Loredana Elena Egri Author

After being a total control freak throughout my whole life, I can honestly say that letting things be is the best way of living ...

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The biggest obstacle that stands against fulfilling your potential is self-doubt. Remember, self-doubt often originates from not feeling loved, for being invalidated as a child.

But things have changed now: you're bold, you're smart, you matter. It's never too late to start loving yourself. It's never too late to prioritize yourself.

In 2024, choose you and the situations that bring you joy and fulfillment each and every time. Decorate your life, design your soul. The world needs you to be you! You matter!

Cutting hurtful people off and letting them live with whatever delusional story suits them best is the highest level of self-care.

With just a few days left of 2023, it's the perfect time to reflect on the things that matter most to us.

Here's a template you can use to write your goals for each area of your life, helping you prioritize what truly matters in 2024. https://zurl.co/eZET

Wishing you all a crystal-clear, prosperous life.

#2024

Our early childhood experiences have a profound impact on our entire lifespan, making the question of whether to forgive those who hurt us during early childhood quite controversial.

However, the key to healing doesn't lie in either of these options. What is needed for healing to occur is self-forgiveness – letting go of the guilt, shame, and anger projected onto ourselves for not being able to free ourselves from those experiences.

A child is never responsible for an adult's lack of responsibility.

On our healing and growth journey, it's realistic not to expect everyone to be happy for us.

Some may prefer our former version because it benefits them more, others may envy our determination and achievements, while a few will genuinely express happiness for us.

The lesson is to let go of the first two and hold onto the last ones, as they make our journey more fulfilling.

Many of us don't recall experiencing adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), yet our health and mental well-being levels tell a different story.

All dysfunctional behaviors that impact our well-being trace back directly to early childhood.

Behind every emotion, there's a hidden message, a valuable lesson waiting to be uncovered.

We enrich our lives by exploring and understanding our emotions.

Each person we meet carries a lesson about ourselves.

It might be something crucial about our past, essential for our future, or simply about learning to be more present right now.

In any case, each encounter is about improving ourselves, not trying to improve the other.

As much as we'd like to think otherwise, people are born good. All sociopaths bigots, or misanthropes, are not an accident of nature but an unintentional creation of society. Therefore, the social environment in which children develop, not their genes, determines the adults they become.

Today's world's biggest problems are caused by yesterday's unhealed children, just like our future can be destroyed by today's unhealed and unnurtured children.

In terms of lifelong health, resilience, communication, empathy, and various other crucial aspects for our rapidly changing future, early childhood plays a pivotal role. So, isn't it profoundly wrong that we receive education to prepare us for any job we can imagine, while, as parents, we receive absolutely none to be prepared for this critical role?

Science provides the evidence that investing in children's early years saves millions of dollars later on, so the rest is merely a matter of political will and policy!

Society in a nutshell:
Wounded individuals choose wounded leaders who implement broken policies, slowing down societal progress!

Childhood trauma (𝑖𝑛 𝑖𝑡𝑠 𝑣𝑎𝑟𝑖𝑜𝑢𝑠 𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑠 𝑠𝑢𝑐ℎ 𝑎𝑠 𝑝ℎ𝑦𝑠𝑖𝑐𝑎𝑙 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑒𝑚𝑜𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑎𝑙 𝑎𝑏𝑢𝑠𝑒, 𝑛𝑒𝑔𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡, 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑔𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑙 𝑖𝑙𝑙𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠, 𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑎𝑙 𝑎𝑏𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑜𝑛𝑚𝑒𝑛𝑡, 𝑑𝑟𝑢𝑔-𝑎𝑑𝑑𝑖𝑐𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑟 𝑎𝑙𝑐𝑜ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑖𝑐 𝑓𝑎𝑚𝑖𝑙𝑦 𝑚𝑒𝑚𝑏𝑒𝑟𝑠, ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑠𝑒ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑣𝑖𝑜𝑙𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒, 𝑤𝑎𝑟𝑠, 𝑙𝑜𝑠𝑠 𝑜𝑓 𝑎 𝑙𝑜𝑣𝑒𝑑 𝑜𝑛𝑒, 𝑒𝑡𝑐.) represents a national/European/global priority.

It's been years of questioning and trying to understand why people behave the way they do and how this impacts societies. I'm uncertain if this marks the conclusion of my exploration, but everything links back to the experiences from early childhood.

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Women and men can't build anything great together if they don't understand each other.

We are different; we perceive the world differently. However, we are not competitors; we are complementary.

A bit more emotionality from men and a touch more rationality from women can indeed benefit relationships. However, nothing can help more than acknowledging our blind spots, our defense mechanisms, and limited beliefs and actively working on them.

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1/9: This isn't who we are; it's what we've become.

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2/9: Our worries, fears, phobias; what we think, how we think, our perceptions; our emotionality, aggressivity, etc.; are not our true selves. They are adaptations we've made.

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3/9: What we are right now it's not all we can be. There's an inner potential waiting to be revealed.

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4/9: We can heal from our experiences and become what we're meant to be.

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5/9: Healing involves revealing one's true self and breaking free from society's projections and expectations.

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6/9: Defense mechanisms may've helped us cope with stress in the past, but now they're responsible for keeping us disconnected from our authentic selves.

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7/9: Our personality is what sets us apart from everybody.

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8/9: We must never cease to discover who we really are and what we were made for.

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9/9: Happiness, fulfillment, and well-being originate from authenticity.

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