yours and you have to choose what's best for you. Have faith in your ability to do what resonates with you most and go for it!

- Kristen ♡

The human experience is wild. Sometimes, it's extraordinary, and sometimes, it can be so incredibly overwhelming and just hard. In all reality, if we didn't have those differences, we wouldn't be able to even have the perspective to feel those wonderful days. There is always a blessing that comes from our experiences if we choose to lean into it rather than pushing it away and beating ourselves up. Learning to trust our intuition and finding out who we really are is one of the best gifts we can give ourselves, along with compassion.

No matter the day you had, I'm thinking of you and sending so much love! There is always something to be thankful for, even if it's just choosing to try 1 more day. Try and think about what went well before you close your eyes ♡ You're not alone, I'm right here with you!

Hey 👋 Missed you all!! Definitely been thinking of you a ton. I know it's been quite for a while and just know I've been working on a lot behind the scenes. Keep an eye out for more to come 🥰

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