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Fact!

No matter how well you treat a woman, if she doesn't love you, she will never appreciate it.

Women are only loyal to their feelings, if your woman appreciates you, YOU ARE THE ONE and don't take it for granted because out of that 100 women that you are running after, only one will appreciate you and that's the one that you are with now.

13 yrs Later after my Divorce that Blessed and Saved my life, Happiness, Assignment and Peace. 💪😎

Two weeks ago I got a call from a Journalist Nakaonga from News diggers newspaper to ask if she can do a story on my divorce experience and I said yes, she came to my office for this Interview, which was featured in yesterday's edition 5th May 2024. (Attached is an intro to an honesty full page interview, don't ask me for a free copy, go buy 🤓)

Some of my key highlights :

(WARNING ⚠) to all the Junior Jesus's, assistant Holy spirit, Religious Judges and church door Bouncers this might trigger you.

1. 13yrs later after my divorce I HAVE ZERO REGRETS, my life only got better day after day.

2. It was a genius move to move out sooner than later, too many people wait too long.

3. too many Relationship Coaches, Marriage counselors and Pastors are in toxic Marriages, but they are staying because of the image and it makes business sense. so they flood you with happy couple goals pictures, when it sucks inside.

4. Earn YOUR WAY OUT don't rush for a divorce if you have not done everything to save your marriage and be a better Partner.

5. If it's time to leave a marriage, it's time! Forget what people will say, most of them are miserable and misery Loves company.

6. I have been single for long, because I can't afford a fake and Counterfeit marriage, my life is too Beautiful to invite drama in, only a partner who wants a healthy Marriage as much I do. a healthy Single life is Better than a Toxic Marriage. We want real Marriages, not publicity stunts.

7. I have been single, engaged, married, separated, divorced and one day will be happily married some day. 🥰 I have the experience, wisdom and you have an argument, we are not the same. That's why I coach Relationships and Marriages with a Passion.

8. am tired of typing guys! 🤓 😎



Sidenote : If this triggers you, go bleed else where, don't ask me funny questions, you are not my audience.

Am 40 and I must agree to some pointers hence sharing..

It's a good read... Take heed.

MEN SHOULD PREPARE THEMSELVES TO HANDLE WOMEN WHO ARE OVER 40.

(Boy Child Take Notes)

When some Women turn 40 or 50 years, something major shifts in their personality.

They become bolder, more rebellious, more religious, more focused, more opinionated and more emphatic about what they want.

Don’t be surprised when a previously obedient and submissive Woman on turning 40/50 changes completely.

Most especially when she had given birth to Children.

At this age, she may not go with the flow anymore, she may begin to ask some questions :
- Is s*x food?
- Query some of your instructions
- Even the way you behave.

She will also become more outspoken and will not be afraid to speak her mind.

If care is not taken, you may have to do for yourself :
- Dry cleaning
- Preparing food to eat

Because it might take her more time before she responds to your request.

There is something definitely special about turning 40/50 for Women.

If she has never challenged or questioned your instructions, get ready to be shocked by her boldness and confrontational attitude.

The only way to avoid total breakdown of Peace and Harmony in the home is for Men to become fair, objective and reasonable in their approaches to issues at home and/or at work.

Men should bear in mind that at this age, Women also harbour lots of regrets about the decisions they have made in life so far ... Their Husbands may be one of them!

A woman at this age is a better Judge of character and will evaluate a Man using very different & weird parameters.

Men must start on time to prepare for this phase in the lives of their Wives/Partners/Bosses/Subordinates.

What you put in is what you get!
If you have treated her fairly, then you don’t have anything to worry about.

She will begin to appreciate you better if for any reason she didn’t do so in the past.

On the contrary if you haven’t been nice to her, fasten your seatbelt, the ride is about to get pretty bumpy.

A Woman doesn’t forget those who hurt her (Previous relationship), and by her actions and utterances you will know that she is out to show you that she is no longer that little girl you married.. BOY CHILD BE WISE!

For young men, It might help to learn these early in life.

(Next Update..Boy Child)

1. In any position you find yourself, thread carefully cos you're not going to stay at the top forever.

2. If you're the most beautiful or most handsome in the town, thread carefully cos your beauty and handsomely will fade away when the old age arrived.

3. If it's wealth, thread carefully cos not all wealth last longer. Build humanity with your wealth so that humanity will take care of you when everything is gone.

4. If it's power, status or position, thread carefully cos you're going to vacate that sit of power, status or position either through death, sickness or expiration of tenure one day.

Lastly, don't write anybody off.
Don't look down on anybody.
Don't downgrade anybody.
Who you write off today might write you down tomorrow.

Who you look down on today might be the one you are going to look up to tommorow.

Who you downgrade today might be the one to upgrade you tommorow.
Live and let's others live too. With peace ✌️

The real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money.

Impiya shaisa, amano yaya.
Amano yaisa, impiya Shaya.

Bwangu 😂

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭💀 ladies are tired ..... a WhatsApp group has been created where boyfriends are been posted to see if his for the community 😂😂😂😂😭😭💀

The way I mind my own business “olo munyumba siniziba ngati tinkalamo bangati“.😭

The struggle is real

Your family doesn't know how much difficulties and pressure you go through in your daily life or in your business.

And your job does not know the circumstances of your life and your home.

Your friends, loved ones and loved ones will not understand the size of the new and old responsibilities that are above you.

And your partner is always waiting for love and support from you, and will not understand the amount of pressure you go through no matter how much you talk and explain.

In conclusion, no one feels about you but yourself.. No one will understand what you're going through and don't appreciate.

Keep going .. Struggle .. Killer ..

GOD is best helper 🤲

You should have at least one friendship that is a “safe place” for you‼️ You should be able to pour your heart out, vent, laugh, cry, joke and be vulnerable without judgment‼️ That person should be able to point you back in the right direction, provide accountability, godly counsel and just ultimately be there for you

Benangu ma trust issues started kuufana when their parents said kavale nsapato uzanipeza🙄

My next relationship will be private.

Because, it's my ex again.

If milk gets bad, it becomes yoghurt. Yoghurt is more valuable than milk. If it gets even worse, it turns to cheese. Cheese is more valuable than both yoghurt and milk. And if grape juice turns sour, it transforms into wine, which is even more expensive than grape juice. You are not bad because you made mistakes. Mistakes are the experiences that make you more valuable as a person. Christopher Columbus made a navigational error that made him discover America. Alexander Fleming’s mistake led him to invent Penicillin. Don’t let your mistakes get you down. It is not practice that makes perfect. It is mistakes we learn from that makes perfect!

Nima livingstone yangati yatipita
Kuti lelo tidwale

We all owe our parents an apology for not believing them when they said they didn't have money, even on payday😫

Any woman can be replaced, but a woman who stood by you when you had nothing, a woman who supported and encouraged you at your lowest, a woman who chose you over men who could offer her the world. That kind of woman is irreplaceable.💯

*SLAVERY OF MEN BY WOMEN*

Every Man irrespective of who they are must read the book by a German writer Esther Villar In her book "The Manipulated Man"

This book has caused outrage and *hostile criticism* from women, it explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves, they have *pretended* to be the oppressed s*x while in the real sense they are the oppressors.

She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like *courtship* and finally *marriage* , hence the saying “ *a man chases a woman until SHE catches him”* .

In her book she explains how the man is *tricked* to care for the woman all his life and her offspring.

He rolls the stone like *Sisyphus* and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of s*xual pleasure.

We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the woman uses and has used it for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.

She goes ahead to explain the *rivalry of women* , how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for herself.

Like a *slave owner* she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.

Esther Villar's sentiments are captured by Nigerian Poet, critic and writer, Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book, “The Anatomy of Female Power” (AFP) and Will Farrel's, “The Predatory Female”.

They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. *Matriarchy has ruled not through brawn but wits and tricks;* women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited s*x in human history, (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).

Chinweizu calls the idea of *dating* and *courtship* , *training* , like that of a horse. It is during this time that a woman having kept the man on a leash by denying him s*x and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.

The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the *woman and her friends,* and they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a *slave* .

A man on that *wedding* day waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a *Sisyphean* life, rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon having *society* and the *government* checking on him and always ready to *jail* , *shame* or *exile* him for absconding his duties of slavery.

Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her *slave*(man) in check.

Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to *tame* men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother.

A man is *shamed for cooking* for himself and other domestic chores by his *own mother* who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule.

By getting the man to hate *domestic* works and having it enforced by culture which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing *laundry* etc.

The mother trains his son for the woman who will captivate him and when the time comes she takes hold of the man's stomach and by getting the man addicted to her body she holds him by the two, in *bed* and in the *kitchen* .

With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.

In the “Myth of the Male Power”, Esther Villar's “A Man's Right to the Other Woman”; “The Polygamous S*x”, the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women, and by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world.

Also Helen E. Fisher did anthropological research of ancient human societies and wrote the book "The S*x Contract, The evolution of human behaviour" 1982. She too came to the conclusion that Marriage is a selfish creation of a Woman, where she uses s*x to manipulate a man to take care of her and her offspring. Other male animals do not carry the same burden and responsibility.

*Presidents* , *Emperors* and *Kings* are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule the World by pulling the strings from behind the curtains

A noble piece which is a must read for every Man under the globe...

"PLS READ"

Instead of getting upset when someone speaks badly about you, remember, they don’t talk about ordinary people, they talk about exceptional people. They wouldn’t be talking about you if you weren’t a cut above. Take it as a compliment.

Umu Muslim responding " Fine and how are you? ", nanga " Salamalekwe mulekwe namusalama " yalakwa cani? 😏