Just Being Me.

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Everyone will agree that trust is one of the most important requirements for a happy and healthy relationship and we all desire to be trusted but trust is something that has to be earned through time and effort, it can't just be expected because we say that we deserve it. In fact, most people will get very upset if their partner says that they don't trust them, and this crucial topic has caused a lot of relationships to fail.

So how do we "earn" trust? Some important ways to do this is by • Keeping your word.
• Saying what you mean and meaning what you say.
• Being open, honest and transparent.
• Showing up consistently without making excuses for why you couldn't.
• Having strength of character and integrity.
• Not being judgemental of your partner or trying to intentionally shame them.
• Learning how to lead with love instead of reacting from fear.

When a person really inculcates these practices into their heart, they will develop self control and be able to be emotionally present and available to their partner when they need their love and support the most instead of being emotionally reactive or defensive.

Trust is felt the most deeply when our vulnerability is rewarded with love, connection and safety. When we are struggling with our thoughts or feelings, we have a tremendous need for reassurance and validation. We want to feel safe and cared for, not isolated or punished. When we can put aside our own experience, opinions, feelings and judgement and just listen to understand, validate their experience and feelings and stay connected to them emotionally through it all then we are demonstrating the strength of our character, love and commitment. We earn the trust that creates and sustains the love that keeps the relationship alive and strong!
-Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach .gentleman.wolf
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“If you see her fall, reach down and pick her up gently, and cradle her, in the palm of your hands. And release her slowly, into the sky, that she might fly again.”
-Little girl speak

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"End of August 2021, my best friend and sister in law received the news that she has breast cancer. Three weeks later she passed this life with COVID and went home to our Heavenly Father. On the 26th of August I started painting armour whilst in prayer for her. She was the armour bearer at the bottom and I..... Click on the link to read the full story behind this artwork👇
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“When she reaches out for you, don’t ignore her. Don’t pretend that she doesn’t exist, or that she doesn’t matter. Because the truth is, that she matters a LOT. And the only reason you are still here today, is because SHE survived. Don’t forget that; don’t forget her. Offer her compassion and grace, and above all else, LOVE her. After all, your love is the least you can offer her, after the HELL she’s been through. Be proud of her. She did the best she could, for a little girl. She didn’t ask to be a soldier. It was never what she wanted, in the first place.”
-Little girl speak

SOUL EYES

Behind her eyes there is a story
Not everyone can see
She shows you her smile
Though, she longs to be free

She feels so alone
Even when she's in a crowd
If her eyes could speak
They would tell you she's too proud

A tiny little smile
On the corner of her face
In your shoes she'd walk a mile
But she'd still feel out of place

Look deeply into the eyes of another
If you look close enough you might discover
That you see more than they choose to uncover
The soul is in the eyes and it's like no other

© Janelle Erin Elizabeth Peters all rights reserved
From my first Book , My Poetic Journey to Healing
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“And no matter what they told you, you are NOT disposable.”
-Little girl speak

I learned to grow in darkness
When I was but a child
They can't see me, but I see them
Those monsters in my wild
I learned to flourish without sun
To become who I would be
I grew inside the darkness
Till it became a part of me.
~Mandy Kocsis©2022~

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"You left me all alone there bleeding, with not one song left to sing, so I covered up all of my sadness. I hid, inside the shadow of my wings."
-Little girl speak

“She’s walking along, stepping on the footprints of a mighty warrior; not even realizing, that they are her own.”
-Little girl speak

Changing your focus is a better way of dealing with your own issues...🦋

“And I found a way to rise above the horror, of what you’ve done to me. I’ve been fighting against your demons all my life, but pay close attention and look at me. Let me clue you in Mr. Pe*****le, because THIS is what winning looks like. THIS is what it feels like, to be free."
-Little girl speak

“I am blooming in spite of you; in spite of all of the ways you showed me my grave. I am still rising. I am fierce, through and through. I may be down for a moment in time, but I’ve already defeated you. And whatever walls still possess these dark halls; I promise, I am going to break through.”
-Little girl speak

Three of the most important lessons that I've learned about how to become the best version of myself and how to be emotionally available and supportive in a relationship are:

1. Pain is just a part of life, fear of pain is a choice.
2. Courage is not the absence of fear, courage is being afraid but doing it anyway.
3. The only true courage is absolute vulnerability.

Understand this — being vulnerable in order to create more love is not about weakness, it's about choosing to be strong and brave. Loving someone means opening your heart to them and trusting them not to hurt you but being aware that at some point, no matter what, you will get hurt and then trusting yourself enough to be able to embrace your pain, cope with it and let it transform you. This is a critical point for emotional intimacy and availability. No one can protect us from life, pain or loss. It's up to you to choose whether you will step up, lean into the storm of life and grab a hold of what you want and fight for it! To do that, you have to fully accept who you are now, where you are in your life, then work to embody everything that you love, want and believe in and then have the courage to show up without avoiding, denying or hiding your real feelings.

Vulnerability creates authenticity because it peels back the layers to get to what's real. When you connect on this level, you've achieved true emotional intimacy and connection and THIS is where love makes it's home.
-Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach .gentleman.wolf
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"I like people with emotional and intellectual depth, people that speak with passion from their inner twisted mind." -unknown
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I like imagination and creativity, I like a twisted mind, a messy heart that's not afraid to bleed for love. Give me real, give me raw, give me a person that is not afraid of their own darkness, that's the kind of soul that I want to be around. I want to hear about all the things that you think about that would make other people cringe. I want to hear about how badly you want to taste life and break all the rules. I want the uninhibited you that flaunts their tattoos and attitudes. I like old souls that know what struggle really is, the ones that aren't afraid to stand up to anyone or afraid to love everyone. Those are the ones that shine the most to me.
-Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach .Gentleman.Wolf

Good days...
Even just glimpses of light...
Give us the courage to move forward...
In time...
One day, One night...

For Darkness is always lurking, stalking, deceiving, tempting, seducing, merciless torturing...

Standing still?...
Not loosing ground, be confused, feel trapped, panicked, scared...
That's the tricky part....

Don't move!...
Light rays of memory from good days...
Will enlighten your surroundings...
Break the power of darkness with knowledge...
Know the truth, your truth, your worth, yourself....

Light will reappear...
In time...
One day, One night...

~ JMe ~

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When life start to spin...

Turn every spin into Focus
Lock on some Beauty
Hook onto Innocence
Grab at Vulnerability

And soon...
Sense will be visible...

~ JMe ~

Vulnerable Differences

Will he see me...
But wish he never looked...
Will he hear me...
But choose not to listen...
Will he feel me...
But long to change me...
Will he taste me...
But never change his destiny...

Will he take me to the stars...
But stay in the shallow ends of his heart and soul...
Will he teach me how to love...
But never believe in love...
Will he understand me...
But took off in the opposite direction...

Should I still have faith in the hope of love...
Or should I let my love for hope guide my faith...

~ JMe ~

The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.
~Henry David Thoreau

“Some people are given everything, while others are given none. But I have learned how to rise into healing; to create my own path, out of dust.”
-Little girl speak

“You forced her into silence, yet expected her to sing. You took away her innocence, then you asked her to fly, without wings.”
-Little girl speak

Seek the Valuable Powers of Failure ...
Lessen it's crippling, controlling Force
By being the exact same thing to highlight your way back to
.."Just Being You"...

🦋JMe🦋

In order to be
"Just Me" again...
I need to believe what
"I Can Be"
And just Do It!!!...

🦋JMe🦋

“And if you live only for this image you can see, it will take you down like deadweight, to the bottom of the sea.”
-Little girl speak