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We Suffered A Pregnancy Loss

Experiencing a pregnancy loss can be an incredibly challenging and painful journey for a married couple. Here are three ways you and your partner can navigate through this difficult time together.

Open Communication & Support
Share your grief, fears, and hurtful emotions without judgment. Be there for each other, providing comfort and reassurance during moments of sadness or confusion. Remember, it's okay to also seek professional help or counseling.

Have That Talk With God
It is normal to feel all sorts of emotions during grief. It is okay to scream and shout and it is normal to have an angry conversation with God. Talk to God and tell him about all your hurt and pain and trust that he is listening and grieving with you.

Honor Your Loss Together
Find meaningful ways to honor the life of your child as a couple. This could include creating a memorial, or planting a tree. This can also strengthen your bond as a couple and find healing together.

Grieving a miscarriage is a deeply personal and unique experience for every couple. Give yourselves grace and time to heal, and know that with love, support, and faith, you can overcome this challenge together.

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." ~ Psalm 147:3

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How To Deal With Grief And Loss As A Couple

Dealing with grief and loss can be incredibly challenging for couples, but there are ways to support each other through these difficult times.
Open Communication: Encourage open and honest communication with your partner. Share your feelings, fears, and memories related to the loss.
Be Present and Patient: During times of grief, simply being present for your partner can provide immense comfort. Offer your support through small gestures like hugs, holding hands, or sitting together quietly. Be patient with each other as you go through the grieving process. �
Create Rituals or Memorials Together: Establishing rituals or memorials to honor the memory of your loved one can provide comfort and a sense of connection. This could involve planting a tree, lighting a candle on special occasions, or participating in activities that your loved one enjoyed. �
Maintain Healthy Routines Together: Grief can disrupt daily routines and habits, leading to feelings of disorientation or neglect. Support each other in maintaining healthy routines, such as regular meals, exercise, and sleep schedules.

Remember, grief takes time, and supporting each other through grief is a journey that requires patience, empathy, and love. Keep leaning on each other and drawing strength from your faith as you navigate this challenging time together.

Psalm 34:18 reminds us, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."

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Is Arguing in Marriage Normal?

In every relationship, disagreements are inevitable. However, you should aim to have constructive arguments, steering clear of toxicity, destruction, and violence.

• Practice Active Listening: Truly hear each other out without interrupting. Let your spouse express their thoughts and feelings fully before responding.

• Use "I" Statements: Frame your concerns or grievances using "I" statements to express how you feel without placing blame.

• Seek Understanding: Strive to understand your spouse's perspective, even if you disagree. Ask questions to clarify their feelings and thoughts.

Embracing healthy debate and learning to engage in disagreements can profoundly enrich the bond between partners.

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What Are Your 2024 Marriage Goals?

Unity and Vision: Goals provide a shared vision, fostering unity in marriage (Proverbs 29:18).

Continuous Growth: Goals create a framework for personal and relational development, promoting continuous learning (Philippians 3:13-14).

Motivation in Challenges: Shared goals serve as motivation during difficult times, emphasizing the strength found in companionship (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).

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“And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.” - Matthew 21:22

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HOW to talk about Dowries with YOUR Family when getting Married.

Take a moment to do some research and understand the historical, cultural and religious context, in comparison to its relevance today.

Questions to ponder:

• Why is the Dowry important to me, my family, culture and faith?

• Is the Dowry necessary?

• Who is the Dowry really for?

• What are my motives behind paying/receiving a dowry?

• Why is it important to include my family in the dowry planning?

• Do I really understand what a Dowry is?

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My Husband Can't Find a Job

When your Husband is unemployed and afraid he can't provide, here are 5 ways to help him and strengthen your marriage.

*Open Communication: Remind him of your love and belief in his abilities. Encourage open and honest conversations. Let him express his feelings, concerns, and aspirations.

Together, set goals and create a plan for his job search. Support each other emotionally, actively listen and offer a loving, non-judgmental ear.

*Financial Planning: Review your finances together. Create a budget that aligns with your current situation. This can help reduce financial stress.

*Networking: Encourage your husband to tap into your church community and other social connections. Networking can lead to job opportunities or valuable advice.

*Skill Enhancement: Help your husband identify and work on skills that could help strengthen him. This could include online courses or certifications related to his field or the industry he's targeting.

*Resume Review: Offer to review and improve his resume and cover letter. Help highlight his strengths and experiences.

These actions, combined with your love and support, will help your husband navigate this challenging phase and strengthen your marriage in the process.

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." - Jeremiah 29:11

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“Blessed is the one who reads aloud the words of this prophecy, and blessed are those who hear it and take to heart what is written in it, because the time is near.” - Revelation 1:3

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You Should Respect And Care For Your Wife.

Husbands should also be understanding, patient and strive to always uplift their wives mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Here are (4) areas where husbands should avoid making comparisons or hurtful comments about their wives:

• Physical Appearance: Refrain from comparing your wife's body to another woman's; it can harm her self-esteem and self-worth. Remember, she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).

• Professional Achievements: Never underestimate your wife's intellect and education. Always be proud of her accomplishments, for a wife of noble character is worth more than rubies (Proverbs 31:10).

• Household Duties: Don't complain about how she handles household chores, instead step in to help. Marriage is a partnership, and helping each other is a sign of love (Galatians 6:2).

• Family Relationships: Don't compare your wife to other women in the family, like mothers and sisters. Your wife is uniquely your partner and a blessing from God. Treat her with the honor and respect she deserves (1 Peter 3:7).

These comparisons can be hurtful and damaging to the relationship, so it's essential to focus on mutual respect, love, and support instead.

Encourage each other to grow in your faith, and pray together. When a husband cherishes and respects his wife in every way, their marriage thrives.

In Ephesians 5:25, it is written, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."

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“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” - Psalm 46:1

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Purchase this online Adventist Wife (AW) Pre-Marriage Guide today that will help you navigate the family conversation on planning for a dowry.

Learn how to have the important conversation with your family about dowry and navigate the cultural, religious, and emotional aspects of this important journey.

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Happy Sabbath! Thank you God for this Blessed Holy Day to Rest!

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Have You Seen Your Husband Cry?

Men have emotions too, and your support is crucial as a loving wife.

Loss and Grief: Sometimes, life throws challenges our way, and men can be deeply affected by loss and grief. Be a listening ear, hold their hand, and offer comforting words.

Stress and Overwhelm: The weight of responsibilities can bring tears. Encourage open communication, pray together, and help find practical solutions.

Emotional Release: Men may cry as a way to release pent-up emotions. Embrace them without judgment.

No Weakness in Tears: Remember, crying doesn't diminish their strength or manhood. It's a sign of emotional honesty. Show them your love and understanding.

Your support can be a testimony of God's grace.

By reinforcing that there is no weakness in tears, you're encouraging a healthy, supportive environment in your marriage.

Proverbs 27:17 reminds us that iron sharpens iron, and our support makes them stronger.

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“If your marriage is filled with conflict, don't give up.” - Ephesians 5:33

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Happy Sabbath! Take off your work hat and relax - because the Sabbath has arrived! Amen!🙌✝️
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When Family Members Ask for Money.

Many couples can easily fall into the trap of debt after just having a wedding. Hence why couples should pursue and prioritize financial security and stability so that they can begin building their family.

It is unwise for any couple who is in debt or financially unstabled to loan money, nor is it appropriate for family members to ask for money of a newly wedded couple.

For those that can give money - Give, but DON'T let it infringe upon your own financial security.

You should also encourage family members to provide for themselves if possible.

If a family member who is not working, however is abled bodied or capable of working, you shall not give any money that supports them in pursuit of sinful and idle behaviors. As the Lord says idling is a sin, "Those unwiling to work, shall not eat."

"For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.” ~2 Thessalonians 3:10

"Be not one of those who give pledges, who put up security for debts. If you have nothing with which to pay, why should your bed be taken from under you?" ~Proverbs 22:26-27

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“Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” - Genesis 2:18

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Happy Sabbath!🙌✝️ May you have a Blessed Holy Sabbath filled with love and rest.💗

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Can Christian SDA Adventists Wear Wedding Rings?

Historically, some Adventists refrained from wearing wedding rings due to concerns about materialism and jewelry.

The General Conference (GC) has never explicitly addressed the rightness or wrongness of SDA Members wearing a wedding ring but did vote from 1925-1986 that SDA Ministers could not perform ring ceremonies during weddings.

However, there were countries that petitioned and considered the “wedding ring” a matter of imperative social, cultural obligation which the GC had “no disposition to condemn.”

In 1986, GC lifted the ban on ring ceremonies and recognized that the “wedding ring” did have a significant practical function in different societies and culture. This is an important aspect to consider within the context of Seventh-Day Adventist beliefs.

Symbol of Commitment: Wedding rings serve as a visible, practical symbol and constant reminder of the commitment between a husband and wife.

Social Recognition: The ring informs society that a person is married, can help protect the sanctity of marriage and discourage unwanted advances or misunderstandings. It signals others to respect the boundaries of the relationship.

Emotional Security: Wearing a wedding ring can provide emotional security and shows you are in a committed & recognized partnership. This is also valuable in situations where spouses are traveling alone or in social/work settings.

Promotes Trust: The presence of a wedding ring can also deter potential unfaithfulness.

While some may have historical concerns about wedding rings, it's important to recognize the practical functions of the ring for the sanctity of marriage. However some SDA Members can still chose not to wear them based on personal convictions.
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“Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” ~ 1 Thessalonians 5:11

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Are Arrange Marriages (Match-Making) Safe?

Arranged marriages vary widely among cultures and religions. While they can foster strong family bonds and traditions, it's crucial to discern if they align with Christian values.

In the past, arranged marriages were often based on familial, social, and economic factors. They aimed to strengthen family ties, secure wealth, or maintain cultural traditions.

Biblical figures like Adam and Eve had their marriage arranged by God (Genesis 2). Isaac and Rebekah had their union arranged by their families, to emphasize the importance of faith and lineage (Genesis 24).

Today, arranged marriages have transformed. While some traditions persist, couples now have more say in the process.

Modern arranged marriages often involve families introducing potential partners, but the final decision lies with the couple. They consider compatibility, values, and faith.

However, arranged or not, marriages should be built on love, trust, and faith in the Lord.

Here are 5 Arrange Marriage Safety Advice:

Consent is Key: Ensure both individuals consent willingly and without coercion. Never let your families force or guilt-trip you into making a decision.

Background Checks: In modern arranged marriages, it's wise to conduct background checks to verify information and ensure trust and security.

Counseling: Seek pre-marital counseling, whether through your church or a professional, to discuss expectations, faith, and potential challenges.

Community Involvement: Involve your Christian community and trusted friends or family in the process.

Prayer: Most importantly, pray fervently for God's guidance.

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Introduce Yourself!

Where are you from? What is an interesting wedding tradition in your country?

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“An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels." - Proverbs 31:10

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Happy Sabbath! Thank you God for this Blessed Holy Day of Rest. May you all spend time with your Family and Friends in Worship!

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Can Long Distance Relationships Work?

Long-distance relationships can sound like a weird and difficult concept. Who would want to have a relationship with someone miles away?

Long-distance relationships have been around for ages, whether it was men serving far from home during wartime or women eagerly anticipating the return of their beloved suitors from distant shores.

When both partners share a common vision of commitment and marriage is their goal, this serves as a powerful motivator to overcome the physical separation.

Lack of Physical Touch and Proximity can pose as a problem but plan visits and use technology for virtual dates to maintain a sense of togetherness.

Communication problems can also be difficult, so plan your schedules to accommodate time zone differences. Address jealously, insecurities through communication and reassurance. Build trust by being transparent and reliable.

Loneliness and Frustration is real. Engage in self-care activities to maintain your emotional well-being. Focus on the end goal of being together.

Remember, every relationship is unique, and challenges can be overcome with patience, love, and dedication. Keep your communication open, trust each other, and remain committed to your shared goals.

Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV): "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight."

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