Happy Things in Life

𝗢𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼? 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻!
Especially when you’re conditioned to listen to others.

𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧.
𝘐𝘵’𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧.
𝙄𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙞𝙩?

Over and over again you were told & shown in little ways that it’s better to trust & listen to others.
And somewhere along the way, you started to rely on them so much,
that you started neglecting your own thoughts & ideas.

𝗔 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗶𝘀 𝗯𝘆 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗶𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.
Yes, that 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 silence where you can actually hear your own thoughts.
Just sit for a moment and let whatever happens, happen.

Hold space for yourself & 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 thoughts.
Learn to listen to them again, acknowledge them,
and go with them whenever your gut tells you it might be a good idea.

Sit with yourself daily, even if it’s just for a minute or 2.

And instead of being influenced by external validation, compliments, or criticism,
slowly 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳, 𝗶𝗻 𝘀𝗶𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲.

Lots of love & peace,

Claudia 💕

𝗕𝗮𝘀𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆, 𝗶𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀. 👇

Trauma is incredibly complex because it’s different for EVERYONE.
So much so that you & the person next to you can have a very different experience when something happens.

𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗹𝗲?
𝘐’𝘮 𝘨𝘭𝘢𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘴𝘬𝘦𝘥!

It’s all based on your…
👉 Previous life experiences
👉 Support systems
👉 Coping skills

Trauma is a very personal experience and has more to do with you than what actually happened.

If you want to know more about this, then make sure to follow me.
My next blog about 𝗧𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲𝘅𝗶𝘁𝘆 is coming out soon.

Lots of love & support,

Claudia 💕

𝗔𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗹𝗼𝗻𝗴, 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗼𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗮𝗶𝗻, 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗼𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗵𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀.
And for someone who breathes feelings and emotions, that’s absolute rock bottom.

The moment I started to feel something again after this phase of numbness or indifference, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘧𝘦𝘭𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦, I would be hit with a wave of anger.

Anger, unfairness, resentment…
If you’re familiar with the feeling, you know what I’m talking about.

It often took me a while to realize that, what actually was happening, was grief.

The grief of what I lost, the grief of what was, the grief of what could have been.
But maybe even more than that, the grief of the girl I used to be.

Because if there is one thing that I have learned in my life is that,
when you go through intense periods of pain,
you lose a bit of yourself as well.
𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 👏 𝗦𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗹𝗲 👏 𝗧𝗶𝗺𝗲 👏

Afterward, you will never be the person again you once were.
That’s a hard truth I had to come to terms with.

So if you’re going through a hard time right now, the only thing I can do is encourage you to…

𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧.
𝘉𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧.
𝘛𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧.

And know that, no matter what’s going on right now, this too will pass.

𝗔𝗳𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬𝘴 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘱 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

Lots of love & compassion,

Claudia 💕

𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗶𝘁, 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪! 🥰

No matter what today brings, give it all you got.
Even if that means sitting on the couch in your pjs.

Every day looks different to each one of us and that’s okay.
Make it count for YOU!

Check-in with yourself to see
what YOU 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭
what YOU 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥
what YOU 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵

And then do what makes YOU help recharge for the week that's to come.

You already spend so much time making other people’s life easier,
Make today count for 𝗬𝗢𝗨!

Lots of love & encouragement,

Claudia 💕

𝗢𝗻𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗜’𝘃𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗼 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲.

𝘓𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘶𝘱.
𝘓𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴.
𝘓𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘦𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴.

When you grow up in an environment that forces you to be “𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙜𝙞𝙧𝙡”,
Silence is encouraged.
Selflessness is encouraged.
Together with obedience.

All things that teach you how to 𝘯𝘰𝘵 use your voice.

But by being that girl, I said things I didn’t mean, I meant things I did not say and yes, I lost a lot of love.

Not only between others but also love with myself.
Love 𝘧𝘰𝘳 myself.

My healing journey has been a rocky one.
A tough one with a lot of ups and downs.
But being where I am right now, I can say it’s been worth every minute I spent in agony.

The hurt, the pain, the tears…
I would go through it all again, knowing of what it has led me to where I am today.

✨ A place where I’m comfortable speaking up, setting boundaries, and letting people go out of my life.

✨ A place where I’m comfortable with having needs AND ask for things.
𝘠𝘦𝘴, 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘔𝘌. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘢𝘶𝘥𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵? 😉

✨ A place where I’m comfortable sharing my sassy little self with others without shame.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝙣𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗶𝗳 𝗜 𝗵𝗮𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽.

And if you find it hard to speak up as well but would like to change it, reach out to me and I’d be honored to help you get started.

Lots of love & encouragement,

Claudia 💕

𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙎𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙖𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙢𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 🤗

Genuine, kind, soft, loving, caring...
Just a few ways to describe how you show up daily.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗶𝘀 𝗮 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗶𝗻 𝗶𝘁!

𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵'𝘴 𝘢 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘪𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶'𝘳𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘥 𝘰𝘧?
Let me know in the comments.

Lots of love & hugs,

Claudia 💕

𝗙𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁, 𝗙𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 & 𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲𝘇𝗲 are very familiar and 𝗙𝗮𝘄𝗻 is recently discovered, but just as important.

Especially for the people I work with because they all developed Fawning as a trauma response early on in life.

Read more about all 4 here 👇

𝗙𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁
With a FIGHT response, you protect yourself by confronting the threat.
It shows up as 𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝗿, 𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲, 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗻𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, and overall 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆.
𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

𝗙𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁
With a FLIGHT response, you protect yourself by escaping from the threat.
It shows up as 𝗮𝗻𝘅𝗶𝗲𝘁𝘆, 𝗽𝗮𝗻𝗶𝗰, 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲, 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, and 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆 as well.
𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘳𝘶𝘯 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

𝗙𝗿𝗲𝗲𝘇𝗲
With a FREEZE response, you protect yourself by detaching from the treat.
It shows as 𝘀𝗵𝘂𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻, 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀, 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, and 𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆.
𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘢𝘤𝘳𝘰𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘮𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘢𝘴 𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

𝗙𝗮𝘄𝗻
With a FAWN response, you protect yourself by pleasing the threat.
It shows up as 𝗽𝗲𝗼𝗽𝗹𝗲-𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝗰𝗼𝗱𝗲𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝘆, and 𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀.
𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵 𝘣𝘺 𝘢𝘷𝘰𝘪𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘧𝘭𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴, 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘢𝘧𝘦𝘵𝘺.

Each response is a 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝘃𝗶𝘃𝗮𝗹 𝗺𝗲𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗺 to help you react quickly to life-threatening situations.
It helps you cope with the effects of trauma and has unique characteristics that result from your past experiences.

Were you already familiar with fawning?
Let me know!

Lots of love,

Claudia 💕

𝗢𝗵, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗳𝗶𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗰… 🎶

When you’re a pro at suppressing your emotions,
feeling your feelings can be a bit of a struggle.

𝙀𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 when you like to stay on top of things and want to make sure EVERYTHING goes 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵.

Music can help you with this! It can...
👉 reduce your heart rate
👉 lower your blood pressure…
👉 decrease your cortisol levels…
👉 increase your serotonin and endorphin levels…

It also elevates your mood and makes you 𝙁𝙀𝙀𝙇!

Because music has the ability to bring out those feelings in you so you can process things and come alive again.

For example, when I’m sad but the tears are blocked, I put on one of my go-to songs and they'll be flowing in no time.

Right now, one of my comfort songs for this is Ceilings by Lizzy McAlpine.
My fellow book lovers will understand. 😉

What’s your favorite (comfort) song?
Happy, sad, motivating...

Let me know in the comments!

Lots of love,

Claudia 💕

𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝘀𝗼 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵 𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗶𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀, 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗶𝘁?

Somehow forgiving others gets labeled as being compassionate but how about forgiving yourself?
All of a sudden there isn’t much compassion available, is there?

Nope, you are hard on yourself for the things that happened.
𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺…
𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺...
𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘪𝘥 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺…

𝗜𝗳 𝗼𝗻𝗹𝘆… 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁?

I know, I was the same.

But let me tell you, there’s something so freeing when you start showing yourself the same compassion as you do others.

𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝘆 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂…

The next time you notice that you’re going hard on yourself, take a moment to think about how you would react to a friend.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘰?

And then give yourself the same response.

𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙨𝙤 𝙢𝙪𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙨,
𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙞𝙩’𝙨 𝙩𝙞𝙢𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙜𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛 𝙖𝙨 𝙬𝙚𝙡𝙡!

Lots of love and compassion,

Claudia 💕

𝗗𝗢 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗧𝗘𝗡𝗗 𝗧𝗢 𝗢𝗩𝗘𝗥-𝗘𝗫𝗣𝗟𝗔𝗜𝗡 𝗬𝗢𝗨𝗥𝗦𝗘𝗟𝗙 𝗔𝗦 𝗪𝗘𝗟𝗟?
Know that over-explaining can be a trauma response.
𝘌𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘨𝘢𝘴𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘴𝘵.

When people don’t understand the choices you make, chances are they probably never will.
No matter how many times you (over) explain yourself.

The only thing over-explaining will do though is raise your anxiety levels to a new height because being misunderstood 𝘪𝘴 a horrible feeling.

So here are a few things I want you to know:
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘆 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.
𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘰𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗹𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲.
𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘫𝘰𝘣 𝘵𝘰 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘴𝘧𝘪𝘦𝘥.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀.
𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘧 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘢𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮.

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧𝙨𝙚𝙡𝙛!

Over-explaining is a habit many people have.
I used to do this and so did my clients.
And if you’re reading this, you probably do this all the time!

Just know it is possible to change this if you want to.

Feel free to reach out to me if you’d like to know how.

Lots of love & calmness,

Claudia 💕

Your mental health matters! 💕

Yes, you're a superwoman BUT...
You're not a robot.

Don't forget to show yourself compassion on the days when things don't go as planned.

Lots of love & a big hug,

Claudia 🤗

𝗬𝗼𝘂'𝗿𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝘀 𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝙪𝙣𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙝𝙤𝙤𝙨𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚!

The truth is, you can't escape life by being busy, over-planning, or overthinking.

You can't escape it by being in a relationship, having kids, or burying yourself in work.
𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺, 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩 𝘶𝘱 𝘰𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

Sure, you can choose to be the person who lives their life in fear and uncertainty.
Constantly on edge and trying to stay on top of things to keep control.

𝙊𝙍 you can choose to be the person who lives their life in freedom with endless possibilities.

𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴…

The most wonderful moment in your life is when you realize
𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗖𝗔𝗡 𝗗𝗢 𝗪𝗛𝗔𝗧𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧!

𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴.
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀.

It's the most wonderful moment because, for the first time in your life, you realize that all of your decisions are made BY YOU.
𝘛𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘧𝘳𝘦𝘦 𝘪𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦.

Are you ready to get out of your comfort zone where all you are doing is helping and supporting others?

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀.
𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵'𝘴 𝘪𝘵 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦?

If you’re ready, book your 30-minute breakthrough call with me to see how you can break free and start living a life that’s your own!
Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/claudiadegen

Lots of love & courage,

Claudia 💕

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Lots of love & positivity,

Claudia 💕

Are you enjoying your sensitivity?
If not, make sure to read my latest blog to read more about

✨ 5 MAJOR benefits of being a sensitive person

AND

✨ 14 POWERFUL ways to embrace your sensitivity

𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩 & 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘦𝘯𝘫𝘰𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦!

Use this link to read the blog:
https://happythingsinlife.com/14-ways-to-stop-feeling-too-sensitive-embrace-your-sensitivity-as-your-strength/

Lots of love,

Claudia 💕

𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱, 𝗜 𝗞𝗡𝗢𝗪! 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘆… 💝

The past months have been hard for me.
More than hard to be honest.

𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨. 🤯

At home, at work, with my family…
All while having little to no energy.

Sure I could have given in to my negative thoughts about…

𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘪𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨
𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦
𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘭.

But I didn’t, do you know why?
𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗜 𝗸𝗻𝗲𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗮𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗮𝗻𝗲𝗻𝘁.

The life that I was living while going through these dark and hard days wasn’t my end station.
It’s only a part of the journey I’m on.

Learning more about myself...
Caring better for myself...

No matter what situation I’m in so I can go wherever I’m supposed to go.

What that destination is?
𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸. 🤷‍♀️

All I know is that nothing is permanent and all I can do is honor my mind, my body & my feelings so I’ll end up in the best place possible for me. 🥰

So if you’re feeling like you’re struggling at the moment,
see if you can change how you view the situation.

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗾𝘂𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁?

Let me know, I would love to hear more about it!

Lots of love & compassion,

Claudia 💕

𝗪𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗼𝗹𝗱 𝘁𝗼 “𝙩𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙪𝙥” 𝗮𝗻𝗱 “𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙡𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨 𝙜𝙚𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪” 𝘄𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗲 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗽?

Then make sure to read my latest blog to find out:
👉 Why doing so is a HUGE mistake
👉 5 MAJOR benefits of being a sensitive person
👉 14 POWERFUL ways to embrace your sensitivity

𝘋𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘵𝘩 & 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘦𝘯𝘫𝘰𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦!

The link is in my bio or just copy this one:
https://happythingsinlife.com/14-ways-to-stop-feeling-too-sensitive-embrace-your-sensitivity-as-your-strength/

𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗺𝗲 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀!

Lots of love,

Claudia 💕

𝗪𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗮 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀-𝗳𝗿𝗲𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘆 𝗮𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹? Find out how!

Imagine this…
For the first time in 3 years, you’re going on a holiday.

While you’re driving through the beautiful countryside of France, you get a flat tire.

Unfortunately, your rental does not have a spare tire like they used to have…
What do you do? 🤯

This is exactly what happened to my client Karine during her holiday.
Before, she would be panicking and stressing big time, but not anymore.

This is what she said to me:
“My holiday was so much more relaxed Claudia! No stressing over details and no panicking about a flat tire. For the first time ever, I was able to 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 & 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝗴𝗼 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 I couldn’t control on my vacation.”

This was such a big win and I just have to share it with you!

When Karine and I met, she was stressed & trying to juggle too many things in order to please others. She felt tired, strained, and rather unhappy but couldn’t really pinpoint why.

But with my framework, 𝗛𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗯𝘆 𝗗𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗴𝗻, Karine was able to dig deeper and understand WHY she felt that way.

She was able to turn this around and let go of the things she couldn’t control in life & on her vacation.

So when she got a flat tire during her holiday in France 🇫🇷 ,
instead of panicking and worrying about the fact that there was no spare tire OR a garage anywhere nearby, she and her partner used the tools they had to fix it.

They drove back home and instead of worrying about all the “𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘧𝘴” that would pop up in her head, Karine trusted that everything would work out.

And if not, they would take it just one step at a time to get it fixed.

Now if you’re anything like Karine, you like to be prepared for EVERY scenario possible.

𝗦𝗼 𝗶𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗶𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗴𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻.

Just as Karine did! 🎉

If you would like more stress-free holidays as well, DM me “𝗦𝗧𝗥𝗘𝗦𝗦-𝗙𝗥𝗘𝗘” and I’ll show you the next steps to make this happen!

Lots of love,

Claudia

𝗜𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘀𝘁-𝗰𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘀𝗰𝗲𝗻𝗮𝗿𝗶𝗼𝘀 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻?
𝘞𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘢 𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 1, 2 & 3, 𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵?

But as 𝗚𝗹𝗲𝗻𝗻𝗼𝗻 𝗗𝗼𝘆𝗹𝗲 once said...
“Dealing with the dropped shoe is less paralyzing, apparently, than waiting for that shoe to drop.”

Instead, try to focus on the things you can control.
No matter how big or small they are.

When the “what ifs” try to get the best of me, I focus on the smallest things.
𝘍𝘰𝘳 𝘦𝘹𝘢𝘮𝘱𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘤 𝘐’𝘮 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰!

Luckily my weird taste in music always knows how to distract my thoughts and put a smile on my face again.

These kinds of things pull you out of the situation and help you to reflect on the situation with a calmer mind.

𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩'𝙨 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙨𝙢𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙛𝙤𝙘𝙪𝙨 𝙤𝙣 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙮𝙤𝙪'𝙧𝙚 "𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙛𝙨" 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙥𝙤𝙥𝙥𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙪𝙥?

Lots of love & positivity,

Claudia 💕

P.S. If you want to discover more ways to get out of your head, make sure to check out my blog 5 supportive ways to get out of your head and start enjoying life. Here's the link: https://happythingsinlife.com/5-supportive-ways-to-get-out-of-your-head-and-start-enjoying-life/

Is your mind full? 𝗧𝗿𝘆 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗱𝗶𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴!

Sure you can meditate and it’s very effective, but there are a lot of other ways to practice mindfulness as well.

Swipe to find out 5 powerful ones!

𝙒𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙛𝙖𝙫𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙚?
Let me know in the comments!

Lots of love & positivity,

Claudia 💕

𝗣.𝗦. 𝗠𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗿! 🤗

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𝗦𝗽𝗶𝗹𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝗲𝗰𝗿𝗲𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝗛𝗢𝗪 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲! 💕

You’ve heard me talking about “𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲” before.
But have you ever wondered how to 𝘈𝘊𝘛𝘜𝘈𝘓𝘓𝘠 do that?

I’m spilling all the secrets in this blog!

If you want to discover

✨ The true meaning of living your best life
✨ The problem that’s holding you back
✨ The biggest mistakes that keep you stuck
✨ The ultimate solution that will change it all...

Then make sure to read this blog!
Use this link to do so: https://happythingsinlife.com/the-secret-to-living-your-best-life-discover-how-to-finally-make-it-happen/

Words can’t express how excited I am to share this with you 🤗

Lots of love & positivity,

Claudia 💕