Damona Hoffman
Your fave dating coach from The Drew Barrymore Show, Access Hollywood, and the Dates & Mates podcast! and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes and iHeart Radio.
Navigating love in the modern world ain't easy but Damona Hoffman of DatesAndMates.com and host of the popular Dates & Mates radio show & podcast makes it seem that way. Watch new episodes stream live here every Thursday at 11 a.m. Plus you can see Damona in action on FYI TV and download past episodes of her cable TV series #BlackLove and A Question of Love on iTunes.
07/01/2024
BIG WEEK AHEAD: thank you to everyone who came out to my first book event in LA this week! And for all you who preordered, I’m loving your pics and videos with the book.
This week is going to be even bigger!
MONDAY: I'll be LIVE on CBS Mornings nationwide!
WEDNESDAY A.M.: I'll be LIVE with my long-time friend Joe Fryer on NBC News NOW's morning show - streaming and on the NBC News app
WEDNESDAY P.M.: I'll be LIVE (yes, again) on NBC News Daily
WEDSNESDAY NIGHT: Sold out book event with my friend Maria Avgitidis Pyrgiotakis
THURSDAY: Drumroll pleeease - I'll be back with my friend Drew Barrymore talking about F the Fairy Tale on The Drew Barrymore Show (check your local listings for the time)
THURSDAY NIGHT: A media event at OkCupid HQ in conversation with Michael Kaye (NYC industry DM me if you want to attend)
**Important** if you bought the book already will you leave me a review on Amazon?
And speaking of Amazon, the hard cover book is on sale there right now! Get yours before the rush this week.
Thank you ALL for your support 💗
Ever find yourself wishing more of your matches had been through therapy?
Say so in your profile!
It may feel forward, but according to Social Scientist Wednesday Martin this strategy is not only fair in today’s dating landscape, it sets you up for success.
Want more tools to set you up for success in love? Check out my new book, “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story”!
Get your copy at FtheFairyTaleBook.com or from your favorite bookseller today in hardcover, audiobook, or ebook format😉
03/01/2024
Breaking down the 4 dating myths and pillars from my new book, F The Fairy Tale, on Dates & Mates this week!
LISTEN HERE: https://damonahoffman.com/master-class-the-4-dating-myths-4-pillars/
02/01/2024
This day has been 3 years in the making and I can’t believe it’s finally here. There are a million people I need to thank but right now I’m just so overwhelmed with joy and gratitude I can barely collect my thoughts.
If you’re in LA please come to celebrate with me tomorrow at Diesel Bookstore in Brentwood at 6:30 pm!
My NYC event sold out in hours (thank you Maria Avgitidis for hosting it with me) but I promise I’ll be back.
And if you haven’t bought the book yet, just know that every single copy counts and I would love your support - even if you’re coupled, I hear it’s a great read for anyone in or seeking a relationship. It’s available in hard cover, ebook and audiobook TODAY!
28/12/2023
So honored and humbled to read these words from Lori Gottlieb about my book 💗
“I loved reading F THE FAIRY TALE. Damona Hoffman shakes up conventional narratives and invites readers to take control of their love stories.” —Lori Gottlieb
Available 01.02.24! Learn more ⤵️
https://bit.ly/3FyYm2t
No matter your confidence level, you’ve probably caught yourself wondering, “Am I enough?”, at some point in your life.
It’s natural to compare ourselves to others. In fact, according to Dr. Victor Frank, it’s part of our biology.
Want more great dating advice? How about a chance to win two VIP tickets to The Drew Barrymore Show, a $500 shopping spree from DemocracyClothing, a $500 travel voucher from New Leaf Literary and Media, or a premium membership from OkCupid?!
Then you need to head over to DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway to pre-order your copy of my new book, “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story”, AND for a chance to win the grand prize!
13/12/2023
In this special all Dear Damona episode of Date & Mates, I'm answering your questions to get you dating with confidence for the new year ahead.
LISTEN HERE: https://damonahoffman.com/dear-damona-12-12-23/
🔥BIG ANNOUNCEMENT🔥Are you ready to break the dating loops that have been holding you back? Then check out the new trailer for my new book.
If you’re tired of swipe fatigue and getting caught in the texting trap, it’s time to pre-order your copy of “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story”.
My new book breaks down the dating myths that have been holding you back so that you can find love in the new year.
✅ P.S. if you pre-order before the end of the year, you can enter our giveaway for a chance to win 2 VIP tickets to The Drew Barrymore Show, a $500 travel voucher from New Leaf Literary, a $500 shopping spree from Democracy Clothing, or OkCupid Premium membership! Check out the rules and deets at DamonaHoffman.com/giveaway
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06/12/2023
Luvbites.co shares her secrets to improved conflict resolution and empathetic listening on the Dates & Mates podcast. Plus she reveals whether jealousy is truly bad in a relationship.
LISTEN HERE: https://damonahoffman.com/good-jealousy-dating-app-etiquette/
04/12/2023
⭐️Going Live⭐️ I hope you’ll join me live for the kickoff of my book launch. I’ve brought along 14 of my friends in the love biz for a huge 3-hour livestream: F the Fairy Tale Forum. Register free to join us for one panel with live Q&A, all three, or watch the replay! www.DamonaHoffman.com/Forum
28/11/2023
Wednesday Martin explains the ways our animal brains are adapting with technology and how to find connection in the new dating landscape.
Plus Bumble’s 2024 Dating Forecast Findings are here!
LISTEN HERE: https://damonahoffman.com/animal-attraction-love-abroad/
Gratitude is a daily practice for me but Thanksgiving is a special time to gather with friends and family for a nice “wholesome” meal 😆 Thank you Drew Barrymore and The Drew Crew for kicking off the holiday together. My tips if you’re bringing your S.O. home for turkey day:
1. Strategize before you go
2. Bring an APPROPRIATE gift
3. Offer to clean up
4. Watch this full episode of The Drew Barrymore Show
21/11/2023
Jillian Romero Chaves, founder of Clara for Daters | Community of Intentional Daters, shows us how to make informed choices and nurture healthy relationships by mindfully tracking our dating experiences.
LISTEN HERE: https://damonahoffman.com/jillian-romero-chaves/
Tinder has long been called the hookup app, but is that really the case??
Julia Mazur, host of the Pretty Much Done podcast and formerly at Tinder, shares her insider POV.
What do you think? Is Tinder just for hookups?
17/11/2023
I have a special announcement just in time for Black Friday…
🎉My new book, “F The Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story” is now available for pre-order 🎉
And, if you go to FTheFairyTaleBook.com RIGHT NOW, you can take advantage of an extra special Black Friday deal of 25% off and free shipping on orders over $25 now through November 28th with my publisher Hachette Books Seal Press
There are four dating myths that hold most daters back from finding love:
1. The List Myth
2. The Chemistry Myth
3. The Rules Myth
4. The Soulmate Myth
Which one trips you up the most? If you want to know how to fix it, get F the Fairy Tale today! P.S. Save your receipt because I’m going to announce something super cool for those who pre-order in a few days!
03/11/2023
Tune in tomorrow for my first DREW episode of 4 season! In “GirlChat” we answer dating and relationship questions and hold hands on a comically large couch. Check your local listings for when it airs on your CBS station.
10/10/2023
It's time for an update on the state of dating! Author and dating coach A Little Nudge talks about message bait, text-speak, dating scripts, recency bias, and more!
LISTEN HERE: https://damonahoffman.com/profile-punchup-text-speak/
No one is born knowing how to date and no matter what age you are you can still learn the art of attraction.
Flirting, reading body language, and understanding attraction are all learned skills and I’ve dedicated my career to teaching this to people of all ages.
My client Sue talks about her journey finding love again and how she made the most of the dating lessons she learned in my program. You can hear the full interview on the Dates & Mates episode titled “Dear Damona: Vision of Love & Sue’s Story”.
If you’re looking to dial in your dating, then I’ve got a solution for you ❤️ The Dates & Mates Method ❤️
The first class of the new session is starting TONIGHT and you can audit the first class free at DamonaHoffman.com/freeclass
Will I see you there?
22/09/2023
I have done a lot of segments on Access Daily with and but today’s Love Signs segment was one of my faves 🎉
TUNE IN to hear my take on what really matters when it comes to astrology and love ❤️
And swipe to the next photo if you’re into feet 👣 👀 but more importantly, if you want to see just how much I’m into astrology ♐️
20/09/2023
Are you ready to become a master of flirting?
It’s easier than it seems.
Here are some simple steps to improve communication and conversations on dates.
1️⃣ Be vulnerable. Keep an open mind.
2️⃣ Listen with curiosity. Don’t just wait to reply.
3️⃣ Ask follow up questions. Show that you care.
Want to become a master of flirting? I teamed up with Blinkist to create the “Master Flirting for Real Connection” guide.
Download the Blinkist app or visit https://blnk.st/HowToMasterFlirting to check it out ❤️
Register for the recordings, notes, and workbooks at DamonaHoffman.com/challenge
Join the challenge and get all your worksheets and recordings at DamonaHoffman.com/challenge
Join me for the 4 day dating challenge: DamonaHoffman.com/challenge
Join me for The F the Fairy Tale Challenge at DamonaHoffman.com/challenge
Ten years is a long time right?!
Dates & Mates has just completed a decade of episodes, so send in the tin, baby!
And, this past year was the best one yet.
I was joined by amazing guests like:
1️⃣ Podcaster, author and TV host Rachel Lindsay Abasolo
2️⃣ OG dating and s*x columnist Dan Savage
3️⃣ Clinical Psychologist Dr. Orna Guralnik
4️⃣ S*x expert S*x With Emily
5️⃣ Too Hot To Handle Stars Brittan Byrd and James Pendergrass
6️⃣ Podcaster & content creator Joy Ofodu
7️⃣ Jewish Matchmaking host Aleeza Ben Shalom
Season 11 of the Dates & Mates podcast will premiere all new episodes every Tuesday starting August 22nd.
Which of the featured experts is your favorite?
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18/08/2023
Your dating profile is your dating resume.
It’s the key to attracting attention, sparking interest and ultimately, finding that special someone.
But from clichéd bios to misleading photos, there are many ways to sabotage your dating life.
Here are the 4 top tips to make your dating profile shine:
1️⃣ Curate
2️⃣ Focus on you
3️⃣ Be specific
4️⃣ Be positive
While we are on the topic of dating apps, which is your fave?
Different generations have wildly different perspectives on dating today. Kim and Grandma Gail know this all too well!
excusemygrandma is back on Dates & Mates, but the tables have turned and this time they are interviewing me!
Time for a little play along:
Have you gone beyond first base on a first date 🙉
Have you ever gone on a blind date 🙈
Have you ever given out a fake phone number 🙊
Could your beliefs be holding you back?
The more you repeat something, the more you believe it, see it all around you, and live by it.
But what if, as my friend says, what if there is no box 🔲
Is there a belief that got built by your prior experiences or stories someone once told you that you could let go of today?
For more of Mark and his wisdom, listen to our full conversation from The Mark Groves Podcast in the Dates & Mates Podcast summer series! This one goes deep 🤯
01/08/2023
One of the key aspects of a successful date is the ability to hold a captivating conversation.
But don’t worry! You don’t need to be the funniest person in the room.
It’s about being genuine, passionate, and creating a comfortable atmosphere for both you and your date.
Here are my top 5 tips for your next first date conversation:
1️⃣ Prep possible topics
2️⃣ Share stories that define you
3️⃣ Ask the follow-up questions
4️⃣ Read the room and adjust
5️⃣ Study their profile
What are your go-to first date topics? How do you prepare for a first date?
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