Refill your cup - Hurunui

Very wild women this morning at 7:30 at Gore Bay today

Just a heads up - this year we are going to have some local people with products to sell so bring along some extra cash. Also try and car pool if you can as we almost have a full house so parking will be at a premium. See you Wednesday!

Kate Iveys fabulous podcast called Dedikate. Full of inspiring stories and good humour. Get more of picture about Kate before you come along and hear the real thing!

‎The DediKate Podcast: Toni Street, Grief, Love, Illness And Everything In Between! on Apple Podcasts ‎Show The DediKate Podcast, Ep Toni Street, Grief, Love, Illness And Everything In Between! - 20 Nov 2021

Woweeee peeps only one week to go. Don’t forget to register so we have an idea of numbers. Can’t wait to see you all again!

Here's a little more about the Refill your cup speakers, make sure you email [email protected] to register

Woweeee! we have reached 100 registered gals for our next event. Don’t miss out as numbers are limited. Remember to ask your farming friends along especially if they are new to the Hurunui area.

Mark your calendars - we’re back with a great line up of amazing women for this years Refill your cup event. Don’t forget to rsvp to Bridget!

Do you get stuck with knowing what to say when someone dies? Well, guess what, you’re not alone!

We are often so fearful of getting it wrong, we wind up doing and saying nothing to the bereaved - even though we know that’s worse.

In my nine years of dealing with grief and loss, this is what I’ve learned about what to say and do when someone you know is bereaved. Note, I don’t say, newly bereaved, because many of the tips below have a very long shelf-life. Which is good, because, frankly, so does grief!

My top tips on what to say and what to do:
💔 Ask us, how are you doing today? Note the emphasis on the word ‘today’ signaling you know every day is different. For those who have been grieving for months or years, ask, how does your grief feel now? How is this year different to last? How does your grief evolve over time?
💔 Offer to share your memories of our loved ones, or even of how you saw them behave/interact with us.
💔 Let us talk. If you think we are over-sharing please understand it’s our brain’s way of trying to process what’s happened; talking about it helps us make sense of our loss. This takes time and many iterations.
💔 Stand by us through our depression. Depression is a common (but usually temporary) symptom of grief, as people grow to accept the reality of their loss. Friends, family and coworkers often want to cheer us up, but we need you to read the room (!), stand quietly by us and understand it’s part of the process too.
💔 Know it’s never too late to talk to us about our loved ones, and to say you’re sorry, never too late to write a note, or to ask us how we feel.

As a resilience researcher, I know lack of support is the biggest risk factor facing the bereaved. But grief can be lonely and the bereaved very often feel isolated.

I encourage you to consider the different types of support when wondering what you can do to help….

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT: a shoulder to cry on, someone to listen to the story again and again and again

PHYSICAL SUPPORT: we sometimes need your physical presence, just to stand next to us, or attend certain times/events/meetings

PRACTICAL SUPPORT: managing the flowers, mowing lawns, cooking, driving, responding to email, organising thank you cards, planning anniversary days

MEMORY SUPPORT: sharing your tales of our loved ones and keeping precious memories alive

INFORMATIONAL SUPPORT: someone to guide us in areas we're not so familiar with – maybe the legal stuff, finances, religious protocols, all the childcare/school routines.

If you’ve found this helpful, please feel free to share. Since our daughter was killed back in 2014, I’ve been on a mission to help people cope with loss, and to inform others what they can do to help.

The next cohort of my short online course, A Better Way To Grieve, is now open. Find out more here:
https://lnkd.in/g3bm_Csp

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Will to Live Presents: 🐕 A Free 4 week course for NZ food & fibre producers

Register your interest now: https://www.willtolivenz.com/anxietyunloaded

This course, Anxiety Unloaded, has everything that you need to know about how to reduce and alleviate your anxiety.

This program is for all New Zealand food and fibre producers, including those who have equally an important role in primary industry:

Livestock Farmers
Cropping Farmers
Horticulture
Rural Mums & Partners
Shearers
Rural based Vets
Rural Professionals

Matt Chisholm’s Time Out Tour continues across the country for 2023, and we are excited to have him come to the Omihi Community Hall on Wednesday, 8 March at 6.30 pm with the North Canterbury Rural Support Trust.

The tour is continuing to give rural people a chance to catch up with one another and hear about Matt’s journey through some tough times.

Make sure you register today! 🏷
Single tickets $15 or Double tickets are $20
Click the link below to book your seat
bit.ly/omihirst

BYO drinks, and supper are provided and complimentary bus service is available upon ticket purchase. This will be from Kaikoura to Omihi. North Canterbury Rural Support Trust raffle tickets will be available to purchase with some amazing prizes!

A big thank you to our partners BDO New Zealand Bayleys Real Estate Datamars Livestock NZ Fonterra Ministry for Primary Industries and ANZ New Zealand for supporting the Rural Support Trust to bring the Time Out Tour to regional New Zealand again in 2023.

Thank you very much to those who have registered for our community dinner. We are looking forward to meeting you.
Please remember to BYO drinks.
Saturday November 5 from 4.30pm.

Click on link below.
https://bit.ly/3eO7GW1

Get off farm and be part of the laughing stock with Farmstrong at the Comedy Night Show in Omihi.
Enjoy an all-star line up featuring Nick Rado, Tarun Mohanbhai, Courtney Dawson & Tevita Manukia.
Grab your mates, your neighbours and your club, or treat your team to a cracking night of comedy.
Supper is included. BYO beverages - there will be no bar on the night. This is an R18 event.
Thursday 6 October 2022 6:00 PM - 9:30 PM (UTC+12)
Doors open for supper at 6.00 PM, show starts at 7.00 PM.
Omihi Community Centre, 9 Reeces Road, Omihi See less

"You've got to keep your cup full......"

What does that even mean?

If you have heard this analogy before, or even found yourself using it but haven't really stopped to reflect on what it means in your life, please keep reading.....

Keeping Your Cup Full is an analogy I have been referring to since my own journey with Self-care began. It is often bandied around in conversations among women, and sometimes not given a second thought.

I have created a complimentary PDF to help you get clear on what keeps your cup full, and what empties your cup so you can assess your balance and understand why Self-care is so important!

You will come away with a clear understanding of how full your cup is and where you may be out of balance so you are better positioned to make some changes.
I have included a helpful visual reminder at the end (I'm a visual person myself!) so you can display it for yourself as a constant reminder of what you need to do to keep your cup full.

To get your hands on this great personal reflection activity please click the link in my Bio or in the comments below.
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Fundraiser Horse Trek for North Canterbury Saddle up and enjoy a fun day at Tawanui Farm.Tessa Hazley has organised a horse trek with all proceeds to go to the Trust. The terrain is Farmland, river and beach and is being held on January 29 at Tawanui Farm, 1315 Blythe Road, Cheviot. Numbers are limited so get in quick. Contact Tessa on 02212...

For those of you who missed out on Eves book. Grab a copy now

Make time for self-care this September, it’s not selfish, it’s essential! Our Julie spoke about self-care and wellbeing on Compass FM last week. For loads of tips and resources, listen to Julie's interview with Steph here:
https://www.podbean.com/ew/pb-57azn-10c585d