For the Soul

It has been 3 years since I have posted anything on my For the Soul site. I have been going through quite a transformation in my life during these past few years and now I am guided to share some ideas, thoughts and love with you all. I hope you enJOY the posts to come.❤️🙏🦋

“A mother is only as happy as her least happiest child”. There are many questions attached to this saying. Why is this the case? Maybe not for all mothers, but I’m guessing most mothers and fathers too. Are we attached so much to our babies that we cannot remove our feelings from our child’s situation and state of mind? I feel that I can get so emotionally attached that my own thoughts become scrambled. At that point my ego comes flying in and I begin to question myself as a mother. I begin to analyze the things I may have done to make my child’s situation worse. You begin to wonder where you went wrong. The craziest part of this is that we begin to blow the situation up, and not in a good healthy way.
Our teenagers begin to disconnect, wanting independence from us and we as parents want this for our child, but we don’t know how to let go or how much to let go. We try to keep the communication open in the way we see fit. Guessing at what is going on in our child’s mind and life, hoping that everything is going smoothly. We know that their journey is theirs and that the difficulties allow them to grow and learn, but why do those rollercoaster lows surge not only through them but through us as well?
I have been thinking about what I have been through with my own teenage boys and the highs and lows. During these highs and especially lows, it has shown me my deep love for my child. It has brought me awareness of my deep connection to my children. It has made me ask the question, where is my part in their life? Where is my balance between me as a mother and the rest of my life? Can I let go and allow for everything to unfold perfectly (as it always does), whether that looks good to me or not? It is in the lows where we truly find out more about us, our children and learn about humanity. It is where we can truly practice compassion, love, patience and listen to our own needs as well as our children’s needs.
Finding the balance, dropping into our heart and really listening to how we are feeling in the moment allows us to make conscious mindful decisions on how to help our child, which in return helps us grow as a human being. I believe we are united with our children so that we can learn and evolve from them as much as they learn and evolve from us. It is a two way street and when you open up to them, they will open up to you. Don’t be afraid to show yourself to your children. It gives them permission to show you them. Nobody is perfect and they need to see that. Most of all, communicate your feelings to your child. The feelings that are deep within us, the ones that we hide. We must share the ‘whole’ of us in order to have ‘whole’ relationships with our children as well as with our spouses and the rest of the world. I’m beginning to show the depths of who I am with my family and with you!

Warm Heart,
Kelly