Memorial for Jeffery C. Yoder

Jeff died on June 12 4:02 AM 17 years ago. Miss him.

I am posting this because people were interested where Jeff and I will be together.

It seems like a dream, then turns into reality.

I had decided that I would not have Jeff's Memorial Celebration when he died. I wanted some time and there was immediacy because he was cremated. I wanted to give his family, my family, and out of state friends time plan and for me to rest.

Jeff died on June 12, 2006. The Memorial was not held until August 5, 2006. Jeff planned his Memorial. The speakers, the music the program, and wrote his own obituary.

It was a beautiful summer day. The chapel was filled. The tears were shed and the there were moments of laughter.

It was not a day of celebration for me. I read his obituary and I spoke. I cried, I could not help it. My beloved was gone after twenty five years. His spirit left while in my arms.

I have come to terms with his death. I would not have wanted him to go on one more day in that debilitated body. It was his time to go on. Since his death I feel him around me. Not as much now, which is somewhat difficult. I believe he is very busy on the other side---trying to tell the other spirits what to do!!!! LOL!!

Brent V. Marrott

Happy 74th Birthday, Jeff. I think of you every day. So long ago we made it 25 years. Say hello to everyone on your side. And kiss all our cats.

Merry Christmas, Jeff. Where ever you are.

With great sadness I post this obituary. John Hickner was Jeff's best friend growing up. Their friendship continued throughout their lives. John was a kind, accomplished man. I have kept in contact with John and his wife Valerie. Jeff and I visited them in Chicago.
John spoke at Jeff's Memorial 16 and 1/2 years ago. I hope they have met and are having a cup of coffee wherever they are. Thank you, John. Love to Valerie and his family.

Dr. John M. Hickner ESCANABA — Dr. John M. Hickner, age 72, died peacefully in his home in Escanaba on August 22, 2022 from a glioblastoma brain tumor. He is survived by Val, his devoted wife of 48 years, and their five children, Michael (Kathy), Laura (Joe), Zach (Lauren), Anna, and Olivia (Zack). John had five gran...

Update 6-12-2022
I thought this song posted, but I see it didn't. This is my favorite performance By James Blunt. He sings from the heart and the soul. He was a co-writer.
The lyrics describe my feelings on the day of Jeff's Memorial that was held.
James Blunt performs "Goodbye My Lover" . October 6, 2015

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZCpk0bTIg-Y

James Blunt performs "Goodbye My Lover" (Live on Sunrise) James Blunt performs my best version of "Goodbye My Lover" LIVE on Sunrise Channel 7 AustraliaPerformed on the 4th of October 2015Sydney, AUSTRALIA

Go back in time with me 16 years ago.
Goodbye my lover.
Goodbye my friend.
You have been the one.
You have been the one for me.

I'm so hollow, I'm so hollow.
I'm so, I'm so, I'm so hollow.
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Jeff’s Death Anniversary, June 12, 2022.

Jeff died at 4:01 AM on June 12, 2006. 16 years ago. It was an extremely unbearble death.

I used to wake up at that time for years. Reliving that night/morning. It is still here in my head, almost perfectly clear. I relieve it because that was the last time we were together on this earth.

My thoughts and feelings are still raw, but then not. It goes back and forth. Sometime right in my face, other times a million miles away.

Dreams. Objects. Memories. Grief is still there, it lessens year by year.

Unexpected triggers are the worst to deal with. They hit me like a fist to my heart. No control. I just get in bed.

Overall, I am well. But on death dates, birthdays, and holidays I do not want to be around others.

This song was sung by James Blunt at Jeff’s Memorial. Certain passages are still raw. It brings back on how I felt that day.

With many tears.

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