Quit Dating Idiots

Happy meme day, lovers! Which one resonates the most this week? 🙃

#2 made me cackle out loud 😆 which one did you need to see?

If you resonate with #2, then I recommend checking out 'When the Body Says No' by Gabor Matè. It's a great, eye-opening book and one I always recommend to my clients and anyone who has ever struggled with saying 'no', settling healthy boundaries, or expressing themselves.

🙋‍♀️ If you struggle with anxious attachment patterns, setting boundaries or if you just feel disconnected from your authentic self and you'd like some support with getting back into alignment, drop me a DM with the word ALIGN ❤️

The fulfilling relationship of your dreams lies on the other side of those dusty, unfulfilling, half-assed connections you're entertaining. Create space for what you truly desire to show up by clearing the way 🧹 and releasing the old.

🙋‍♀️ If you have trouble letting go of what no longer serves you or you want some help getting into alignment with a secure, healthy relationship drop me a DM with the word ALIGN ❤️

Happy memeday, beautiful souls! Which one resonates the most / has your name on it this week?

Happy Friday, lovers 🩷

Credit: OG quotes via Threads🧵

Are you tolerating inconsistency and minimising your needs in order to make a situation/relationship work?

All relationships take a degree of compromise and working together, but if you're repeatedly settling for less than you know you deserve, you may want to ask yourself these questions:

👉 What do I fear will happen if I stop settling or start making requests for my needs to be met?

👉 Which of my boundaries or standards am I compromising or minimising in order for this situation/relationship to work?

👉 What stories am I telling myself and others to justify why I am tolerating a situation/ relationship that doesn't meet my needs?

👉 Am I settling for less than I desire and deserve?

There are many factors that can contribute to unhealthy relationship dynamics. A common one is Anxious/Avoidant attachment styles.

When one partner has an Anxious attachment style (prioritises attachment over authenticity/being true to their own needs) and the other has an Avoidant attachment style (prioritises authenticity over attachment), it perpetuates a 'cat and mouse' cycle of unfulfillment within the relationship.

In this dynamic, it is usually the Anxious partner who is overreaching and compromising their needs. If this sounds like you, it's not your fault. Your brain and nervous system has been wired to prioritise the needs and feelings of others above your own in order to survive.

But this programming may no longer be serving you, and you may want to update your subconscious programming in order to enjoy more secure and fulfilling relationships.

Until we heal old attachment wounds, we continue to attract (and be attracted to) people who mirror back to us our own lack of boundaries and self-worth.

🙋‍♀️ If you've had enough of settling for less and would like some support with getting into alignment with a healthy, secure relationship, drop me a DM with the word SECURE.

Happy meme day, beautiful souls! IG has finally granted me the power of adding more than 10 photos to a post 🤩 Which one made you laugh out loud/had your name app over it this week?

Happy memeday, lovers ❤️ Which one has your name on it this week?

Happy memeday lovers! Which one has your name on it this week?

Do you compromise and minimise your needs in order to make a relationship work?

All relationships take a degree of compromise and working together, but if you're repeatedly over-extending yourself, you may want to ask yourself these questions:

👉 What do I fear will happen if I stop overreaching?

👉 Which of my boundaries or standards am I compromising or minimising in order for this relationship to work?

👉 What stories am I telling myself and others to justify why I am tolerating a relationship that doesn't meet my needs?

👉 Am I settling for less than I desire and deserve?

There are many factors that can contribute to unhealthy relationship dynamics. A common one is Anxious/Avoidant attachment styles.

When one partner has an Anxious attachment style (prioritises attachment over honouring their own authenticity) and the other has an Avoidant attachment style (prioritises authenticity and autonomy over attachment), it perpetuates a 'cat and mouse' cycle of unfulfillment within the relationship.

In this dynamic, it is usually the Anxious partner who is overreaching and compromising their needs. If this sounds like you, it's not your fault. Your brain has been wired to prioritise the needs and feelings of others above your own in order to survive. Your nervous system has been conditioned to prioritise and maintain attachment at all costs.

But this programming may no longer be serving you, and you may want to update your subconscious programming in order to enjoy more secure and fulfilling relationships.

Until we heal old attachment wounds, we continue to attract (and be attracted to) people who mirror back to us our own lack of boundaries and self-worth.

If you've had enough of settling for less and would like some support with getting into alignment with a healthy, secure relationship, drop me a DM with the word SECURE.

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Happy Memeday lovers! Here's a round up of the memes that made me cackle out loud this week 😆 First place goes to because Schitts Creek is hilarious and one of my all-time favourite comfort shows (along with Ted Lasso) 😌

Which one is your favourite this week?

The 'to you' is silent 😜😂 I could probably write 100 versions of this 😆 Write your own in the comments.

Happy Monday lovers! Here are some memes to take the edge off. Which one resonates most this week?

Happy Friday, lovers! Here are some friendly reminders (because I just wanted an excuse to share this banging new song by and 😁) It's the epitome of happy, sunny vibes and feels like a big, warm, hug to my nervous system 😊) What's your current favourite feel-good song?

Happy memeday lovers! Which one is your favourite this week? The first one made me actually laugh out loud.

If you want to break free from frustrating old patterns, heal all the s**t that dimmed your shine and get back into alignment with yourself, DM me the word ALIGNMENT and I'll send you a video of the exact process I use with clients to help them get back into alignment and transform their love lives ❤️✨️💃

Happy memeday! Another exquisite batch this week. Which one made you *actually* laugh out loud/slapped you across the face this week? 😆

When we break it down, the simplist definition of Secure Attachment is: 👉 someone who has the capacity and ability to be available, consistent, and responsive a partner's needs as well as their own (most of the time - nobody is perfect!)

👉 The simplist definition of Avoidant Attachment is: someone who does not yet have the capacity and/or ability to be consistently available and responsive to their partner's needs as well as their own.

👉 The simplist definition of Anxious Attachment is: someone who has not yet developed the ability and capacity to be available and consistently responsive to their own needs as well as a partner's.

See how the last two are pretty similar? 😉

When we are born, we have two needs: the need to be our Authentic Self (to express our truth) and the need for Attachment (connection).

As a child grows and develops, they sometimes learn that in order to get their Attachment needs met, they must sacrifice their authenticity for connection. Of course, this is done mostly unconsciously. This is also often where our Attachment Style is formed.

Feeling disconnected from yourself or experiencing anxiety and prioritising other people's needs and feelings above your own can be signs that you are operating from an Anxious Attachment Style.

A common side effect of an Anxious Attachment Style is that a person is drawn to partners with an Avoidant Attachment Style. This can create a push/pull dynamic that is full of highs and lows (often mistaken for chemistry). In this Anxious/Avoidant trap, the Anxious partner will internalise their partner's avoidance as being their fault and/or a sign they are not worthy of love.

It's not your fault if you learned to suppress your needs as a child in order to survive or get by in your environment. If you're currently feeling disconnected, anxious or stuck in frustrating relationship patterns, you may want to explore what's going on in your subconscious mind so that you can heal, reconnect to yourself and get back into alignment.

🙋‍♀️ Want some support with your journey back to alignment? DM me the word SECURE

Happy Memeday! Which one has your name on it this week?

Are you currently clinging to things that have passed their 'best before' date?⁣⁣
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If so, you may be unwittingly keeping yourself out of alignment. ⁣⁣
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💫 Being in alignment means being in a position of agreement (an energetic match) with that which you desire.⁣⁣
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When we are out of alignment, it means that what we are thinking, doing or being is not in agreement with our desire.⁣⁣
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So what do you do when you realise something or someone is no longer aligned but you're scared to let go?⁣⁣
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🤲 Surrender.⁣⁣
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Surrendering is easier than letting go.⁣⁣
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Letting go requires us to relinquish what is. To give up control. To risk losing something or someone.⁣⁣..
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Surrender requires us to release what is. To trust in divine order. To allow what is not aligned to fall away. To be open to receiving something new, something more aligned with who you really are and what you truly desire.
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Every new level you reach in life will require some form of surrender. ⁣⁣
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🙋‍♀️ Want support with letting go of what is not serving you and getting into alignment with your dream relationship? DM me the word ALIGN and I will send you a video of the exact process I use to help clients align and attract the relationship of their dreams ✨️❤️

Happy meme day 🎉 Another excellent batch this week. Which one is your favourite?

Happy memeday 🥳 which one has your name on it this week? 😅

🫠 Do you feel exhausted after years of over-investing in incompatible partners?⁣
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So many people tell me that they are serious about wanting to find their 'partner in crime'... but their actions often tell a different story. ⁣
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Instead of pursuing a compatible partner, they keep settling for people that are only half-way ready or half-way capable of meeting their needs in a relationship. Does this sound like you?⁣
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If so, you might need to make some adjustments so that you can stop falling in love with a person's potential and start seeing what is really on offer. ⁣

When we choose to stay in unfulfilling situations or relationships, we often have to abandon parts of ourselves in order to maintain those connections.

In these situations, you will probably find yourself over-reaching in order to make the relationship work, which is exhausting and unsustainable.
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If you're serious about finding a compatible partner for a healthy, secure relationship, you have to break the patterns that are getting in the way.

Here are 3 common blocks to getting what you want:
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🤏 Minimising your own needs and desires.⁣
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🤷‍♀️ Justifying and excusing things that aren't right.⁣
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🧍‍♀️Abandoning yourself in order to temporarily meet your need for attention, connection or affection.⁣.⁣
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Once you identify and heal the parts of yourself that lead to repeating old patterns, you stop the cycle of dating potential over reality.
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If you resonate with any of the above and would like some help to break unhealthy relationship patterns, send me a DM with the word CONNECTION.
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Happy Monday 🥳 Which one resonates most with you this week?!

Happy memeday! It's another high quality batch this week. Be warned... #8 should probably come with a trigger warning ⚠️ 🤭 Which one is your favourite this week?

Do you need to stop romanticising emotional unavailability? ✋️

If yes, read on...

When we are born, we have two needs:
1. To freely express ourselves (to feel safe being our Authentic Self)

2. Connection (Attachment). Without it, a baby literally won't survive.

As a child grows and develops, they sometimes learn that in order to get their Attachment needs met, they must sacrifice their authenticity for connection. Of course, this is done mostly unconsciously. This is also often where our Attachment Style is formed.

"If our environment cannot support our gut feelings and our emotions, then the child, in order to 'belong' and 'fit in' will automatically, unwittingly and unconsciously, suppress their emotions and their connection to themselves, for the sake of staying connected to the nurturing environment, without which, the child cannot survive. A lot of children are in this dilemma - 'can I feel and express what I feel or do I have to suppress that in order to be acceptable?' ~ Dr Gabor Mate

Feeling disconnected from yourself or experiencing anxiety and prioritising other people's needs and feelings above your own can be signs that you are operating from an Anxious Attachment Style.

A common side effect of an Anxious Attachment Style is that a person is drawn to partners with an Avoidant Attachment Style. This can create a push/pull dynamic that is full of highs and lows (often mistaken for chemistry or mystery).

In this Anxious/Avoidant trap, the Anxious partner will internalise their partner's avoidance as being their fault and/or a sign they are not worthy of love.

It's not your fault if you learned to suppress your needs as a child in order to survive or get by in your environment.

If you're currently feeling disconnected, anxious or stuck in frustrating relationship patterns, you may want to explore what's going on in your subconscious mind so that you can heal, reconnect to your Authenticity and feel aligned again.

🙋‍♀️ Want some support with your journey back to alignment with secure relationships? DM me the word HEAL to chat more ❤️

Monday memes 💥 which one resonates/tickles you the most this week?

P.s. How good is the song? It's been stuck in my head for weeks 😆👌

Communication is key to secure, healthy, happy relationships... what's your area for development?

Drop which you find the hardest to say below and the reason why you find it the hardest ❤️

Happy meme day! Which one has your name all over it this week? 😅

Need your faith restoring in love? Swipe to read Maria's story ❤️

Maria completed the Align & Attract Coaching Program in 2021 and was an absolute joy to work with.

As you read through the Q&A of Maria's journey to attracting her dream partner, you'll notice some clues as to how she did it 😉

I love nothing more than seeing clients get back into alignment with themselves and manifest their dream partner (and whatever else they desire!) ❤️ ✨️

There are two parts to the Align and Attract Method...

Step 1: ALIGN

What does that mean exactly?

💫 Heal and release all the emotional🧳 from the past that dimmed your shine

💫 Regulate your nervous system, rebuild self trust, and reconnect to your intuition

💫 Create a sense of inner safety and give yourself permission to be your Authentic Self

💫 Reprogram your mind to Align with the life you desire by releasing any old limiting beliefs or assumptions that no longer serve you

Step 2: ATTRACT

💫 Embody the state of the wish fulfilled

💫 Become an energetic match for your desire

💫 Learn how to take inspired action towards your desires

💫 Graciously navigate any "turbulence" as you uplevel

💫 Stay open and receptive to receive all the good you have been manifesting

If you'd like to know more about the Align and Attract Coaching Program and explore whether it might be a good fit for you, drop me a DM with the word ALIGN and I'll send you a quick video outlining the exact process I use to help clients like Maria transform their love lives ❤️