AstroDoula Cynthia Maria

Cancer Mars is an emotional hemophiliac. They operate from a place of deep insecurity because they have yet to find their real home. They always hope to find it with family and their relationships because it's their biggest dream and they are repeatedly heartbroken that it does not come true. They become volatile because they are so sensitive; they will fight you, withdraw or cry, often going back and forth with what they truly want. Cancer Mars is the most secretive of Mars signs, more than Scorpio Mars and they keep their dreams to themselves. Friends, romantic partners, and family tend to break them apart and down (their dreams and their emotional worlds).

Capricorn Mars acts from a place of lack in relationships; they are insecure and fear that if they don't keep working at the relationship in some capacity (more money, more fun, more romance, more anything) that it will crumble away. Cap Mars is achievement-oriented in relationships and can often develop low self-esteem if they fail or have repeated failures in relationships.

Even though Mars is exalted in Capricorn, Capricorn is ruled by Saturn and Saturn's energy is of "proving" that it is good enough. The work for Mars in Capricorn is to understand that they are inherently worthy--not because of what they do, but because of who they are.

In love astrology, Mars describes your tendency to act on your fears and insecurities.

Earth Mars are slow to act—often considering other options before unleashing on their partners. Usually, they work or do other things to keep from feeling these feelings. They often act rationally and weigh the consequences of their actions. The most nervous of Earth Mars is Virgo Mars, who often is more critical of others’ actions than their own inflexibility.

In love, Virgo Mars will criticize their partners with the assumption their partners understand the power of self-improvement. 8/10 that is not the case, so the partners of Virgo Mars feel as if they are never good enough—often internalizing the constant fear and insecurity of the Virgo Mars person who themselves doesn’t feel good enough.

Fire Mars are quick to act—often saying and doing things they want to take back. Usually they lack tact in expressing fear and insecurity and can often project this onto their partners. Leo Mars, in particular, has a very hard time with saying things when they need to and often unleashes a torrent of hurtful words that aim straight to the heart. It's usually the intensity of the words (not so much the sentiment) that they regret.

Aries Mars; however, doesn’t feel that way at all. Aries Mars often believes you deserve to have your ass lit up for making them feel insecure or worrying them. Their recklessness is what they tend to worry about, not necessarily how you feel about what they have to say to you.

Air Mars are indecisive—often deciding between keeping their partners at a distance and talking it out. Usually, these folks have the most obsessive thought loops and they are the types to compare you to previous partners and relationships.

Aquarius Mars actually struggles with expressing their fears and insecurities to their lovers and have an easier time sharing it with their friends. Oftentimes Aquarius Mars will feel more comfortable speaking to their partner if a shared, close friend is present. Gemini Mars, next to Virgo Mars, is the most nervous of all Mars signs. They often say and do things they do not mean, and often express their fears and insecurities in riddles. Mind games are often the tool used to keep partners at a distance.

Water Mars are irrational—often their actions are laced with secrecy because they don’t want their partner to discover their weakness. That weakness is an overwhelming sense of fear and insecurity in love. As such, they don’t really act from reason and instead react according to how strong their emotions are.

Scorpio Mars is often cruel and cold, inflicting suffering upon their partner if they exploit this weakness in any way. Pisces Mars will ghost you, or they will turn to substances to relinquish the control they have over the situation so they can just “see what happens.” Cancer Mars, the most volatile of the water signs, can hide and withdraw from you or they can explode in a tidal wave of emotions.

Relationships are a safe haven for Water Mars but it is the most terrifying aspect of their lives.

Your preferences shape more than your relationships.

The dream life you crave is directly linked to your dream relationship.

When you are aware of those qualities—you set the parameters for what you will and will not entertain.

That elusive singular focus required to manifest your desires hinges on your willpower, love.

Developing willpower in life and love (but especially love) is sometimes harder than getting a fleeing partner to settle down.

For many, it feels impossible.

But what if you’re simply out of practice in choosing what you prefer?

Oftentimes, preferences get a bad rap.

Look beyond what you prefer and secure what is realistic, they say.
Your dream relationship doesn’t exist, they claim.
You’re asking for too much, they plead.

Obviously, they are unaware of the quality of life you desire to manifest and maintain.
Obviously, they are evangelists of the Settle for Less congregation.
Obviously, they do not have your best interests in mind.

But you do, and yet you often choose to settle for a person, job, house, friendship, and more that have some but not all of what you desire.

Why separate what you prefer in all of these areas away from one another?

If you desire to run a business with your future partner—home, relationships, communication, money, work, peace of mind, and more are entangled.

If you desire to be a kept wife—self-love, money, personal development, home, peace of mind, and more are intertwined.

If you desire an equal partnership—all the things are combined!

If you do not know what you naturally prefer—
Perhaps you are a survivor of abuse or neglect
Maybe you have narcissistic or codependent parents

Or you are simply in the habit of prioritizing someone else's preferences and quality of life over your own.

Love Astrology allows you to make sense of whether your preferences are truly yours or conditioned. If you want to go with your heart, you need to make a habit out of choosing what you prefer.

This isn’t a gross oversimplification—your life and relationships are a product of you choosing to either go with or against your preferences.

Remember, your preferences are what you greatly like over something else. They naturally bring you greater joy, passion, and fulfillment.

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Love can have you floating on cloud nine, and that same love can have you wanting to down three entire bottles of ibuprofen to kill yourself.

One day you may feel as if you are on top of the world, and the next, well, you feel less than stellar: your bubble bursts, revealing all the red flags you hid away under the guise of patience, faith, and false beliefs in the potential of love.

If you are the type of lover whose emotions vacillate between feeling as if your partner is a divine soul mate and, in the same vein, know your partner ain’t sh*t—welcome to the planet, Neptune.

Imagine for a moment that you have a ball of purple-colored gas in front of you. If you put your hand through it, you may feel the sensations (gas kissing your skin), but there is nothing to grab onto.

This is the effect of Neptune in Love Astrology; it is more about feeling and transcending reality than actually having anything of true substance.

The true substance granted by Neptune exists in the form of spiritual or divine love, which can often be felt or experienced in music, books, movies, your spiritual practice, meditation, and art. It’s usually through these Neptunian art forms that we tap into a love that transcends our reality.

What I will say though—if you have issues with self-esteem and self-love, Neptune will be a shiny gas orb that beckons you to it. You will be attracted to people who seem shiny and nice on the outside, but once you grab onto them you will find there is no substance, nothing real to hold onto.

If you have an elevated Neptune (in houses 1, 4, 7, 10, or 12), you must be careful of projecting (a Neptunian quality) your dreams of who someone can be, while ignoring the reality of who they are. You cannot project your ideals and your ideal vision of that person onto them and then get mad that they do not show up that way.

This is particularly important when it comes to love, and especially when it comes to loving yourself. If you project an ideal vision of you onto you, while ignoring the reality of who you are, you will not love "the you "who is currently in front of you.

Neptune causes us to transcend reality, and the number one thing we tend to escape from is the unloved and undesirable parts of ourselves. And these very aspects are what link and bind us to problematic partners, who embody those very principles we try so hard to ignore.

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You want love but why invest in my workshop when there is an abundance of free info on the web? Why, when you can work with a relationship coach or get a reading 10x cheaper than my course?

If I saw an astrologer offering a 10-day course with daily video instruction + a FB group—I’d opt-out.

I’m the self-study type when it comes to practical info, so why would I commit time + $$ towards what I do for free?

What’s the point of groups if you prefer to study alone?

Groups help simplify what you know into practical, actionable steps & yet I became very self-conscious in them.

Others ACTED ON what they knew so they had more than WORDS to show for it.

I avoided groups, but in 2013, I attended a 21-day workshop on financial literacy for survivors of DV that changed everything.

Afterwards community organizers sought me out as I excelled at breaking the ice & setting the tone for involved participation.

I make speaking from the heart simple & practical.

This is the core of what my workshop is about: opening up & discovering what’s in your heart.

Yes, of course, you can google all of this information, but google will not help you simplify or expand upon what you want.

Google will not help you get clear on why you are holding yourself back from what you actually desire. It will not help you determine the best actions to take to help you form better relationships.

Google will do what google does—provide an overabundance of options, facts + opinions & leave the choice up to you.

So your choice is this:

Continue self-studying when what you really desire is sharing and collaboration, so that you can save any embarrassment, shame, or idleness from stalling your progress—

Or, join me (+ invite your friends) for a deep dive into the cosmic waters. It sounds 100% crazy & isn’t practical (I mean, what is even down there) BUT—

Don’t you want to jump in & see for yourself?

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My friends often come to me in tears when their relationships have—once again—drifted away from their idea of success.

And they ALWAYS need to know…"CYN, I NEED TO KNOW!"

they plead... and they cry:

"What about MY damn chart makes love so hard?"

"What about ME makes love so hard?"

♡ Well, let me tell you: ♡

It’s not your chart sweetie, but being taught how to use your birth chart to improve your satisfaction with yourself will naturally improve your satisfaction with others.

In other words, before you learn how to use your chart to love others, it’s imperative you learn how to use it to love yourself.

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"If you truly desire to use Astrology for what it’s meant for, as a mirror of your movements with celestial movement, just take a minute to assess whether your astrology addiction helps you move forward, or whether it helps you make excuses for your lack of accountability and integrity.

That should be enough for you to recognize whether or not you have learned enough of the science to make it relevant to your personal growth."

xoxo,
Your Favorite Astrologer

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People with a Pisces 3rd house, or Mercury in Pisces, struggle with an overactive imagination that creates unrealistic scenarios in everyday conversation. This can be especially difficult in school, especially in subjects where the individual has to think logically and in a linear fashion. Their thoughts naturally shift according to their environment and whatever is going on with the people around them. It is easy for them to get caught up in public opinion, and it can sometimes be easier for them to opt-out of the public arena or social media sphere in lieu of solitude.

The combination of Neptune and Mercury causes the mercurial Piscean to desire to escape to a fantasy world within literature and movies. They often travel internationally early on in their life and seek out emotional experiences that transcend their everyday experiences. The Jupiter influence causes the individual to over exaggerate (much like the mercurial Sagittarian) but they are often curt and sarcastic if they think you see them as being too gullible or naive. Of all the mercury placements, they have the most difficulty with being honest with themselves.

People with an Aquarius 3rd house, or Mercury in Aquarius, struggle with apathetic speech. Often accused of not paying attention or appearing bored in conversation, the mercurial aquarian desperately desire an opportunity to think and speak about unconventional ideas. At times, they can contradict themselves with how open-minded they are in some situations, and how they detest things that deviate from their norm (this is due to Saturn & Mercury).

It can be incredibly difficult to understand this person at times because the combination of Uranus with Mercury causes sudden disruptions. Their thinking, speech, environment, and movements can be jerky or violent, they can have issues with motor nerves and can stutter. When stressed, they may go silent in fear of saying something they cannot take back.

Much like the mercurial Sagittarian, they have no difficulty telling you if you’re stupid or wrong, but beware of accusing them of the same, for they will escalate the conversation from an impersonal argument to a highly personalized insult fest.

People with a Capricorn 3rd house, or Mercury in Capricorn, struggle with appearing as a “know it all.” It can be very difficult for them to not get attached to what they have learned or understood to be true, and their identities can be deeply connected to how their intelligence allows them to climb the social ladder. They are hyper-focused on how to change their class and how to carry out their responsibilities.

Often burdened by responsibility early on in childhood, they may not allow themselves an opportunity to think positively and choose pessimistic realism. The combination of Saturn with Mercury can also cause delays in speech, speech impediments, and issues with hearing. Like the mercurial Cancerian, they have a great memory and can use their calm & collected communication style to get what they desire from others.

People who have a Sagittarius 3rd house, or Mercury in Sagittarius, struggle with the little details. They are big ideas people and the minutiae of daily life often fall through the cracks. They are hilarious and often philosophical, but they are great liars who can speak “truth” with a sly smile. It is often difficult to tell fact from fiction with these natives as they spin tall tales that “feel” true even though you logically know it’s not.

The combination of Jupiter with Mercury creates a restless nature in which the native desires to constantly escape by plane, book, movie, ideology, or from school, work and their country. Marked by perpetual wanderlust, their minds are always on the move and they are quick to tell you that things are fine when they truly aren’t. More than any other placement, you cannot tell if they are being honest because their lying face has the same look as their brutally honest appearance.

People who have a Scorpio 3rd house, or Mercury in Scorpio, struggle with extreme opinions and assumptions about human nature. They often fail to recognize that things are not as black and white as they think it is. The combination of Pluto, Mars, and Mercury grants this person an ability to see into the heart of people—but only if they have learned how to not project their insecurities onto others.

Master projectors, they fail to recognize the fear, aggression, and deception in others as their own. Naturally secretive of their true thoughts and opinions, they will only open up to people who pass their mental tests. Many others fail these tests and do not understand why they cannot get this person to open up to them even though the mercurial Scorpion may be silently suffering.

People who have a Libra 3rd house, or Mercury in Libra, struggle with indecisiveness. Often unable to keep from talking for long periods of time, the combination of Venus and Mercury creates situations where they harass their loved ones with the plentiful choices they are unable to make. There is a joy for communication that can exhaust their companions to the point of tears. Afflicted by perfectionism, they also repeat old conversations in their minds in hopes of bringing a better resolution...though they fail to actualize that resolution.

Just like the mercurial A***n or Cancerian, this individual is impulsive in conversation but does not like to create conflict, so they can suddenly excuse themselves from a conversation only to spend endless time alone writing out their true feelings. They like to hide their inner world, fearing that an expression of their true desires will cause others to take advantage of them.

People who have a Virgo 3rd house, or Mercury in Virgo, struggle with over-critical speech. Great at analysis and problem-solving, they are not the most tactful in emotional conversations with others. As the “let me solve this for you” kind of person, they do not exactly have the patience necessary to get clear on exactly what you need, but rather what the situation actually calls for. So they find themselves constantly arguing with others who fail to understand their desire to be helpful in whatever it is they’re trying to achieve.

The combination of Mercury with Mercury gives rise to a hypersensitive person whose stomach constantly churns from memories that occurred in childhood, or anytime they didn’t respond in a “perfect” or “ideal” manner. They are highly sensitive to criticisms of others, so they are in constant “self-work” mode, to the point of debilitation. To best support them, give them time to complain and actually follow through on what they tell you they need.

People who have a Leo 3rd house, or Mercury in Leo, struggle with attention-seeking in their communication. Many times, the speech can come off as condescending, especially when they’re seeking praise for ordinary tasks. The combination of the Sun & Mercury can obscure the thoughts to the point that they only think of themselves. They can be quite childish, but they have the opportunity to lead others with their strong convictions and voice.

When stressed or upset, they can roar their way through conflict, but then they are happy or in love, they will proudly profess their true intentions. These individuals have the opportunity to create entire playgrounds in their minds that are reflected in their writing. This is often the loudest person in the room as well; when they are quiet, it is usually because the Sun is obscuring Mercury to the point they’re self-conscious of their words. Optimistic in their thinking, they blaze trails through their individualism and steadfast values.

People who have a Cancer 3rd house, or Mercury in Cancer, struggle with their memory. This individual is much like an elephant and can remember much more emotional stimuli than they’d care for, so they often surround themselves with lots of mental stimuli to calm the inner world. Highly lyrical and sympathetic in their speech, they are naturals at soothing peers who aren’t understood by others.

Unfortunately, the combination of the Moon & Mercury causes mood swings that can alter their memory recall and their patience. Sometimes, they can sound so much like your mom that you’re constantly triggered around them. It is easy for them to snap once they have reached their emotional capacity. This is when they berate, yell, or become extraordinarily passive-aggressive to the point of wanting to stab yourself. When they clam up, it is a protective measure meant to secure themselves from further emotional stimuli.

People who have a Gemini 3rd house, or Mercury in Gemini, struggle with scatter-brain. Often quite anxious, their speech is punctuated by lots of gesticulations and they tend to move a lot in general as they talk. The combination of Mercury with Mercury gives rise to a highly intelligent and observant nature, and the individual will often talk about everything they learn. They want to share everything they know with you!

They deeply desire to share their experiences through words, but often their wordplay can get in the way of true understanding by others. Often accused of lying and deception, Mercury in the 3rd house is the joy of learning and communication—but that joy is often interrupted by a failure to understand their environment & audience properly. As such, their words are often misconstrued and their deep knowledge is lost in trivial pursuits.

People who have a Ta**us 3rd house, or Mercury in Ta**us, struggle with “slowness” in thought & speech. These individuals think long and hard about what they want to communicate, but their drawl sometimes comes off as stupidity or unintelligence to others. The combination of Venus & Mercury gives off an air of lazy or sleepy speech and thinking, but the voice can be incredibly soothing, melodic...or droning, depending on aspects to Mercury & the 2nd house.

Because they are often seen as being slower than others, they have the opportunity to shift conversations in their favor with their critical analysis and patience. They truly desire to comfort and love others and often opt to say as little as possible, often choosing the best words for the greatest impact (this includes insults!).

People who have an Aries 3rd house, or Mercury in Aries, struggle with impulsive speech. Especially when vulnerable, these individuals will lash out in anger in hopes of pushing people away. Their impulsivity is a function of constantly being interrupted before they can fully grasp an idea or concept. Tension headaches and jaw pain from biting their tongue happen frequently.

They tend to have others jump the gun when they talk, so they find themselves over-explaining and it becomes an ingrained habit. It is possible for them to suddenly cease their communication as well, especially when they recognize others are not truly interested in what they have to say. The combination of Mars & Mercury makes it so they fight to be heard clearly, and can find their speech inhibited or misunderstood by others.