Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma/Abuse

I wrote out a brief history of my life, focusing on the trauma milestones. As might be expected it was painful. Vocalizing - telling my story was painful but the pain decreased each time I told it. I'm only on round two of telling my story, and the last time, I believe I didn't cry. Afterward, I felt energized, filled with more life, seemed more productive, and felt more at peace with myself. But now I am exhausted. Gonna take it easy the rest of the week. I deserve it!

Trauma and the Benefits of Writing About It Why it helps to write about negative events.

Sorry I haven't been posting. I hope everyone is okay. Therapy is difficult, as is life. But we have something to say - something to tell the world. How others, even our parents, society, etc. treated us is * not who we are.

I would like to form a closed group so that people can share things. As for now, I would like to post resources. If you have a resource to share, I can open this up or send to me to post or become an admin.

I have a couple of friends who might be very helpful here.

Dear sisters and others, sending you hope and strength.

I do know that in weakness is strength - not trying to be strong, but just being strong because we are survivors.

I've learned to see myself in a new and loving way, with the help of great therapists. Seeing ourselves the way others have taught us to see ourselves required unteaching! Losing the old reactions of self-consciousness, feeling at fault for almost everything, putting one's self down by constantly checking one's worthiness is an exhausting enterprise. More and more my wings are spreading. I can't wait to see the world from a birdseye view! So much will be pettiness, insignificant worries - and now an ability to enjoy the view, the patterns, the clouds the horizons - and having a chance to dream.

Know you are loved by God, the universe, and your heart's love can be focused on you. Be tender with yourself, like a fragile newborn. You are special. You are Loved.
So, protect yourself from the negativity of others, the world, our own thoughts, and... Make a 5 year plan! This is the height of hopefulness. And we can tend toward health.. a fresh green sprout .
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Yes, the first thing is get help. Get support. YOU deserve it. You may have been neglected for year growing up, and by habit, continued to push away your own needs, but NOW you can learn to take care of yourself!!

The most important thing is a good therapist. Fifteen years in therapy now. Finally over humps and hurdles, still there's dips, and despair of being abandoned.

Allowing yourself to cry. Instead of being numb. Dr. Allender, author of The Wounded Heart , wrote that the deeper the pain we allow ourselves to process, the deeper the joy we will have. I find this to be true.
So, if something's bothering you, let it out! 💞💟💝💤💢