Perry Power

In just 10 days I surpassed 2M views and over 13,000 new followers! 🎉

I’ve been sharing my story, my message, and my truth for the last 5 years now.

And if there’s one thing I have learned, it’s this…

Be fu***ng consistent.

That’s it.

Just stay consistent.

When you have your story and the purpose behind creating a movement with it…

And you don’t stop sharing it…

People WILL listen.

People WILL join you by your side.

And people WILL help you fight.

With all the people I speak to and clients that I work with, I tell them exactly this.

Just be consistent.

People are living in silence.

And people do need to hear your message.

So start now and don’t you ever give up on your truth.

Be powerful,
Perry.

Forgiveness allowed me to find out that my step-grandad was abused himself growing up.

Forgiveness allowed me to meet my step-grandad’s family, causing me to find out they were victims of him too.

Forgiveness allowed me to look past my dad’s alcohol problems and see he was also a victim of sexual abuse growing up.

Forgiveness prevented me from going down a serious path of self-saotage.

And forgivenss allowed me to move forward with my life, letting go of all the s**t that was no longer serving me.

Here’s the thing about forgiveness…

Forgiveness has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with you.

You are not giving them a get-out-jail-free card.

You are not excusing them for what they have done.

You’re simply forgiving them because you value your worth.

That’s it.

Hurt people hurt people.

And the sooner you can realise that and have an open mind, the sooner you can come to terms with forgiveness (and letting go).

But don’t get me wrong…

Forgiveness isn’t an overnight thing.

And it’s going to be challenging.

We’re used to forgiveness being something that’s quick and then OH, you’re back into my life.

Like your partner who sleeps with someone else. You forgive them, meaning they can come back and you guys try again.

Or a friend who accidentally lost your most prized possession. They refusely apologised. You forgive them, and then you put that experience behind you, contitnouing with the friendship.

But I believe that forgiveness doesn’t follow just one path.

It can be a complex process that is often times only explained through actions, or felt as feelings.

Forgivenss can take you months, or even years.

After finding forgiveness, you’re perfectly within your right to never speak to the abuser again.

And that’s okay.

But it’s about being in a place where you are like:

“It’s sad he/she did that to me. They’re evidently a very hurt person, and I hope they get the help that they need…”

(Be it therapy, counselling, or prison time).

“...but I’m not allowing their pain to be inflicted upon me. I value myself too highly to be brought down to their level. And whilst I’m still healing from what happened, it’s defintely made me a stronger person because now I know what I’m made of”.

That’s forgiveness. That’s letting go. That’s knowing your worth. And that’s owning your story.

We all have the capacity to forgive…

However…

We also have to believe we are worthy of forgiveness too.

Be powerful,
Perry.

Okay, so this is big.

After numerous requests, I have decided to build a community for survivors of abuse to help them to :

✅ Find emotional freedom

✅ Rapidly transform their self-confidence

✅ Be surrounded with other growth minded people who have made the decision to overcome their trauma and build a better life for themselves

✅ And to fully own their story. Allowing them to finally be in control of their life

This will become the #1 community for survivors who have come together to learn, grow, and transform.

I’m aware not everyone is able to financially work with me…

And because there’s still so many people I want to help, I wanted to create something that nearly everyone can afford.

Which is why this community will be just $17 a month.

The coaching and help on offer will literally be worth thousands.

If this is something you’re interested in, then comment “I’M IN!” down below and I’ll DM you a link to sign up 👇🏻

Be powerful,
Perry.

As I’m sitting on this plane heading to Greece, I can’t help but look around and wonder who is living in silence.

There’s 180 people on this plane (minus crew)...

And knowing that in the UK 1 in 6 people have gone through abuse, and 1 in 20 children have been sexuall abused…

That’s at least 30 people on this plane who have been abused, and 9 children who have been sexually abused.

But my concern is…

How many of these people are living in silence about the trauma they have experienced?

This is why I do the work that I do.

Granted it’s not the most pleasant outlook to have when in social environments…

But I’d much rather have this on my mind and continue to tackle it every single day…

If that means other people don’t have to.

I’m not going to stop until is a global movement.

I’m not going to stop until every person on the planet who is living in silence knows they have the choice, and the power, to break their silence.

I’m not going to stop until the statistics for male survivors increase (because the current data is wrong. Men just aren’t speaking up)...

And then the overall stats of reported cases drop significantly.

I’m not going to stop until intrafamilial abuse is no long a taboo topic to talk about.

I’m not going to stop until every child on this planet no longer has to live in fear because of what they’re being forced to do.

And I’m not going to stop until schools have a better system in place to protect their students when they see signs of abuse.

The truth is, it’s very likely this fight will continue way beyond my time.

Which is okay, because I’ll simply pass the torch over to someone else.

But I’m okay with that fight.

Because it’s a battle that needs to be had.

Once you have something you truly believe in, you’ll stop at nothing to protect it.

And for me…

It’s those who are unable to speak up for themselves.

They don’t deserve to live a life of pain, secrecy, and misguidance.

They, just as we all do, deserve to be happy and free.

I truly believe this is why I’m here on this planet.

To fight. To protect. And to serve.

And for that, I feel very honoured.

Be powerful,
Perry.

The biggest trauma is the disconnection from ourself.

It’s when we get to a point where we have no clue who we are anymore…

And the loss of identity creates a vessel that’s just waiting for its host.

After being sexually abused by my step-grandad and told to live in silence…

I walked a path that ultimately led to my demise.

I tarnished every ounce of success that came my way.

I acted out in ways that I would soon regret, yet the next day I’d do it again.

I was more comfortable sleeping on the floor than I was with £10k in my account.

And every girl I had dated ended in a failed relationship.

But looking back at who I was back then…

I was simply a man, a traumatised man, who hadn’t found a way to express himself yet.

Because it’s expression that unlocks the door to who we truly are.

It’s expression that allows us to reconnect with ourselves.

It shatters our world view and reveals to us what’s really there…

And that’s a world which is profoundly beautiful.

But for those of us who have been through trauma, we sometimes don’t get to see that…

Because trauma creates our world view.

That’s what it is.

We don’t respond to the present moment, we respond to the past.

And if we haven’t found a way to express ourselves yet, then we’re going to constantly live in the shadow of who we’re meant to be.

So if we allow ourselves to heal and find a means of expression…

Then it becomes liberating.

And we get to see the raw power within us that was locked away for so long.

You aren’t on this planet to be a stranger to yourself…

You are here to guide your soul, your world, and your message to a place of fulfilment.

To be your most powerful self.

Express.

Break the silence to yourself in as many different ways as possible…

And watch the ‘real’ you come to life.

Be powerful,
Perry.

Today I wanted to share some Monday motivation for all my peeps out there! ❤️

I recently finished an interview for Insider and it’s crazy to think it was just 3 years ago when I had absolutely no idea what my purpose was.

I had just left my business behind, I stepped out of the coaching industry, and I said goodbye to everything.

I was done.

In 2019, this is what my life looked like:

❌ I was severely depressed.
❌ My ex-girlfriend left me.
❌My dog had passed away.
❌ I was broke.
❌ I knew I had a story, but I had no idea what to do with it.

Fast forward to 2022, things are different like day and night.

In 2022, this is what my life looks like:

✅ I’m completely living on purpose, feeling very fulfilled.

✅ I have an amazing girlfriend who I have been with for over a year now.

✅ I run a very profitable coaching business helping victims of abuse to break their silence and become the most powerful version of themselves, and also helping survivors of abuse to turn their story into a purpose-driven business & movement.

✅ I have paid off some big debts.

✅ I run two different charities, have a best-selling book, did a TEDx talk, and have been featured in major publications.

I could have gone down a road that lead to coping mechanisms such as alcohol or drug addictions…

(This is the unfortunate case for many people who have experienced intrafamilial child sexual abuse such as I).

But I didn’t.

I decided to break my silence and find my path to healing.

I decided to own my story.

I decided to find my purpose.

And I decided to push through the adversity and create a life for myself that I deserve.

I truly believe that our story serves a great purpose.

We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond to it.

And each chapter we have lived presents us with a narrative that can fuel our future.

So love yourself. Be proud. Be happy. Be bold. And be courageous…

And own your story. Because only then can you truly own your life.

Be powerful,
Perry.

Met an amazing man today, a Senior Lecturer in Health Visiting and School Nursing (who also has a PhD in young men and sexual abuse).

Whilst having coffee, we were sharing our stories and highlighting the problems we see today when it comes to the area of sexual abuse.

From changes being made within the legal system to allow more cases get to trial, to having better safeguarding measures in place for when people want to speak out.

These are the type of conversations I love having.

The ones where ideas are being formed, connections are being made, and problems are being solved.

We’re going to be collaborating on an academic paper together soon, and he’s also going to be helping me on my quest to releasing the taboo around intrafamilial abuse…

And conduct a survey that shows the real statistics behind how many victims of sexual abuse were abused by a family member.

Very exciting work is coming up.

And it’s work that NEEDS to be done.

Domestic Violence is a topic that has had a lot of work put into it in order to be so talked about today.

We’re talking 15 - 20 years worth of research, conversations, and persistence.

Now when it comes to sexual abuse, whilst it’s not on the same level as DV, it’s still way better than it was 10 years ago.

Sexual abuse is becoming a more talked about subject.

More people are opening up about what they have been through.

And more people are indeed seeking help.

However, if we look at a sub-category of sexual abuse, and look specifically at intrafamilial abuse (incest)…

Then we’ll see a lot of tumbleweed.

No specific academic research (at least not in the UK).

No real stats.

No big conversations.

And hardly any funding being put into this specific line of work.

Here’s the truth.

Why?

Well, nobody wants to say “Yes I was r***d by my dad as a child”…

Or “Yes my grandma would play with me inappropriately growing up”.

The shame, fear, and guilt (as well as a whole host of complexities that exist within a family environment) create a dark silence.

And because of the collective silence, nothing gets done.

Which is why I work day a night to help as many victims as possible to break their silence and become a powerful survivor.

Because when there’s noise, people listen.

And when people listen, people take action.

It’s the action what we need now.

It’s what happens behind closed doors, between one family member and another, that needs to be addressed.

Generational trauma can be stopped…

But not if it continues to live in silence.

is my book, my TEDx talk, and the feature film I am making.

It’s my message.

It’s my work.

It’s my life.

Thank you to everyone who has been there for me, supported me, and pushed me further over the last 5 years of being on the journey.

Thank you to every single victim and survivor of abuse who has placed their trust in me and shared their story with me.

And lastly, thank you to my clients who are building their own movements, helping heal those who have been abused.

I appreciate every single one of you.

If there’s one thing for you to take away from this is all, it’s this…

Fight.

Fight for your story. Fight for the truth. Fight for those you care about. And fight for those who are unable to fight for themselves.

Never stop fighting.

Be powerful,
Perry.

2022 UPDATE (Part 1 of 2) 🔥

✅ Spoke at a youth centre to a handful of kids who have been sexually abused. One of them is now writing a book.

✅ Hired a publicist. A journalist reached out and is writing up an article about me in Insider.

✅ My book, Breaking The Silence, is now printing in hardback. The detail is amazing.

✅ This week I launched my new organisation, The Andy Project. This is named after my dad, Andy. It’s the first UK-wide organisation that helps male victims of intrafamilial child sexual abuse to break their silence, and also gives them the support system they need to find emotional freedom. Andy is currently in the process of gaining charity registration.

✅ My other charity, We Rescue Kids, provided therapy to 3 amazing young girls who were being sexually abused by their father. Their strength is inspiring.

✅ My coaching business has helped over a dozen survivors of abuse turn their story into a coaching business and movement. Seeing my client’s lives change makes me extremely proud.

✅ My girlfriend and I celebrated our 1 year anniversary together. That was amazing. She’s so beautiful, inside and out.

✅ I’m in the begging stages of setting up a project, backed by The Andy Project, to conduct a nationwide survey to document the real statistics behind intrafamilial child sexual abuse. There’s statistics behind how many kids get abused, but none about how many kids are abused by a family member. And none about how many go on to live in silence (resulting in addictions and su***de). So I want this study to change that, breaking the silence and taboo around intrafamilial abuse.

✅ My TV show, Breaking The Silence, has now been turned into a movie and things are moving along even quicker. This might actually be green-lit by the end of the year.

Here’s the thing I’ve noticed about being on the same path for over 5 years now…

Sometimes it’ll seem like everything comes together at once, and other times, it’ll seem like nothing is happening for months.

Which is why it’s VITAL to continuously remember WHY you are doing what you are doing.

Because with anything that’s worth fighting for, it’s a marathon… not a sprint.

Focus on processing just 1% everyday.

That’s it.

Just 1%.

And in 6 months time you will have made leaps and bounds.

It’s the discipline that’ll get you to where you need to go.

Know your story. Know your purpose.

And keep chipping away at it every single day.

Be powerful,
Perry.

PS. As we are half way through the year, I thought I’d share a ‘6 months’ update. Part 2 will come at the end of this year.

The chances of you being born is 1 in 400 trillion…

So what do you think are the chances of you living the story that you have done?

Infinite.

So either you can choose to live the path of victimhood…

“What does everything seem to happen to me?”

“Luck is never on my side”

“What have I done to deserve this?”

Or…

You can choose to live the path of a survivor…

“I’ve been through what I’ve been through for a reason. It’s tests. And guess what? I’m alive today, and I am strong because of it”

“I forgive you because I’m worth it”

“My trauma is my power. My light is a path for others. I know what my purpose is”

It’s all down to choice.

You often can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond to it.

So respond in a way that reflects the value of YOU.

Because you ARE worth it.

Be powerful,
Perry.

Today marks the 5 year anniversary of my dad’s death.

And whilst today is a tough one, it also marks the start of something extraordinary.

Ever since I found out my dad went through sexual abuse, just like I did, I wanted to do something about it.

I wanted to raise awareness around intrafamilial abuse and help other victims break their silence too.

It’s why I’ve written a book, done a TEDx talk, co-launched a US-based charity for kids, and am working on a feature film.

But there was always something else I wanted to do.

I wanted there to be something in place to specifically support male victims of intrafamilial child sexual abuse.

And as I researched and I researched, and I researched even more…

And I couldn’t find anything online (not in the UK at least).

There are plenty of charities that support male victims of assault, and also of child abuse…

But not specifically for intrafamilial child sexual abuse.

And I believe this is needed.

So I got to work.

And now, on 1st June 2022, the 5 year anniversary of my dad’s death, my new organisation has launched.

In the name and memory of my father, let me introduce you to:

The Andy Project - Helping male victims of intrafamilial abuse to break their silence.

‘ANDY’ is the first and only UK-wide organisation (which is in the process of becoming a registered charity) designed to help men heal from the sexual abuse they went through as a child.

As well as providing free support services to men (through our ‘Buddy’ system), we will also be conducting a national study to provide REAL statistics on how many children are abused by a family member…

And just how many live in silence (leading to addictions, depression, and su***de).

I believe that only once we conduct and release this study will the world know just how silent this pandemic is…

And will also show those living in silence that they really aren’t alone.

This is going to be a long and difficult journey…

But I know this is needed.

Cheers to The Andy Project…

And cheers to you dad.

Just know that your story has, and will continue to, change the lives of many men who are struggling in silence.

I love you,
Perry.

When we have gone through childhood trauma, why do we grow up feeling like we aren’t good enough?

Why do we struggle to accept love and kindness from others?

Why do we tend to live our lives never experiencing what it’s like to be our true selves?

Because as children, we learned to not pay attention to our feelings.

And over time, it creates a disconnection between who we are when showing up in the world, and who we are in our hearts.

I lived in silence for over 12 years about the sexual abuse I went through as a child.

And every time I brought the abuse up to my dad, he would shut me down.

And I learned rather quickly to start ignoring the way I felt.

Because here’s the thing…

We don’t get traumatised because we were hurt, we get traumatised because we’re alone with that hurt.

Silence is a breathing group for the deadliest of viruses to grow.

It’s why people become drug addicts, it’s why people like my dad become alcoholics, and it’s why so many commit su***de.

Yet, underneath the shells of all those who have been through trauma, lies a person who has never found expression in their life.

And this creates someone who feels so alienated that they’ll do absolutely anything to escape the reality in which they currently live.

This is why my message of ‘breaking the silence’ is so loud.

To break the silence to ourselves first, in as many different ways as possible, and then to others.

Because then we have gotten ourselves to a stage where we have accepted our truth.

We have accepted what’s happened to us.

We have realised that shame isn’t who we are.

And we have realised it wasn’t our fault.

We no longer wear the shoes of a victim anymore, but rather, those of a survivor.

I believe that behind every mask is someone who desperately needs love.

And I also believe it’s not our job to change our story, but rather, to own it instead.

Because if we don’t, then the generational cycle of abuse continues.

If you’re alive today, then you already have all the proof you need to show you just how strong you are.

So know that it’s okay to not be okay, but also know that you have it within you to be free.

Be powerful,
Perry.

"But can I be a coach? I've never done it before".

Ah, that good old imposter syndrome hey.

I have talked to SO many survivors of abuse who don't believe they can coach others.

In fact, nearly every client I have worked with so far has also thought that.

They thought they needed qualifications, or a whole bunch of experience, in order to start taking on clients.

And it's not true!

Fortunately (or unfortunately. There are multiple ways you can look at it), the coaching industry is unregulated...

So you DON'T need to become 'qualified' in order to coach.

However, yes, you do need experience.

But want to know the cool thing?

You already have enough experience to start...

You've got your story!

You have been through the experience...

You have been through the adversity...

And you pushed through.

You went from VICTIM to SURVIVOR.

That's it!

In regards to the coaching process?

You have that already too.

Granted, it may not be a complete process...

But there will be something (I take clients through a specific process to find this).

And with that something, you build upon that and put it to the test with new clients.

So...

You already have it all.

You have the story.

You have the message.

You have the experience.

All you need is the bravery, commitment, and boldness to start.

Because if you don't, then what will that cost you in 5 years time?

Money. Impact. Influence. And a completely different life.

So... start now.

There are victims out there, right now, who need to hear your story.

Trust me, they're there.

Just start.

You got this.

Be powerful,
Perry.

I was so wrong.

I once thought I could never speak out about the sexual abuse I went through as a child, but I was wrong.

I once thought I could never forgive my step-grandad for what he did, but I was wrong.

I once thought I wouldn’t be here today because the suicidal images were becoming too vivid, but I was wrong.

I once thought I could never put myself out there in the media, have a charity, or do a TEDx talk, but I was wrong.

And I once thought I could never coach others and have a successful business, but I was so, so wrong.

Here’s the thing…

As human beings, especially if we have been through abuse, we get into a habit of self-sabotaging.

We talk ourselves out of things.

We lessen our experience because we don’t feel worthy of the potential outcome.

And we burn the bridges before we’ve even attempted to walk across it.

If I listened to my internal chatter, I’d still be sleeping on the floor in my house. Or on my Aunts coach. Or in the call centre selling ‘Which?’ Magazines to retired people wanting to take up gardening.

I definitely wouldn’t have a business, and I definitely wouldn’t have a movement.

I’d probably be extremely unfulfilled, depressed, and using alcohol as a way to silence the demons screaming inside my head (which was my dad, and he died from a heart attack at the age of 48. He was a victim too who lived and died in silence).

If I didn’t truly believe I could do it, or at least fake it until I was in too deep to turn back around, then I wouldn’t be where I am now.

I have a coaching business, I’m working on a movie, and I’m in the middle of setting up my second charity which launches in 3 weeks time.

Trust me, 4 years ago I would have NEVER expected any of this.

But here I am, living proof that you CAN do it.

And if you believe, even for a moment, that you can’t…

Or that your story isn’t powerful enough…

Or that you’ll do it later in the year (you won’t, this is just temporary relief to help you avoid the problem)…

Then just know that you can.

The fact you have been through what you have been though is all the proof you need to know that you can.

So take action today.

Whether it’s breaking your silence, taking ownership over your story, or making the commitment to use your story to help impact others.

Start now. You got this.

Be powerful,
Perry.

4 years old: My mum walked out and left my dad.

7 years old: My dad and step-mum got married. I was the best man.

10 years old: I was sexually abused by my step-grandad. This happened for over a year.

11 years old: My step-mum caught it happening. My dad stopped me from going round there and told me to keep it silent.

12 years old: I wrote a short story in English class and spoke about the abuse. My parents were called. I don’t remember this happening. I saw a counsellor nearly every week throughout my school life.

16 years old: I lied about losing my virginity because I didn’t want to be reminded of the shy and abused boy anymore. I started to become a guy who wore multiple masks to be someone I wasn’t.

20 years old: I traveled around Australia.

21 years old: I came back to the UK and became a coach. I stepped into the fitness industry and built a fitness company. I moved into my first house with my girlfriend at the time and got a puppy.

22 years old: My dad suddenly had a heart attack and passed away. He was 48. I pivoted my fitness company to start working with parents.

23 years old: I finally broke my silence at a business mastermind over the sexual abuse I went through as a child. Then whilst driving back, I pulled over and spoke out again via video, for which went viral on FB. I proceed to find out that my dad was a victim of sexual abuse too, by the same man. I shifted business focus and started working with fitness coaches to help them grow their online business.

24 years old: My girlfriend of 6 years breaks up with me. My dog and I left and temporarily stayed with family.

25 years old: I met someone and we fall in love. I move into a new house. I left my business behind to my ex business partner because I was unfulfilled. I slept on the floor in my house, in a sleeping bag, along with my dog, because I was too broke to buy furniture. I halved my dinners with my dog. My girlfriend left me. All I could think about was su***de. I was severely depressed. I became desperate in trying to find out what my purpose was. My dog’s health rapidly declined and I put her to sleep. Only 4 years old. Worst day of my life.

26 years old: I found my purpose. I found my message. And I found my path as a coach which brought me deep fulfilment. I went 100% in. I went viral on TikTok (over 120k followers). I co-launched a charity. I wrote a bestselling book. And I met someone new, her name is Olivia. She’s one of the most magical people I’ve ever met. She’s my Queen.

27 years old: I personally worked with hundreds of victims of childhood sexual abuse to help them break their silence and heal their wounds. I did a TEDx talk. I signed on a producer for a feature film I have co-written. And I started a venture survivors of abuse turn their life story into a profitable coaching business & movement.

I’m soon entering into the 28th year of my life, and I can’t wait to add more to my story.

No matter the stage you’re at in life, there’s always meaning to it. You aren’t always in control over what happens to you, but you’re always in control with how you respond to it. And there’s always a message to take away from it that can help others.

Bob Proctor once said “if you picture it in your mind, then you can manifest it into the material world”.

Get to manifesting guys! It’s yours for the taking ❤️

Own your story, own your life…

It’s a message I have lived by for the last 5 years now.

You see, when you go through abuse or trauma in your life, your power gets taken away from you.

It’s almost like you’re walking around in an empty vessel trying to find its host.

Happiness, power, and love become sadness, fear, and hate.

And our wardrobe starts to fill with the masks we wear every day just so we feel like we fit in.

We have zero ownership over ourselves, and because of this, we live life as a prisoner within our own story.

How can we truly create the life we desire when we are held back by our past demons?

We can’t!

This is why life feels like such an uphill battle.

Because we’re constantly at war with ourselves whenever we try to progress.

Let’s take me for example.

When I was living in silence over the sexual abuse I went through as a child, I would constantly seek validation from my partner because I feared I wasn’t enough.

And when it came to entrepreneurship, I bounced around from one business to the next because I felt unworthy of success.

I was more comfortable sleeping on the floor than I was with £20k in my account.

And this state of being powerless went on for over 14 years!

So, how did it change?

How did I get to a place where I was in full ownership over my life?

I took massive, bold, and scary action.

Because when you’re abused, the abuser takes away your power. And the only way to claim it back is to stand up to the demons that have been left behind.

So I told my girlfriend at the time about the abuse. I then tell 6 people at a business mastermind. And I then take MASSIVE action and post a video on Facebook for the whole world to see.

And as the journey went on, even if I felt like hiding away, I continued to take massive action.

I wrote a book. I launched a coaching business. I launched a charity. I got into the media. And I did a TEDx talk.

I finally claimed ownership over my story.

Own your story, own your life.

If you haven’t already, I urge you to take massive action and do the same.

We weren’t born to coward away and be powerless…

We were born to be warriors and show others the light too.

Be powerful,
Perry.