Steps to Happyness
I help success-focused career women get over their toxic relationships and find real love again.
This New Year, let's light the f**k up.
New Year's Eve, 2015.
I could have reached out to my ex, Michael, but I didn't.
See, I thought Michael was it for me.
I thought he was finally, finally, going to be the one.
I would look at this man and go, wow, so this is how it feels to be settled and loved.
THIS is how it feels to be cherished.
Until the day I wasn't.
And that made me question everything.
And I was so tired of it.
Failing over and over again with men.
Wondering if I'd ever get it right.
I really, really wanted to save Michael.
I thought that if I did, he'll just...
Be happy.
And that's all we ever want to do, isn't it?
Be happy.
What I finally did realize though, was that the old me just wasn't happy.
I was setting myself on fire trying to keep Michael warm.
So what could I do?
The opposite of what I've always done.
Light the fire inside of me instead.
So, to the broken-hearted woman reading this, we DON'T have to wish him a happy new year or a happy anything.
Especially if he threw it all into the mud in 2022.
It won't mean anything for you, and it won't change anything.
I promise you.
It's just going to be more of the same.
And I decided not to do more of the same.
What I did do was decide that THAT new year, 2016...
IT WOULD BE THE ONE THAT I LIVED.
No longer will I be burning for other people.
I'll be lighting myself up instead.
And oh, did I light up.
I met my husband in 2016.
Made lots of new friends.
Supercharged a 6-figure business.
All while living in Japan for 6 months.
Best of all, Michael came back, and I didn't give a f**k anymore.
You absolutely can have this.
It all begins with a solid decision.
Will you burn for others...
Or will you light that fire within yourself instead?
Do the opposite of what you've always done.
Don't reach out. Don't wish him a happy anything.
Live for you. Light up for you.
And you'll be burning bright all year long.
Much love,
Cherlyn Chong Kelly
P.S. Wanna join us in the Get Over Him program?
Book a call here: https://www.stepstohappyness.com/goh-apply/ or reach out to me: http://m.me/cherlyn.chong
Let's shine this 2023.
13/12/2022
"So Cherlyn," Amy, one of our wonderful ladies in the Get Over Him program said to me today.
"I was trying to get this big TV off the wall.
And it was so hard, it took the longest time.
I just wished I had someone to help me.
I got it done but I was so annoyed.
Later, I was telling my daughter in the car about the importance of marrying a good man.
Because if I had, he'd be there to help me figure out how to take that darn TV off.
My daughter looks at me in the eyes, and she goes:
'Mom, it looks like you've figured it out.'
It hit me right in that moment.
I still thought I needed a guy.
Instead, I need to be proud that I did it myself.
I got that dang TV off the wall.
See, I never thought I would be able to do it—sell my home on my own, get my doctorate, sign up for a 5k marathon...
But I did.
And I did it without him.
You can do what you think you can't, you just have to start.
It reminded me of the Wizard of Oz, with Dorothy.
The scene went like this:
Dorothy: Oh, will you help me? Can you help me?
Glinda: You don't need to be helped any longer. You've always had the power to go back to Kansas.
Dorothy: I have?
Scarecrow: Then why didn't you tell her before?
Glinda: She wouldn't have believed me. She had to learn it for herself.
Scarecrow: What have you learned, Dorothy?
Dorothy: Well, I—I think that it, that it wasn't enough just to want to see Uncle Henry and Auntie Em — and it's that — if I ever go looking for my heart's desire again, I won't look any further than my own backyard. Because if it isn't there, I never really lost it to begin with! Is that right?
Glinda: That's all it is!
Scarecrow: But that's so easy! I should've thought of it for you -
Tin Man: I should have felt it in my heart -
Glinda: No, she had to find it out for herself. Now those magic slippers will take you home in two seconds!
Dorothy: Oh! Toto too?
Glinda: Toto too.
Dorothy: Now?
Glinda: Whenever you wish...
Glinda: Then close your eyes and tap your heels together three times. And think to yourself, 'There's no place like home'."
Dorothy didn't need shoes, she already had it in her.
So did our Amy.
And so do you.
Wishing you courage, joy, and peace this holiday.
Much love,
Cherlyn
P.S. Wanna talk to me about our Get Over Him program? Book a call right here: www.stepstohappyness.com/call
She was always ENOUGH.
77% OFF the Reverse Recovery for the next 24 hours only!
Heard of our BIG Black Friday 🔥 deal? Get 77% OFF Our Hot "Reversal" Healing Method with ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 5 Star Reviews from Over 288 Women
These women are taking back their power from a narcissistic ex by REVERSING the trauma with the Reverse Recovery. 💔➡️❤️
It's a 7-day step-by-step journey where we REVERSE-ENGINEER the steps of an ideal result, based on a woman's Relationship Trauma Type...
..while simultaneously reversing the trauma of a high-conflict relationship.
Get Instant Access — 77% Off Till Monday MN PST ⬇️
https://reverse.stepstohappyness.com/black-friday/
Here's how it works: ⚙️
STEP 1️⃣ - Take the Relationship Trauma Type Assessment and Find Out Your Unique Trauma Type.
STEP 2️⃣ - Then, Reverse-Engineer Your Result So You Can Heal.
See, I am on a mission to make healing actually work for you.
And that's why I created the Reverse Recovery.
NO ONE else is talking about the Relationship Trauma Types, which are so essential to healing.
And NO ONE else is reverse-engineering your ideal result in an actionable step-by-step framework that pushes you towards rapid healing.
7 Steps. 7 Days.
This is the Reverse Recovery.
💙 "I discovered I am 100% Red Fawn and the accuracy had me almost to tears as THIS assessment literally gave me the answers that YEARS of therapy could not find.
This gave me the answers I have been searching for 20 years!!!
My mind is blown, which is only further testament that Cherlyn is the real deal and God given so that I can finally heal."
- Eve
💙 "Just took the assessment, I'm a Double Fawn. It is 110% accurate, and literally brought me to tears."
- Wanda
💙 "Since starting RR, the feeling that my life is a hopeless and worthless mess has completely gone and instead has been replaced by hope, wholeness and empowerment.
There is NO way I expected such a dramatic shift in such a short period of time."
- Suzie
Ready to release the trauma from a narcissistic ex?
Grab Our BEST Black Friday Deal, 77% OFF ⬇️
https://reverse.stepstohappyness.com/black-friday/
Hurry! This ends midnight Monday 28th Nov PST!
Much love,
Cherlyn
Our BEST Black Friday Deal🔥—77% Off Our 5-Star ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Course—Over 288 Women Taking BACK Their Power from a Narcissistic Ex
💙 "Since starting RR, the feeling that my life is a hopeless and worthless mess has completely gone and instead has been replaced by hope, wholeness and empowerment.
There is NO way I expected such a dramatic shift in such a short period of time."
- Suzie
💙 "I discovered I am 100% Red Fawn and the accuracy had me almost to tears as THIS assessment literally gave me the answers that YEARS of therapy could not find.
This gave me the answers I have been searching for 20 years!!!
My mind is blown, which is only further testament that Cherlyn is the real deal and God given so that I can finally heal."
- Eve
Our 5-star reviews from real women do not lie!
Over 288 women are taking back their power from a narcissistic ex by REVERSING the trauma with the Reverse Recovery. 💔➡️❤️
See, career-driven and success-focused women just don't have the time to keep struggling to get over a gaslighting ex. ❌
Our women have careers, kids, homes and all other things to take care of... they want a solution that works... FAST.
And that's where the Reverse Recovery comes in. ✅
It's a 7-day step-by-step journey where we REVERSE-ENGINEER the steps of an ideal result, based on a woman's Relationship Trauma Type...
..while simultaneously reversing the trauma of a high-conflict relationship.
Just $11 this Black Friday till Midnight Nov 28th PST.
I promise that healing will be much faster than any therapy and the hurt of the ex will ebb away in as little as 7 days... OR you don't pay.
Get Instant Access — 77% Off This Black Friday ⬇️
https://reverse.stepstohappyness.com/black-friday/
Here's how it works: ⚙️
STEP 1️⃣ - Take the Relationship Trauma Type Assessment and Find Out Your Unique Trauma Type.
STEP 2️⃣ - Then, Reverse-Engineer Your Result So You Can Heal.
💙 "I completed the course yesterday and I can honestly say the F.A.C.T was a real eye-opener. It was exactly what I needed and really helped!"
- Rebecca
💙 "Just took the assessment, I'm a Double Fawn. It is 110% accurate, and literally brought me to tears."
- Wanda
💙 "Feeling more and more peaceful each day. This program is powerful!
The forgiveness day was amazing... tears streaming down my face while repeating the words."
- Tracey
Ready to reverse the trauma and take back your power?
Grab Our BEST Black Friday Deal ⬇️
https://reverse.stepstohappyness.com/black-friday/
Today, I illustrate the Fawn Trauma Type and talk about identity bonding with the ex. MUST watch if you want to increase self-worth after a toxic relationship. ⬆️ 💪
➡️ If you want to chat about how we can help you not only get over the ex but truly conquer all the trauma, feel free to book a call with me right here 👇
https://www.stepstohappyness.com/tt/
Whoop whoop! We are STARTING our Surviving & Thriving Through the Holidays series! 🎄❄️🎁🦌
If you want to learn more about your Relationship Trauma Type and book a FREE private call with me about conquering the holidays without the ex, hop onto this link: 👇
https://www.stepstohappyness.com/tt/
The 10X Recovery System - 10X Faster Than Therapy + 10X Your Self-Worth & Peace Back
*GUARANTEED OR YOU DON'T PAY
⭐ Hurry! Early Bird Bonuses end midnight July 20th Eastern Time! ⭐
⬇️ JOIN THE MEMBERSHIP NOW ⬇️
https://www.stepstohappyness.com/10x/
*Participation conditions apply as stated on site
It started with a comic and a dream...
Hey there, I'm Cherlyn.
I help smart, high-achieving professional women take back their lives and careers from their ex-boyfriends or husbands so that they can end the cycle of hurt and meet the right guy.
I'm the only breakup recovery and dating expert out there who deals with all our relationship gunk with original cartoons and laughter - because in the darkest of times, sometimes we just need to laugh at the pain.
You might have seen my work on Business Insider, Yahoo! Finance, Reuters, MSN, The Huffington Post, Elite Daily, MindBodyGreen, Bustle, Upworthy, Lifehack or Thrive Global.
Videos (show all)
