You Know You Are A Mummy When.

Today marks 3 years. 3 years ago we sat waiting in hospital to be told “there’s no pregnancy”. I began bleeding at work and had to go to the dr. We were told I was having a threatened miscarriage and their only advice was to basically lie down and not do anything until I could be seen for a scan. We waited 4 excruciating long days before a horrible invasive internal scan to be told “there’s no pregnancy”. That’s it. Over 2 years of unexplained infertility and being fobbed off by drs because we were young and had “loads of time”. We finally had our dream come true and then as soon as it came it was ripped away again. It may have been an early loss but it makes no difference, I had planned out that child’s whole life the second I found out I was expecting, and now he was gone. We were ushered out the back- presumably they didn’t want a crying woman walking through the room full of expectant mothers, the ones who would go on to have their babies. Then that was it. Dream over.

I am so fortunate that I got a second chance and even a third chance and I now have two wonderful daughters. In reality if I hadn’t had a miscarriage I never would have met my eldest daughter. But that doesn’t mean I don’t grieve my lost child. It’s bone crushingly painful. And unfortunately it’s very common. I know more women who have had a chemical pregnancy, miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, phantom pregnancy or stillbirth than women who haven’t. And many suffer quietly.

I am so lucky I ended up with my girls. But some people never get their dream. Be kind, you never know what people have been or are going through.

My view for the day :(

This is how we watch to now....

Checked out wildwood kitchen today, lovely adult feel with a cheeky kids room right at the back so you get a perfect mix. Preggosaurus had to get fries with her cappuccino 🤣

"Morning sickness " can kiss my ass

But the best job satisfaction

This is so close to my heart- from M&S website. This year, we’re joining over sixty charities during Baby Loss Awareness week to create a wave of light across the world, in memory of the precious little ones we’ve lost. Whether you’ve been affected by the loss of a baby, you know someone who has, or you wish to spread the message and show your support, this Baby Loss Awareness candle and other candles will be uniting the world through social media this October, in the name of the many babies who lit up our lives for just a short moment.

My girl is my everything. She makes me laugh so hard my tummy hurts, she makes my cry and doubt every decision I make, and at the same time makes me feel stronger than ever.

More mums should be open about the fact that being a mum is hard.. some days no matter what you do it all goes wrong. It's ok to lock yourself away and have a little cry because you feel like you aren't good enough. But remember you are!! Some days are just super hard.

Today is one of those days....😩😩😩

Zero rest for this mama. (Via The Journey Of Motherhood)

If I fits I sits....

I joke... my little girl is usually pretty good bless her:)

Except last night 😂😂😂

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Sitting in the car with a coffee because the bubba is asleep (and snoring😩) #tiredmum #pregnancysucks #youknowyouareamummywhen

Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression....
The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹️

I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽‍♀️ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become.

No one talks about the isolation.
No one talks about the loss of identity.
No one talks about the loneliness.
No one talks about losing your sense of self.
No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home.
No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming.
No one understands why you're tired.
No one understands why you're irritable.
No one understands why you need a mental break.
No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids.
No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still.
No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you.
No one understands why you've lost your s*x drive.
No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒
No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job".

Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief...
YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏

I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wish upon a damn star I could start home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM.
Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more????
Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before.

Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job.

⚠️Thank you Momma's Tired for writing this! You definitely hit the nail on the head with this!!!!! And

How are you all coping with the summer holidays?!

❤Stay strong mums ❤

Parenting win! 😂🤭

Too tired for this s**t 😂😂

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