Women On Transition - Heal, Grow & Love after Separation or Divorce

Sandra and Fiona were recently interviewed by Donna Armstrong from Joy and discussed the challenges that midlife women face when going through a separation or divorce.

At Women On Transition, we are passionate about helping ladies find their feet, healing and reinventing themselves so they can create beautiful new lives.

We hope you find this video helpful if you are ready to move on. The Reset Your Life and Shine 3-Day event in Sydney and Melbourne is a wonderful opportunity to be coached and inspired to take action and empowered by women who have already succeeded.
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HOW DIVORCED WOMEN REINVENT THEMSELVES Donna Anderson from Joy recently interviewed Fiona May and Sandra Lee on how women reinvent themselves and the importance of hitting reset on their lives aft...

HOW TO STOP OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR EX

Hey there, lovely. Let's have a heart-to-heart about something that's probably been on your mind a lot lately – your ex.

I know, I know, it's a touchy subject. But as a divorce recovery coach, I've seen too many amazing women like you get stuck in the "ex obsession" loop. So, let's talk about how to break free and start healing, shall we?

First things first – put down that phone! I see you scrolling through his social media for the millionth time. Trust me, I get it. It's so tempting to keep tabs on what he's up to, who he's with, and if he looks as miserable as you feel. But here's the thing – it's like picking at a scab. You're reopening that wound every single time…

Remember when your bestie called to tell you she saw him at the grocery store with a new haircut? Or when your cousin mentioned running into him at the gym? I know your heart probably skipped a beat, but honey, those little updates are holding you back. It's time to kindly but firmly ask your friends and family to stop playing detective. Tell them you're on a mission to heal, and that means no more ex updates.

Now, I can almost hear you thinking, "But Fiona, talking about him helps me process everything!" I hear you, I really do. Venting can feel so good in the moment. But there's a fine line between processing and obsessing. If you find yourself bringing him up in every conversation, it is time to hit the pause button.

So, what can you do instead? I'm so glad you asked! This is where the real healing begins.

First, let's focus on you. You need to heal at a core level and grow your emotional intelligence. This is the only way you actually process and then make progress. You need to create a plan for your life so you have something to move onto. It needs to be practical and step by step.

There’s a lot of rubbish advice given like you just need to do things for yourself like dusting off your paintbrushes, sign up for that cooking class you've been eyeing, or finally plan that girls' trip you've been talking about for years. These things are great but they don’t HEAL YOU! Rediscovering your passions and interests are like finding little pieces of yourself that got lost along the way but they don’t HEAL YOU!

Next, let's talk about your support system. Surround yourself with people who lift you up, who see your worth, and who are excited about your future is good but they don’t HEAL YOU!

You can join our Facebook support group for divorced women but it won’t deal with the core underlying issues that sabotage your success.

The only think that will really heal you and cover off on everything you need to know as you move forward, reinvent yourself, learn about men and relationships and provide you with a step-by-step plan for your life is a Divorce Recovery Coach.

Having people who understand what you're going through doesn’t HEAL YOU, but it’s fabulous suppirt as you grow your mind, learn new tools and skills and then process everything from your past what has the potential to trigger you. It makes all the difference when you deal with the core underlying issues that hold you bak from being your best self and truly successful.

Now, here's a big one – you need to start dreaming again. I know it might feel scary to think about the future right now, but I promise it's also exciting. What do you want your life to look like in a year? Five years? Start visualising it, writing it down, maybe even create a vision board. This isn't just daydreaming – it's setting intentions for your new chapter. If you find it hard to dream you need a divorce recovery coach to push you so you don’t procrastinate, will show you the way forward and hold you accountable so you reach your goals.

And let's discuss self-care. HEALING doesn’t come from taking bubble baths (although those are lovely too). I mean really taking care of yourself is to grow your mind so you HEAL – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It needs to be more than chatting to girlfriends, watch a YouTube video, listening to a podcast or seeing a therapist as they never have the time to work through the deeper issues.

Can you see why I refuse to be a normal “therapist”. 1 hour a week talking about your problems will NEVER HEAL YOU and teach you everything you need to know to transition from being a Mrs. to a Ms. and coming out the other side emotionally fit and with a plan to create your new life.

Healing isn't linear, and there will be good days and bad days. That's okay. You need to be making constant and never ending personal improvement. Each step forward, no matter how small, is progress. Success builds on success when you take action and are committed to changing your life. Celebrate each of your wins, so you enjoy the journey!

Remember, you're not just moving on from your ex – you're moving towards a brighter, more fulfilling future. One where you're the star of your own show, not a supporting character in someone else's.

So, what do you say? Are you ready to close the ex files and start healing so you can write your next chapter?

I believe in you, and I can't wait to see what amazing things you will create for yourself with our help. You've got this, beautiful. Now make it your mission to reinvent yourself and learn how to SHINE!

Coach Fiona May Steddy 🙏🏼❤️🎉😀👍🏻
Women On Transition
www.womenontransition.com

PS: Healing doesn’t happen on its own and it doesn’t have to take years. You can heal your core wounds and create a beautiful new inspiring life when you work with us for 12-weeks. Send me a message if you’d like to know more.

Hello Beautiful Lady!

When it comes to choosing what we want to draw in or remove from our lives, we either come from a place of fear or love.

Fear makes us settle for something we don’t really want, buy things we don’t really need, stay in jobs we don’t really like, and remain in disempowering relationships.

In other words, we continue to live smaller than our true potential.

Making decisions from love and inner-knowing on the other hand, allows us to live more deep and fulfilling lives full of abundance and joy.

Deciding to HEAL, GROW and LOVE is not an easy decision. It takes time, effort, and more importantly, the right kind of support and know-how. Have you made that decision yet?

You can join and access our group via this link: www.facebook.com/groups/HealGrowLove and get to know the women who have made the decision to heal and how it transformed their lives.

No one can decide or do it for you. Your journey to heal, grow, and love is in your hands.

P.S. If you are sick of staying stuck and making the same mistakes... If you are committed to changing your life, ready to be coachable and invest in yourself, you can book a free call to discuss your situation and we will help you find a solution that suits your circumstances: https://womenontransition.com/freecall

We want the best for you and don't want to see you suffer. We know you can turn your life around and THRIVE!

Fiona May and Sandra Lee x
Head Coaches at Women On Transition

DIVORCED WOMEN LOOKING TO DATE - Listen UP!

I hear advice all the time that says you should REJECT ANY MAN WHO DOESN’T MEET YOUR STANDARDS…

What I OFTEN see happening is women rejecting good men because they are too scared to give them a go!

Women think they have the upper hand and have gotten GREAT at rejecting men because they don’t want to settle for less than they think they deserve, but often they are blind to how they are showing up and they sabotage their own success.

What they don’t see is the important GAP in their skill set that prevents them from attracting better men.

If any woman wants to attract men in the top 5% of available single men, she needs to become a 5% woman. That's actually becoming a MATCH for the kind of man she really desires!

I’ve noticed this happens because many women have a fundamental misunderstanding of what healthy men are looking for in a relationship, and it causes them to date in a way that attracts unhealthy men.

It’s not enough to look at the men you’re attracting and say “Nope, nope, not him, nope, next, I deserve better, nope, not him either”.

* You also have to be willing to look at YOURSELF…

* Look at what part of you gets triggered by him…

* Look at where you want to cut it off just so you don’t have to bear the uncertainty…

* Look at where you overlook red flags thinking it makes you a better person…

Without the introspection, you’re just going to keep attracting more of the same guys and it gets really hard to not be jaded when you keep attracting men who don’t meet your needs.

This is NOT about blaming yourself.

It’s about looking at your interactions and taking ownership of your part in them - and if you don’t know how to do it in a healthier way next time, get help! Work with me, I have programs and coaching for this!

Rejecting what’s not meant for you is only PART of the equation - becoming a match for what IS meant for you is the other piece!

Women who are ready to become their best selves and want to attract incredible, emotionally intelligent, masculine, commitment-minded men to create the relationship they desire when the time is right must properly prepare.

It probably seems ludicrous to you that you are single in midlife as you are such a good catch. Attracting an attractive, healthy, commitment-minded masculine man shouldn’t be so hard with all you’ve got going for you!

Frankly, you’re probably kinda bewildered that you’re even still single.

Here’s why even hot, smart, and successful women struggle to find their match:

It’s NOT because there aren’t enough quality men...

It’s NOT because dating apps have ruined dating...

It’s NOT even because men are intimidated by you...

It’s because without realising it, you’re actually pushing them away and operating from instinct while dating.

NOTHING triggers our instincts quite like dating and relationships.

Add to that the social conditioning that tells us who we should or shouldn’t be while dating and my goodness… we’ve got some STUFF to contend with!

Most of your behaviour around dating is designed for survival, avoidance of pain, and instant gratification, whether you realise it or not.

And despite your deep desire for connection, your instincts and conditioning are taking you further AWAY from falling in love and partnering for the long haul with someone who’s truly compatible.

Why?

Because honestly your instincts want to keep you safe so you survive and procreate – that’s it.

Your instincts don’t know how to have a healthy relationship, let alone an extraordinary one.

Your INSTINCTS will actively AVOID an extraordinary relationship.

It’s not your fault, that’s just how instincts are and it goes back to the caveman days...

Societal conditioning only made things worse - we grew up in a society that based relationships on providing security and wasn’t based on love, commitment and co-creating a beautiful partnership. When men and women are in toxic relationships they oppose each other what’s not exactly conducive to an exceptional partnership you’re looking for!

Instincts and conditioning show up in a lot of ways.

* Such as getting overly attached to the wrong person before really even knowing if he’s compatible just because it FEELS good.
* Attracting men who don’t take the lead and getting really annoyed and pi**ed with him, or maybe even questioning if you’re the one who’s asking for too much
* Falling for the dazzle, being spoiled financially, the romantic words, the promises, and diving in—only to wind up heartbroken when he doesn’t follow through or there’s no real emotional connection
* Getting reactive and breaking things off because we can’t handle the uncertainty of the dating process, and finding flaws as an excuse to run
* Trying to impress him and show him you’re the perfect woman for him

We hide our cards out of fear of being hurt and then wind up with either men who want completely different things, or with a man who’s not in his masculine and doesn’t know what he wants.

All of these behaviours (and MANY more that are regular appearances on our dating playlist) will keep you alive, they’ll either protect you from some pain or at least soften the blow a bit - but they will not lead to you SHINING AND THRIVING in love. 🌷

Join the Shine Program and learn how to become open, responsive and magnetic to a high-value man.

So what’s a woman to do?

Let me help you, of course! I can help you with all this and more.

A taste of what we will be working on over the next 3 months:

* Re-wiring wonky intimacy patterns: you’ll learn how to have unshakeable self-confidence and truly love yourself so that you can confidently vet connections in a way that honours YOU first
* You’ll become happy in your own skin, handle your emotions, and know how to regulate your feelings so you aren’t stressed, busy, and depleted
* Be open to genuine, authentic intimacy with another - and know how to detect insincerity and choose the right men - you’ll be on FIRE when you learn how to do this!
* Learn to be a great communicator so you are always treated with respect and valued by quality people
* You’ll recognise your hidden triggers so that you’re able to be in your power and not lose your way
* You’ll become a better leader and role model processing from your heart and losing the need to judge
* you’ll be Feminine, soft and a divine woman without sacrificing your go-getter ambition, your intelligence, or your hard-won boundaries

Join the Shine Program and properly prepare yourself for a beautiful new life!

If you have any questions to help you figure out if this is the best next move for you, hit my name and send me a message and ask!

I’m on your side,
Fiona May 🙏🏼❤️😀✅

Here's some links to how you can work with me and my team: https://bit.ly/m/Women-On-Transition

ARE YOU SOOTHING BY OVER WORKING?

My client Jan was a highly successful woman, but her work had completely taken over her life. She had no work-life balance, as she was drowning herself in work to keep herself busy. Recently separated, Jan was struggling to understand why her husband had left her, as she had been sacrificing her family for her career for years.

The truth was, Jan had been using her work to soothe herself and find a sense of significance, but it had come at a great cost. She had become critical of herself, judgmental of others, and was on the verge of losing everything she had worked so hard to create.

When Jan started working with me, she was able to uncover the deeper issues driving her workaholism. In just 12 weeks, she transformed her mindset and realized that she had been running on empty, burnt out from constantly pushing herself.

People use their career and work to fill them when the other areas of their life are deficient. When you stop making your work your entire life, it stops having power over you to rule your life but the void will need to be replaced with something else, not just stopped.

You can learn to manage your stress, burnout and why you are so driven and push yourself so much. You can then commit to getting some balance in your life and to meet your needs and your family's needs in more healthier and balanced ways.

You can learn to prioritise your relationships, become a more present, less reactive, and more compassionate parent and partner. You’ll also discover a newfound love for yourself, embrace your true purpose and find the confidence to handle life's challenges.

If you have been using work as a way to soothe yourself and find significance, it's time to break free from this cycle. The 12-week Shine Program can help you uncover the root causes of your workaholism, develop healthy coping strategies, and achieve the work-life balance you deserve.

Don't wait any longer to start shining. Message me today to learn more about how our program can transform your life.

Fiona May x

PS. Overworking is a soothing symptom and masks deeper insecurities… it keeps you busy but will never lead to true fulfilment.

I’d love to help you get more balance in your life. Change your life today by finding out why you work so hard and push yourself to be successful in your career at the expense of other areas in your life today.

You can get more information about working with me here: https://bit.ly/m/Women-On-Transition

DO YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO ARE DIVORCED?

This article is for them... Please share it as divorce shouldn't deprive you of living a beautiful new life!

How to Embracing the Power of Becoming Single...

Midlife singlehood is not a phase to be endured, but a profound opportunity for personal transformation and growth. As a midlife single woman, you hold the power to redefine societal expectations and create a life that truly aligns with your authentic self.

Far from being a limitation, singlehood at this stage of life offers a precious gift - the freedom to explore, discover, and cultivate the life you've always dreamed of. No longer beholden to the constraints of a relationship, you can finally focus on your own passions, goals, and wellness without compromise.

This is your chance to uncover the depths of your inner strength, resilience, and self-love. Embrace the journey of self-discovery, whether it's trying a new hobby, embarking on a solo adventure, or investing in your personal and professional development. Each step you take will empower you to step into the fullness of who you are.

Remember, your worth is not defined by your relationship status. You are a complete and whole individual, deserving of love, happiness, and fulfilment. Celebrate this chapter of your life, knowing that it is paving the way for a future filled with boundless possibilities.

Midlife singlehood is not a sentence, but a liberation. Reclaim your power, own your narrative, and inspire others with the radiant, confident woman you are becoming. The best is yet to come.

Celebrate your own courage to not settle for a life that was less than you deserve. You should be proud of the person you are becoming!

Fiona May x

You can get more information about working with us here: https://bit.ly/m/Women-On-Transition

DO YOU EVER SPEAK BEFORE THINKING?

Let’s look at the importance of thinking before you speak…

In our fast-paced world, it's easy to react quickly without considering the impact of our words. However, taking a moment to reflect before speaking can make a world of difference in our personal and professional lives. As someone who has spent over a decade helping individuals navigate their emotions, I can confidently say that mastering this skill is a cornerstone of emotional intelligence.

When we speak without thinking, we risk saying things we might regret later. These impulsive words can hurt others and damage relationships that may have taken years to build. By pausing to consider our words, we show respect for others' feelings and demonstrate empathy – key components in maintaining healthy relationships.

Thinking before speaking allows us to organize our thoughts and express ourselves more clearly. This leads to more effective communication, reducing misunderstandings and conflicts. In my experience counseling women and couples, I've observed how improved communication can transform dynamics and resolve long-standing issues.

Often, our immediate reactions are driven by intense emotions like anger or frustration. By taking a moment to think, we create space between the trigger and our response. This pause allows us to regulate our emotions and choose a more measured and constructive way to express ourselves.

We've all experienced that sinking feeling after saying something we wish we could take back. Thinking before speaking acts as a filter, helping us avoid words or actions we might later regret. This practice can save us from unnecessary guilt and preserve our self-esteem.

In professional settings, the ability to think before speaking is invaluable. It showcases maturity, self-control, and good judgment – qualities that are highly valued in any workplace. I've worked with numerous executives who have enhanced their leadership skills by mastering this practice.

Like any skill, thinking before speaking requires practice. Here are some strategies I often recommend to my clients:

1. Practice the pause: When you feel the urge to speak, take a deep breath and count to three. This brief pause can make a significant difference.

2. Ask yourself key questions: Before speaking, quickly ask yourself: "Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?" This mental checklist can help guide your words.

3. Consider the impact: Think about how your words might affect the listener. This exercise in empathy can help shape your message more considerately.

4. Reframe your thoughts: If your initial reaction is negative, try to reframe it in a more constructive way before speaking.

5. Mindfulness techniques: Regular mindfulness practice can increase your overall awareness, making it easier to pause and reflect in the moment.

Remember, the goal isn't to censor yourself completely but to communicate more effectively and compassionately. It's about finding the balance between honesty and kindness, assertiveness and respect.

In my years of practice, I've seen remarkable transformations in individuals who have committed to thinking before speaking. They report improved relationships, reduced conflicts, and a greater sense of control over their lives.

By cultivating this habit, you're not just improving your communication skills; you're taking a significant step towards greater emotional intelligence and overall well-being. It's a journey worth embarking on, and the benefits will ripple through all aspects of your life.

I’m on your side!

Fiona May Steddy xx

You can get more information about working with us here: https://bit.ly/m/Women-On-Transition

The Inner Experiences of Midlife Women Facing Separation

As the co-owners of Women On Transition, a coaching practice that supports women through major life changes like divorce or separation, we've had the privilege of walking alongside countless courageous women as they navigate their midlife separations. While each woman's circumstances are unique, there are definitely common threads in how they personally process and make sense of this seismic shift.

For many, the initial feelings can best be described as grief, loss and disorientation. So much of a woman's identity may have been wrapped up in her role as a wife or partner that losing that sense of self leaves her feeling unloved. She slowly goes through the stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression - as she acknowledges what once was can no longer be. Practical losses like shared finances or a family home only compound this deeper identity crisis.

Questions of "What did I do wrong?" or "How did this happen?" are normal, yet unhelpful for long-term well-being. With compassionate guidance, our clients learn to reframe the separation as outside their control and not a reflection of their personal value or worthiness of love. This reframing is vital for avoiding the sinkhole of shame.

Feelings of regret, loneliness and anxiety about an uncertain future are also very common. Midlife is a time when many expect stability, not upheaval. The loss of a future imagined together can stir up fears of being "left on the shelf" or struggling to start over financially. However, with time and personal growth, my clients recognize their resilience and potential for deep fulfilment regardless of relationship status.

Overall, the journey isn't linear. There will be good days and hard days. But seeking professional help from Divorce Recovery Coaches and speaking with other women further along in their healing helps provide living proof that contentment and happiness, can be found on the other side of this transition. With compassion for themselves, openness to support, and a willingness to rediscover who they are independent of another, midlife women have the opportunity to transform separation into a rebirth of self.

Join Fiona May and Sandra Lee in our private Facebook Community where we coach over 18,000 ladies to HEAL, GROW and learn to LOVE again. Join the group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/HealGrowLove

HAVE YOU LOST YOUR IDENTITY?

Are you a midlife woman currently going through a divorce and feeling lost and alone? I understand how difficult and overwhelming this period can be. Let me share with you a powerful story that might resonate with you.

Imagine the day when you feel like you've lost everything - your family, your sense of self, and your hope for the future. That's exactly how Fiona May felt when her marriage failed. She was devastated and believed that she had let her family down, fearing that they would become just another statistic - a divorced family.

At 46 years old, Fiona May Steddy found herself single and alone, and she couldn't help but wonder if she would ever find happiness again or if anyone would ever want her. The pain was overwhelming, and everyone in her family was silently suffering, including her grown children and her parents.

But Fiona didn't let herself stay in that dark place. She took a brave step and decided to look within herself to understand the role she played in the breakdown of her marriage. It wasn't easy to stop blaming her ex-husband and start taking responsibility for her own actions, but she knew that it was necessary for her own growth and the happiness of her family.

Looking back, Fiona realized that their relationship had slowly deteriorated over the years due to a lack of prioritization, emotional disconnection, and a failure to meet each other's needs. They loved each other but had lost their way.

Fiona's turning point came when she realized that she needed help and was willing to put her ego aside to get it. She enrolled in various courses and programs to build her emotional fitness and master relationships. She knew that talk therapy alone wouldn't be enough - she needed a mentor, a practical pathway, and support to heal herself, her family, and create a new empowered life.

The journey wasn't easy, and Fiona faced emotional and financial anxiety, heartbreak, and fear of the future. But she persevered, and today, she celebrates 10 years of rebuilding herself and creating a happy, reunited family. She has gone on to become Australia's No. 1 Divorce Recovery Coach and coaches women just like you to reinvent themselves. Fiona has also found love again and is now in a relationship where she feels valued and cherished.

Fiona's story shows us that it is possible to overcome the challenges of divorce and create a new, fulfilling life. If you find yourself in a similar situation, there are steps you can take right now. First, be honest with yourself about your situation. Confronting the truth can be difficult, but it's the first step towards planning a new course of action.

Second, make a commitment to yourself and seek help. Small steps today can lead to significant changes in the future. And remember, you don't have to share your commitment with everyone right away. Some people might try to hold you back because your actions make them uncomfortable. Stay focused on your own growth and well-being.

If you're interested in learning more about Fiona's journey and how she can help you, I encourage you to watch her free training or send her a private message. Fiona and her partner Sandra Lee from Women On Transition specialize in divorce recovery coaching for midlife women. They offer a step-by-step practical strategy to transform your life, heal your family, attract a quality partner, and build an exciting future.

Unlike other coaches or therapists who only offer talk therapy, Fiona and Sandra provide real, tangible support and mentorship based on over 30 years of experience. They have over 18,000 in their Facebook Group and have coached over 500 ladies in their Divorce Recovery Programs to rebuild and empower themselves. They understand the unique challenges faced by midlife women>

Book a free call here to talk to a divorce recovery coach from Women On Transition: https://bit.ly/FreeLTCall

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