HakeemAndrsn

The people in your life are not responsible for carrying and sorting through what you must, but refuse to.

It’s your duty to get better. No one should have to coax or celebrate you for doing that and you shouldn’t be waiting to be told you’re worth it to start acting like it.

You’re not a child anymore. No matter how many times your parter or friends baby you. It gets tiring to them to have to nurse and tippy toe around the eggshells that are your insecurities.

Your world is better when YOU make it so. No amount of bad relationship choices can fix that for you. It’s a decision that doesn’t require s*x, alcohol binging, parties, backstabbing, ghosting, triggers and all this nonsense you’re wasting your youth with.

It’s a decision that doesn’t get made by the latest performance of “level up hot girl” or monk mode gym buff. You can’t MLM your way in it.

It requires clarity about where you are, who you are, what you want and going to get it.

It’s literally that simple.

Hurt? Heal!

Just don’t burden the people around you with doing it for you. You’re not broken. Stop lisping around.

Get your ass up.

Love.

Men who want to be applauded for being and doing manhood healthily, are 1. performing healthy manhood or 2. insecure about their output.

Don't be so desperate to be loved bro. Do you and watch the world reward you. It's really simple.

It's tiring, no, EXHAUSTING, to advice you against loving the person who hurts you and to watch you choose them over the advice only for you to come back for more advice when you get hurt again.

Sometimes neh, nna miss me.

That person sucks for you. They aren't worthy and they never will be. NOT FOR YOU.

If they can put you through all that emotional mess and help ruin your wellbeing, that's all they will know to do, especially when they show you they will not change just cause you're hurt and hurting.

Tswa daar and go cry it out alone. Live your life and forget them. Go to therapy and sort through those harms and the root reasons you settled for them in the first place. Live your life man.

Turn yourself into someone YOU love cause what you're doing is NOT love for self. At all. You're making choices that prove that you hate yourself. Entirely.

That's not love and love isn't to blame. You're to blame for lacking it.

— h.a-l

A journey of a thousand miles starts with trusting God. I’m only on my second mile. I’m entirely blessed to belong to a tribe of doers, not talkers.

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Learnings from my reading of Chapter 1 In A. Helwa's "Secrets of Divine Love" focuses on the importance of cultivating an attitude of love, especially in the face of adversity, in order to experience a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

Helwa emphasizes that love is a powerful force that can be used to transform even the most difficult of situations, and she encourages readers to focus on the positive aspects of life, rather than on the negative.

She also discusses the need for self-love, which is essential for finding inner peace, and the importance of loving others, which can bring about greater empathy and understanding.

Ms Helwa concludes by stressing the importance of having faith and trust in God, which will allow us to better appreciate and receive divine love.

Sidebar: I love how all her podcast interviews don't ever show her face at all, and that allows you to focus on taking in her message. I found that really refreshing and soothing.

My key takeaways which I can start or even continue practicing daily?

1. Cultivate an attitude of love, even in the face of adversity.

2. Focus on the positive aspects of life rather than on the negative.

3. Practice self-love in order to find inner peace.

4. Love others and be more empathetic and understanding.

5. Have faith and trust in God and be open to knowing and accepting that you are created in His divine love.

We can all talk about what we’re gonna do BUT, the doing part and how well you do that part is the most essential component.

Join FOLA University today. Let’s grow greatly.

Love.

Calling All Fola University Students

Dear Black Men.

The Grave Can Wait. We need you up here. Not for us. But for you to actually experience an incredibly rich life filled with all the peace you’ve always needed and wanted.

It’s yours to get and we’re cheering you on. Even when you’re down bro. Kings decide on their crowns and we know you can.

You can too. Choose to live bro.

We’re honestly too young to be this miserable, this broken, this sad, this drunk, this lost and this afraid to show up as ourselves.

What happened to us in our childhood, in our parents’ houses, in our lovers’ sheets, in our classrooms and playgrounds, on the streets while trying to figure ourselves out is honestly gut wrenching and saddening.

And this is how we show up.

Either as the one hiding the fact that all these things happened or shamelessly creating the same harm in others that was done to us by our loved ones and closest friends, allies and lovers.

This is why I want to help because I finally got to a point where I understood that, people just need a helping hand, an eager ear interested in their real story and just someone who’s gonna be there regardless of the mess they find out about them.

I know you don’t want to be saved. I know you wanna do it yourself. And I also know you need someone who gives a damn to tell you how not to do it in a way that’s going to harm you without belittling your efforts and attempts.

And if you’re already ready. Inbox me. I have some resources and self help tools you can start with.

Let’s go on this journey together.

It’s even more beautiful than social media has been telling you about it. And you deserve way more than this world has given you in beauty and excellence.

And I know you can achieve all of it.

Go to folafela.com to start if you already know you’re ready and want more for you.

With love
— h.a-l

In 2017 I woke up with a thought in my heart...

"You're afraid of telling women the truth about their actions against men, love, and God because you don't want to lose your core audience?

Then you might not have a core audience Hakeem. You might be adding to the reason why black love is filled with problems and not solutions. You might be imbalanced in your bias..."

Excuse my "recent violence" but, I just remembered who and whose I am and respected that more than your applause, likes and shares.

— h.a-l

The men you choose are based on how you feel about yourself.

— h.a-l