Asher E Stern

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For so long, I was in the muck of life after divorce, and it’s continued to be a journey. ⁣
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A financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically, and mentally taxing journey. ⁣
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I’ve grown a LOT, and have come to a place where I feel more grounded and gentle within it all. ⁣
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However, I still have quite a bit that I want to change, let go of, and step into. ⁣
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The problem is I’ve been so in “it” that I haven’t felt capable of seeing past my feet for quite some time. ⁣
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Fortunately, I’ve been slowly changing that by connecting with my vision again. I am feeling more motivation and inspiration than I have in years which is refreshing!⁣
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Within all of this I find that I’m still struggling in certain areas. ⁣
While many parts of my life are now in greener pastures, there are still many places in my life that look and feel very restricted and limiting. ⁣
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Here’s the thing, ⁣
I am aware (intellectually) of what I need to do: Believe I have already have my desire before I do. ⁣
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I have to align my frequency with that which I want to create. Which means, I must FEEL it as if it already exits!! But I find it extremely hard to feel something before I see it. ⁣
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When I listened to this audio of Abraham Hicks today that Georgia shared with me it really put it clearly:⁣
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As I focus on my financial situation and how much money I don’t have, I give momentum to the vicious cycle of having a lack of money. I’m creating more of what I don’t want in my life by focusing on how much of what I want I don’t have. ⁣
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We are always creating our own reality whether we are conscious of it or not. ⁣
The quality of our own reality is entirely determined by our focus. ⁣
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IF we are focused on what we want ⁣
In a way that we can feel it in all our senses ⁣
As if we already have it ⁣
We are bound to create it. ⁣
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I’ve been struggling with what to say for days now. I have been busy taking care of my kids mostly, but also just fu***ng pi**ed off!!!⁣
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When I found out the news I was enraged. My daughter asked what was wrong and after I told her she was in tears. ⁣
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I remember being a young boy and driving to Washington with my parents and my sisters to stand with women and to stand for their HUMAN RIGHT TO CHOOSE. ⁣
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Their body⁣
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Their choice ⁣
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End of discussion⁣
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It sickens me that there are those out there in power doing what they can to control others’ lives based on their ideologies and religion. ⁣
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The very same people who are “pro life” are the same people who don’t give two f***s about the life once it’s born. ⁣
The same people that complain about people on welfare. ⁣
Some of the same people that would complain about their rights being infringed on when told to wear a mask to protect others are some of the same people that believe a woman shouldn’t have a right to choose what’s best for her body. ⁣
The same people that don’t want to have any REASONABLE measures taken for making it harder to get a gun In this country. ⁣
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It’s fu***ng easier to get a gun than it is to get an abortion. Like, what the actual f**k?!⁣
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What if the woman was r***d and impregnated????⁣
She has to keep the baby!⁣
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Just like the war on drugs never stopped people from getting their drugs…⁣
banning abortions will not stop people from Getting abortions. ⁣
It just made it less safe to get one and became fatal for some women. ⁣
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Regardless of anyone’s ideologies I think we should ALL agree that our bodies are OUR OWN, and NO ONE gets to tell us what to do with our bodies. ⁣
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This is some backwards s**t!!!⁣
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I just want you ladies to know it’s time to become the amazon warriors you were born to be. ⁣
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Sexually active ladies please make sure you ASK a new potential sexual partner where they stand on abortion BEFORE getting jiggy with them!!! It is imperative for YOUR safety that you find out where he stands FIRST. Because if he is “pro-life” you probably shouldn’t take the risk. ⁣
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With love and solidarity I stand with you, your body, your choice!

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This one is for those that live a life of hustle and little to zero play. ⁣
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That was how I lived a lot of my adult life. ⁣
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There is much to gain from hustling. ⁣
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But there is equal gain in taking a break. ⁣
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We NEED to replenish, rejuvenate, and relish in the joys of life. ⁣
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Taking a step back from the details, and getting a birds eye view can help give a fresh perspective and see things in a way that increases productivity and quality. ⁣
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𝗜 𝗧𝗛𝗢𝗨𝗚𝗛𝗧 𝗜 𝗪𝗔𝗦 𝗙𝗔𝗧!!!⁣
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This picture I took of myself on Oct 30th 2016. I remember taking it, and thinking how fat I looked. ⁣
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I was probably around 220 lbs or so which is MUCH smaller than I am now. But I legit thought I was FAT and deeply hated myself. ⁣
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I hated everything about me and my life. Except for my kids. They were the only thing I loved about my life. But my marriage was toxic, my businesses were not doing great, and I was lonely. ⁣
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It’s amazing to me how fu**ed up my perception of myself always has been.⁣
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The narrative that has run most of my life:⁣
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I’m not good enough⁣
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This has kept me out of my light. ⁣
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Kept me from truly living.⁣
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I have always been comparing myself to others…⁣
They have a better body, more money, more fun, more friends, more… whatever it was. I suck and I am not worthy.⁣
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F**K THAT!!!⁣
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I now weigh 260lbs, and am legit fat, but I love myself. ⁣
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I still battle with those pesky negative thoughts and s**t self talk, but I don’t live there in that negativity. It comes up, and I notice it. But I don’t subscribe to it. I allow it to come up, accept that it’s there, and release it as fast as I can. ⁣
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I know that I am a work in progress, AND that I’m enough AS I AM. ⁣
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I have realized that there’s always going to be things that I want to improve, but I no longer beat myself up over and over about stupid s**t. ⁣
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I am worthy of my own love. No one else can take that away from me. ⁣
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I am a divine man living in this wonderful body that my parents made, and every day I have a choice to either love or hate it. ⁣
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𝗜 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲. ⁣

𝗟𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝗰𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻. ⁣
𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀. ⁣
𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗲 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸 𝘂𝗽, ⁣𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗶𝘁.

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𝗧𝗼 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻... I am in complete awe of your ability to give us life, to bring beauty, and your capacity to nurture and love. ⁣
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Thank you to all the grandmothers, mothers, aunts, sisters, daughters, and nieces. ⁣
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You are more powerful than some of you know. And I’m delighted to witness the evolution of your awakening into empowerment. ⁣
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I may be able to open that jar and lift that thing, but you can grow and birth a child. I’ve witnessed that miracle multiple times and it’s no joke. ⁣
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I salute your strength. It’s far beyond any I could ever harness. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

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To acquire my 𝗗𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲 for something, someone, or somewhere⁣
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I must 𝗗𝗲𝘃𝗼𝘁𝗲 myself to it’s cause⁣
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with the 𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 necessary to manifest it.

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𝗧𝗢𝗗𝗔𝗬 𝗜 𝗖𝗥𝗜𝗘𝗗. ⁣
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I cried because I allowed myself to feel an overwhelming amount of 𝗚𝗥𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗧𝗜𝗗𝗘. ⁣
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Gratitude for what?⁣
⁣...MYSELF!⁣
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I felt an overwhelming amount of gratitude for:⁣
my body... as it is, my health, my resilience, my love, my determination, my drive, my passion, my integrity, my creativity, my mind, my spirit, and so on and so on. ⁣
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I cried because despite what I’ve been through, and how many people have hurt me (and continue to).... despite how little I’ve given myself credit, how often I’ve beaten myself up, and how many times I betrayed myself...⁣
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I am still standing. ⁣
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I am still growing. ⁣
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I am still HERE!⁣
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There were plenty of times over the last few years....⁣
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Where I was ready to quit. ⁣
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Where I couldn’t take it ANYMORE!⁣
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Where everything outside of myself was hurting me. ⁣
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Where I had no power because I forgot something crucial....⁣
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I am the Master of my own experience!!⁣
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I am the one who decides whether I decline, survive, or Thrive. ⁣
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It’s up to me!!!⁣
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And today I cried because I felt so grateful that I have gone through (still going through) lots of REALLY HARD S**T, and YET I am happy regardless. ⁣
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I Love myself 𝘜𝘕𝘊𝘖𝘕𝘋𝘐𝘛𝘐𝘖𝘕𝘈𝘓𝘓𝘠. ⁣
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I am whole. ⁣
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I am awesome. ⁣
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I am love. ⁣
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Just. As. I. Am. ⁣
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As I sat by the fire the other night while camping, I looked up and noticed the moon piercing through the trees. ⁣
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It made me think about the nature of light as it relates to dark.⁣

Now, Imagine you are in a completely blacked out room.

There is no light inside.

Just pitch black.

You feel shut off from everything else, and completely consumed by the darkness.

Nothing else penetrates your awareness as the only thing that you aware of is the darkness you are living in.

Now imagine that something big comes along, and hits this room really hard from the outside.

You feel shaken by the impact and the sound.

It rattles you to the core.

You feel scared because something besides the darkness is happening around you.

You feel unsafe because WTF was that outside these walls?

The unknown can be scary, and for the longest time you have only known the darkness of which you’ve been living in.

But all of the sudden once you accept what has happened you realize that there’s a significant crack in the upper wall of this room.

It’s no longer a pitch black room.

You can see little bits of detail all around you.

Textures are now being revealed, and you’re able to get a sense of where you are and what it looks like.

Just one little crack in that seemingly un-penetrable blacked-out space opened up a whole new perspective.

Now you are able to remember things besides the darkness.

You remember what a smile looks like, a sunset, or a rose.

You begin to feel hope, and joy for the first time in a long time.

You decide to go up to the crack and make it bigger, and bigger, and bigger until you have finally broken out of this dark hole you’d been living.

You get yourself fully into the light and revel in the purity of this moment.

You realized that the world is full of light AND dark, and that sometimes you just need to shake things up a bit to let in the light.
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⁣All it takes is just remembering any little bit of light to begin the process of drowning out the dark. ⁣
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Many of us are wearing armor.

Emotional armor. ⁣
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It’s (usually) an unconscious way that we go about protecting ourselves from harm, but it also can keep the pain that we create from getting out by holding resentments, traumas, and stories that perpetuate the “reality” of our experiences. ⁣
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When we begin to do the work on taking that armor off it starts with just a crack. That’s all that’s needed to begin the process of stepping into the light. ⁣
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A little crack starts to shed light on our darkness, and we begin to see what we are working with. We gain a new perspective. ⁣
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And eventually with enough love, patience, and perseverance we can break the armor off entirely. ⁣
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We then get to live fully. ⁣

Letting in both the dark and light. ⁣

Accepting both as parts of the whole. ⁣

We get to be raw and genuine in our expression and honoring our whole being.

WE are the light just as WE are the dark.

Let’s honor all parts of our spectrum of existence within our minds, bodies, and souls.

It’s all a gift for us.

What we do with it is up to us.

Holding on to resentments, grudges, opinions, and anything else of the like is similar to holding a red hot coal….⁣
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You are the only one who gets burned!!⁣
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I know from my own experience that this is true. ⁣
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I held on to my anger and hatred of my ex wife and her family for sooo long. I felt like I could punish them with my anger. But all it did was hurt me. ⁣
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I felt so much hatred that it became unbearable. So I chose to cope with alcohol, food, ci******es, and Netflix. ⁣
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After a little while I piled on the weight, and gained 90lbs!!⁣
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Yes, that weight was gained by the physical aspects of all I described above, but I believe it was directly related to the emotional baggage. ⁣
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It was a physical manifestation of my non physical weight. ⁣
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As I was holding on to my anger and hatred, my body is holding on as well and turned those emotions into FAT. ⁣
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I stopped making money. ⁣
I stopped giving a s**t, and my life was in a RUT!!⁣
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I drew the line in the sand eventually after realizing what I Was Doing to myself by holding on to all of these toxic perceptions and beliefs. ⁣
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I am no longer coping with these beliefs, and as a result I’m no longer relying on substances to get through my days. ⁣
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I’m no longer feeling STUCK in the rut. ⁣
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I feel my life flowing like a River again. ⁣
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And I’d be dishonest with you if I told you I have no more to let go of. ⁣
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I DO. ⁣
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A LOT. ⁣
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And it’s a process of peeling back the layers, and discovering what’s still there to heal. ⁣
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I’m grateful for this process and for the unfolding of my journey. ⁣
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Tuning in to the frequency of love and peace, I find it just a bit easier to honor what is present and let go of that which does not serve me. ⁣
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𝗟𝗲𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗴𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗳𝗹𝗼𝘄

If I offered to give you a simple 3 step tool I’ve used for years to help me through major challenges, betrayals, and setbacks, would you be interested in receiving it?

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𝗬𝗼𝘂’𝗹𝗹 𝗡𝗘𝗩𝗘𝗥 𝗴𝗲𝘁 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘁𝗿𝘆. ⁣
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You’ll NEVER get new results with the same actions. ⁣
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If you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, and want to change your life you’re going to have to get uncomfortable. ⁣
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𝗕𝗘 something different. ⁣
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So you can 𝗗𝗢 something different. ⁣
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So you can 𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗘 something different. ⁣
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If you want to create a life that you 𝗴𝗲𝘁 to live by design instead of just going through the motions then let me know.⁣
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I have tools that have helped me completely change my life, my business, and my spirit...⁣
and I know they can help you too!⁣
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𝘿𝙧𝙤𝙥 𝙖𝙣 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙟𝙞 𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙛𝙖𝙫𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙚 𝙂𝙄𝙁 𝙞𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄’𝙡𝙡 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪. ⁣
𝙊𝙧 𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙚 𝙖 𝘿𝙈.

The power of your mind, and the role it plays in manifesting your reality is significant. ⁣
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Just like you would be mindful of what you put into your body, remember to be mindful about what you put into your mind. ⁣
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Thoughts are inevitably going to pass through your mind. So as best you can, practice detaching from the thoughts that do not serve your vision, your mission, or your divinity. ⁣
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If your thoughts tend to be on the ineffective side of the spectrum, don’t worry…. You’re human. ⁣
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One way that I have found to help me with that is meditation, but that’s often challenging for me. ⁣
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I prefer writing down with pen and paper a free flow of affirmations. But only writing isn’t enough. It’s important to speak aloud the affirmations with conviction and belief. ⁣
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Stand up and speak them as if you MEAN IT! ⁣
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I think I can….⁣
I KNOW I CAN!!

In a few hours I’ll be jammin here. Come check it out!