I am Christine OBrien

If we choose the awakened parenting path we simultaneously create a better world for our children and kindle the flames of hope, resilience, and transformation.

Together, we can illuminate the world, one joyful spark at a time.

Christine

                                 

Mindset shift from: nothing works and I’m failing as a parent to we’ll find the solution and I’m amazing!

                                 

Soaking in Summer blessings. Presence takes practice. ❤️

If you'd like to understand how to communicate with your kids for a happier mother-child relationship, send me a DM and let's chat.

                                 

This morning I was reflecting on this uncanny skill I have to pour the exact amount of liquid for our butterccinos and nail the perfect amounts of coffee and chocolate for each of our specific tastes.

I was delighting in that this morning as I made breakfast, packed a lunch for my daughter, fed the cats, guided my daughter to get ready, got dressed, took my vitamins etc…

Mom multitasking can be stressful, but it helps to focus on the things that make you feel like a rock star!

What is your uncanny skill?

🤘🏻⭐️☕️❤️🎉

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You are always told to just “be calm” when given advice around parenting, as if it is a switch that you can flick. But that advice frustrates you.

How can you be calm when you feel anything but?

I understand the frustration.

The reason staying calm is difficult is you have a lot on your plate and in your mind, your baseline stress is high so your child showing resistance, crying, or refusing to cooperate quickly puts you over the edge.

You feel like you don’t know what to do and then either check out mentally giving up or you get angry and react in defense.

Which makes you feel like you are broken or failing and your mind takes you down a negative spiral.

Wondering, “what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I handle this?”

And this is why it isn’t changing.

Instead of being told to stay calm, you need somebody who can help you tangibly do that. Somebody who can show you exactly what is causing the trigger and to switch it off, so you are in control of what happens next.

This is what happens when you work with me.

You will be able to establish effective communication with your child, leading to better understanding, connection and cooperation.

With more lightheartedness.

You’ll be better equipped to handle daily routines with ease and in flow.

You’ll be able to demonstrate healthy emotional regulation to your child, teaching them valuable coping skills.

And feeling proud about managing your emotions and reduceing stress levels for both you and your child…

creating a more peaceful home environment.

You’ll approach challenges with a clear and confident mind, facilitating more creative and effective problem-solving.

You’ll have an increased ability to empathize with your child’s perspective, fostering a deeper bond and mutual respect…

promoting a sense of security and structure for your child.

All while being present in the moment and making delightful memories together.

Sound good?

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Do all these parenting experts saying to just be calm drive you more crazy?

Yep you know that staying calm is ideal. Yet this little person you are trying to raise well makes you so angry sometimes.

Surprisingly angry for someone who is so small and you love more than anything in the world.

Mom rage takes you offline as you try to get them to listen by raising your voice, you hate to admit it, but you’ve tried other harsh tactics too.

You realize this doesn’t work and it makes you feel worse, but you’re not really sure what will work.

When you feel guilt or shame you get stuck in a downward spiral.

This is where I come in-I know what works to get you back on track.

What works is having someone see you and your child in your best light.

What works is to have someone listen, make important connections about your past, your mindset and your child’s development/personality and guide you to find the way that works for your family.

So you get how you can be calm in these really upsetting situations that feels a bit helpless now.

But believe it or not there are really simple shifts I can help you make that will empower you and your child.

When we work together it feels like magic, but it’s actually really practical steps to take.

Message me to get started now.

Let’s bring ease and flow into your life. ❤️

Let’s bring easy and flow into your lives. ❤️

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When you are able to manage the emotions of motherhood…

you’ll feel more comfortable parenting…

spending time with your family and asking for what you need will feel easy and peaceful.

When you know how to feel calm and collected, even when your child is melting down, making a mess, not listening or throwing a tantrum...

You bring a new dynamic of steady, mutual respect into your family.

You and your expectations will be respected…

And your kids will feel respected and understood thus be more cooperative…

resulting in a happier and more connected family.

The key to being able to return to calm in stressful moments is awareness.

Awareness of your triggers and why you are having difficulty managing daily parenting stress…

coupled with lots of self compassion.

Awareness of your highest values and how to parent with this in mind.

Awareness of your kid’s perspective and needs.

And how to meet your needs and theirs simultaneously.

This is what we work on together.

If you are ready to bring more peace, cooperation and delight to your family message me.

This is 12. Happy Birthday to my incredible daughter!

She is a gift to the world. Pure creativity and magic!

As I reflect on 12 years of motherhood, I realize how heart opening and how freaking vulnerable it feels to be a mother.

This level of vulnerability, having your heart walk around outside of your body, as they say- is a lot.

So intense.

Especially when the world doesn’t measure up to the safe, loving place you want for them.

There is so much uncertainty…

And fear,

Because they are so precious and took a lot for them to be born…

From the trials of pregnancy,

To the birth that is risky (especially in the U.S.)

Then if they have allergies or challenges…

To keep them living takes vigilance and emotional and physical strength, time and energy.

You are blessed when you can trust others to hold their precious lives in their hands.

Parenting with an open heart is the hardest thing you’ll ever do.

It takes constant awareness…

And grace,

And letting go,

And faith…

Which requires a village of high quality support, particularly when you have high standards for your family’s wellbeing.

Yet often we feel on our own to hold it all together.

I’m here as part of your village, if you’d like.

My gift to you is providing you with understanding and perspective that takes the guesswork out of how to raise your children confidently.

So they listen and cooperate while you stay grounded and able to manage the stress of parenting well.

You get to relax, have more peace and be the fun mom you thought you would be.

I missed my weekly live offering this week due to my brother having a mountain bike accident and needing emergency plastic surgery.

I’m so grateful my husband and I were able to be with him in the hospital for a few days.

My brother is recovering well at home now.

And his gorgeous face will be ok. Definitely scarred, but he is alive and being well cared for so we are grateful.

Difficult moments like this are such a beautiful opportunity for connection.

I plan to discuss next week how to allow yourself to relax and be present, even if you haven’t completed your to do list.

And pass on this super power to your children.

Is that something you would be interested in?

Feeling the preciousness of life today. I got one of those calls last night…

“He’s alive, but…

The words that stop your heart for a moment.

Prayers and love for my little brother welcome.

❤️ Christine

Take, for example, one mom who was caught in a stressful bedtime routine with her 4-year-old son. He would become angry when story time ended and would hit her.

And then hit her more when she told him no more hitting and threatened to leave if he did it again.

She felt stuck, thinking her only options were to allow him to hit her or let him cry himself to sleep. Neither option felt right, but she ultimately let him cry it out and was riddled with guilt.

Once we uncovered her beliefs and delved into the real problem, she gained a grounded perspective, enabling her to understand herself, her son, and the situation better.

As a result, she was able to take a different approach the next night. She was prepared and intentional so she managed to prevent him from hitting her by holding his arm gently and firmly, remained calm and connected while setting boundaries, and helped him navigate his emotions.

By the end of the day, she felt like a superstar.

And you can too. Reach out to claim your spot in 1:1 coaching and together we’ll dive into your most challenging routines and transform them into your best connections.

                                 

One reason you are stuck in power struggles with your child is that you are not in your confident authority.

Your child is not respecting you or your rules and always pushing the boundaries for bedtime, screen time, doing chores, or homework…

Basically, the daily routines and skills are not easy or smooth.

You are repeating what you experienced as a child.

You sometimes hear the same tone of voice or the exact phrases your mom used to say to you - coming out of your mouth!

You’ve read all the parenting books and have a therapist, but you still can’t stop feeling like you are becoming your mom.

You feel so worn down by the arguing…

You are ready to stop the daily power struggles so you are enjoying this phase of motherhood more.

You are ready to be able to ask simple requests and have a positive response from your child.

You are ready for practical tools to rely on in these difficult situations.

This is what happens in my world.

You will understand exactly what is going wrong and how to deal with it with simple shifts.

When you know how to be a steady authority, your child will stop arguing or pushing back so much, have a sense of mutual respect, and be able to cooperate more often without the struggle.

If you're ready to elevate your parenting journey and cultivate a deeper connection with your child, reach out today.

Let's work together to shift these dynamics and unlock the full potential of your family life.

Drop 'CONNECT' below or message me for more details.

How frustrating is it to repeat yourself and feel like your strong willed child only listens when you raise your voice?

Then feeling annoyed at them and yourself because you grew up being yelled at, which you hated and promised you’d never be a “yeller.”

Often, the reason your child doesn’t listen to you is that they don’t feel heard.

To really listen to them, you must hold space for their emotions without taking them personally or denying them.

Your child has big feelings and needs you to hear them without immediately going into fix-it mode, saying they shouldn’t feel this way, or denying their feelings.

This is really hard when you didn’t experience validation growing up.

It is important to find compassion and understanding for yourself and your child in the most difficult moments so that they open up to you and trust that you will really listen.

This builds your trustworthiness, and you can become the one they come to open up to in hard times.

They feel heard and held.

You reparent yourself in these moments.

This increases your positive view of your skills and creates momentum for your confident authority.

This level of communication and connection builds strong, lifelong bonds.

And your kids will listen to you before you have to raise your voice.

Hearing the truth of their pain is hard, and knowing the depth of their feelings will be painful.

But if you don’t hold space for them, they will feel completely alone.

If you struggle to be there for your child’s big emotions, reach out to me.

I can help you build your confidence and ability to be the one they turn to when it really matters and get them to listen to you.

If you want the closest relationship possible with your child, to stop yelling and feel more peaceful at home, I’m here to support you.

Like one of the moms I helped develop her self-confidence and ability to hold space for her daughter when she was rejected by her friends.

Another mom was able to stop being a “yeller.”

And another mom was able to bring peace to a formerly stressful morning routine.

Message me for details about working together to shift these dynamics and unlock the full potential of your family.

How often do you take time to really tune into your heart message?

That’s where the wisdom is…

Straight from the heart.

The head wants to take over, but it doesn’t really know how to navigate without fear.

The heart knows.

What is your heart telling you now?

We often think that a good day when we are winning is when everyone's happy and things are fixed…

but real leadership in motherhood shines through when things aren't going smoothly.

Showing up in your leadership, even when the house is chaotic and emotions are running high,

that's winning.

So, to all the moms out there navigating the ups and downs of motherhood, remember, you're winning, even on the toughest days.

                                                 

In our sessions together, we'll explore the deeper aspects of effective communication, uncovering hidden opportunities for growth and transformation.

If you're ready to elevate your parenting experience and cultivate a deeper connection with your child, reach out today.

Let's work together to shift these dynamics and unlock the full potential of your family life.

Drop “CONNECT” below or message me for more details.

                                                 

Want your kids to listen?

Timing is everything when it comes to important conversations.

I’ve learned that the best time to bring up a concern with my child is when we are lying in bed together at night; she is interested in chatting and receptive.

I will ask questions that help me understand her worldview…

since that’s the best way to influence someone: knowing their perspective.

In these moments, the atmosphere is calm, and we’re both more open to sharing our thoughts and feelings.

It’s not about lecturing or giving orders; it’s about having a genuine conversation and building a deeper connection.

Which enables cooperation, mutual respect, listening.

By timing our discussions effectively and approaching them with empathy and understanding…

I’ve found that we can address concerns, solve problems, and strengthen our bond as mother and daughter.

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Do you struggle with setting boundaries?

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You are parenting without a template, every situation takes energy to decide what to do and you have too much stress, self doubt and resentment to keep up.

You’ve lost track of your North Star for guidance and clarity.

Your kids are growing and changing and you don’t get what is going on with them.

You get so triggered by their behavior.

This is exactly what I work on with my clients.

In my world, you get to have good relationships with your kids for the long term.

You can confidently respond the way you really want to on a daily basis.

You get to be proud of yourself and your family.

With the right combination of strategy, child development knowledge, mindset and energetic work you CAN bring more peace, joy and balance into your life.

Inside my 1:1 private mentorship we do it all together.

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This is the reason I began my decluttering journey. I wanted to be the best possible mom to my daughter.

The kind of mom she knew loved her unconditionally.

One day while looking in the bathroom mirror I realized that nothing I said would really make a difference in how my daughter felt about herself.

I knew that I had to work on embodying self confidence and self love to be a model for her.

If you are really hard on yourself for making mistakes, constantly judging yourself for every little thing, and always focused on your imperfections, they will observe and adopt this behavior too.

They'll start noticing flaws in their appearance, beating themselves up over mistakes, and fearing failure. Which feels terrible and prevents fully living.

Your relationship with yourself is a mirror, it shows up in how your child feels about themselves, outweighing the positive things you say to them.

Your actions speak louder than your words.

If you want an incredible relationship with yourself and to help your child love themselves, reach out to me.

We'll work together 1:1 to shift your self-perception, self-talk, and emotions, so you are a beautiful model and inspire self confidence in your family.

Message me for details.

Together we can foster unconditional love, in a world that doesn’t always support it.

Christine

                                                 

When you validate yourself you don’t need your children or anyone else to validate you.

They don’t have to be in a good mood,

they don’t have to like you in every instance,

they don’t have to be “good” or “normal” or diagnosis free,

they can be who they are and you can love them and yourself unconditionally.

This is stepping into your power.

This is freedom.

My daughter and I have a deeply connected relationship that is the pride and joy of my life.

And she has yelled, “ I hate you!” And/or given me the death stare of hate, had meltdowns and pushed me away.

We’ve had plenty of those kind of moments, but I can shift it if I make a story about I’m not good enough or I’m failing.

I know I’m holding important boundaries in those moments and I can hold space for both of us through the challenges.

I know she is human-ing and needs love and compassion through it all.

Because I am able to validate myself and not need it from her or other external people or circumstances…

I am most often able to be calm…

and always confident that we’ll get through the challenging moment more connected on the other side.

I’ve created a workshop to share my Boundary Setting Steps.

It’s the same method that has resulted in connected& cooperative kids.

It will help you Activate the Calm Confident you, feel respected & improve family dynamics.

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You deserve respect…

not in the “you must respect me” way, but in the “I respect myself” way.

This makes setting boundaries around how you are treated doable.

Even when your child is giving you the look of death or having a massive tantrum over a boundary you’ve set…

you can hold space for their feelings without taking responsibility for them.

You can also hold space for your own feelings without wavering in doubt or believing your irrational thoughts.

Holding the boundary with love for yourself and for them cultivates mutual respect.

This is the way to establish a lasting bond while shifting generational patterns.

In my world this is what we do.

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My daughter chose this photo to share on the subject.

When you have 29 years of education & experience in child development…

It doesn’t mean you or your child will be “perfect”.

It means you have tools for human-ing with calm, confident connection through the challenges and emotions.