Womens Work: A Sober Perspective

Happy Sunday!

Thank God It's Friday has an entirely different meaning then it used to. I used to focus on drinking and recovering from drinking.

Now I am so excited for what I GET to do on the weekend.

Movement, self-Care, family time, weekly prep, gardening, hiking, reading...the possibilities are ENDLESS.

Why? Because I am not either hungover or drinking.

What are you doing this weekend?

Changing my habits and routines has been a game changer in sobriety. It took away the decision factor in making sure I show up for myself daily. I just do because I know my habits and routines benefit every area of my life.

when life is hard, my habits and routines are what carry me. No matter what life throws at me, I know what I need to do to show up as my best self. I know what the non-negotiables are in my life.

Recently I have added 6 new routines to my life. Each one has helped me. Listen to today's new episode to hear what they are and why you should give them a try.

30 minutes. Thats all you need to move your body in a way that will transform how you feel.

Movement has helped tremendously with my anxiety and mental health. I feel physically and mentally stronger when I am consistent with my workouts.
Dont want to go to a gym? No problem! Go for a walk. A walk is still movement and will help in the same ways!!

What movement do you like to do?

ps. it is a good way to fill in the time you used to spend at happy hour.

One of my favorite parts of sobriety is the routine and habits that I have established. With them, I feel confident, accomplished, and ready to take on most anything.

It is an important reminder that habits and routines are established for when things are hard. No matter what I am going through, I have my habits and routine to keep me grounded. They are my foundation. My roots.

Tomorrows episode will discuss 6 new routines I have begun that have been a huge help for me. I truly feel that when I find things that work (or don't), I want to share it will you so you can try it as well or get you thinking of what it is YOU need during this season.

Make sure to listen to tomorrow's new episode, "Life did not get harder, I got smarter".

In sobriety I learned life is hard, yes, but does not have to be SO hard. I can manage the stress I feel. I can control my reaction to what occurs, I can make my life easier if I apply the tools I am learning.

What do you do to make life easier, even when it is hard?

For years I went back and forth with the idea of sobriety. When it got hard, I would tell myself there is no point in trying, "this must be the way I am".

I believed that for YEARS. But it is NOT the way I was. I felt stuck and I didn't know the tools I needed to push through.

With community and developing a sober toolkit, I became stronger than my excuses. This wasn't who I was, I was better than that. That was the crutch of alcohol talking.

Listen to today's episode to hear how I finally stopped believing it was "who I was" and did something about to finally learn who I truly am.

In sobriety I learned to love the journey. I used to be so focused to the end game.
Am I sober? Yes
Is my journey complete? Never

Listen to todays episode about how I learned to love the process.

Before I was sober, the time from May till mid-June was an awful season for me after my dad passed. Every year I would relive how my dad got sick and passed away and allowed myself to wallow into depression. I would use alcohol to "feel better" but would only feel worse.

This year, I was scared going into the season. I was making great progress and didn't want to lose that. I wasn't sure how I would respond.

But it was SO much better than I ever thought it would be. Listen to todays episode about how what is usually a hard season for me wasn't as hard.

I LOVE a new week.

Even when things are going well, I love the idea of a new week and a chance to start again. I get to prioritize my goals for the week and plan what I spend my time on.

I get to decide what I actually want to do and how I want to show up.

What do you get to do this Monday because your sober?

Happy 4th of July!!

For years, today used to be focused around drinking. Not anymore. I celebrate freedom. Freedom from alcohol.

I get to have a good nights sleep. I get to enjoy the day with my family and friends. I get to go to bed proud of myself and wake up refreshed.

Todays episode is one of the first episodes I released but felt it was fitting for today. The 6 Things I wish I knew in Early Sobriety.

With this month also being Dry July and many people beginning their sobriety journey, I cant help but remember all the things I wish I knew when I first became sober.

I hope everyone has a safe 4th of July and remember; you can do hard things. I have never woken up and wished I had drank but remember how many thousands of mornings I wish I hadn't.

Am I the only one who can't believe tomorrow is July 4th??
While the summer is zooming by, it is never too late to give sobriety a shot. Dry July is a great time to join with others in not drinking for this month.

Use this month as your own experiment to see how not drinking makes you feel. I promise, in time, it will be worth it.

July is the perfect time to take a break from drinking and join others in Dry July. In sobriety community is KEY. From finding a sober community, a lot of weight felt lifted off my shoulders and I stopped feeling alone. I found people, like me, who were high functioning and had internal debates about their relationship with alcohol.

Give Dry July a try. I promise you wont regret it.

July 4th has always been a holiday I associated with unlimited drinking and a free for all. In sobriety, I have had to approach July 4th differently than I have in the past.

Listen to tomorrow's new episode to hear what I did and recommend for July 4th, so that it can be a fun day without the regret on the 5th.

Every morning I start my daily routine reading a chapter in a personal growth book. While I am only about 30 pages into “The Wealth Money Cant Buy” by Robin Sharma I can already tell it a good one with much to learn.

What are you reading?

Happy Friday!!
This weekend I plan to be outside enjoying the beautiful weather as much as possible, but also doing my daily habits and my favorite weekend workouts.
I GET to do all this because I have been sober all week. I feel clear headed, energized, and ready to have a good weekend while not sabotaging next weeks goals!

What are your weekend plans?

This was a huge lesson for me; not everyone is going to like you.

When I was drinking, I wanted everyone to like me. I was a people pleaser to the extreme and sought validation of myself through others. I wanted to be liked, loved, and be friends with everyone. But in the pursuit of trying to get everyone to like me, I lost my most important relationship; the one with myself.

Listen to todays new episode about how I finally realized how detrimental people pleasing was for me and how little it matters what others think of me.

There isnt a better feeling than knowing that I can do whatever I set my mind to. I look forward to the adventures I havent experienced yet, knowing that they are coming.

In sobriety, anything is possible.

YES! We can do hard things!!!

When I drank, everything seemed hard. I wish I could do things, like hike, work out, be strong, and I never tried. I gave up on my dreams. I constantly thought, "I can't do this/that, why bother".

In sobriety, I can do ANYTHING. My new mantra is I can do anything I set my mind to. If I can become sober, I can do anything.

Listen to today's episode about how I shifted my mindset and live my life knowing I can do anything.

What I love about a Monday is the fresh start we all get. New week, new goals, new opportunities. Regardless of what did not did not happen last week, we get to start fresh today.

Use today as a chance to start again or continue your progress. Ask yourself what has been working and what has not? You got this!!!

I have done a cold plunge the last couple days and it is for sure mind over matter. I stayed in two minutes yesterday and three today. I already feel the pain I have in my knee from a long term injury subside.

I have been working on controling my mind. By controlling my mind I can control my reactions, what I do/dont do, and my life overall. I plan to continue cold plunging and increasing my time.

Plus, it makes it that much better when the place you go is amazing and Dena literally coaches me through it with her words, wisdom, and endless encouragement. An example of women supporting women which is the best.

New episodes this week!