Engage, Explore, Evolve with Esther Mumbi

Remain positive in everything, remember not to suppress your emotions,it's ok to laugh ,it's ok to cry.
It hurts to be rejected,it hurts to be treated badly but you are the change you want to see.
How are you perceiving whatever is happening around you? what are you allowing in and out of you?
Stay on guard!
You matter the most.

Grief has five stages:
Denial
Anger
Bargain
Depression
Acceptance

Where are you at?

How would you like this awareness about grief to be brought to you?
Considering that it's a sensitive talk...that touches your wounds but that brings Healing
As an Article or a video ?

Someone could have died, you could have lost yourself,or something......
The effects of grief in one's life can be sooo negative......

I have been a victim and I can only imagine how it has been for you.
One thing I know is that, there's Healing

What is grief?
It's the anguish that someone experiences after the loss of someone or something..
It can be through death, loss of health,separation, fire,divorce,etc
It has different stages;
1.Denial.
2.Anger
3.Bergaining
4.Depression
5.Acceptance
Where are you at?

This is an area in today's society that has caused people so much without understanding.
it doesn't choose the age,status or time,it affects all ages and has led to death or to more loss.
How do we go about loss since it's inevitable?

The process of grief...
What are you grieving or what is it that you have grieved as long as you can remember?
Where has it left you?
Broken?
Hurt?
Fearful?
Anxious?
Depressed?
How are you handling it?

Have you been able to heal from your childhood or adulthood trauma?
What are you grateful about?
Don't put all your energy and effort on all that is negative....it will drain you......for nothing.....

Before you declare somebody else your best friend or BFF ,be a BFF to yourself FIRST
Be compassionate and love you.
You deserve it

Genuineness
Empathy
Acceptance....
Sometimes, all you need towards yourself are these three attitudes.... nothing much...

Where are you stuck?
In low self-esteem?
In a broken relationship?
In child hood trauma?
In loss or death of a loved?
In that struggle to progress?
In anxieties?
In the mountain called I can't?
In the mountain called I will?
In the monster called unforgiveness?
In the monster called fear?
In the mountain of regrets?
In the mountain of stress and depression?
In identity?
In validation?

Where are you at?
What are you telling yourself?
What beliefs have you created out of where you are?
What are the disturbances that you are experiencing out of those believes?
What is the effects?
How long do you intend to continue that way ?

Reflect on you

It's ok to feel exactly what you are feeling,it becomes harmful when you get stuck...

Your external environment is an interpretation of your innerself, You don't have to pretend.
A Hurt heart hurts
What is hurting you?

Chose gratitude today...
Saturate your inner environment with Thanksgiving...in that exact state there's something good

Where does your validation come from?
From others or from what you have?

How do you answer the question;who am I?
What gives you identity?

Someone asked me....
Essie.....does someone ever heal from loss /death of a loved one?
This could be a No go zone for some people and it's ok to feel that way...
What would be your take?

When you are able to understand your attachment style, you are able to understand much about your behavior and how you relate with other people...

What are you doing to ensure that you or your son or daughter doesn't become a victim of your childhood trauma...
How far have you worked on your self?

What do you do when you are sooo afraid?
What is it that is causing you too much anxiety?
Take it to the Lord in prayer...
He hears even when you think He doesn't hear...
Just tell him....it's enough...to pour out your heart to the one who holds your destiny

Change comes from within,inner healing is a personal choice....
No one can do it for you
Heal for you not others

Insecure -ambivalent/resistant attachment style

This child who experiences this kind of an attachment becomes Soo clingy and have extreme distress when they are separated from the care giver.

This kind of attachment style produces a child or an adult who finds it difficult in trusting others and in regulating emotions..

Due to this kind of attachment style,the adults in relationships find it hard to trust others,they keep on yelling,they might have anger issues.

How do you think they navigate life, relationships ? Whether friendship or marriage?

How do you think this kind of parents looks like?
Can you relate?

So,far , what would you say about yourself esteem?
We continue learning...

What have you been struggling with?.....
We are still on attachment styles...

It's until you deal with what lies within you ,negative and the positive t,that you grow and glow.....
Were you able to Explore within you to find out what kind of attachment style you relate with?
How has it affected you?
We are all work in progress......

How about reflecting on you?
How was your attachment styles?
How has it affected you today?
What is the effect on your relationships, children, career, spirituality?
What are you doing about it to ensure change?

Insecure attachment style is the kind of relationship where the child shows independence and may avoid or ignore the care giver.

Earlier,we said that the caregiver is a determinant factor of a child's environment.
This attachment style can lead to difficulties in forming close relationships and expressing emotions.

People /children with this kind of attachment style repress their emotions, when you observe them you might mistake it with strength but deep inside they are hurting!

They ignore the caregiver because from the initial point they didn't develop a relationship that can be dependable and so the child learns to survive.
In adulthood the effects are evident....

What did you say is the level of self esteem?
Let's look at insecure attachment style

How has your self-esteem affected you, your relationships .
What do you tell yourself?
What can you do about it?
We continue Exploring on different attachment styles..