Dr. Alison Ash

Dr. Alison Ash

Dr. Aly is a trauma-informed intimacy coach & educator, Stanford Lecturer & founder of TurnON.love.

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering s*xual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals a

22/05/2024

๐”๐ฉ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐“๐ฎ๐ซ๐ง๐Ž๐.๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐œ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ
๐ŸŽŸ ๐“๐ข๐œ๐ค๐ž๐ญ๐ฌ (๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ) ๐š๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ง-๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐Ÿ‘‡

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๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉ Join ๐‘๐ž๐ฉ๐š๐ข๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐‘๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง ๐‘๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ in Oakland on May 29th! Miscommunications are common, boundaries get crossed, and hurt feelings happen - but they donโ€™t have to end in disconnection. All relationships have their challenges, and repair work is essential for building trust, deepening intimacy, and maintaining thriving connections. Successful repair conversations allow for you to feel closer than ever before as you gain confidence in your ability to withstand inevitable relational challenges. In this experiential workshop, you'll learn the necessary skills and receive a clear formula that will teach you when and how to do repair ruptures effectively. ๐•๐ข๐๐ž๐จ ๐จ๐ง ๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž!

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๐Ÿซฆ Join ๐’๐ฅ๐ž๐š๐ณ๐ž-๐…๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐’๐ž๐๐ฎ๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐’๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฌ in Oakland on June 12th! Has flirting always felt awkward and anxiety-provoking? Tired of letting opportunities pass you by because youโ€™re afraid to make a move? Whether you want to learn how to create new romantic connections or improve your ability to seduce your current lover(s), this workshop will help you figure out how to get freaky without being creepy! Gain verbal and non-verbal skills for flirting and seduction and feel more confident initiating. Discover how to effectively escalate flirting and how to read body language to know if theyโ€™re receptive to your advances. Learn how to recover from failed flirting attempts and how to recalibrate so you can stay in connection. ๐•๐ข๐๐ž๐จ ๐จ๐ง ๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž!
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๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿ† Join ๐๐ฎ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑ๐ฒ ๐–๐š๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ฅ๐ž๐ฌ ๐‚๐จ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐ž๐ž ๐๐ซ๐ž-๐๐š๐ซ๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ƒ๐‰ ๐Ž๐›๐ฌ๐œ๐ž๐ง๐ข๐œ + ๐‡๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐„๐š๐ญ ๐๐ฎ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ž ๐š ๐‚๐ก๐š๐ฆ๐ฉ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ in Oakland on June 23rd! In celebration of National Eat Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy Day, we are excited to announce a special collaboration between Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy Waffles Coffee and How to Eat Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy Like a Champ! We are coming together to create a full day of pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy adoration and skill up-leveling. We'll begin with the Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy Waffle Coffee brunch dance party to get your body moving and in the mood. Waffles will be served, the pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy portal will be opened, and deep beats made for bumping and grinding. We are so excited to be having DJ Obscenic throwing down! Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy Waffles Coffee is a truly delicious dance party for femme-centered whimsical activism, radical pleasure, and our collective creativity!

Then we'll transition to the How to Eat Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy like a Champ workshop. Discover the nerve pathways involved with different kinds of org@sms and science-based techniques for how to explore them. Givers will learn how to explore what turns on their lover(s) and a wide range of techniques for maximizing pleasure. Receivers will learn how to take a more active role in co-creating their pleasure. A live demo will make these skills more accessible. Plus, get the Guide to My Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy instruction manual to share with lover(s). Both individuals and couples are welcome! ๐•๐ข๐๐ž๐จ ๐จ๐ง ๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž!
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โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿ”ฅ Join ๐…๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐…๐š๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฌ๐ข๐ž๐ฌ in Oakland on June 26th! Donโ€™t let inexperience, mental blocks, or shame prevent you from fulfilling your fantasies. Learning to cultivate a rich bank of fantasies will help you discover your desires, enliven your self-pleasure, and create more diverse s*xual experiences. Learn how to share your fantasies with lovers in ways that create safety and invites intimacy and discover how to explore elements of your fantasies even when your lover isnโ€™t open to a particular fantasy. Free your fantasies to spice up your solo s*xy time and become a more creative and empowered lover! ๐•๐ข๐๐ž๐จ ๐จ๐ง ๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž!
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๐Ÿ›Œ Join ๐†๐ž๐ญ ๐Ž๐ฎ๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐˜๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐‡๐ž๐š๐ ๐ข๐ง ๐๐ž๐ in Oakland on July 23rd! Do you get stuck in your head worrying about your appearance, performance, or**sm, or just your overwhelming to-do list? Do you find yourself performing s*x instead of experiencing it? Learning how to get out of your head and into your body is essential for reducing anxiety and maximizing pleasure in both solo and shared s*xual experiences! Discover how to immerse in the sensations in your body and reconnect with your body as an instrument of pleasure. You'll receive actionable tips and skills that will help you get out of your head and become a more skilled lover while increasing your own capacity for pleasure! ๐•๐ข๐๐ž๐จ ๐จ๐ง ๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐š๐ฅ๐ฌ๐จ ๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž!
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๐ŸŽŸ ๐“๐ข๐œ๐ค๐ž๐ญ๐ฌ (๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ) ๐š๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ง-๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐Ÿ‘‡

14/03/2024

I received the following question:
"We want to learn how to have group s3x that has at least some of the love, attention to detail, and pleasure that we feel together."
I can relate. I have gone through phases where I've loved group s3x. I have found that it's through having experiences where we can be more emotionally naked and have emotional intimacy, even in a group encounter, that I personally feel the most nourished, safest, able to explore, and the most cared for during and after. Not everybody is like that. There's no one right way. And so it's important to suss out in advance, how do the other people want to relate to this group s3x experience?

08/03/2024

Dating is tough, and it's never fun to when someone isn't interested in dating further. Shifting the ways we think about chemistry and compatibility can help soothe rejection sensitivity.

Want dating coaching? Reach out at www.TurnON.love/coaching

04/03/2024

Vulnerability is crucial for creating and sustaining intimacy, but how do we know when it's safe to be vulnerable? Or how do we know how vulnerable should we be? The answer? Titrating! Watch to learn more.

12/02/2024

๐”๐ฉ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐  TurnON.love ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐ฌ๐ก๐จ๐ฉ๐ฌ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐œ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ

๐ŸŽŸ ๐“๐ข๐œ๐ค๐ž๐ญ๐ฌ (๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ) ๐š๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ง-๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐Ÿ‘‡

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๐Ÿ—ฃ Have some burning questions about s*xual and emotional intimacy? Join me for ๐—”๐€๐ฌ๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐’๐ž๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ญ๐ฌ: ๐€ ๐…๐‘๐„๐„ ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ง๐ญ online on Feb 26th, where you can get the answers you need to having hot s*x and thriving relationships!

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๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ Join ๐๐š๐ฏ๐ข๐ ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐๐จ๐ง-๐Œ๐จ๐ง๐จ๐ ๐š๐ฆ๐ฒ: ๐‹๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ ๐Ÿ on Zoom on Feb 29th to get the ENM support you need! Exploring non-monogamy can feel overwhelming and downright terrifying, but with the proper support and tools it can be exciting and empowering! Examine how your values and needs influence which relationship styles will work best for you. Explore how to open up and find poly people to date. Examine the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them and gain concrete tips that will help your relationship(s) survive and thrive. With these resources, suggestions, and tools youโ€™ll receive the support you need to explore ethical non-monogamy with greater clarity and ease! Also available as an on-demand rental.

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๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿ† Want to become a champ-quality giver or receiver of pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy pleasure? In ๐‡๐จ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐„๐š๐ญ ๐๐ฎ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ž ๐š ๐‚๐ก๐š๐ฆ๐ฉ givers will learn how to discover what turns their lover(s) on and explore a wide range of techniques for maximizing pleasure. Receivers will learn how to surrender into sensation while also taking a more active role in cultivating their own pleasure. You also get a Guide to My Pu๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑy instruction manual to share with lover(s). And youโ€™ll discover all the nerve pathways involved so you can understand the different kinds of org*sms possible as well as science-based techniques for how to explore them. Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome! Both individuals and couples are welcome! Join in Oakland on March 10th or watch on-demand from home anytime!

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๐Ÿ‘ฌ๐Ÿ‘ญ Join ๐Œ๐š๐ฌ๐ญ๐ž๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐๐จ๐ง-๐Œ๐จ๐ง๐จ๐ ๐š๐ฆ๐ฒ: ๐‹๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ฅ ๐Ÿ on Zoom on March 14th to up level your ENM skills. Empower yourself with the know-how and tools you need to have happy, secure, and fulfilling non-monogamous relationships. Discover tools for navigating jealousy and how to support a partner when they're feeling jealous. Examine power dynamics in and across various types of relationship structures, and learn how to empower all participants. Explore techniques for discussing fears and needs and negotiating agreements with lovers and partners. Gain tips for having healthy dynamics with metamours (your partnersโ€™ partners). Also available as an on-demand rental.

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โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿ”ฅ Join ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐’๐ž๐œ๐ซ๐ž๐ญ๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง, ๐‘๐จ๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ƒ๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐š๐ง๐œ๐ž in Oakland on April 2nd to discover how to use both words and touch to create passionate, romantic, and dominant s*xual encounters! Master romantic affirmations, passionate dirty talk, and dominant commands. Explore how to seduce with a wide array of tantalizing and exhilarating touch techniques. Learn how to make your lover surrender by spanking, hair pulling, and pinning them against the wall. You'll leave feeling more confident how fulfilling it can be to have more variety in your s*x life and make their fantasies come true!

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๐Ÿ‘ฉโ€โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿ‘ฉStruggling with different libidos, relating to s*x like itโ€™s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect s*xually that feel genuine and pleasurable. On April 21st and 28th join ๐’๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ญ๐š๐ข๐ง๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐ˆ๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐š๐œ๐ฒ: ๐‘๐ž๐ข๐ ๐ง๐ข๐ญ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐…๐ฅ๐š๐ฆ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐‹๐จ๐ง๐  ๐†๐š๐ฆ๐ž, a 2 day course for couples in Oakland. Uncover the various libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and receive the tools and skills that will help you overcome them together. Learn how to get out of the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle and effectively explore feelings, needs, and desires. Explore how to make tailor-made verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that will allow you to successfully woo your partner. Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure by attuning to the rightness of the moment. Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your desire and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure. You'll receive the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet that will enable you to identify your specific intimacy blockers, engage in self-reflection exercises, and record the specific practices that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy. Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, we will provide you all the tools you need to create a sustainable and personalized path to lasting intimacy for the long run. Also available as an on-demand rental.

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๐ŸŽŸ ๐“๐ข๐œ๐ค๐ž๐ญ๐ฌ (๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ฌ๐œ๐š๐ฅ๐ž ๐จ๐ฉ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ) ๐š๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ง-๐๐ž๐ฆ๐š๐ง๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐š๐ฅ ๐ข๐ง๐Ÿ๐จ ๐›๐ž๐ฅ๐จ๐ฐ ๐Ÿ‘‡

04/12/2023

๐ŸŽโค๏ธ๐ŸŽ Do you value experiences over things? Want to nourish someone's heart and brain? Give this gift of love with TurnON.love! During this holiday season, if you purchase a gift certificate for an on-demand workshop for someone else and get one for yourself for FREE! Details
There are so many workshops to choose from, including:
* Cultivating Your Pleasure
* Feel Your Way To Yes
* Free Your Fantasies
* From Pressure to Pleasure: Reclaim Your Desires
* Get Out of Your Head In Bed
* How to Be a Feminist in the Bedroom
* How to Pick Your Person(s)
* Navigating Non-Monogamy Level 1
* Mastering Non-Monogamy Level 2
* Refining Your Sexual Intuition
* Repairing Ruptures in Relationships
* Sleaze-Free Seduction Skills
* The Ins and Outs of Play Parties
More details ๐Ÿ‘‡

30/11/2023

๐ŸŽŸ ๐—ง๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ (๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€) ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ป-๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐Ÿ‘‡
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โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน Want to know how to resolve conflict and feel closer after? Miscommunications are common, boundaries get crossed, and hurt feelings happen - but they donโ€™t have to end in disconnection. All relationships have their challenges, and repair work is essential for building trust, deepening intimacy, and maintaining thriving connections.
Come to ๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐—ฅ๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐˜๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ฝ๐˜€, a virtual workshop on Dec 5th (or watch on-demand anytime!) and discover how successful repair conversations allow for you to feel closer than ever before as you gain confidence in your ability to withstand inevitable relational challenges.

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๐Ÿ—ฃ Have some burning questions about s*xual and emotional intimacy? Join me for ๐—”๐˜€๐—ธ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜ (๐—ฎ ๐—™๐—ฅ๐—˜๐—˜ ๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜!) online on Dec 15th, where you can get the answers you need to having hot s*x and thriving relationships!

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๐Ÿ›Œ Do you get stuck in your head worrying about your appearance, performance, or**sm, or just your overwhelming to-do list? Do you find yourself performing s*x instead of experiencing it? Learning how to get out of your head and into your body is essential for reducing anxiety and maximizing pleasure in both solo and shared s*xual experiences!
Join me for ๐—š๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ข๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—›๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—•๐—ฒ๐—ฑ, an in-person workshop in Oakland on Jan 9th (or watch on-demand anytime!) and discover actionable tips and skills that will help you get out of your head and become a more skilled lover while increasing your own capacity for pleasure!
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๐Ÿ’— There are many reasons it can be hard to create a pleasure-filled s*x life and emotionally-secure relationships. We all receive messages about who we are supposed to be, how we ought to feel, and how we should express ourselves - often enforced through shame, silence, and disconnection. Plus, inadequate s*x and intimacy education means we are deprived of essential intimacy skills, often causing hesitation and guesswork.
๐—ฆ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐˜‚๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—˜๐—บ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—œ๐—ป๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜† ๐—ฆ๐—ธ๐—ถ๐—น๐—น๐˜€ ๐— ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ features 8 live virtual classes designed to support you in creating, deepening, and sustaining s*xual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s). All classes weave together science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development and combine lecture with optional breakout room discussions and experiential exercises. Plus receive supplemental materials including handouts, readings, and videos and extra time for Q&A after each class. All classes are recorded for those who canโ€™t attend live or want additional review. Tuesdays Jan 23rd-March 12th online.
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๐ŸŽŸ ๐—ง๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐˜๐˜€ (๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฐ๐—น๐˜‚๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜€๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฝ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€) ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ผ๐—ป-๐—ฑ๐—ฒ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ณ๐—ผ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐Ÿ‘‡

04/10/2023

Very excited for Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game, our month-long course for couples to start tomorrow!
Check out the description plus links ๐Ÿ‘‡ for my recent guest appearances on two podcasts that will give you a sneak peak on our content. Classes are recorded for those who can't attend live.
Struggling with different libidos, relating to s*x like itโ€™s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect s*xually that feel genuine and pleasurable.
Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, we will provide you all the tools you need to create a sustainable and personalized path to lasting intimacy for the long run.
* Gain insights into how emotional and physical intimacy intertwine, and how to create a harmonious blend of both in your relationship.
* Learn how to create a safe space to explore your feelings, needs, and desires with clear communication, vulnerability, and empathy.
* Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure.
*Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your turn on and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.
* Receive the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet that will enable you to identify your specific intimacy blockers, engage in self-reflection exercises, and record the specific practices that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy

07/09/2023

Feeling pressure can transform an opportunity for connection and pleasure into a daunting and stress-inducing ordeal.
Navigating performance anxiety, differences in libido or desires, and expectations that you should feel differently than you do can make enjoying intimacy feel inaccessible if not impossible.
Whether you're navigating a new romance or in a long-term relationship, addressing and alleviating this pressure is a crucial step toward feeling more connected with your body and your lover.
Join intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke of TurnON.love for From Pressure to Pleasure: Reclaim Your Desire and gain the knowledge and tools to reclaim your authentic desires, bridge the gap between pressure and pleasure, and experience more nourishing and empowering intimate experiences.
Join Sept 20th for this virtual event or watch the recording after. Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for tickets and additional info.

01/09/2023

Do you and your partner miss that old feeling of excitement and passion that has faded into complacency and predictability?
Struggling with different libidos, relating to s*x like itโ€™s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect s*xually that feel genuine and pleasurable.
Join intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke of TurnON.love for Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game for a month-long online course for couples in October. Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, we will provide you all the tools you need to create a sustainable and personalized path to lasting intimacy for the long run.
* Gain insights into how emotional and physical intimacy intertwine, and how to create a harmonious blend of both in your relationship.
* Learn how to create a safe space to explore your feelings, needs, and desires with clear communication, vulnerability, and empathy.
* Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure.
* Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your turn on and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.
* Receive the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet that will enable you to identify your specific intimacy blockers, engage in self-reflection exercises, and record the specific practices that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy

$100 EARLY BIRD DISCOUNT THRU AUG 31st!
Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for tickets and additional info.

31/08/2023

In Ask the Sexperts: a free event!, intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke of TurnON.love will answer your questions about cultivating and sustaining nourishing s*xual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s).
Possible topics can include, but are not limited to:
* Getting the romantic and s*xual spark back in long-term relationships
* Creating more emotional intimacy and closeness
* Mitigating differences in libido or desire
* Figuring out how to reduce pressure and increase pleasure
* Dealing with anxieties, shame, and other sources of getting stuck in your head during s*x
* Navigating the stress of work and parenting on relationships
* Addressing conflict, bickering, and fighting
* Clarifying and sharing wants, needs, and boundaries
* Cultivating more teasing, anticipation, and foreplay
* Exploring new desires, fantasies, and toys
* Figuring out how to more easily receive pleasure and enjoy giving more fully
* Getting more comfortable ending s*xual encounters when you feel complete
Join Sept 13th for Ask the Sexperts: a free event!. This is a free introductory event for Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game, a month-long online course for couples in October.

02/08/2023

Has flirting always felt awkward and the idea of making the first move anxiety-provoking? Have you felt tired of letting opportunities pass you by because youโ€™re afraid to make a move?
Discover how to feel confident flirting and seducing in ways that are inviting, attuned, and effective. Join intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love for Sleaze-Free Seduction Skills on Aug 8th in Oakland!
Canโ€™t make it live? Watch it on-demand. Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for more info

15/07/2023

Looking forward to being on The Kingdom tomorrow with Justin Michael Williams to talk about how to expand intimacy! Join us to get a bunch of practical and actionable practices and strategies you can implement right away to create more connection and pleasure with your partner!

And join me for my upcoming 4 week course Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game in October for a deeper dive in this important topic. So many couples in long-term relationships have a difficult time maintaining intimacy, discover your personalized pathway back to the connection and closeness you crave.

Links below.

03/07/2023

Want to be able to maintain multiple healthy relationships? Do you feel challenged by jealousy or unsure how to support your partner when theyโ€™re feeling jealous? Do you feel confident naming needs and negotiating agreements?
Empower yourself with the know-how and tools you need to have happy, secure, and fulfilling non-monogamous relationships.
Join intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love for Mastering Non-Monogamy: Level 2 on July 25th in Oakland. Canโ€™t make it live? Watch it on-demand. Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for more info

02/06/2023

Exploring non-monogamy can feel overwhelming and downright terrifying, but with the proper preparation and support it can be exciting and empowering! You donโ€™t have to navigate this tricky terrain alone.
Join intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love for Navigating Non-Monogamy: Level 1 on June 21st to examine how your values and needs influence which relationship styles will work best, explore how to open up and find poly people to date, and learn how to avoid the most common ENM pitfalls.
Also check out Mastering Non-Monogamy: Level 2 on July 25th to learn how to navigate jealousy, negotiate agreements, and have healthy interactions with metamours.
Canโ€™t make it live? Watch them on-demand. Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for more info

15/05/2023

Do you and your partner crave that old feeling of excitement and passion that has faded into comfort and predictability? Losing the s*xual spark is a challenge so many couples in long-term relationships face. Itโ€™s not uncommon to have different libidos, which can make s*x feel like a chore and lead to resentment.
Receive a comprehensive roadmap of ways to explore your connection with genuine excitement, turned on desire, and nourishing pleasure. Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, we will provide you all the tools you need to create a sustainable and personalized path to lasting intimacy for the long run.
Join intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke of TurnON.love for Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game on May 21st in Oakland.

08/05/2023

Do you and your partner crave that old feeling of excitement and passion that has faded into comfort and predictability? Losing the s*xual spark is a challenge so many couples in long-term relationships face. Itโ€™s not uncommon to have different libidos, which can make s*x feel like a chore and lead to resentment.
Receive a comprehensive roadmap of ways to explore your connection with genuine excitement, turned on desire, and nourishing pleasure. Rather than giving you a momentary boost of passion, we will provide you all the tools you need to create a sustainable and personalized path to lasting intimacy for the long run.
Join intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke of TurnON.love for Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game on May 21st in Oakland. Want a sneak pease, check out Ask the Sexperts: A Free Event for Couples on May 9th. Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for more info

01/05/2023

Join intimacy coaches and educators Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke of TurnON.love for this free virtual event and get answers to your questions about cultivating and sustaining nourishing s*xual and emotional intimacy in your relationship(s).
* Possible topics can include, but are not limited to:
* Getting the spark back in long-term relationships
* C๏ปฟreating more emotional intimacy and closeness
* Mitigating differences in libido or desire
* Dealing with anxieties, shame, and other sources of getting stuck in your head during s*x
* Navigating the stress of work and parenting on relationships
* A๏ปฟddressing conflict, bickering, and fighting
* Structuring intimacy dates to create more easeful connection
* Figuring out how to more easily receive pleasure
* E๏ปฟnjoying giving pleasure more
* E๏ปฟnding s*xual encounters when you feel full
Ask the Sexperts: A Free Event for Couples is an introductory event for Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian's upcoming daylong offering Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game8 on May 21st. Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for more info on both events.

24/04/2023

Want to know how to resolve conflict and feel closer after? Miscommunications are common, boundaries get crossed, and hurt feelings happen - but they donโ€™t have to end in disconnection.
All relationships have their challenges, and repair work is essential for building trust, deepening intimacy, and maintaining thriving connections.
Join intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love for Repairing Ruptures in Relationships on May 2nd in Oakland. Canโ€™t make it live? Watch it on-demand. Check out the comment ๐Ÿ‘‡ for more info

25/01/2023

Become an intimacy pro with Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: An 8 Week Mastercourse, starting this January. This course features 8 live virtual classes that:
โญ๏ธ weave together science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development

โญ๏ธ feature lectures and optional breakout room discussions and exercises

โญ๏ธ include extra time for Q&A after

โญ๏ธ offer supplemental materials including handouts, readings, and videos

โญ๏ธ are recorded for those who canโ€™t attend live or want additional review
โœฉ ๐“๐ฎ๐ž๐ฌ๐๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ, ๐‰๐š๐ง๐ฎ๐š๐ซ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ’๐ญ๐ก - ๐Œ๐š๐ซ๐œ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ’๐ญ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ3 โœฉ
Individuals, couples, and groups are invited to participate. Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.
โœฉ ๐˜พ๐™ช๐™ง๐™ง๐™ž๐™˜๐™ช๐™ก๐™ช๐™ข โœฉ
Class 1: The Nuances of Consent and Boundaries
Class 2: Embodiment and Nervous System Care
Class 3: Skills for Emotional Depth and Safety
Class 4: Flirting, Seduction, and Expressing Desire
Class 5: Skills for Maximizing Pleasure
Class 6: Erotica, Fantasies, and Unpacking Shame
Class 7: Conflict and Repairing Relationships
Class 8: Picking Partners and Ending Relationships
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, a trauma-informed s*x and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford Lecturer, and the founder of TurnON.love.
๐Ÿ‘‡Check out the link in the comments below for:
โญ๏ธ a complete bio
โญ๏ธ detailed curriculum
โญ๏ธ sneak peak at course content
โญ๏ธ reviews
โญ๏ธ ticket info
โญ๏ธ low income ticket application

14/01/2023

Have some burning questions about s*xual and emotional intimacy?
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Check out Ask a Sexpert: a free event with Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love where you can get the answers you need to having hot s*x and thriving relationships!
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โœฉ Thursday, Jan 19th 6:30-7:30pm PST โœฉ
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Possible topics can include (but not limited to):
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โœฉ The Nuances of Consent and Boundaries
โœฉ Embodiment and Nervous System Care
โœฉ Skills for Emotional Depth and Safety
โœฉ Flirting, Seduction, and Expressing Desire
โœฉ Skills for Maximizing Pleasure
โœฉ Erotica, Fantasies, and Unpacking Shame
โœฉ Conflict and Repairing Relationships
โœฉ Picking Partners and Ending Relationships
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These are all topics Dr. Aly will also address in her upcoming Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: An 8 Week Mastercourse, an 8 week live virtual course starting January 24th.
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๐Ÿ‘‡Check out the link in the comments below for more info!

Dr. Alison Ash on Instagram: "Why is repairing ruptures in relationships important? Conflict is an inevitable part of relationships because intimacy means we are opening ourselves up to being vulnerable, which increases the potential for conflict... 22/12/2022

Become an intimacy pro with Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: An 8 Week Mastercourse, starting this January. This course features 8 live virtual classes that:
โญ๏ธ weave together science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development

โญ๏ธ feature lectures and optional breakout room discussions and exercises

โญ๏ธ include extra time for Q&A after

โญ๏ธ offer supplemental materials including handouts, readings, and videos

โญ๏ธ are recorded for those who canโ€™t attend live or want additional review
โœฉ ๐“๐ฎ๐ž๐ฌ๐๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ, ๐‰๐š๐ง๐ฎ๐š๐ซ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ’๐ญ๐ก - ๐Œ๐š๐ซ๐œ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ’๐ญ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ3 โœฉ
Individuals, couples, and groups are invited to participate. Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.
โœฉ ๐˜พ๐™ช๐™ง๐™ง๐™ž๐™˜๐™ช๐™ก๐™ช๐™ข โœฉ
Class 1: The Nuances of Consent and Boundaries
Class 2: Embodiment and Nervous System Care
Class 3: Skills for Emotional Depth and Safety
Class 4: Flirting, Seduction, and Expressing Desire
Class 5: Skills for Maximizing Pleasure
Class 6: Erotica, Fantasies, and Unpacking Shame
Class 7: Conflict and Repairing Relationships
Class 8: Picking Partners and Ending Relationships
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, a trauma-informed s*x and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford Lecturer, and the founder of TurnON.love.
๐Ÿ‘‡Check out the link in the comments below for:
โญ๏ธ a complete bio
โญ๏ธ detailed curriculum
โญ๏ธ sneak peak at course content
โญ๏ธ reviews
โญ๏ธ ticket info
โญ๏ธ low income ticket application

Dr. Alison Ash on Instagram: "Why is repairing ruptures in relationships important? Conflict is an inevitable part of relationships because intimacy means we are opening ourselves up to being vulnerable, which increases the potential for conflict... Dr. Alison Ash shared a post on Instagram: "Why is repairing ruptures in relationships important? Conflict is an inevitable part of relationships because intimacy means we are opening ourselves up to being vulnerable, which increases the potential for conflict and the need for repair. Watch the full...

Dr. Alison Ash on Instagram: "Humans are interdependent beings, we cannot survive alone. We all have needs and it's okay to have them, even if others cannot meet them. Part of adulting is learning to identify your needs and express them in a way... 13/12/2022

Become an intimacy pro with Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills: An 8 Week Mastercourse, starting this January. This course features 8 live virtual classes that:
โญ๏ธ weave together science-based data, embodied exploration, and skills development

โญ๏ธ feature lectures and optional breakout room discussions and exercises

โญ๏ธ include extra time for Q&A after

โญ๏ธ offer supplemental materials including handouts, readings, and videos

โญ๏ธ are recorded for those who canโ€™t attend live or want additional review
โœฉ ๐“๐ฎ๐ž๐ฌ๐๐š๐ฒ๐ฌ, ๐‰๐š๐ง๐ฎ๐š๐ซ๐ฒ ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ’๐ญ๐ก - ๐Œ๐š๐ซ๐œ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ’๐ญ๐ก ๐Ÿ๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ3 โœฉ
โœฉ ๐„๐š๐ซ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐›๐ข๐ซ๐ ๐ญ๐ข๐ฑ ๐š๐ฏ๐š๐ข๐ฅ๐š๐›๐ฅ๐ž ๐ญ๐ก๐ซ๐ฎ ๐ƒ๐ž๐œ ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ“๐ญ๐กโ— โœฉ
Individuals, couples, and groups are invited to participate. Course content applicable to both monogamous and non-monogamous dynamics.
โœฉ ๐˜พ๐™ช๐™ง๐™ง๐™ž๐™˜๐™ช๐™ก๐™ช๐™ข โœฉ
Class 1: The Nuances of Consent and Boundaries
Class 2: Embodiment and Nervous System Care
Class 3: Skills for Emotional Depth and Safety
Class 4: Flirting, Seduction, and Expressing Desire
Class 5: Skills for Maximizing Pleasure
Class 6: Erotica, Fantasies, and Unpacking Shame
Class 7: Conflict and Repairing Relationships
Class 8: Picking Partners and Ending Relationships
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, a trauma-informed s*x and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford Lecturer, and the founder of TurnON.love.
๐Ÿ‘‡Check out the link in the comments below for:
โญ๏ธ a complete bio
โญ๏ธ detailed curriculum
โญ๏ธ sneak peak at course content
โญ๏ธ reviews
โญ๏ธ ticket info
โญ๏ธ low income ticket application

Dr. Alison Ash on Instagram: "Humans are interdependent beings, we cannot survive alone. We all have needs and it's okay to have them, even if others cannot meet them. Part of adulting is learning to identify your needs and express them in a way... Dr. Alison Ash shared a post on Instagram: "Humans are interdependent beings, we cannot survive alone. We all have needs and it's okay to have them, even if others cannot meet them. Part of adulting is learning to identify your needs and express them in a way that makes it easier to meet for others....

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